Help! Gemini men - explain

I have been seeing a Gemini man on and off for three months. One minute he is all over me telling me he loves me and I'm perfect the next I don't hear from him for weeks. He admitted after two months of 'dating' that he had a girlfriend but he would be devastated if I left him. I told him that i can't take all the hot and cold behaviour and he said he has struggles and he needs time to clear his head. I know I should move on but I have developed strong feelings for him and it is very hard. Does the I need time mean a polite way of saying it's over. He has disappeared before and come back. I am a Libran and he says we have a great sexual chemistry but I just need to understand. Does he love me? Is he struggling or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear. Is it really over this time?

Posted by Ki8kki
I have been seeing a Gemini man on and off for three months. One minute he is all over me telling me he loves me and I'm perfect the next I don't hear from him for weeks. He admitted after two months of 'dating' that he had a girlfriend but he would be devastated if I left him. I told him that i can't take all the hot and cold behaviour and he said he has struggles and he needs time to clear his head. I know I should move on but I have developed strong feelings for him and it is very hard. Does the I need time mean a polite way of saying it's over. He has disappeared before and come back. I am a Libran and he says we have a great sexual chemistry but I just need to understand. Does he love me? Is he struggling or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear. Is it really over this time?

OP, I'm sure he likes you because gems don't usually go around people they don't like. It's as if you didn't exist but none of that should matter really, since he has a girlfriend. I'm sure he had/has chemistry with his girlfriend as well.

Unless she is terminally ill, what other reason could he possibly have for remaining with his girlfriend given how perfect you are for him.

They aren't married. Leave him alone. He loves the great sex, now how perfect is that. Sorry 😢

Posted by Ki8kki
I have been seeing a Gemini man on and off for three months. One minute he is all over me telling me he loves me and I'm perfect the next I don't hear from him for weeks. He admitted after two months of 'dating' that he had a girlfriend but he would be devastated if I left him. I told him that i can't take all the hot and cold behaviour and he said he has struggles and he needs time to clear his head. I know I should move on but I have developed strong feelings for him and it is very hard. Does the I need time mean a polite way of saying it's over. He has disappeared before and come back. I am a Libran and he says we have a great sexual chemistry but I just need to understand. Does he love me? Is he struggling or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear. Is it really over this time?

Gemini men are fickle. One day they do love you, the next they don't. Then they do. Then they don't.
Who has time for that?

Wishy washy is the name of their game, mine gem Ex came back around saying the same shit and I just let him talk, I don't believe a word he says tho.

Posted by bkbella86
Wishy washy is the name of their game, mine gem Ex came back around saying the same shit and I just let him talk, I don't believe a word he says tho.

Lol!!

It amazes me how all of these women come in here to talk about the Gemini man ... when this thread has nothing to do with a Gemini man.

The man could be any sign ... so his traits are irrelevant.

It doesn't even have to be a guy .. it could be a woman, and she would still be irrelevant.


The fact that the OP said, "Does he love me?" just after explaining to us that his actions show that he doesn't ... is the only issue here.

it's called: ignorance

A normal person (who isn't ignorant) learns at a very young age how to tell if someone is true.

Posted by truecap

Posted by bkbella86
Wishy washy is the name of their game, mine gem Ex came back around saying the same shit and I just let him talk, I don't believe a word he says tho.

Lol!!

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As a rule Gem Guys love themselves and it stops there.

The noises you hear while their mouths are moving rarely bear anything but the flimsiest resemblance to what actually happens.
Hit delete and GTF outta there. Let him use someone else.

Posted by AriesLady8
The timing is all off. If he has a girlfriend then bounce! You're starting off on the wrong foot. It's his respect you should be more concerned about. The longer you stick around, the longer their relationship will last. Step back and let their relationship run its course.

I agree!!!

Posted by Ki8kki
I have been seeing a Gemini man on and off for three months. One minute he is all over me telling me he loves me and I'm perfect the next I don't hear from him for weeks. He admitted after two months of 'dating' that he had a girlfriend but he would be devastated if I left him. I told him that i can't take all the hot and cold behaviour and he said he has struggles and he needs time to clear his head. I know I should move on but I have developed strong feelings for him and it is very hard. Does the I need time mean a polite way of saying it's over. He has disappeared before and come back. I am a Libran and he says we have a great sexual chemistry but I just need to understand. Does he love me? Is he struggling or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear. Is it really over this time?

I think the clearing his head statement was pretty clear. To me, when someone says that, they're backing up for a reason and 90% of the time the reason is they're not that into you. Sure, 5% of the time, it's because they're sorting out feelings, 5% of the time he's got another option and trying to choose. But for the majority, it means he wants the freedom to be free, have no obligations to you and wants to see other people....

When the gem persued me, it was full steam ahead. There was no doubt. No question. He was protective and smothering and did some very romantic things....I didn't need to question how he felt. I got caught up in all the romance. His excitement was contagious. And that lasted for several years.

Posted by AriesLady8
Your questions weren't answered... Yes, he will probably come back randomly. I do not know him but I am going to go out on a limb and say that he does not love you. Love is unmistakeable with anything else. Him telling you he has a girl was to get that out in the open. He will continue to want to love on you and be sexual and mislead you with the things he says to get what he wants... whatever that is and when you start wanting more, he will throw his gf back in your face. It's not worth the trouble. Take the time you need to clear this out of your system and move towards someone who is available to you

And when you get hurt...he'll play innocent and say "I was honest with you from the get go, it's your fault you got hurt".