Sex

Sex

What do make a woman to make a decision for sex? When do make them understnad that they are with right person?

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LOL Alana. Your post here is just fine. All are welcome.

Actually my question was much more about the "meaning" of the act.

In the past, when I finally decided to have sex with a man, it's generally because I trust him, I'm attracted to him- and he makes me feel physically and emotionally comfortable.

Of course, this generally means I end up having sex with a close friend, and ultimately ruining a good friendship- but in many cases, the friendship blossomed into something worth remembering.

A guy who comes on too strong, or is pushy-- anxious, or seemed to be only focused on having sex just turns me off.

As far as knowing who is the "right" one-- well, I don't know. Since I've had more than one intimate relationship- I think it's safe to assume that I've made mistakes about who that "right" guy is.... so I can't definitely say-- that the next intimate relationship I will be in will be the absolute "right" person to be with.

Since I too am an Aries I feel the same way as STD in most cases. There must be something there for me...I must be intriqued mentally, by humour..or just something that out of nowhere "sparks" me into action - otherwise, I keep my emotions under control.

Thoughts about the word, "right"...what is right? what is wrong? Shakespeare says, "There is no good or bad till the mind makes it so." I am thinking for me that every relationship that I have been in has been "right" for that moment in time or else it would not have happened.

There is good in every situation and every situation offers us experience so that we gain knowledge - knowledge that is needed to live life.

It's ALL good!
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BIG PENISES!

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Awwww anyone can have one of those..what mattters most is how they USE it! Trust me, been there done that and I set him lose! Funny thing about that big fella - I hinted to him many times when he would bring "up" the subj. of his "member" (how proud of it he was) that there was more to that..it was about how one uses it that truly matters...I think there were times I even used the analogy with tools thinking he would get the hint...ah, nevermind! Be off with him! Next!

CL - YOU are toooooo funny!

LMAO @ CL !!!!!!!!

The "member" is nothing without skill and experience.

Now STD...

You know I just said that to piss people off! The only really good thing about them is that even if THEY don't know how to work it, you can usually work something out! Or at least I can.

I was just being silly though!

CL

LMAO.. I know you are. And you are so right!

Haffo

To answer your question...I can actually be very detatched about sex...If I am horny and you spark my sexual fire...Then I'm all about it!

But usually after I put my thang down...The boys fall in love!

CL

Your milkshake brings all the boys to the yard?

LMAO~ STD that was funny!! funny thing is I can see CL in the Video!! LOL

"I can actually be very detatched about sex"

I'm always like that. I start to think like WTF is wrong with me. But curiousit always get on my way and I start to ask "What is on the other side of medallion?".

It's just doesn't work without a reason. DAMN IT!

So haffo, have you had a One-night-stand?

No. Unless you can call "Doctor game" which I played alot when I was 9.

nope..that doesn't count.

so.... have you ever had sex?

No damnit. I didn't even have girlfriend. Didn't your read posts?

hey.. just because you never had a girlfriend,or a 1-night stand, doesn't mean you've never had sex-- you could've raw dawged a friend for awhile... I dunno 😉

No.

haffo, what knowledge do you hope to gain from this topic?

I just try to understand one thing. Is there anything more than pleasure.

Sure there is. Sex brings some people emotionally closer.

... and of course, sex is for having children- starting a family.

I quess I cant understand the meaning of one night stand. Why do you let a man to have a sexual intercourse when he doesn't care about you expect that you are their sex objects. Is there really nothing else than pleasure?

"Sure there is. Sex brings some people emotionally closer."

"... and of course, sex is for having children- starting a family."

In one night stand there is none of these two. But you still allow it. Why?

haffo~
I see your post from the questions you asked me then I asked you, come on we all know why we have sex, or are we talking about the meaningful kind— I really like being with someone I know and can experiment with and try many new things, one nite stands suck and for me just aren't worth my time, other people really could care less who have sex with and others like just having friends with benefits. I feel you at least need to have that attraction and wanting of that person yes i know there are times we all make mistakes in that area when are beer goggles take over lol. But you have to know what makes you want a woman? or a man.

Well,

1. you're assuming I've had one.
As my first post said, I generally end up having sex with a close friend- someone I cared about- and wanted to be emotionally closer to.

2. There are multiple reasons why people have sex. (a) Closeness, (b) fun, (c) babies.. and there are more. Sometimes people DO have sex just for pleasure. There's nothing wrong with that if both parties are consenting adults.

3. Why do people chose to have one night stands?
Well, Why not? How does that effect you and your decision whether or not to have sex with a person?

Waterbaby18.

Your answear is exactly what I wanted to receive.

"But you have to know what makes you want a woman?"

I haven't come up with that part yet. Every women I met caused that "wanting" feeling very shallow.

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Perhaps I take the sex part as not like any other daily activity. Perhaps when someone say "Hey lets have picnic" and when say "Hey lets have sex" doesn't sound same for me. But not for you I can see.

I guess yes Waterbaby18 we are talking about meaningfull one. Other than that. What worth does it have?

I guess I never really answer your question...

You said:

"Sure there is. Sex brings some people emotionally closer."

In one night stand there is none of these two. But you still allow it. Why?

Who says I didn't want it?

I don't consider it "allowing" somebody to have sex me- more-so I'm chosing to have sex with this person. So if I'm deciding to have sex with a person, for no other reason than to just have an orgasm, then why not?

Perhaps I take the sex part as not like any other daily activity. Perhaps when someone say "Hey lets have picnic" and when say "Hey lets have sex" doesn't sound same for me. But not for you I can see.

Ok haffo, not sure what you're implying.. but I will say this, there have been times in my relationships, where my boyfriend says, "Hey let's have sex", and I was ready to do it! I didn't feel that there had to be any huge meaning behind it other than the two of us wanted to pleasure each other.

Additionally, there have been times where no words were exchanged at all- and the sexual experience meant more than any conversation we could have had.

So in other words.. Not just anyone can stop by my desk and say, "hey, wanna have sex.." just as easily as they can say, "hey, wanna have a picnic"- and I'll be "OK" with that...

ST😱

You have answered my question. Thank you. I was just having cloudy ideas about the relation of women to the sex and just needed understnad the depth of it. Now I have much clearer picture of it. Thanks again. Altought, I would appritiate other opinions as well. Keep posting people!

HAFFO!

You are a VIRGIN? WOW!

I'll turn you out if you want...

Sex is pleasure mainly. We are the only creatures on the planet that have sex for reasons other than reproduction.
(Besides a certain type of monkey and something else...let me look those up & I'll tell you)

So as STD says...if you have these natural sexual urges and a person who you are attracted to is with it...GO FOR IT!

CL

I can understand when you do it to please your partner or for reproduction. But when it comes to one night stand which means to have pleasure just for pleasure, this kind of action is somewhat dishonorable. Altought, these are your bodies. You can do whatever you want with them. I just find such action as a irresponsibility.

Why is it dishonorable? These are urges that are instictively put in us. You can control these urges but some people choose to give into them.

Are they less honorable because they chose to go with the flow?

Are they irresponsible because they take full charge of their sexuality and CHOOSE to fulfill these urges rather than fight them?

I tend to see many people who I consider "prude" who toss and turn over every aspect of something that is natural...Unneccesary for survival but still natural.

These are the most unhappy people in the world!

I think you just have to EXPERIENCE sex first and stop looking at it so analytically. Then you might be able to understand it better.

One night stands are sometimes good when you just need a release but you have no interest in a relationship or maybe even trying to find yourself.

Say for instance...if a woman got divorced from a man she REALLY loved two month ago. She is by no means ready to jump back into a relationship casual or otherwise. She might still need time to heal, but in the same rite she still has these sexual urges. So does she sit at home and be horny and irritable and be considered by some "honorable"

Or does she go out, fulfill those urge and come back a much calmer relaxed individual with no strings attached.

Does this mean she is a slut? No, it means she needed a release and this person was able to provide it for her and they both move on with their lives.

It's all a matter of personal choice though...

CL

"Why is it dishonorable?"

Why? Because it makes a women a little bit more than a slut. The only difference is that slut gets money for what she does. I dont think this position is right for any woman. Also many of those urges destroys families nowadays.

"Are they less honorable because they chose to go with the flow?"

Go with flow? LOL! Do you want to speak about the flow? Okay. Since you've started. A male human is fertile untill his death! Do you know what does that mean? It means that every male is able to have hundereds of sexual intercouses with women. Therefore hundoreds of kids. Where do you see anything like that lady? Did you ever see someone who has 400 kids? No? Where do they go with flow then? Every man is normally built to kill for right over the woman. Do man kill each other nowadays for women? Again contrary to flow. You want to make all this happen? This is human nature. Can you cope with it? I dont think so.

"Are they irresponsible because they take full charge of their sexuality and CHOOSE to fulfill these urges rather than fight them?"

Sure. Go ahead. Who gives a damn about that. Do you know that your P-Man problem is actually related with one of these topics? I sure you not.

"Or does she go out, fulfill those urge and come back a much calmer relaxed individual with no strings attached.

Does this mean she is a slut? No, it means she needed a release and this person was able to provide it for her and they both move on with their lives.

It's all a matter of personal choice though..."

Sure. Go ahead. Actually it would better if we forget about marriage. Why to stay with one man if he won't even look at you after 5 month of your marriage. Lets sign papers about kid parentship and lets fuck each other non stop. Is that better now?

Ok. I will calm now. That was too agressive. But then, we cant live like that. People live with each other in particular order. This order was built over thousand years. There will be no civilisation if we really give in to our real natures. This is chaos. This is unaccaptable.

Altought, being monogamy is a winned war of women over men. Why do you complain about your sitation then? You've already made men leave doing 398 kids out 400. You almost killed him DAMN IT!

Okay...

"Why? Because it makes a women a little bit more than a slut. "

Please don't start with that double standard $ h!t I despise men who think it is okay for them to screw who they want but when a woman does the same...she is a slut.

Besides a slut is actually one who is promiscuous but DOES NOT get paid...the Whore or prosititute gets paid.

"Sure. Go ahead. Who gives a damn about that. Do you know that your P-Man problem is actually related with one of these topics? I sure you not."

Ummm...you are right, I'm not sure how my P-man problems are related to this.

"People live with each other in particular order. This order was built over thousand years. There will be no civilisation if we really give in to our real natures. This is chaos. This is unaccaptable."

Sweetie, I hate to tell you this, but there is no order and that's the order. I honestly believe cultural differences influence our thinking about sex because in each culture it is different. The true nature of the human being cannot be determined because we were given the gift of thought and discernment...so each person will be different. You can pretty much tell what one horse is going to do by the actions of another because they have certain instincts in them that are common to all horses. We also have the same instincts common to humans, but we use our gift of thought and discernment to figure out what we want to do in reality.

For instance if you are European...you will usually tend to be more free about your bodies and sex. That's why you can go to the South of France to a regular beach and see a topless woman and noone is looking at her strange.
Now if you go to certain parts of the middle east there are women who aren't even "allowed" to show their ankles, face, or anything.

Which one of the cultures are right? Who am I to say? It's just how it is! There have never been standards that are universal across the world. Even if there were...times always do and must change.

The beauty of one-night stands is that you are not supposed to be thinking of marriage and the state of the nuclear family...It is pure unadulterated pleasure. And if a woman OR man wants to engage in that...More power to them!

CL

Altought, being monogamy is a winned war of women over men. Why do you complain about your sitation then? You've already made men leave doing 398 kids out 400. You almost killed him DAMN IT!

I have NO idea what you are saying...can you reword this?