Aries Woman + Aqua Man: can it be salvaged?

I've been seeing an Aries woman for the past four months & am starting to develop real feelings for her but it seems like what we have is over because our last fight soured things so much. It was her birthday this past weekend & we went out almost all weekend & it was great, but this week she's been distant. She barely talks to me now and I haven't seen her in a few days even though she's been in the area. Is there a way I can rectify the situation? I already apologized for my part in our last fight. She did get extremely mad at me for that. We've had a few fights & tension & a bunch of miscommunication over the past few months. But usually we resolved them & went back to enjoying being around each other. Should I just give her space & let her come to me?

This is kinda one of those you don't know who you got until they pull away things lol

Me: aqua with aries rising and gemini moon

her: aries with leo rising and cancer moon

thanks in advance for any tips on how to navigate this before it becomes quits for good

Gemini moon is hella no for Cancer moon. What's your venus and mars? and hers too

Posted by pisceanloves

Gemini moon is hella no for Cancer moon. What's your venus and mars? and hers too

i’m not sure :/. we mostly get along tho, we both are able to let things go....except for seemingly now

she also had some jealousy issues that caused fights. but now the fact she doesn’t give a frick where i am or who i’m with is causing me to think she’s tryna break off from me without saying anything to me about it

also merc was in retrograde?? what a mess

guess i’ll just wait. she just messaged me that her phone got stolen so that makes it easier to not be tempted to message lol

so we talked yesterday & turns out she’s goin thru a really tough time but i told her i’m here for her & she’s not hittin me up today. so i just keep chillin?

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she also had some jealousy issues that caused fights. but now the fact she doesn’t give a frick where i am or who i’m with is causing me to think she’s tryna break off from me without saying anything to me about it

That’s her moon. Don’t worry about it. Give her a little space and then reach out. Something happen on her birthday?

Cancer moons get hurt and crawl into their shell. She will be fine after a little while and all will be good again. Don’t worry.

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she also had some jealousy issues that caused fights. but now the fact she doesn’t give a frick where i am or who i’m with is causing me to think she’s tryna break off from me without saying anything to me about it

That’s her moon. Don’t worry about it. Give her a little space and then reach out. Something happen on her birthday?

Cancer moons get hurt and crawl into their shell. She will be fine after a little while and all will be good again. Don’t worry.

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thank you. nothing bad happened on her birthday, and we were out pretty much all weekend. that Sunday we go brunch & went to the zoo. it was really good. i’m just not used to someone completely going silent like this when they were sooo attached & constantly hitting me up

i’ll just go back to chillin lol 8)

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she also had some jealousy issues that caused fights. but now the fact she doesn’t give a frick where i am or who i’m with is causing me to think she’s tryna break off from me without saying anything to me about it

That’s her moon. Don’t worry about it. Give her a little space and then reach out. Something happen on her birthday?

Cancer moons get hurt and crawl into their shell. She will be fine after a little while and all will be good again. Don’t worry.

thank you. nothing bad happened on her birthday, and we were out pretty much all weekend. that Sunday we go brunch & went to the zoo. it was really good. i’m just not used to someone completely going silent like this when they were sooo attached & constantly hitting me up

i’ll just go back to chillin lol 8)

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I love seeing when an Aqua cares 🙂 Hope she contacts you soon! She's an Aries, she won't stay mad for too long!

i hope not!!! she already seemed less mad. we just had a lot of miscommunication that left both of us hurt. i do care about her

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i hope not!!! she already seemed less mad. we just had a lot of miscommunication that left both of us hurt. i do care about her

You’re leaving something out

But as an Aries I can tell you that I can go from being on your D to not knowing you if you hurt me

i did hurt her before her birthday weekend but that was after she hurt me & we smoothed things over buuut now her life is a mess

she’s recently gotten really distant & idk what to do :/ i’ve been giving her a lot of space

well we just got into a fight so yes it is a little

@ratsack

I think you left out some things, you are saying its a situation where you dont know what you have until its taken away, then you said she got jelaous, then that she used to be soo attached and hitting you up all the time...

it seems you behaved a bit like a jerk from the info you provided, so what is the real situation? confess 🙂

we just had a lot of miscommunication. on my birthday she spent all night thinking i was ignoring her for my ex just because i talked & was friendly with my ex, then told me i ruined her night (it was my birthday!!!). she brought my birthday back up when it was her birthday like her even being there was a gift to me which started another fight because it was a horrible night. we were good after that but then she started getting distant.

we had a really good talk a few days ago but then just fought because she was ignoring me & not communicating suddenly in the middle of a conversation. she claimed she was trying to sleep but she never said “hey i’m going to sleep” she just ignored me & stayed active online which made me furious. granted, it was dumb of me to poke her because yes it did start another fight but. the whole thing is dumb. the distance between us just sucks.

i tried to apologize for my part in the fight & miscommunication but she didn’t respond. she also didn’t respond when i asked later if she forgives me. i feel like i lost her.

how do i try to get her back??

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i tried to apologize for my part in the fight & miscommunication but she didn’t respond. she also didn’t respond when i asked later if she forgives me. i feel like i lost her.

how do i try to get her back??

Are you really an Aqua? How old are you?

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Gemini moon is hella no for Cancer moon. What's your venus and mars? and hers too

That's my hubby and me.

Lol

She got mad at you on your own birthday.

Good luck with that 🤣😂🤣🤶

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i tried to apologize for my part in the fight & miscommunication but she didn’t respond. she also didn’t respond when i asked later if she forgives me. i feel like i lost her.

how do i try to get her back??

Are you really an Aqua? How old are you?

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i am an Aqua i’m just a little emotional right now. it just feels like a pattern of all my relationships that went wrong. i may be overreacting & if i am feel free to point that out. i just really care about her!!

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i tried to apologize for my part in the fight & miscommunication but she didn’t respond. she also didn’t respond when i asked later if she forgives me. i feel like i lost her.

how do i try to get her back??

Are you really an Aqua? How old are you?

i am an Aqua i’m just a little emotional right now. it just feels like a pattern of all my relationships that went wrong. i may be overreacting & if i am feel free to point that out. i just really care about her!!

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Not trying to sensitive shame you or anything because you're an Aqua. lol I was trying to find out why you were so emotional.

If I understand correctly, are you saying that you are trying to put forth more of an effort than usual because all of the previous relationship fails? Are you saying it's usually your fault?

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Gemini moon is hella no for Cancer moon. What's your venus and mars? and hers too

That's my hubby and me.

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That's why I asked for mars/venus 😄

I'm sure there's compatibility lol

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i tried to apologize for my part in the fight & miscommunication but she didn’t respond. she also didn’t respond when i asked later if she forgives me. i feel like i lost her.

how do i try to get her back??

Are you really an Aqua? How old are you?

i am an Aqua i’m just a little emotional right now. it just feels like a pattern of all my relationships that went wrong. i may be overreacting & if i am feel free to point that out. i just really care about her!!

Not trying to sensitive shame you or anything because you're an Aqua. lol I was trying to find out why you were so emotional.

If I understand correctly, are you saying that you are trying to put forth more of an effort than usual because all of the previous relationship fails? Are you saying it's usually your fault?

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i do believe there’s real compatibility which is why i’m trying. and it has been my fault in the past. not opening up enough, being stubborn etc. i feel like this *might* still be salvagable though. idk. i truly hope so

Posted by ratsack

i did hurt her before her birthday weekend but that was after she hurt me & we smoothed things over buuut now her life is a mess

Don't be fucking up people's birthdays man. That shit looks ominously symbolic.

I think she's tired of yo ass tho. You know it too. I think you're getting the slow fade. You're getting the slow fade because you're tempermental and she doesn't even want that drama.

we both can be extremelt dramatic over little things. we fight over those things but then we chill about it. she could def already be talking to someone else idk. she isn’t talking to me right now

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we both can be extremelt dramatic over little things. we fight over those things but then we chill about it. she could def already be talking to someone else idk. she isn’t talking to me right now

Give me your worse examples - one of you being dead wrong and one with her. Don't cheat and say exactly what was said.

Cause one minute you know it's you but when faced with dismal outlook, it's both of us. And, this story is familiar.

Failure to fully own your fuckery is sure fired ending. It's super annoying when being the one wanting to stay together.

i do fully own my mistakes & things i say that end up being hurtful. she can be very self absorbed & not take responsibility for her part in the equation. just like as i apologized for getting upset at her ignoring me in the middle of a conversation. she hasn’t even acknowledged it at all

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i do fully own my mistakes & things i say that end up being hurtful. she can be very self absorbed & not take responsibility for her part in the equation. just like as i apologized for getting upset at her ignoring me in the middle of a conversation. she hasn’t even acknowledged it at all

You're petty.

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i tried to apologize for my part in the fight & miscommunication but she didn’t respond. she also didn’t respond when i asked later if she forgives me. i feel like i lost her.

how do i try to get her back??

Are you really an Aqua? How old are you?

i am an Aqua i’m just a little emotional right now. it just feels like a pattern of all my relationships that went wrong. i may be overreacting & if i am feel free to point that out. i just really care about her!!

Not trying to sensitive shame you or anything because you're an Aqua. lol I was trying to find out why you were so emotional.

If I understand correctly, are you saying that you are trying to put forth more of an effort than usual because all of the previous relationship fails? Are you saying it's usually your fault?

i do believe there’s real compatibility which is why i’m trying. and it has been my fault in the past. not opening up enough, being stubborn etc. i feel like this *might* still be salvagable though. idk. i truly hope so

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"This is kinda one of those you don't know who you got until they pull away things"

"on my birthday she spent all night thinking i was ignoring her for my ex just because i talked & was friendly with my ex, then told me i ruined her night (it was my birthday!!!)."

From your above statements, it seems as though you maybe taking her for granted. Entertaining an ex while spending quality time with your current is inconsiderate.

"she brought my birthday back up when it was her birthday like her even being there was a gift to me which started another fight because it was a horrible night. we were good after that but then she started getting distant."

Sounds like both of your egos got involved on this one^. Also you argue, then renege. Stand your ground. You're not maintaining your stance once she distances herself. Whenever you have a disagreement with her make sure that you are respectful, but not a pushover just for the sake of harmony. Know that if it becomes an argument, she may walk away and you have to be ok with that. Basically determine what's more important in the moment, your convictions or holding on to her.

Also, be proactive. Constantly apologizing for things after you do them becomes draining and comes off as if you are making a mockery out of the relationship.

Basically going forward, let this quote guide you when dealing with women "She wants to be loved with an honest tongue, a devoted heart and exclusive eyes."

I can explain how this quote applies to everything above tomorrow, if it's not evident to you.

Take all of this in, learn your lesson before you try to get her back.

thanks y’all. i got dumb emotional last night (and maybe a little drunk) but after i fell asleep she texted me that she forgives me. i feel like the best thing for me to do is give her space & let her come to me so it’s not like i’m hounding her. we both need time to think

All I seem to attract are Gemini moons and you guys talk so much that you don't realize when you've said too much... or have said something to really hurt someone's feelings.

Give it time and let her talk...you listen. haha...

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thanks y’all. i got dumb emotional last night (and maybe a little drunk) but after i fell asleep she texted me that she forgives me. i feel like the best thing for me to do is give her space & let her come to me so it’s not like i’m hounding her. we both need time to think

So she came to you and said that she forgives you and your next move is to create space—

Communicate

well, let’s just say this one did not get salvaged. we broke-up so she could get into a new relationship (with a Gemini? she made it a point to tell everyone lol) a mere three days after our break-up. i just deleted her off my social media today. it’s been hard. what a mess

she most likely had been testing the waters for at least a week or two which might explain why things were so tense & why distance happened. she wanted to feel like she had to cut & run so she could just get with this dude. i knew something was up but she denied it & lied to me instead of being honest (which is all i want from someone). it sucks because we were so compatible & she told me she cares for me & we have a connection but her actions are wildly disrespectful. we haven’t talked since we broke-up

i appreciate the insight. communication was our major downfall & something i will work on in the future. who knows if this Aries is ever coming back but the way she handled this was not good at all

Posted by ratsack

she could def already be talking to someone else idk. she isn’t talking to me right now

lmao!!! ding ding ding ding ding