Positive encouragement needed PLEASE

I'm lookig for strangers for some words of encouragement

Last year i went to a roller coaster of emotions do to a situation with a friend who decided to shitty with me...

Even since then, and in order to heal i went in to a path or journey to heal, to let go, to move on... To accept the things i cannot change... I did my best to fix the situation... And some days are been better than others... Ive been struggling not going to lie... But ive stated to feel a bit better...

But today (thanks to social media) Ive seen something I shouldn't have that brought back all those feelings again... I feel pretty bad... While i made the conscious decision of not holding a grudge and resentments toward this person for my greatest...

After seeing those pics, a wave of emotions (negative mostly) have been making me feel those feelings i dont want to feel... Even though about giving that person a piece of my mind and let her know how much she hurt me and how... But i don't nt see the point, im racionally know that by doing so im giving her power over me...

All i need is some virtual reassurance... I dont want to go back to be sad and feeling like I'm not worthy of people's love... I know im worthy and valuable... But this touched a very sensitive wound... 😭

Anyone—

Please don't say it's another Cancer...


Ugh.

Is the same... As ive explained... Is not about her this is about me

She's just one person.

Keep calm and Carry on.

That's all I got.

You said it's not about her it's about you but I don't get what you meant by that.

I hate to tell you but we all gotta go through rejection at sime point in life and most of the times it from people we love and that's why it hurts so much.

It'll all get better with time, just keep telling yourself that.

Side note:Your Cancer Rising is showing in this thread lol

Sending hugs and love your way! Pretty soon you'll find a friend that's gonna make you forget about that bitch...cheerup!

You may never be able to think about her, see something written by her, or see a picture of her without feeling negative thoughts. Time may not fully heal that. But, that's okay. Or at least, you should try to make peace with that. Think "I feel this way and that's normal. But, these feelings I feel, they're from things I experienced in the past. They're no longer relevant to me. Just shadows of the past that sting sometimes." Just look toward the future. Think about what you have now that's better than your emotional draw to that person. Think about all the better feelings you'll feel in the future. And yes, those better feelings will absolutely happen. To me, it's exciting to think about what those things might be. A vacation with friends? A romantic connection? A new friend? This person will be only a memory, not your future (as long as you continue moving forward).

I haven't gone through too much heartbreak with friends or partners, so my advice might not help. What I do is make as many justifications as I can for why I shouldn't feel this way. 'I shouldn't feel this way because, wow, he actually wasn't a good person' 'I shouldn't feel this way because he moved on immediately afterwards' 'I shouldn't care because he's in my past and I know there are more than enough people out there that will treat me better'. That sort of thing.

Anyway, I hope you can find some peace from this situation!

Damn I love Scenic's response.

I'm taking notes.

SCENIC you're a GEM#real talk.

I could read/listen to your reasoning all day.

Posted by crabRiot
She's just one person.

Keep calm and Carry on.

That's all I got.

You said it's not about her it's about you but I don't get what you meant by that.

I hate to tell you but we all gotta go through rejection at sime point in life and most of the times it from people we love and that's why it hurts so much.

It'll all get better with time, just keep telling yourself that.

Side note:Your Cancer Rising is showing in this thread lol

Sending hugs and love your way! Pretty soon you'll find a friend that's gonna make you forget about that bitch...cheerup!

Thanks for the advice and the good vibes, sometimes you are calm and composed and something stupid takes you out of balance... and yesterday was not a good days in general.

What I mean mean is not about her but about me... at this moment is irrelevant if she is or not a bitch or whatever adjective people want to add to her persona... this is about me coping with the situation and not about the situation per se...

My cancer rising is showing?? LOL how—

Posted by RumiLove
Hiii 🙂

Don't feel so bad.. She was just a memory.

See, just as time slips away, leave your emotions also with the time that has ticked!

Whatever you see again, see with new fresh memory, as iff you are seeing something for the first time....that way, you wouldn't feel bad about anything associated with her 🙂 you have a scar....just see it. Accept it. It happened maybe because you had something to learn about.

Besides, she's just another human, people make their own choices....it doesn't mean it was something to do about you. It was her own headache, you just got burnt... It doesn't mean you didn't deserve the best! It just means...as we deal with others, we cannot escape the vagaries of changing human nature as well Š just let go of everything, just as time has passed.

Hope you feel better and fresh. You know, depression and mental/emotional stress will take a toll on health... So, just try to leave it all behind. Universe will take care of what you need. Do you believe in god? Then, have some trust...in you and God.

Try indulging in activities you enjoy.

And don't worry...you'll be fine 🙂 ...give you poor mind and heart something fresh 🙂

thanks for remaining me that!!! I really need that

@ FWP----I'm just teasing you about your Rising boo (because you refuse to let the situation go).I really hope one day you wake up healed from all your wounds that was created by this friendship and by then nothing she does will ever affect you negatively again.For now, hold your head upand keep faith and try to hang on to whatever happiness you have left.

Posted by Nemilicious
lets not forget, there are always two sides to a story. and always a lingering feeling that substanial paragraphs are missing...

but please tell me what is that you feel is been missing?

^^^ sure, let me call her and ask her to come and write her POV so you can satisfy your feline curiosity... seriously? like everybody here do that— I've actually thought you were for real?

I wish I could provide insight on her POV but she refuse to talk to me... so who am I suppose to know? beside, the whole thread was about my personal struggle... not the situation, that is long gone, I've analyzed and over analyzed that nothing makes sense...

I've appreciate your time responding... but sometimes I wonder why people don't have any useful or help full to say but still say it... I was asking for encouragement, not for criticism...

and BTW at the time I took my 50, 60 or even 70% of self reflection and awareness at the time... and I still do is part of my journey, Im strong because I recognize my vulnerability and try to accept it.

I think the most encouraging thing I can say is that if you follow the great and sage advice of the lot here in your attempt to find peace, it will be yours. The key is that you have to make the effort in order to get the results you want. Most of the time, peace doesn't come looking for us, we have to go on a journey to discover it. Once you find it, realize the map to getting there and reject all forms of interactions that take your off of your peace path. Again, you have to reject them. So if social media takes you there, take yourself off of social media or at least stay away from the social media page of the person who irks you. Self control is the best and hardest of the demons to conquer.