cuddling after sex

What's your take on it? Does it really indicate how someone feels about you if they don't cuddle with you afterwards?

No, I don't like to cuddle after... too sticky and sweaty!!

This question looks like it's grasping .... how desperate

im selective with my cuddling; thats reserved for special guys.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Not really an indicator. People either like it or they don't. Had people that i knew truly cared who weren't cuddlers and people i only banged that loved it.

thats soo true

I'm not into cuddling after sex, but I sure as hell wouldn't appreciate it if a guy just turned over & went to sleep right after sex. I like to talk after sex. But I don't want to hear about how good the sex was 😛 blah blah blah. As far as I'm concerned, we did it, it's done, so why should I have to hear about it? I was there for Christ's sake! Most of the men I've been with are always shocked when I talk about the news, Santa Clause, etc right after they've rolled off me. Sex reviews make me shy & uncomfortable 🙂

But if you're a cuddler and your partner isn't, or vice versa, wouldn't that cause problems within the relationship? It's going to need a lot of understanding on both sides to find a compromise.

I use to think I was a cuddler after sex, it was too hot, sweaty and uncomfortable. I also use to think I was when going to bed, and would get my feelers hurt if my SO just rolled over. Well, turns out I'm not a huge fan... I'll cuddle for 5, then roll over myself and get comfy.

It's not personal if the other person doesn't want to cuddle.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Not really an indicator. People either like it or they don't. Had people that i knew truly cared who weren't cuddlers and people i only banged that loved it.

thats soo true

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Agree...

Posted by truecap
But if you're a cuddler and your partner isn't, or vice versa, wouldn't that cause problems within the relationship? It's going to need a lot of understanding on both sides to find a compromise.

I like both. Cuddling and the ability to give space. There's a time and a place. Sometimes it's just perfect.

i push the bitch off

lol

yuck 😉

My bf isn't really a cuddler after sex. He does stick around but it's definitely for my benefit.

We do cuddle a lot at other times.

I've always kind of liked this about him; his affection has never been tied to the sex. It's always been separate.

It depends on how good it is.

Assuming that we're at home and I'm not too busy hopping around on one foot trying to pull my pants back on so that I can figure how to sneak us both out without caught, they've got about 30 seconds before I roll over and pass out. I'll cuddle all day long before but not so much post-coital action. Although I guess they could snuggle up all they wanted after I'm out.

*shrug*

Absolutely no indication about emotional attachments there at all.

Cuddling is intimate, not everybody is gonna get that...

I can say I like it though. It's a natural thing I do when I love somebody.

The guy I was with would just do it with me and get up and leave to go to another room. I never had this issue with any of my boyfriends usually we would stay in bed and talk or we would cuddle. Just doesn't feel right when someone gets up and leaves when you are dating, but thats just me I guess.

Posted by CrabPrincess
The guy I was with would just do it with me and get up and leave to go to another room. I never had this issue with any of my boyfriends usually we would stay in bed and talk or we would cuddle. Just doesn't feel right when someone gets up and leaves when you are dating, but thats just me I guess.

I agree. That doesn't seem right .

Mine gets up a little while after. I've already said he's not really a cuddler, but also he's a night owl and I go to sleep earlier because I wake up at 5am, so he often gets up and does something else. But he lives here. He never did that when we were dating. But then he didn't spend the night here too often either.

Posted by CrabPrincess
What's your take on it? Does it really indicate how someone feels about you if they don't cuddle with you afterwards?

Can their lack of affection after sex be reflective of how they feel about you? Absolutely. Sometimes yes, sometimes no

I love my husband to pieces but after sex, I don't want to be smothered & all up under him. So in this case, if he were to take my annoyance with cuddling right after sex to mean that I don't love him, he'd be completely wrong.

However, the hit it & quit it scenario is a different story. Some people associate affection/cuddling with how they feel about you. If you were just an easy lay, some people won't cuddle with you after sex b/c they prefer only to do those things with the men/women they actually respect & plan on sticking around for.

So in certain cases like these, a person refusing to cuddle with you is only refusing so, not b/c they hate cuddling after sex, but b/c they hate pretending to act like they like you more than they really do

There's a difference b/w someone not doing something b/c IT (whatever that is) is just not their cup of tea vs. someone not doing something with you b/c YOU'RE not their cup of tea. Ya gotta know the difference

Posted by aquapiscescusp
yuck 😉

Lol

Not sure what it means to the person on the other end, but it definitely means something to me to be cuddling with the person after such a steamy situation where I would generally want to be away cooling off.
Idk tho, some people really just can't handle how hot it gets or if they're tired I can understand not wanting to be bothered with laying in position that could be uncomfortable.

Posted by Arietteheart
For some reason I only want to cuddle if the sex was not that great or I didn't get off. Lol. If I O, I'm fine with not cuddling. If I don't O, I feel vulnerable. Doesn't that seem backwards? 😛

Ah I get that way too. Cus after that I'm pretty much in a comfortable place. But I'm not opposed to cuddling or doing more after the O if they really want to 🙂

If my s/o likes to cuddle, I stick around for a little bit but I can't lay around for a long period of time. I much rather get up right away and get clean, then sit around with my s/o, while doing something else, like watching tv. Even without sex, I prefer to cuddle sitting up. I'm not a big fan and laying around unless I plan to sleep.

Posted by Scenic
If my s/o likes to cuddle, I stick around for a little bit but I can't lay around for a long period of time. I much rather get up right away and get clean, then sit around with my s/o, while doing something else, like watching tv. Even without sex, I prefer to cuddle sitting up. I'm not a big fan and laying around unless I plan to sleep.

Exactly.

No it says nothing at all to me.