Posted by Arielle83
Why do "besties" go after their "besties'" man?
Like what the fuvk?
I had an Aries, Leo moon as a bestie that went after every dude I date. Attention whore.
Posted by P-AngelNo I would just tell her that I wouldn't consider it cheating so she knows Im not hurt by it. And yes, I'd be fully aware that she's nosey, but her noseyness would be working for my behalf. I wouldn't know I was being cheated on without her telling me. I'd still be feeling something is off in my relationship. Earth signs need stability, not doubt. And if I found out she knew of this without telling me, and still being all smiles and friendly, then I woukd think she's deceitful.
YOu have a neighbor who is obviously nosey as hell ..... do you let cats like that out of the bag?
dude, use some fucking brain cells.
Maybe it's an earth thing to be so dense.
Posted by Arielle83
Coo coo
Weird.
This whole thing is like when your make up is all smeared and fucjed up, but no one wants to tell you.
Why don't they want to tell you?
Oh they don't want to embarrass you?
They don't want you to run to the toilet and get all self concious and hide.
But do you notice, that one person, that one beacon of hope who can empathize with you and your need to save face. So instead of looking you in the face, and seeing your makeups smeared, she sees it and brings it to your attention so you can fix yourself. She gave you the option, because before you had no idea and couldn't make a choice for yourself.
Most people would look you in the face and never tell you your face looks fucked. How oblivious can they be? Are they blind to something, she might want to know? Or are they just too chicken to be the bearer of bad news? Or maybe you don't want to tell her because it means you looked at her and saw her, but wouldn't it be worse to see her and ignore it?
You'd rather not care than care.
Y'all would let the makeup run down her face. I'll tell her to check herself so she isn't embarrassed in public ANYMORE. You can act like you see nothing, because you've got lives to live and assumptions to make about everyone.
Posted by BrightLightBrightlite, we didn't have coffee. I know her for many years, Ive taken care of her son, my partner coaches on his baseball team, we've been more than casual friends. If that where the case I might not have said anything.
This is nothing like having make up on your face. Its way more personal than that. Anyone would tell someone they have make up smeared on their face.
It like bringing a huge gaping wart to the attention of the person who already has to deal with it on their face. The person with the wart knows she has a wart but does she really want it brought to her attention and therefore to the attention of everyone else? No. That's embarrassing her and besides its something she has to live with and deal with on her own. Its not common curtesy to say: "Hey, I don't know if you know this, but you have a huge hairy wart on your face."
And then everyone starts talking about it behind her back, like: "Have you seen her wart? I wonder if its an STD?"
If your friend wants to talk about her wart, I am sure she would bring it up to her closest friends. Not some random person who thinks she's a friend because they have coffee sometime.
Posted by SensitiveBluesThanks,
it looks like cocokat did the right thing. i'd personally want to know.
Posted by GreenteaI know if people knew something and didn't tell me, I would be very angry and may not speak to them ever again.Posted by P-AngelNo I would just tell her that I wouldn't consider it cheating so she knows Im not hurt by it. And yes, I'd be fully aware that she's nosey, but her noseyness would be working for my behalf. I wouldn't know I was being cheated on without her telling me. I'd still be feeling something is off in my relationship. Earth signs need stability, not doubt. And if I found out she knew of this without telling me, and still being all smiles and friendly, then I woukd think she's deceitful.
YOu have a neighbor who is obviously nosey as hell ..... do you let cats like that out of the bag?
dude, use some fucking brain cells.
Maybe it's an earth thing to be so dense.click to expand
Posted by CocoKat
I'm the only one who had the decency and respect to tell her straight up, to her face... everyone else gossiping to each other and laughing behind her back, talking "don't tell her, it will hurt her". If it where me I would be humiliated they didn't tell me first. Gossipy backstabbers too chicken to say something would rather tear her down behind her back.
Posted by Arielle83
I hate gossip and small town mind shit where everyone knows your shit.
Tell me for fuvk sake.
Ya so we've gathered, the people who wouldn't tell are the ones who wouldn't want to know and would rather be ignorant.
The ppl who would want to know are the confronters.
Issue solved!
Posted by P-AngelHer being a shitty person may be a bit harsh to say P. I'm sure the Taurus is thankful, no matter the circumstance this is all in the light. Atleast the Taurus can have some control over herself amd emotions going forward with the truth, that she's in fact not in a monogamous relationship like she thought. Now, she can do what's best for her..whatever that is.Posted by CocoKat
I'm the only one who had the decency and respect to tell her straight up, to her face... everyone else gossiping to each other and laughing behind her back, talking "don't tell her, it will hurt her". If it where me I would be humiliated they didn't tell me first. Gossipy backstabbers too chicken to say something would rather tear her down behind her back.
Now bits of the truth start to seep out .... people usually hang themselves.
So, what's really going on is that the community is sniggering behind her back. So, my first assessment was on point .... gossip.
You and your people have been laughing at her.
No wonder you did such a shitty thing to her ... you're a shitty personclick to expand
kquote>Posted by CocoKatThat ^^^^^ is actually a lie.
I didn't tell any of my neighbors nor would I.
Posted by CocoKat
I'm the only one who had the decency and respect to tell her straight up, to her face... everyone else gossiping to each other and laughing behind her back, talking "don't tell her, it will hurt her". If it where me I would be humiliated they didn't tell me first. Gossipy backstabbers too chicken to say something would rather tear her down behind her back.
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Posted by P-Angel
The truth is ... everyone knew, and you all have been laughing about her behind her back.
You made this thread under false pretenses ... you tell people that you caught him, when in reality, everyone in the community knew this.
I was wondering why you said that Scorpio wanted to be there when you told her. That seemed odd to me, why would a dude want to be present when this woman went into emotional distress ... because that is the reaction any person with a smidgeon of sense would realize. So, why would he WANT to be there?
And as I said before, you give a person enough rope and they hang themselves ...... you both and the community, at large, were laughing at her behind her back ... so, he wanted to be there so he could watch when you gutted her.
From everything you've written here, as the whole tale is considered ..... the picture becomes clearer.
It makes sense now why the Scorpio wanted to watch it ... it's been an ongoing spectacle you and your community have been making of her, and he wanted to watch the final slice into for shits and giggles.
You're a horrible person.
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