Love triangle with 2 Pisces

I have been trying to work things out with one Pisces that I met last year, but now this other Pisces I met this year that I dated briefly has been texting me and wanted to be friends again... I don't know what to do now =.=

what's your sign?

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what's your sign?

scorpio...

Posted by whatisthisallabout

Posted by Aerazo
what's your sign?

scorpio...

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There's nothing wrong about being friends. I'd just go have coffee with him to see what the fuzz is about. and Then..make your decision if seeing this person affected the relationship you are trying to build with the other pisces.

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Posted by Aerazo
what's your sign?

scorpio...

There's nothing wrong about being friends. I'd just go have coffee with him to see what the fuzz is about. and Then..make your decision if seeing this person affected the relationship you are trying to build with the other pisces.

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Thanks. I am a little concerned because I am not sure if the Pisces that I want to work things out with would think there's something going on between me and this other Pisces... I guess I will think about it more since I still have a week to decide.

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Posted by Aerazo
what's your sign?

scorpio...

There's nothing wrong about being friends. I'd just go have coffee with him to see what the fuzz is about. and Then..make your decision if seeing this person affected the relationship you are trying to build with the other pisces.

Thanks. I am a little concerned because I am not sure if the Pisces that I want to work things out with would think there's something going on between me and this other Pisces... I guess I will think about it more since I still have a week to decide.

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How would he know?

-Im not implying to cheat lol but you are just meeting a friend. not for the purpose of cheating.

Maybe he just wants to ask for something like help. It happened to me once, the guy just needed someone to help with insurance and he knew me . ?

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I second going for coffee with him.. everyone deserves better a chance. Most times people aren't the way you think they are and you might come to like him. Who knows? You have the decision to make

This is true. Since I am sort of in his shoe at this moment with the other Pisces, I can relate to how it feels like to want to get close again/get another chance, but not get a clear response...

I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me...

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I second going for coffee with him.. everyone deserves better a chance. Most times people aren't the way you think they are and you might come to like him. Who knows? You have the decision to make

This is true. Since I am sort of in his shoe at this moment with the other Pisces, I can relate to how it feels like to want to get close again/get another chance, but not get a clear response...

I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me...

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"I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me.."

I'm in the exact same situation right now. Is hard to make the choice.

2 CAPS.

I don't have anything yet with the either guy but if I do something with the (2)nd it will make a difference on how things are with the (1) I'm seeing. And I don't want to hurt him (1)because I do care about him so that makes me realize I'm not that into the guy(2).

which is why i refer as #2.

I would go .. cuz if u don't then u will never know, right? ?

Posted by whatisthisallabout
I have been trying to work things out with one Pisces that I met last year, but now this other Pisces I met this year that I dated briefly has been texting me and wanted to be friends again... I don't know what to do now =.=

awww he sounds sweet. you don't like you you like him very much tho if that's all you reply with...

Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

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Posted by Aerazo
what's your sign?

scorpio...

There's nothing wrong about being friends. I'd just go have coffee with him to see what the fuzz is about. and Then..make your decision if seeing this person affected the relationship you are trying to build with the other pisces.

Thanks. I am a little concerned because I am not sure if the Pisces that I want to work things out with would think there's something going on between me and this other Pisces... I guess I will think about it more since I still have a week to decide.

How would he know?

-Im not implying to cheat lol but you are just meeting a friend. not for the purpose of cheating.

Maybe he just wants to ask for something like help. It happened to me once, the guy just needed someone to help with insurance and he knew me . ?

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Hahaha, that's true.

The thing is that we dated and it didn't end well, so I just can't trust that he really only wants to be friends...

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I second going for coffee with him.. everyone deserves better a chance. Most times people aren't the way you think they are and you might come to like him. Who knows? You have the decision to make

This is true. Since I am sort of in his shoe at this moment with the other Pisces, I can relate to how it feels like to want to get close again/get another chance, but not get a clear response...

I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me...

"I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me.."

I'm in the exact same situation right now. Is hard to make the choice.

2 CAPS.

I don't have anything yet with the either guy but if I do something with the (2)nd it will make a difference on how things are with the (1) I'm seeing. And I don't want to hurt him (1)because I do care about him so that makes me realize I'm not that into the guy(2).

which is why i refer as #2.

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This is exactly how I feel. Even if I know probably nothing would happen even if I met up with Pisces #2 (the guy who wants to meet for coffee), I am afraid that it can hurt Pisces #1. I am worried that just by knowing that I met up with a guy I had a history with can complicate things with Pisces #1.

But on the other hand, Pisces #1 has not given me a clear answer on if he wants to date again (he told me he'd love to hang out but I want more. He's hesitant to be more at this point.... )

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I second going for coffee with him.. everyone deserves better a chance. Most times people aren't the way you think they are and you might come to like him. Who knows? You have the decision to make

This is true. Since I am sort of in his shoe at this moment with the other Pisces, I can relate to how it feels like to want to get close again/get another chance, but not get a clear response...

I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me...

You asking about this means, that you're atleast considering it. You should go for the one that wins your heart and wants to be with you, which is more like this pieces if you are looking for a happy relationship

If you really love the pieces you're chasing, just stop chasing and give him time..even then the future is uncertain

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This is good advice. I guess I'd prob have more happy moments than sad moments with someone who actually wants to win my heart and to make me happy...

I already know it's gonna be very difficult with the Pisces I am chasing, even if I win his heart in the end.

He's kinda jaded...

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I would go .. cuz if u don't then u will never know, right? ?

That's true. Maybe I will be happy to see him again. Maybe lol

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I have been trying to work things out with one Pisces that I met last year, but now this other Pisces I met this year that I dated briefly has been texting me and wanted to be friends again... I don't know what to do now =.=

awww he sounds sweet. you don't like you you like him very much tho if that's all you reply with...

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I used to like him but he was very immature so I stopped liking him...

I am more into the other Pisces right now and I also get the same kind of response from the one I like...

I guess it goes full circle =.=

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Posted by the_sunflower
I second going for coffee with him.. everyone deserves better a chance. Most times people aren't the way you think they are and you might come to like him. Who knows? You have the decision to make

This is true. Since I am sort of in his shoe at this moment with the other Pisces, I can relate to how it feels like to want to get close again/get another chance, but not get a clear response...

I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me...

"I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me.."

I'm in the exact same situation right now. Is hard to make the choice.

2 CAPS.

I don't have anything yet with the either guy but if I do something with the (2)nd it will make a difference on how things are with the (1) I'm seeing. And I don't want to hurt him (1)because I do care about him so that makes me realize I'm not that into the guy(2).

which is why i refer as #2.

This is exactly how I feel. Even if I know probably nothing would happen even if I met up with Pisces #2 (the guy who wants to meet for coffee), I am afraid that it can hurt Pisces #1. I am worried that just by knowing that I met up with a guy I had a history with can complicate things with Pisces #1.

But on the other hand, Pisces #1 has not given me a clear answer on if he wants to date again (he told me he'd love to hang out but I want more. He's hesitant to be more at this point.... )

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aww I know exactly how you feel. 😢

My cap 1. Still, no clear answer but he is always there texting me and we see each other every week at least and sends me sweet stuff. but then also treats me as a friend and doesn't make other efforts needed to step up.

At the same time I'm taking time to still talk and meet well Cap 2. We go out, have drinks, talk or text (not every day) or any weird things. He always tells me what he wants with me so as soon as I say yes, we start dating.

idk what to do because it seems that I'm prolonging #2 for no reason bc #1 doesn't seem to want to start dating anytime soon. But he's not clear.

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Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

Sleeping next to you?

You slept with your friend? Are you playing games, or are you truly seeing this guy as a friend? Seems much more complicated than that.

If just a friend - learn to lead and speak up. See him and keep it clear with words and behavior that he is just a friend. Not a big deal.



If you have feelings for him - then stop calling him a friend and call it what it is. You are deceiving with the way you express yourself... I hope you are aware.

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He said he wants to be friends again. I refered to him as "a guy I dated briefly this year". I didn't call him a friend.

After it didn't work out, he tried to be friends for a while, but then it didn't work out either... and after that, he's been asking to be friends again.

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Posted by the_sunflower
I second going for coffee with him.. everyone deserves better a chance. Most times people aren't the way you think they are and you might come to like him. Who knows? You have the decision to make

This is true. Since I am sort of in his shoe at this moment with the other Pisces, I can relate to how it feels like to want to get close again/get another chance, but not get a clear response...

I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me...

"I always wonder if I should go after someone that my heart desires, or I should go after someone who actually wants to work things out with me.."

I'm in the exact same situation right now. Is hard to make the choice.

2 CAPS.

I don't have anything yet with the either guy but if I do something with the (2)nd it will make a difference on how things are with the (1) I'm seeing. And I don't want to hurt him (1)because I do care about him so that makes me realize I'm not that into the guy(2).

which is why i refer as #2.

This is exactly how I feel. Even if I know probably nothing would happen even if I met up with Pisces #2 (the guy who wants to meet for coffee), I am afraid that it can hurt Pisces #1. I am worried that just by knowing that I met up with a guy I had a history with can complicate things with Pisces #1.

But on the other hand, Pisces #1 has not given me a clear answer on if he wants to date again (he told me he'd love to hang out but I want more. He's hesitant to be more at this point.... )

aww I know exactly how you feel. 😢

My cap 1. Still, no clear answer but he is always there texting me and we see each other every week at least and sends me sweet stuff. but then also treats me as a friend and doesn't make other efforts needed to step up.

At the same time I'm taking time to still talk and meet well Cap 2. We go out, have drinks, talk or text (not every day) or any weird things. He always tells me what he wants with me so as soon as I say yes, we start dating.

idk what to do because it seems that I'm prolonging #2 for no reason bc #1 doesn't seem to want to start dating anytime soon. But he's not clear.

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Ahhhh guys are So Confusing!

Well, at least your cap #1 sees you every week.

I haven't seen Pisces #1 for at least a few weeks now. He acts like we were a couple when we are with each other. We hold hands in public and stuff, but he refers to me as his friend. He does sweet little things too. Last time when I was over, my period came and I didn't bring any pads with me. It was raining outside so he told me to just stay at his place and he went to the grocery store to get some for me. He told me he hadn't done that for a girl for a long long time. He then made me breakfast and stuff... yea, super confusing.

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Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

Sleeping next to you?

You slept with your friend? Are you playing games, or are you truly seeing this guy as a friend? Seems much more complicated than that.

If just a friend - learn to lead and speak up. See him and keep it clear with words and behavior that he is just a friend. Not a big deal.



If you have feelings for him - then stop calling him a friend and call it what it is. You are deceiving with the way you express yourself... I hope you are aware.

He said he wants to be friends again. I refered to him as "a guy I dated briefly this year". I didn't call him a friend.

After it didn't work out, he tried to be friends for a while, but then it didn't work out either... and after that, he's been asking to be friends again.

Right... I remember that guy on another thread.

I'm confused by the purpose of your thread. You like both?

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I don't know what to do. I feel if I met up with the guy for coffee, he'd take it as a yes for him to be back in my life. However, I don't think the other Pisces would like that because the guy who wants to meet up for coffee is the kind of guy who'd text me 10 times a day every single day.

The Pisces I like even though he doesn't really reciprocate much, he's very sensitive to who texts me. He always asks me who it is/who I am talking to.

I don't know. I just don't know if it is worth it to fight for the Pisces who I am into right now who doesn't reciprocate much, or I should give this other Pisces another chance. But the thing is, I know if I give this Pisces another chance, I probably will lose the other for forever...

I guess it all comes down to a choice between (1) someone younger than me, immature but willing to do almost anything to make me happy VS (2) someone who's older than me, mature, accomplished, sweet, but jaded and only wants to live at the moment (out of sight out of mind so to speak).

One of the guys is 28; the other is 38. I am in my 30s

My heart is with the older guy, but on the other hand, I may never get the kind of commitment I want from him....

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

Sleeping next to you?

You slept with your friend? Are you playing games, or are you truly seeing this guy as a friend? Seems much more complicated than that.

If just a friend - learn to lead and speak up. See him and keep it clear with words and behavior that he is just a friend. Not a big deal.



If you have feelings for him - then stop calling him a friend and call it what it is. You are deceiving with the way you express yourself... I hope you are aware.

He said he wants to be friends again. I refered to him as "a guy I dated briefly this year". I didn't call him a friend.

After it didn't work out, he tried to be friends for a while, but then it didn't work out either... and after that, he's been asking to be friends again.

Right... I remember that guy on another thread.

I'm confused by the purpose of your thread. You like both?

I don't know what to do. I feel if I met up with the guy for coffee, he'd take it as a yes for him to be back in my life. However, I don't think the other Pisces would like that because the guy who wants to meet up for coffee is the kind of guy who'd text me 10 times a day every single day.

The Pisces I like even though he doesn't really reciprocate much, he's very sensitive to who texts me. He always asks me who it is/who I am talking to.

I don't know. I just don't know if it is worth it to fight for the Pisces who I am into right now who doesn't reciprocate much, or I should give this other Pisces another chance. But the thing is, I know if I give this Pisces another chance, I probably will lose the other for forever...

Again... I think you are being too dramatic and a bit calculating. You will get burned if you keep playing games.

Just be organic and communicate your truth.

Why do you have such a difficult time being honest with Pisces1 that is so communicating, so willing and understanding? Why can't you just say "ok... if all you want is friendship, then I accept your offer - let's hang out"?!?!

Pisces2 sounds extremely reactive/fragile.

Honestly, I don't see a problem in this situation but I do see a problem in your inability to communicate properly and honestly.

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But I don't trust that he only wants to be friends... =.=

He still bought me chocolate on Valentine's day, when we were not actually dating anymore.

Well, I guess I can just ask, like you suggested, and make him promise that he only wants to be friends?

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

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WOW. WOW.WOW

I always heard Pisces were dramatic but never knew that it was that much!!! ? depends on how long the relationship was and how well you know him and if you would move on with him past whatever happened before and really begin from 0 and work it out.

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

WOW. WOW.WOW

I always heard Pisces were dramatic but never knew that it was that much!!! ? depends on how long the relationship was and how well you know him and if you would move on with him past whatever happened before and really begin from 0 and work it out.

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Haha, we only dated for a month but it didn't work out.

We tried to be friends for a while after that, but it didn't work out either, so the text... yes, that's how dramatic they can be LOL

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

WOW. WOW.WOW

I always heard Pisces were dramatic but never knew that it was that much!!! ? depends on how long the relationship was and how well you know him and if you would move on with him past whatever happened before and really begin from 0 and work it out.

Haha, we only dated for a month but it didn't work out.

We tried to be friends for a while after that, but it didn't work out either, so the text... yes, that's how dramatic they can be LOL

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Lol but it still seems cute coming from a guy. ?

hopefully he won't turn creepy loljk

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

Sleeping next to you?

You slept with your friend? Are you playing games, or are you truly seeing this guy as a friend? Seems much more complicated than that.

If just a friend - learn to lead and speak up. See him and keep it clear with words and behavior that he is just a friend. Not a big deal.



If you have feelings for him - then stop calling him a friend and call it what it is. You are deceiving with the way you express yourself... I hope you are aware.

He said he wants to be friends again. I refered to him as "a guy I dated briefly this year". I didn't call him a friend.

After it didn't work out, he tried to be friends for a while, but then it didn't work out either... and after that, he's been asking to be friends again.

Right... I remember that guy on another thread.

I'm confused by the purpose of your thread. You like both?

I don't know what to do. I feel if I met up with the guy for coffee, he'd take it as a yes for him to be back in my life. However, I don't think the other Pisces would like that because the guy who wants to meet up for coffee is the kind of guy who'd text me 10 times a day every single day.

The Pisces I like even though he doesn't really reciprocate much, he's very sensitive to who texts me. He always asks me who it is/who I am talking to.

I don't know. I just don't know if it is worth it to fight for the Pisces who I am into right now who doesn't reciprocate much, or I should give this other Pisces another chance. But the thing is, I know if I give this Pisces another chance, I probably will lose the other for forever...

Again... I think you are being too dramatic and a bit calculating. You will get burned if you keep playing games.

Just be organic and communicate your truth.

Why do you have such a difficult time being honest with Pisces1 that is so communicating, so willing and understanding? Why can't you just say "ok... if all you want is friendship, then I accept your offer - let's hang out"?!?!

Pisces2 sounds extremely reactive/fragile.

Honestly, I don't see a problem in this situation but I do see a problem in your inability to communicate properly and honestly.

But I don't trust that he only wants to be friends... =.=

He still bought me chocolate on Valentine's day, when we were not actually dating anymore.

Well, I guess I can just ask, like you suggested, and make him promise that he only wants to be friends?

Yeah... unless you find him dangerous in any way, I would highly suggest you not worry about you trusting him and worry more about you trusting YOU.

If he is harmless... It really doesn't matter if he is trying to lure you in, you can't fall for what you don't feel.

I've been in situations like this before with a Pisces friend and he REALLY set a whopper of a trap... but it had no affect on me, I fell for none of it. We still stayed friends and continued on as if nothing had happened...lol.

If you know where you stand, no one can make you falter.

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Thanks! I feel more confident now actually lol

Well, I still have a whole week to think about it hehe 😄

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

WOW. WOW.WOW

I always heard Pisces were dramatic but never knew that it was that much!!! ? depends on how long the relationship was and how well you know him and if you would move on with him past whatever happened before and really begin from 0 and work it out.

Haha, we only dated for a month but it didn't work out.

We tried to be friends for a while after that, but it didn't work out either, so the text... yes, that's how dramatic they can be LOL

Lol but it still seems cute coming from a guy. ?

hopefully he won't turn creepy loljk

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haha, I hope not.

BTW, do you think you will chose Cap #2/agree to date him if he persists? 😉

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

WOW. WOW.WOW

I always heard Pisces were dramatic but never knew that it was that much!!! ? depends on how long the relationship was and how well you know him and if you would move on with him past whatever happened before and really begin from 0 and work it out.

Haha, we only dated for a month but it didn't work out.

We tried to be friends for a while after that, but it didn't work out either, so the text... yes, that's how dramatic they can be LOL

Lol but it still seems cute coming from a guy. ?

hopefully he won't turn creepy loljk

haha, I hope not.

BTW, do you think you will chose Cap #2/agree to date him if he persists? 😉

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I have thought about it but I'm still leaning towards no. But he never did anything that I had to forgive, is just that I've known him for many years and he is mentoring me now in opening a business, and he has always been there for me. So is hard to decide because he takes me as I am. He knows me. but the mentoring is completely separate.

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Posted by Infinite8
Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

WOW. WOW.WOW

I always heard Pisces were dramatic but never knew that it was that much!!! ? depends on how long the relationship was and how well you know him and if you would move on with him past whatever happened before and really begin from 0 and work it out.

Haha, we only dated for a month but it didn't work out.

We tried to be friends for a while after that, but it didn't work out either, so the text... yes, that's how dramatic they can be LOL

Lol but it still seems cute coming from a guy. ?

hopefully he won't turn creepy loljk

haha, I hope not.

BTW, do you think you will chose Cap #2/agree to date him if he persists? 😉

I have thought about it but I'm still leaning towards no. But he never did anything that I had to forgive, is just that I've known him for many years and he is mentoring me now in opening a business, and he has always been there for me. So is hard to decide because he takes me as I am. He knows me. but the mentoring is completely separate.

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Thanks for sharing 🙂

Cap #2 sounds like someone who would love you unconditionally... but follow your heart, girl!

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I think its very probable that the secind pisces wants to be more than friends so act with caution and be open about your intentions if you don't want to really become a part of a triangle.

Thank you!

If I decide to meet up for coffee, I will let him know that I have someone else on my mind 🙂

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I have been trying to work things out with one Pisces that I met last year, but now this other Pisces I met this year that I dated briefly has been texting me and wanted to be friends again... I don't know what to do now =.=

awww he sounds sweet. you don't like you you like him very much tho if that's all you reply with...

I used to like him but he was very immature so I stopped liking him...

I am more into the other Pisces right now and I also get the same kind of response from the one I like...

I guess it goes full circle =.=

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from my experience, he never just "got the message" or if he did, he abjectly refused it and continued upon his way.

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Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

WOW. WOW.WOW

I always heard Pisces were dramatic but never knew that it was that much!!! ? depends on how long the relationship was and how well you know him and if you would move on with him past whatever happened before and really begin from 0 and work it out.

Haha, we only dated for a month but it didn't work out.

We tried to be friends for a while after that, but it didn't work out either, so the text... yes, that's how dramatic they can be LOL

Lol but it still seems cute coming from a guy. ?

hopefully he won't turn creepy loljk

haha, I hope not.

BTW, do you think you will chose Cap #2/agree to date him if he persists? 😉

I have thought about it but I'm still leaning towards no. But he never did anything that I had to forgive, is just that I've known him for many years and he is mentoring me now in opening a business, and he has always been there for me. So is hard to decide because he takes me as I am. He knows me. but the mentoring is completely separate.

Thanks for sharing 🙂

Cap #2 sounds like someone who would love you unconditionally... but follow your heart, girl!

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It's obvious that you don't care about either and you play on attention to feel desirable.

Not sure why people think you're innocent...the messages from the second would not exist unless you strongly lead him on. Really strongly.

I hope the second guy wakes up.

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Like Infinite said, just be honest about the situation, tell Pisces nr 2 that you're dating someone else and that you don't mind staying friends but that there won't be anything more than that.. And back your words up by matching it in action.

Aka if he blows up your phone or whatever put him in his place.

thanks. I think my concern is that if I really want to stay friends knowing that he wants more... that's why I have been hesitant about meeting up with him.

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It's obvious that you don't care about either and you play on attention to feel desirable.

Not sure why people think you're innocent...the messages from the second would not exist unless you strongly lead him on. Really strongly.

I hope the second guy wakes up.

If i strongly led him on, i'd say "sure, let's meet up" "let's be friends again" etc.. Did I say any of that? No.

I am NOT sure if it's a good idea to stay friends or even just meet for coffee so I told him I need to think about it. I consistently told him that I need to think about it so where the leading on? I am still thinking about it and thus, this thread.

You are just crazy. stop projecting.

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Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

Sleeping next to you?

You slept with your friend? Are you playing games, or are you truly seeing this guy as a friend? Seems much more complicated than that.

If just a friend - learn to lead and speak up. See him and keep it clear with words and behavior that he is just a friend. Not a big deal.



If you have feelings for him - then stop calling him a friend and call it what it is. You are deceiving with the way you express yourself... I hope you are aware.

He said he wants to be friends again. I refered to him as "a guy I dated briefly this year". I didn't call him a friend.

After it didn't work out, he tried to be friends for a while, but then it didn't work out either... and after that, he's been asking to be friends again.

Right... I remember that guy on another thread.

I'm confused by the purpose of your thread. You like both?

I don't know what to do. I feel if I met up with the guy for coffee, he'd take it as a yes for him to be back in my life. However, I don't think the other Pisces would like that because the guy who wants to meet up for coffee is the kind of guy who'd text me 10 times a day every single day.

The Pisces I like even though he doesn't really reciprocate much, he's very sensitive to who texts me. He always asks me who it is/who I am talking to.

I don't know. I just don't know if it is worth it to fight for the Pisces who I am into right now who doesn't reciprocate much, or I should give this other Pisces another chance. But the thing is, I know if I give this Pisces another chance, I probably will lose the other for forever...

Again... I think you are being too dramatic and a bit calculating. You will get burned if you keep playing games.

Just be organic and communicate your truth.

Why do you have such a difficult time being honest with Pisces1 that is so communicating, so willing and understanding? Why can't you just say "ok... if all you want is friendship, then I accept your offer - let's hang out"?!?!

Pisces2 sounds extremely reactive/fragile.

Honestly, I don't see a problem in this situation but I do see a problem in your inability to communicate properly and honestly.

But I don't trust that he only wants to be friends... =.=

He still bought me chocolate on Valentine's day, when we were not actually dating anymore.

Well, I guess I can just ask, like you suggested, and make him promise that he only wants to be friends?

Yeah... unless you find him dangerous in any way, I would highly suggest you not worry about you trusting him and worry more about you trusting YOU.

If he is harmless... It really doesn't matter if he is trying to lure you in, you can't fall for what you don't feel.

I've been in situations like this before with a Pisces friend and he REALLY set a whopper of a trap... but it had no affect on me, I fell for none of it. We still stayed friends and continued on as if nothing had happened...lol.

If you know where you stand, no one can make you falter.

Very true. I have a few male Pisces friends and at some point had to literally peel two of them off me lol. Never had one that didn't have some sort of passing crush on me. Even when I very directly and bluntly said we'd only be friends they'd persist another time or two usually. After the third rejection they'd normally calm down and we'd be super chill friends again with no problems.

Figuring out exactly what you want and sticking by it definitively fixes those problems. Even if things don't work out with the Pisces you really like, you should still set boundaries with the second if there's truly no desire on your part. Only problem is if you still desire the second Pisces a little. Then you just need to sort out your feelings.

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Yea, I am still deciding if I could/should be friends with the 2nd Pisces since the first time we tried to be friends it didn't work out...

Plus, we actually dated so I think it's different from a male friend who had a crush on me...

Since there's a history, no matter who I am dating, the person may not be comfortable with it.

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Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

Sleeping next to you?

You slept with your friend? Are you playing games, or are you truly seeing this guy as a friend? Seems much more complicated than that.

If just a friend - learn to lead and speak up. See him and keep it clear with words and behavior that he is just a friend. Not a big deal.



If you have feelings for him - then stop calling him a friend and call it what it is. You are deceiving with the way you express yourself... I hope you are aware.

He said he wants to be friends again. I refered to him as "a guy I dated briefly this year". I didn't call him a friend.

After it didn't work out, he tried to be friends for a while, but then it didn't work out either... and after that, he's been asking to be friends again.

Right... I remember that guy on another thread.

I'm confused by the purpose of your thread. You like both?

I don't know what to do. I feel if I met up with the guy for coffee, he'd take it as a yes for him to be back in my life. However, I don't think the other Pisces would like that because the guy who wants to meet up for coffee is the kind of guy who'd text me 10 times a day every single day.

The Pisces I like even though he doesn't really reciprocate much, he's very sensitive to who texts me. He always asks me who it is/who I am talking to.

I don't know. I just don't know if it is worth it to fight for the Pisces who I am into right now who doesn't reciprocate much, or I should give this other Pisces another chance. But the thing is, I know if I give this Pisces another chance, I probably will lose the other for forever...

Again... I think you are being too dramatic and a bit calculating. You will get burned if you keep playing games.

Just be organic and communicate your truth.

Why do you have such a difficult time being honest with Pisces1 that is so communicating, so willing and understanding? Why can't you just say "ok... if all you want is friendship, then I accept your offer - let's hang out"?!?!

Pisces2 sounds extremely reactive/fragile.

Honestly, I don't see a problem in this situation but I do see a problem in your inability to communicate properly and honestly.

But I don't trust that he only wants to be friends... =.=

He still bought me chocolate on Valentine's day, when we were not actually dating anymore.

Well, I guess I can just ask, like you suggested, and make him promise that he only wants to be friends?

Yeah... unless you find him dangerous in any way, I would highly suggest you not worry about you trusting him and worry more about you trusting YOU.

If he is harmless... It really doesn't matter if he is trying to lure you in, you can't fall for what you don't feel.

I've been in situations like this before with a Pisces friend and he REALLY set a whopper of a trap... but it had no affect on me, I fell for none of it. We still stayed friends and continued on as if nothing had happened...lol.

If you know where you stand, no one can make you falter.

Very true. I have a few male Pisces friends and at some point had to literally peel two of them off me lol. Never had one that didn't have some sort of passing crush on me. Even when I very directly and bluntly said we'd only be friends they'd persist another time or two usually. After the third rejection they'd normally calm down and we'd be super chill friends again with no problems.

Figuring out exactly what you want and sticking by it definitively fixes those problems. Even if things don't work out with the Pisces you really like, you should still set boundaries with the second if there's truly no desire on your part. Only problem is if you still desire the second Pisces a little. Then you just need to sort out your feelings.

Yea, I am still deciding if I could/should be friends with the 2nd Pisces since the first time we tried to be friends it didn't work out...

Plus, we actually dated so I think it's different from a male friend who had a crush on me...

Since there's a history, no matter who I am dating, the person may not be comfortable with it.

Unless the other Pisces has promised exclusivity you aren't obligated to show unwavering loyalty. I know you're a Scorp and that's kind of our natural rhythm though so I empathize.

If you're just friends, you're just friends. If he pulls a move you just back out and full stop it immediately. You're putting a lot of thought into how the Pisces you like might see the situation. Don't. All the thought should be on how you see the situation.

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That's true.

If I don't worry about the other Pisces, then the remaining concern would be if we are able to build some real, healthy friendship.

I don't usually stay friends with an ex or someone I have dated in the past because I tend to end things on a bad note. It's just too painful to be reminded of those things.

Things didn't end well with that Pisces who wants to be friends, either.

I decided to forgive him, but I don't feel I can trust him fully, even if he for real just wants to be friends with nothing more now.

I think even if he can be sweet, caring, and charming when he wants to, he has also been abusive to me in the past (e.g. He had yelled/screemed at me multiple times when I didn't do anything wrong. He yelled at his cat the same way too and he told me he was just teasing me/teasing his cat.)

I don't consider yelling/screaming for fun as acceptable behavior (I mean, even if I did something wonrg, it's not acceptable; not to mention he did it for fun). That's why it didn't work out when we tried to be friends the first time...

Pisces #2 is bad news.

Pisces #1 is also bad news.

One has self-esteem/ security issues and is abusive

whilst the other is emotionally unavailable.



I think you should just be alone for awhile.

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Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

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ALSO..........

SO MANY RED FLAGS

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Date both choose later 🙂

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Pisces #2 is bad news.

Pisces #1 is also bad news.

One has self-esteem/ security issues and is abusive

whilst the other is emotionally unavailable.



I think you should just be alone for awhile.

I think you are right, especially it is venus retrograde... I don't really want to trust my feelings/emotions right now since they are all over the place. I can't think straight now but at least I know it is bad timing for love decisions... I think I am going to remain passive and I hope I will gain my clarity once the retrograde ends.

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Love Triangle?!?! Why are you being so dramatic?!?!



The guy is asking you for friendship and having coffee - no big deal.



It's ok to have more than one friend, you know....?

It's been going on for almost a month now though....

ALSO..........

SO MANY RED FLAGS

in this text convo

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I am a little scared of this myself because a lot of abusive men can act really sorry and sweet afterwards but then they do it again, then apologize again, etc...

He didn't show the abusive side at all when we were dating but during the time when we were trying to be friends afterwards, his abusive side showed...

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Date both choose later 🙂

haha, well I think I will just wait until after venus retrograde has passed and see how I feel ... thanks though 🙂