I saw my Leo neighbor cheating on his partner my friend and neighbor, what do I do— (Page 2)

Posted by BrightLight

Posted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do— Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.

He's feeding his wife a line to keep the support coming. You have no idea what's really happening in their relationship. Only the two in the relationship know the truth.

However, from what I have seen with other couples who have this dynamic--the financially supportive wife/the husband who cheats--its the wife that is insecure and most likely slightly clingy to the relationship. The husband doesn't find her attractive in bed anymore and the wife hopes her financial support will keep him in the house. She actually might give her husband unspoken passes on the cheating due to her insecurity. You bringing anything up could upset an otherwise very shaky applecart. You have no idea what revealing that would do. I wouldn't say a thing. Let the couple deal with their own business, know what I mean?

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Too late, I did what I ultimately decided to do and it was the right thing in my book.

Posted by CocoKat

Posted by BrightLight

Posted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do— Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.

He's feeding his wife a line to keep the support coming. You have no idea what's really happening in their relationship. Only the two in the relationship know the truth.

However, from what I have seen with other couples who have this dynamic--the financially supportive wife/the husband who cheats--its the wife that is insecure and most likely slightly clingy to the relationship. The husband doesn't find her attractive in bed anymore and the wife hopes her financial support will keep him in the house. She actually might give her husband unspoken passes on the cheating due to her insecurity. You bringing anything up could upset an otherwise very shaky applecart. You have no idea what revealing that would do. I wouldn't say a thing. Let the couple deal with their own business, know what I mean?

Too late, I did what I ultimately decided to do and it was the right thing in my book.

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Yeah right for you. How'd that work out for your neighbors?

Btw, other than supporting him, she is a very pretty, sexy, intelligent & independent Taurus, hes is not! Leo cheated regardless.. she will not have a problem finding another relationship if she decides to move on.

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Posted by CocoKat

Posted by BrightLight

Posted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do— Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.

He's feeding his wife a line to keep the support coming. You have no idea what's really happening in their relationship. Only the two in the relationship know the truth.

However, from what I have seen with other couples who have this dynamic--the financially supportive wife/the husband who cheats--its the wife that is insecure and most likely slightly clingy to the relationship. The husband doesn't find her attractive in bed anymore and the wife hopes her financial support will keep him in the house. She actually might give her husband unspoken passes on the cheating due to her insecurity. You bringing anything up could upset an otherwise very shaky applecart. You have no idea what revealing that would do. I wouldn't say a thing. Let the couple deal with their own business, know what I mean?

Too late, I did what I ultimately decided to do and it was the right thing in my book.

Yeah right for you. How'd that work out for your neighbors?

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No, right for her and her son. I would want to know the truth if it where me!

Its none of your business. You don't have a right to light someone else's relationship on fire. Shrug.

The truth always eventually comes out anyway. You forced your will on someone else's relationship. You might think you would like to know, but you have no idea how you would really react if a neighbor friend told you the same thing...

What happens when they end up staying together? You won't be her neighbor friend any longer probably..good luck with that.

For everyone here that helped me to come to this decision and to everyone here who gave me valuable feedback same or different then I ended up taking. TO be fair, I wouldn't have said anything if she where just a neighbor but the fact I know her and her kid really was the deciding factor. Thanks Everyone!

Posted by CocoKat

First of all, no I'm not gossipy. She is my friend.

Second, she told me she supports him.

Of course you're gossipy, this isn't even your fucking business.

Secondly, that's what I said numbnuts ... that you were told this, rather than actually knowing the true events.


Again ... this is just you with your nose up in their business. You made conclusions about his level of regard, when you have absolutely NO clue about how he regards her.

Since you made this conclusions about something you know nothing about ...... equals - you're just here to gossip. You found something to sensationalize, and so you couldn't wait to run to dxp to gossip about it.

Be this friend you believe you are, and keep out of their business.

Posted by BrightLight
Its none of your business. You don't have a right to light someone else's relationship on fire. Shrug.

The truth always eventually comes out anyway. You forced your will on someone else's relationship. You might think you would like to know, but you have no idea how you would really react if a neighbor friend told you the same thing...

What happens when they end up staying together? You won't be her neighbor friend any longer probably..good luck with that.

That's not the issue here at all, its common courtesy. I would expect the same (to know if my partner is cheating) back.

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Posted by CocoKat

First of all, no I'm not gossipy. She is my friend.

Second, she told me she supports him.

Of course you're gossipy, this isn't even your fucking business.

Secondly, that's what I said numbnuts ... that you were told this, rather than actually knowing the true events.


Again ... this is just you with your nose up in their business. You made conclusions about his level of regard, when you have absolutely NO clue about how he regards her.

Since you made this conclusions about something you know nothing about ...... equals - you're just here to gossip. You found something to sensationalize, and so you couldn't wait to run to dxp to gossip about it.

Be this friend you believe you are, and keep out of their business.

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Its responses like this from the village idiot that make me happy I chose my course of action.

Posted by CocoKat

Virgo

Oh, no wonder you're so stupid about the emotional side of relationships, and cannot keep your nose where it belongs.

When this blows up in your face ....... you always do like the rest of the Virgos do, and run in here to claim being the victim who was taken advantage of.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by CocoKat

Virgo

Oh, no wonder you're so stupid about the emotional side of relationships, and cannot keep your nose where it belongs.

When this blows up in your face ....... you always do like the rest of the Virgos do, and run in here to claim being the victim who was taken advantage of.

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You are delusional and live in never-never land. I would bet your husband lies to you all the time and gets away with it while you spend your time on this forum pointing your fingers at everyone because they don't think as narrow-mindedly and stupidly as you do.

Posted by CocoKat

Posted by BrightLight
Its none of your business. You don't have a right to light someone else's relationship on fire. Shrug.

The truth always eventually comes out anyway. You forced your will on someone else's relationship. You might think you would like to know, but you have no idea how you would really react if a neighbor friend told you the same thing...

What happens when they end up staying together? You won't be her neighbor friend any longer probably..good luck with that.

That's not the issue here at all, its common courtesy. I would expect the same (to know if my partner is cheating) back.

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Sorry again I have to disagree. Its not common courtesy to put your nose in another person's relationship. Like I said, you don't know enough about their dynamic to make decisions about whether or not their relationship should continue. Because, once that cat was let out of the bag, your neighbor has only two options. 1) Leave the man because who the fuck wants to look weak in front of the neighbors continuing a relationship where a bf was caught cheating? or 2) Stay with the guy and forget you are alive and be the butt of gossip within the neighborhood. You did that to your friend by telling her. You made your friend have to make that decision.

Maybe the right decision is to leave him? But that was never your business in the first place.

A friend waits until they are brought into the confidence of their friend and helps them explore issues. Now, you say your friend was already aware that her BF was acting strange after you told her about the cheating. Guess what? She kept that to herself and didn't let on that little tidbit to you until after you told about the kissing. Why? because it was none of your business. If you two were so close, she would have brought up her uneasy feelings to you already. But she didn't.

So, as I read further .... the truth is revealed ... this isn't even a person you know well.

So, you weren't trying to protect a good friend .... you were just wanting to be a bitch and try to destroy their relationship.


That was a cunt move ... enjoy what the universe is going to bring you for that.

Posted by BrightLight

Posted by CocoKat

Posted by BrightLight
Its none of your business. You don't have a right to light someone else's relationship on fire. Shrug.

The truth always eventually comes out anyway. You forced your will on someone else's relationship. You might think you would like to know, but you have no idea how you would really react if a neighbor friend told you the same thing...

What happens when they end up staying together? You won't be her neighbor friend any longer probably..good luck with that.

That's not the issue here at all, its common courtesy. I would expect the same (to know if my partner is cheating) back.

Sorry again I have to disagree. Its not common courtesy to put your nose in another person's relationship. Like I said, you don't know enough about their dynamic to make decisions about whether or not their relationship should continue. Because, once that cat was let out of the bag, your neighbor has only two options. 1) Leave the man because who the fuck wants to look weak in front of the neighbors continuing a relationship where a bf was caught cheating? or 2) Stay with the guy and forget you are alive and be the butt of gossip within the neighborhood. You did that to your friend by telling her. You made your friend have to make that decision.

Maybe the right decision is to leave him? But that was never your business in the first place.

A friend waits until they are brought into the confidence of their friend and helps them explore issues. Now, you say your friend was already aware that her BF was acting strange after you told her about the cheating. Guess what? She kept that to herself and didn't let on that little tidbit to you until after you told about the kissing. Why? because it was none of your business. If you two were so close, she would have brought up her uneasy feelings to you already. But she didn't.

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That's fine if you disagree but I did what I would have wanted my friend to tell me if the roles where reversed. and I will stand by decision. I didn't tell any of my neighbors nor would I. I came here for anonymous advise and everyone here has there own 2 cents, rightfully so... If I made a decision of not telling her, I would probly get chewed out about that. I didn't come here to be judged, I came her for clarity, which I received. Whatever the outcome of my decision I am at peace I did the right thing, how I would want it done to me.

You don't even know he was cheating.

You make a thread and say he was cheating in the title to create drama in here ...... when the reality is, you don't even know if he was cheating.


You don't know anything about their relationship, other than what she wanted to tell you ...... so, all of those details were just you fabricating for sensational purposes, to make the drama thicker.


Actually, when this is thought about as a whole picture, it's actually good that it happened ... now those two know to stay the fuck away from the busy body, who is looking to cause trouble for her neighbors.

Posted by P-Angel

So, as I read further .... the truth is revealed ... this isn't even a person you know well.

So, you weren't trying to protect a good friend .... you were just wanting to be a bitch and try to destroy their relationship.


That was a cunt move ... enjoy what the universe is going to bring you for that.

Wow, this really affected you personally, maybe you should look at your own life before judging others.

P-Angel you calling someone a bitch is like watching pigs fly... some Neptunian dream far, far away in the land of angry women who are subverviant and submissive to their cheating husbands who pay them no mind and look the other way...

The righteousness of a delusioned and angry woman full of judgement,

Posted by P-Angel

You don't even know he was cheating.

You make a thread and say he was cheating in the title to create drama in here ...... when the reality is, you don't even know if he was cheating.


You don't know anything about their relationship, other than what she wanted to tell you ...... so, all of those details were just you fabricating for sensational purposes, to make the drama thicker.


Actually, when this is thought about as a whole picture, it's actually good that it happened ... now those two know to stay the fuck away from the busy body, who is looking to cause trouble for her neighbors.

Maybe in your reality, passionately kissing another woman is tolerated as not cheating.

I can't believe you did this horrible thing to her.


due to the fact that she knew something wasnt' right in her relationship, means she is/was aware of her own relationship problems.

People deal with stuff on their own, in their own time, on their own terms. Did it every occur to the melding and stupid Virgo that perhaps you threw something in her face that she wasnt' ready to deal with yet?

Of course not, because it's all about YOU. How YOU feel. What YOU want to do.

How fucking self centered.

It's not up to YOU to decide what she is to deal with at any particular moment in time.


So, all of you Virgos out there always wondering why your kind get such a bad rap ... look at this shit. This Virgo here has decided that her neighbors WILL deal with their relationship issues at her demand.

She refused to let her neighbors live their own relationship, on their terms.


What a fucking cunt.

Posted by P-Angel

I can't believe you did this horrible thing to her.


due to the fact that she knew something wasnt' right in her relationship, means she is/was aware of her own relationship problems.

People deal with stuff on their own, in their own time, on their own terms. Did it every occur to the melding and stupid Virgo that perhaps you threw something in her face that she wasnt' ready to deal with yet?

Of course not, because it's all about YOU. How YOU feel. What YOU want to do.

How fucking self centered.

It's not up to YOU to decide what she is to deal with at any particular moment in time.


So, all of you Virgos out there always wondering why your kind get such a bad rap ... look at this shit. This Virgo here has decided that her neighbors WILL deal with their relationship issues at her demand.

She refused to let her neighbors live their own relationship, on their terms.


What a fucking cunt.

I'm sure it would be horrible FOR YOU to find out. A BIGGGG old dose of reality comes crashing down your glass house a toxic coctail full of judgement, bitterness and righteousness combined with stupidity not caring enough about yourself to remain in a relationship where you are being cheated on.

Posted by CocoKat

Maybe in your reality, passionately kissing another woman is tolerated as not cheating.

You don't know that he was cheating. You don't know the terms of the relationship.

That's the point .. you don't know any of it. Yet, you decided you did and then stuck your nose to alleviate YOUR conscience.

You can come back with all the attacks you want on my character and it doesn't change the horrendous deed you did to your neighbors.

When people take their Cheating PUBLIC, they

have officially MADE it the business of those

who witness the encounter.


Not telling in some way is to be complicit in the LIE.

Good on you, OP.


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I don't need to say any more to you.

you obviously just want to argue, and I'm not the argumentative type.

You were given the information you needed to realize the cunt move you did to harm your neighbors.

And the reality of truth was pointed out to the viewing audience her by several people in here who practice sensible reasoning ... so my work is done here.


out

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Posted by CocoKat

Maybe in your reality, passionately kissing another woman is tolerated as not cheating.

You don't know that he was cheating. You don't know the terms of the relationship.

That's the point .. you don't know any of it. Yet, you decided you did and then stuck your nose to alleviate YOUR conscience.

You can come back with all the attacks you want on my character and it doesn't change the horrendous deed you did to your neighbors.

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You attacked first, as you do all the time.. Get some EQ, you are in desperate need of self awareness! You can dish and but it doesn't seem you can take it!


What I did was the truth, the right thing to do, obviously you have a BIG problem with the truth, this isn't the first time Ive seen you jump on a thread throwing daggers. I'm sure my coming forward with the truth seems horrendous to you, burst your little close-minded glass bubble.

Posted by Montgomery
When people take their Cheating PUBLIC, they

have officially MADE it the business of those

who witness the encounter.


Not telling in some way is to be complicit in the LIE.

Good on you, OP.


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That's HOW I FEEL! Even so I only said something because I could not live with myself had I not. She deserves to know the truth, its not fair to have that kept secret. She is very smart and intuitive, I know she'll make the right decision whatever it may be for her and her son.

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Virgo

Oh, no wonder you're so stupid about the emotional side of relationships, and cannot keep your nose where it belongs.

When this blows up in your face ....... you always do like the rest of the Virgos do, and run in here to claim being the victim who was taken advantage of.

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^^ Married a Virgo... you can do the math, Coco.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Montgomery
When people take their Cheating PUBLIC, they

have officially MADE it the business of those

who witness the encounter.


Not telling in some way is to be complicit in the LIE.

Good on you, OP.


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I'd still never get involved. That's rolling off an assumption that they were cheating in the first place. In this case what's done is done and it seems that assumption was correct.

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Tiziani, would you tell your male buddy if you saw his woman out passionately kissing another man?

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Virgo

Oh, no wonder you're so stupid about the emotional side of relationships, and cannot keep your nose where it belongs.

When this blows up in your face ....... you always do like the rest of the Virgos do, and run in here to claim being the victim who was taken advantage of.

^^ Married a Virgo... you can do the math, Coco.

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I hope its working well for you, you have a good head on your shoulders.

Posted by blackphase

Posted by Montgomery
When people take their Cheating PUBLIC, they

have officially MADE it the business of those

who witness the encounter.


Not telling in some way is to be complicit in the LIE.

Good on you, OP.


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I agree with this.. you are not butting into someone elses business when they make it public for anyone to see that they are cheating.
I'd tell her, even if it is anomalously like others have mentioned.

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You know I thought about doing it anonymously by my scorpio told me it would be cowardly and she may have brushed it off. I may have done this if I didn't talk to him first.

Posted by Arielle83
Id tell her because what he did is embarrassing.

He made it public for others to see and judge their relationship.

Like you are being forced to do now.

Yes your right but it still sucks and I really didn't ask to be in this position but someone had to do it since it was all public like that. The added stresses of people jumping down my throat because of my decision wasn't fun. But whats done is done. Its nice to see their are some ladies here with good common sense.

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by Montgomery
When people take their Cheating PUBLIC, they

have officially MADE it the business of those

who witness the encounter.


Not telling in some way is to be complicit in the LIE.

Good on you, OP.


🙂

I'd still never get involved. That's rolling off an assumption that they were cheating in the first place. In this case what's done is done and it seems that assumption was correct.

Tiziani, would you tell your male buddy if you saw his woman out passionately kissing another man?

There's no scenario that would change my stance. I don't draw conclusions on relationships that I'm not in. That's the way I see it. You did what you felt you had to do and it's done now. I'm just pointing out it's not actually apathy or being complicit in a lie by default.

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No that's fine, your certainly entitled to your opinion. I'm impressed at your ability to state it without calling names, just keeping the respect.

Posted by tiziani
I also do think if someone chooses to do something like that, it is better to do it in person rather than anonymously.

All or nothing. That's the viewpoint of my scorpio, he was dead serious about me telling her but being 100% real and upfront, he wanted to be with me but at the end of the day I thought it better if I went at it alone.

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Posted by Montgomery
When people take their Cheating PUBLIC, they

have officially MADE it the business of those

who witness the encounter.


Not telling in some way is to be complicit in the LIE.

Good on you, OP.


🙂

I agree with this.. you are not butting into someone elses business when they make it public for anyone to see that they are cheating.
I'd tell her, even if it is anomalously like others have mentioned.

You know I thought about doing it anonymously by my scorpio told me it would be cowardly and she may have brushed it off. I may have done this if I didn't talk to him first.

I personally would do it myself as well, but some people aren't comfortable with that, just wasn't sure where you stood on the matter. But, I'd definitely be saying something. It sdoesn't seem like he is trying to hide it, so his fault.

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Thanks Blackphase. My mutable sun & moon had me going back and forth with if, what, when, how (you get the picture)... at the end of the day the truth prevailed and hopefully I saved her undue longterm heartache and its worth the short term discomfort on both ends.

I would want to know. I agree you should word it as I see you as a friend so I wanted you to know. I would have taken pictures for proof too incase she got mad and said I was lying, but why sit there and let someone you consider a friend get hurt. I remember a friend who knew my ex was cheating and told me that they were afraid to tell me after we broke up. I never trusted that person again. Loyalty means a lot to me.

Posted by CocoKat
Stage 1... (Thanks Gemitati) Ask if she would tell if she saw someones partner cheating and how she would feel if someone saw her partner cheating. (check response, temper and mental outlook before proceeding)

Stage 2...(Thanks Aquavita8) Find out if they have some sort of "arrangement."

I may switch the steps above, not sure yet.

Stage 3...If the answers to above questions are reasonable (which I doubt) and she doesn't fly off the handle I may tell her (OR)

(Thanks Yourfavoritedxpmember and Sassykiwi) Write letter.


(((SIGH)))

My virgoan mind is hoping this plan works. Im really not good at this kinda stuff. Hurting people is so offputting and stressful to me.

LOL If you asked me the question at stage 1 I would know immediately.

Posted by ladylibra21
I would want to know. I agree you should word it as I see you as a friend so I wanted you to know. I would have taken pictures for proof too incase she got mad and said I was lying, but why sit there and let someone you consider a friend get hurt. I remember a friend who knew my ex was cheating and told me that they were afraid to tell me after we broke up. I never trusted that person again. Loyalty means a lot to me.

Thanks Ladylibra for sharing your experience and insight. I do feel I made the right decision in my gut.

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Posted by CocoKat
Stage 1... (Thanks Gemitati) Ask if she would tell if she saw someones partner cheating and how she would feel if someone saw her partner cheating. (check response, temper and mental outlook before proceeding)

Stage 2...(Thanks Aquavita8) Find out if they have some sort of "arrangement."

I may switch the steps above, not sure yet.

Stage 3...If the answers to above questions are reasonable (which I doubt) and she doesn't fly off the handle I may tell her (OR)

(Thanks Yourfavoritedxpmember and Sassykiwi) Write letter.


(((SIGH)))

My virgoan mind is hoping this plan works. Im really not good at this kinda stuff. Hurting people is so offputting and stressful to me.

LOL If you asked me the question at stage 1 I would know immediately.

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I knew what I would have wanted being on the receiving end (to be told of course!)... its hard because you don't know how people are gonna take it, heck look at all the violent responses thrown my way. I came here for what I thought would be peaceful opinions, instead I got blasted with these harsh judgements.. haha.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Montgomery
When people take their Cheating PUBLIC, they

have officially MADE it the business of those

who witness the encounter.


Not telling in some way is to be complicit in the LIE.

Good on you, OP.


🙂

I'd still never get involved. That's rolling off an assumption that they were cheating in the first place. In this case what's done is done and it seems that assumption was correct.

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I hear you... but I'd still do it.

Honor and glory and all that fixed stuff

looms large-- all at my total discretion. 😛

Posted by CocoKat
ALSO, she is on the co-op board in my building I don't want to begin an animosity.. she always bragging on him and defending him. I am split on what to do, I'm worried she will see me as the enemy. Help!

Leave an anonimous letter addressed to her. She deserves to know. I couldn't stand allowing someone look a fool.

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Posted by CocoKat
ALSO, she is on the co-op board in my building I don't want to begin an animosity.. she always bragging on him and defending him. I am split on what to do, I'm worried she will see me as the enemy. Help!

Leave an anonimous letter addressed to her. She deserves to know. I couldn't stand allowing someone look a fool.

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She already let the cat out of the bag. 🙂

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Posted by CocoKat
I'm at the local dive bar with my gf and I see my neighbor whos living with his girlfriend, a Taurus (and her young son) *passionately* kissing a another woman. I am very friendly with my neighbor and I care about her yet I have an internal struggle about how to deal with this. FYI, He saw me and I left soon after. What do I do— Btw, she financially supports him. I'm upset because he always seemed so INTO her and in LOVE with her and obviously this is not the case.

He's feeding his wife a line to keep the support coming. You have no idea what's really happening in their relationship. Only the two in the relationship know the truth.

However, from what I have seen with other couples who have this dynamic--the financially supportive wife/the husband who cheats--its the wife that is insecure and most likely slightly clingy to the relationship. The husband doesn't find her attractive in bed anymore and the wife hopes her financial support will keep him in the house. She actually might give her husband unspoken passes on the cheating due to her insecurity. You bringing anything up could upset an otherwise very shaky applecart. You have no idea what revealing that would do. I wouldn't say a thing. Let the couple deal with their own business, know what I mean?

Too late, I did what I ultimately decided to do and it was the right thing in my book.

Yeah right for you. How'd that work out for your neighbors?

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He did this to the relationship, not the OP.

I agree with your decision OP and I'm glad you did what you feel is right + that she appreciated you telling her. Sure, it may have come out eventually without your interference, but I know that there are people who would be upset that they wasted all that extra time on that person when there was someone else who could have led to it ending a lot sooner. Of course, just the same, some others would be unappreciative of this. Either way, I hope your neighbor is able to move on.

Posted by Greentea

He did this to the relationship, not the OP.

What is the "this" that you speak of?

What did he do, that you believe is a: he did this to the relationship?


As far as we know, we did nothing to the relationship ... because we don't know the terms of the relationship.


could be she sent him out to bring a woman home for a threesome ... for all we know.


And the OP doesn't know either. She has no clue what the terms of their relationship are ... she said herself that she has to go tell because SHE can't handle the guilt and pressure of it. There was nothing in what the OP said that showed any concern for the female neighbor.


If the female neighbor is in an extremely fragile emotional state, in so that news like this blurted out to her by an insensitive Virgo could push her over the edge and make her mind crack ....... this could very well be possible.


The point is .... this Virgo here took no care whatsoever for the female neighbor, and just marched over there to vomit this information out, with intentions of hurting this lady.


the lady could be on the verge of suicide for all this Virgo knew. She didn't care ... she said herself that she has to get this out for herself, because she needed to feel better.

If this man was a wife beater, this female neighbor could be in danger now ... because of what the thoughtless Virgo did.


The point is ...... the Virgo doesn't know these dynamics of the relationship between these two people, and instead of being a sensible person to use her brain cells .... she just marched over there and blurted this shit out, so that the Virgo, herself, could feel better.


It's absolutely disgusting, not only that there is a Virgo this fucking low ... but, all of the other people in here supporting her and telling her that it's ok to hurt that woman's feelings, and it's ok to just lay all the cards out like that, forcing the lady to face herself ... selfish of all of you who told this Virgo to do it.


Cunt move ... and is very telling about all of you who told her that it's ok to violate this female neighbor's emotions like that.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by Greentea

He did this to the relationship, not the OP.

What is the "this" that you speak of?

What did he do, that you believe is a: he did this to the relationship?


As far as we know, we did nothing to the relationship ... because we don't know the terms of the relationship.


could be she sent him out to bring a woman home for a threesome ... for all we know.


And the OP doesn't know either. She has no clue what the terms of their relationship are ... she said herself that she has to go tell because SHE can't handle the guilt and pressure of it. There was nothing in what the OP said that showed any concern for the female neighbor.


If the female neighbor is in an extremely fragile emotional state, in so that news like this blurted out to her by an insensitive Virgo could push her over the edge and make her mind crack ....... this could very well be possible.


The point is .... this Virgo here took no care whatsoever for the female neighbor, and just marched over there to vomit this information out, with intentions of hurting this lady.


the lady could be on the verge of suicide for all this Virgo knew. She didn't care ... she said herself that she has to get this out for herself, because she needed to feel better.

If this man was a wife beater, this female neighbor could be in danger now ... because of what the thoughtless Virgo did.


The point is ...... the Virgo doesn't know these dynamics of the relationship between these two people, and instead of being a sensible person to use her brain cells .... she just marched over there and blurted this shit out, so that the Virgo, herself, could feel better.


It's absolutely disgusting, not only that there is a Virgo this fucking low ... but, all of the other people in here supporting her and telling her that it's ok to hurt that woman's feelings, and it's ok to just lay all the cards out like that, forcing the lady to face herself ... selfish of all of you who told this Virgo to do it.


Cunt move ... and is very telling about all of you who told her that it's ok to violate this female neighbor's emotions like that.

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What I meant by that was if he wasn't out.fooling around on her then he/they would not be in this position. I understand where you're coming from, nobody really knows the true dynamic of anyones relationship, and in a situation like this I don't think most people would think of it like you do. They could have had that kind of tumultuous relationship, sure there could be a chance..and she took that risk by telling this woman. Bad

Posted by Greentea

What I meant by that was if he wasn't out.fooling around on her then he/they would not be in this position.

What position?

They aren't in any kind of position ... based on a stranger's morals posting on dxp.

I fucking hate it when my comments get cut off...now I gotta remember what I typed out.


**bad news like this will hurt, there's just no getting around it and it's a terrible position to be in. There are women out there who will turn a blind eye, and make any excuse for their mens behavior, and end up blaming the messenger. Not every woman who decides to inform another of their man's cheating ways is a deceiving cunt and I think most women in the Tauruses position would want to know they're being cheated on, but it's unfortunate and sad that the messenger is the one that gets blamed for ruining a relationship.

You don't know that he was fooling around on her ... yet, you made that conclusion.

Conclusions have been made on gossip ... because the OP clearly had no clue about the dynamics of the relationship .... yet, went here and there to flap her jaws as if she knew.


How ridiculous ...

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Posted by Greentea

What I meant by that was if he wasn't out.fooling around on her then he/they would not be in this position.

What position?

They aren't in any kind of position ... based on a stranger's morals posting on dxp.

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Position of being hurt by this news, confronting, and having to make a decision to stay or go...

Posted by P-Angel

You don't know that he was fooling around on her ... yet, you made that conclusion.

Conclusions have been made on gossip ... because the OP clearly had no clue about the dynamics of the relationship .... yet, went here and there to flap her jaws as if she knew.


How ridiculous ...

If I was in the Tauruses position and he was in fact trying to bring another woman in our relationship/bedroom, I would've let the cat out of the bag.. so Virgo knows that I don't see it as cheating, but from what virgo said, Taurus had an inclination something was going on and was great full she told her what she had witnessed.

YOu have a neighbor who is obviously nosey as hell ..... do you let cats like that out of the bag?



dude, use some fucking brain cells.


Maybe it's an earth thing to be so dense.

The Virgo in this scenario was wrong full stop, and every person who agreed with her.


the wife of the kisser has feelings, and it was the Virgos responsibility to be sensitive to that first and foremost.


that didn't happen ... what happened is that the Virgo couldn't handle herself, and so ran over to this female neighbor to hurt her, so she could relieve herself.