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Romance Help?
Tips for Venus in Aquarius to Improve Romantic Success
Venus in Aquarius values friendship and intellectual connection. Focus on building genuine rapport and show your unique personality. Avoid rushing into romance and be patient. Emphasize shared interests and be authentic to attract compatible partners. Remember that understanding your Venus placement can help you navigate love more effectively.
i think "trying to get into the romance scene" might be a good part of the problem.
What are your flaws?
Posted by hydorah
i think "trying to get into the romance scene" might be a good part of the problem.
How so? I may have phrased it wrong due to being tired. I try asking people I like on dates after talking and building rapport with them and got rejected every time. I took a long break and now I like someone else I'm trying not to make the same mistakes as last time.
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?
Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
Posted by Jayc3on
It's 2017 ain't no more romance because EFE
I know that, believe me, I do. I was raised on the values that my grandparents taught my mum, you know WW2 ones? Every one significantly older than me thinks I'm a gentleman but those near my age group seem to think I'm a freak of nature 😆
Posted by hydorah
i think "trying to get into the romance scene" might be a good part of the problem.How so? I may have phrased it wrong due to being tired. I try asking people I like on dates after talking and building rapport with them and got rejected every time. I took a long break and now I like someone else I'm trying not to make the same mistakes as last time.
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1-be manly
2-stop giving a f about women
3-start being the one who rejects them
4...
5-profit
I might be exagerrating, bottom line is: don't be a beggar
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
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First of all, work on your flaws.
I personally like confident, decent dressed men.
Posted by greylatern
Read the book Models by mark manson. It will help you understand yourself. What you put out into the world you get back. How you present your trueself and then energy you give off will affect what you attract. In a nutshell woman can uncounciously smell bullshit and if your not what they are looking for then they move on which is a good thing. You shouldn't fear rejection.You should fear sucess with the wrong person and waste time. If you know who you are then you will know what you want.Find yourself and you will also find what you are looking for.
Thanks, I will look into that, I was going to take a trip to the bookstore tomorrow to see if they have anything interesting so I will keep an eye out for this.
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
What happened with the cancer?
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Been slow to trust others since a Cancer who was a close friend started to become sociopathic. I stepped away to clear my head and he tried to ruin my reputation via taking advantage of my friend with Aspergers. I drew the line there, I wasn't enough that he had broken my trust a lot and bartered personal information away but he took advantage of my friend to get to me.
Posted by GC02
Okay so what you need to do is go to a bar, restaurant, lounge, only the type that gives off a romantic setting though. Make sure you are dressed to pick up a lady and do wear cologne.Once your there have one drink to take the edge off but don't drink to where you are drunk...eventually someone interesting will come in and if she makes flirty eye contact, buy her a drink, if she accepts then start a conversation.....
Things should go smoothly from then on.
& make sure to talk about your cats 😛
I will. My cats seem to be the only things interested in me these days. But they wouldn't appreciate me going after the ladies, less attention for them 😛
Posted by hydorah
i think "trying to get into the romance scene" might be a good part of the problem.How so? I may have phrased it wrong due to being tired. I try asking people I like on dates after talking and building rapport with them and got rejected every time. I took a long break and now I like someone else I'm trying not to make the same mistakes as last time.
1-be manly
2-stop giving a f about women
3-start being the one who rejects them
4...
5-profit
I might be exagerrating, bottom line is: don't be a beggar
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I'm sorry, you seem to be under the impression I go around begging for dates. I've only asked a few on dates in my life. It's kinda hard to be "manly", it's a broad concept.
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
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Stop trying to meet women in clubs and bars. It's dark, too loud to talk, and the drinks you buy her might get you some bump and grind on the dance floor but that's about it.
Join a group sport, take a yoga class, meet people in the light of day and bond over a shared interest. This will give you an easy 'in' for starting a conversation and keeping it going.
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
Stop trying to meet women in clubs and bars. It's dark, too loud to talk, and the drinks you buy her might get you some bump and grind on the dance floor but that's about it.
Join a group sport, take a yoga class, meet people in the light of day and bond over a shared interest. This will give you an easy 'in' for starting a conversation and keeping it going.
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Erm, but I do t go to clubs. Hate the concept on them and I am usually to busy to go out anyway. Most of the people I try with are those I meet on a daily basis.
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
Stop trying to meet women in clubs and bars. It's dark, too loud to talk, and the drinks you buy her might get you some bump and grind on the dance floor but that's about it.
Join a group sport, take a yoga class, meet people in the light of day and bond over a shared interest. This will give you an easy 'in' for starting a conversation and keeping it going.
yes this!
i never take dudes at bars/clubs seriously. and i NEVER go expecting to meet a dude. i am usually dragged there by friends.
joining a group activity is a great suggestion. maybe take a workshop on a hobby etc
honestly, the times i've met the most strangers are when i am sitting outside of a cafe, reading a book. someone always approaches me (male and female), it never fails!
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I refer to my answer directly previous to this ^^.
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
What happened with the cancer?
Been slow to trust others since a Cancer who was a close friend started to become sociopathic. I stepped away to clear my head and he tried to ruin my reputation via taking advantage of my friend with Aspergers. I drew the line there, I wasn't enough that he had broken my trust a lot and bartered personal information away but he took advantage of my friend to get to me.
Wow that's one of the most screwed up things I've heard all day. Smh.
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Thanks for the support, but he's a slippery one and he seems to always escape Karma.
Posted by pinkbird03
What are your flaws?Broadly speaking, I'm quite shy, struggle understand and show my emotions, prone to procrastination, slow to trust(bad past with a cancer(sorry)) and I self deprecating when I do things wrong.
What happened with the cancer?
Been slow to trust others since a Cancer who was a close friend started to become sociopathic. I stepped away to clear my head and he tried to ruin my reputation via taking advantage of my friend with Aspergers. I drew the line there, I wasn't enough that he had broken my trust a lot and bartered personal information away but he took advantage of my friend to get to me.
Wow that's one of the most screwed up things I've heard all day. Smh.
Thanks for the support, but he's a slippery one and he seems to always escape Karma.
I'm a cancer and can tell you one of our greatest talents is protecting our selves. :o
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Well that explains it. When people ask me about it I tell them what I told you and people think I'm bullshitting because his bullshit is more convincing than my honesty. It does piss me off but it'll be worth it to say "I told you so" when he screws them over like he did me.
Let girls chase you 😆
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Hey there,
I've being trying to get into the romance scene for a while now*, but I don't seem to be any good at it. I have tried to flirt with girls but anytime I try I keep getting rejected. I don't what to do from now on. Becoming a hermit with 7 million cats seems a more appealing option than love right now.
My Venus is in Aquarius. Any tips for a fellow fishy bro?
(*I may have phrased it wrong due to being tired. I try asking people I like on dates after talking and building rapport with them and got rejected every time. I took a long break and now I like someone else I'm trying not to make the same mistakes as last time.)