15 month relationship just came to an end...

I'm a Cancer Sun and Taurus Moon, she is a Pisces Sun and Taurus Moon.

We had a few bumps where there were periods where we were just fighting but after convincing her to give it another shot we continued to have a good relationship.

The past few weeks have been weird also, not as close as we normally are and today she finally told me she couldn't continue our relationship and focus on her studies at the same time. I accepted it and realised that I think this is what I have been wanting too. I was getting too comfortable being sad and overthinking my interactions with her when I should be enjoying my days like I used to.

Most of our fights only ever revolved around one thing and that was bad communication. She just wasn't very good at portraying her feelings and got uncomfortable whenever I did.

I'm not as sad as I thought I would be but I know I will miss her, I let her into my life and now she's gone so obviously it is upsetting.

Anyone want to share advice on getting over this? I'm a little scared that I'm fine now but in a few days or weeks (or when I have bad days) I'm just going to break down because I won't really have anyone to talk to.

I'm sorry to hear this, I find Cancer and Pisces such a beautiful, classic match. Your two Taurus moons would've been tricky though, lot of room for disagreement.

The break up process differs for girls and guys. Girls usually get hit with the full impact of the break up early on but then are able to bounce back. Guys go through phases of self-denial and burying their emotions (pretending they're fine with the break up) before eventually feeling the impact much later on. Now would be a good time to expand your network so that you have your support/people to talk to when you need them.

Time will heal everything. Focus on improving yourself and your life by hanging out with your friends (steer away from any self-destructive behaviour), doing activities you enjoy and living life. I don't have any personal experience with this but I've seen plenty of my friends in your position.

All the best and stay strong!

Posted by norelationshipgoals
And you joined dxp

Nowhere to go but up from here

Hahahaha! I actually joined a few days ago to get advice on my now ex as we just couldn't seem to better our communication.

It's a good forum though, I found some really great advice here.

Posted by AquaScorpio9
I'm sorry to hear this, I find Cancer and Pisces such a beautiful, classic match. Your two Taurus moons would've been tricky though, lot of room for disagreement.

The break up process differs for girls and guys. Girls usually get hit with the full impact of the break up early on but then are able to bounce back. Guys go through phases of self-denial and burying their emotions (pretending they're fine with the break up) before eventually feeling the impact much later on. Now would be a good time to expand your network so that you have your support/people to talk to when you need them.

Time will heal everything. Focus on improving yourself and your life by hanging out with your friends (steer away from any self-destructive behaviour), doing activities you enjoy and living life. I don't have any personal experience with this but I've seen plenty of my friends in your position.

All the best and stay strong!

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I also thought we were an excellent match from the beginning but the lack of good communication was eating away at our relationship throughout the months and now at the end of it I feel sad but also somewhat relieved.

I also kind of want her to realise she misses me in a few months so we can try again, I honestly feel like we could have been great together if we could work on communication but I don't want to think like this as that would make it very hard to move on and possibly meet someone who may be a better match for me. I also don't think that would happen as she has always been very reserved about telling me how she feels so even if she ever did think she wanted me back she most likely would never, ever tell me.

As a girl who is obviously emotional I expected to be devastated and to be crying non-stop but I don't feel that way at all because the past few weeks have been incredibly draining because of her and I guess I just don't have the energy right now to go through the emotions I should be going through?

It's very confusing at the moment 😢

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Posted by AquaScorpio9
I'm sorry to hear this, I find Cancer and Pisces such a beautiful, classic match. Your two Taurus moons would've been tricky though, lot of room for disagreement.

The break up process differs for girls and guys. Girls usually get hit with the full impact of the break up early on but then are able to bounce back. Guys go through phases of self-denial and burying their emotions (pretending they're fine with the break up) before eventually feeling the impact much later on. Now would be a good time to expand your network so that you have your support/people to talk to when you need them.

Time will heal everything. Focus on improving yourself and your life by hanging out with your friends (steer away from any self-destructive behaviour), doing activities you enjoy and living life. I don't have any personal experience with this but I've seen plenty of my friends in your position.

All the best and stay strong!

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I also thought we were an excellent match from the beginning but the lack of good communication was eating away at our relationship throughout the months and now at the end of it I feel sad but also somewhat relieved.

I also kind of want her to realise she misses me in a few months so we can try again, I honestly feel like we could have been great together if we could work on communication but I don't want to think like this as that would make it very hard to move on and possibly meet someone who may be a better match for me. I also don't think that would happen as she has always been very reserved about telling me how she feels so even if she ever did think she wanted me back she most likely would never, ever tell me.

As a girl who is obviously emotional I expected to be devastated and to be crying non-stop but I don't feel that way at all because the past few weeks have been incredibly draining because of her and I guess I just don't have the energy right now to go through the emotions I should be going through?

It's very confusing at the moment 😢

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My heart really aches for you, break ups are awful!

I think you already have a clear idea on what you should do, it sounds like you've done quite a bit of reflecting. You're right, thinking about the what-ifs will hold you back and make you reminiscence what you two used to have. If you want to move on, you'll have to give yourself time to let go. You can't guess what she's thinking or doing, you have to focus on you. After all, you deserve to be happy 🙂

At the moment you might be emotionally exhausted from everything you went through before the break up. Your emotions will eventually catch up to you but that's ok, it's healthy to cry and be upset. In fact, it's healing! For now, don't worry about why you're not reacting the way you thought you would. Instead, take the opportunity to connect with people who care about you and remember, you deserve to be happy 🙂

Posted by AquaScorpio9

Posted by cancersaurus

Posted by AquaScorpio9
I'm sorry to hear this, I find Cancer and Pisces such a beautiful, classic match. Your two Taurus moons would've been tricky though, lot of room for disagreement.

The break up process differs for girls and guys. Girls usually get hit with the full impact of the break up early on but then are able to bounce back. Guys go through phases of self-denial and burying their emotions (pretending they're fine with the break up) before eventually feeling the impact much later on. Now would be a good time to expand your network so that you have your support/people to talk to when you need them.

Time will heal everything. Focus on improving yourself and your life by hanging out with your friends (steer away from any self-destructive behaviour), doing activities you enjoy and living life. I don't have any personal experience with this but I've seen plenty of my friends in your position.

All the best and stay strong!

Thank you for your kind words and advice. I also thought we were an excellent match from the beginning but the lack of good communication was eating away at our relationship throughout the months and now at the end of it I feel sad but also somewhat relieved.

I also kind of want her to realise she misses me in a few months so we can try again, I honestly feel like we could have been great together if we could work on communication but I don't want to think like this as that would make it very hard to move on and possibly meet someone who may be a better match for me. I also don't think that would happen as she has always been very reserved about telling me how she feels so even if she ever did think she wanted me back she most likely would never, ever tell me.

As a girl who is obviously emotional I expected to be devastated and to be crying non-stop but I don't feel that way at all because the past few weeks have been incredibly draining because of her and I guess I just don't have the energy right now to go through the emotions I should be going through?

It's very confusing at the moment 😢

My heart really aches for you, break ups are awful!

I think you already have a clear idea on what you should do, it sounds like you've done quite a bit of reflecting. You're right, thinking about the what-ifs will hold you back and make you reminiscence what you two used to have. If you want to move on, you'll have to give yourself time to let go. You can't guess what she's thinking or doing, you have to focus on you. After all, you deserve to be happy 🙂

At the moment you might be emotionally exhausted from everything you went through before the break up. Your emotions will eventually catch up to you but that's ok, it's healthy to cry and be upset. In fact, it's healing! For now, don't worry about why you're not reacting the way you thought you would. Instead, take the opportunity to connect with people who care about you and remember, you deserve to be happy 🙂

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Yes I definitely do but it is still a little bit hard to process as normally I am quite in-tune with my feelings but right now I feel like I'm all over the place.

I really want to ask her if she thinks there is a future with us down the line and I know that will most likely push her away even more but I also can't stop thinking about it because I know we have the potential to be great together and I think she does too but due to her studies she doesn't want to take that chance.

I just really want to skip forward the next few weeks because I know I will understand my feelings better then.