"people who square you have a great deal to teach you" (Page 2)

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Source: https://insightastrology.net/relationship-astrology/squares-in-synastry/

How can squares in synastry lead to a healthy relationship?

๐๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ž ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ โ€“ Overcoming squares in synastry, especially the ones that are causing a lot of misunderstanding and conflict, is all about practicing empathy. We need to see from the other personโ€™s perspective, a perspective that may seem completely alien to us. We need the gifts of Neptune to imagine what it is like to be them, with their particularly astrological traits and neuroses.

๐‹๐ž๐ญ ๐ ๐จ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ โ€“ Sometimes we need to recognise that the conflict in our relationships, whether caused by squares in synastry or other factors, is not going to go away until one person backs down. By remaining conscious and present you can often see when the issue between you is just not worth the unhappiness caused by the conflict. Surrendering your position, as long as it is done with good will, completely disarms the other and leaves you both free to enjoy each others company.

๐€๐œ๐œ๐ž๐ฉ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž โ€“ The unfortunate reality is that none of us are perfect, but some of us have yet to accept this. We may beat ourselves up for our own faults or we may harass others for theirs, but neither approach is very useful. Accepting ourselves and others as we are, especially when this does not fit the model of how we would like things to be, is a fundamental step towards developing healthy relationships.

๐“๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐๐ฌ โ€“ Itโ€™s easy to blame others for failing to meet our needs and squares in synastry make this more likely. For example a woman with Venus square her partnerโ€™s Mars may feel angry that they are rough and ready in the bedroom when what she craves is sensuality. If in all other ways the relationship is a good one, this woman might consider meeting her need for sensuality elsewhere, such as by enjoying a perfumed bath or having a professional massage.

๐‚๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐œ๐š๐ญ๐ž โ€“ Communication is vital in any relationship and the misunderstandings caused by squares in synastry make it all the more important. Never assume the other person understands where youโ€™re coming from, or blame them for failing to โ€˜get youโ€™ when you havenโ€™t been clear about how you see the world, your needs or your feelings.