Need some advice on what to do

Good lord, what kind of mess is that. He is not healthy, he has no idea about boundaries, respect and what a love is in general. I would say stay away from him, as he has personal unresolved issues, probably from childhood, or you could go thru the process with him, you 2 need to find a counselor and he has to work on himself

Posted by pisceanloves

Good lord, what kind of mess is that. He is not healthy, he has no idea about boundaries, respect and what a love is in general. I would say stay away from him, as he has personal unresolved issues, probably from childhood, or you could go thru the process with him, you 2 need to find a counselor and he has to work on himself

It’s not healthy AT ALL. I don’t like the blocking game so it makes me hesitant if he’s going to be there for me in the long run. So I don’t take his “future talk” serious. Since I care about him I want him to get help and know I wouldn’t just neglect him like everybody else, but I don’t think I can realistically because I’m blocked again.

Posted by tiziani

The most you can do for now is get past this dynamic where someone feels they can come and go as they please.

When he leaves or ends it, just be clear that it's not what you want and accept he's free to go.

When he comes back and suddenly wants to spend time with you again, ask him straight up what has changed, what does he want. He should be able to actually answer those questions honestly. If he cannot or refuses to answer then just leave it at that and don't engage.

Otherwise you'll always be dealing with the emotional maturity of a 5 year old basically.

That is soo true, but in passing the dynamic do I block him back ?? I think he does it because he knows I don’t turn my back on people in need, so whenever he needs something I try to help. Then I’m warped into it again all googly-eyed.

You’re right...it’s just I hate seeing people hurt so I just help and not ask many questions but I will from now on. It’s like sometimes he wants to say his emotions and talk about stuff then other times he just blows right over it or avoids an exact answer.

Wow! This yo-yo should've been placed in the trash months ago. This isn't healthy at all. Damn. He's treating you like you're disposable and then picking you up again to reuse you for his benefit. He needs counseling. If he doesn't get counseling, then he doesn't truly love you because love is backed by ACTION. Period.

Posted by sweetpea2977

Wow! This yo-yo should've been placed in the trash months ago. This isn't healthy at all. Damn. He's treating you like you're disposable and then picking you up again to reuse you for his benefit. He needs counseling. If he doesn't get counseling, then he doesn't truly love you because love is backed by ACTION. Period.

That’s why I never committed or wanted to label it because I don’t want to put my emotions all in to get hurt by this boomerang. He actually started doing way better after he realized I can be feisty back and hurt his feelings, by mistake.