VIRGO GUY DISAPPEARS FOR 3 WEEKS...

Hi! I met a Virguy 5 weeks ago at a Festival and we hit it off extremely well! He and I spent the whole weekend together and I suggested we "keep in touch" via email. He agreed. I sent him some Kobe steaks as a "Thank you" gift for helping me out in a scary situation. He always wanted to try them and was excited and touched by my gesture. We kept it friendly and exchanged emails over the next 2 weeks. He shared a lot of "deeper things" about himself, including his upbringing, past relationships, belief system and such. We resonated well together.

He was excited to try and make it up to WA from OR for my bday beach house party with my family-I told him that I would love to see him again but it's a 16 hour drive-no pressure. He realized that, but was still super excited. He said I have him "spun" and he can't concentrate on what he's doing because of it. He sent me an email with blowing kisses, & blushing faces. He said it's nice to talk to someone who brings sparks into his life instead of more projects in his 70 hour work weeks. He was making it obvious he was getting "sweet" on me. He knew I liked him too.

Several days later he sent a text that said: "My comp won't come online. I'm not goin make it. Sorry. I'll explain lateR". I didn't think anything of it for a week and sent casual texts inbetween. After a week of no response I started to wonder, and worry. I texted: "I have to be totally honest. I really like you. Please tell me now if I need to back off. I don't wanna pester or feel anxious." Still no reply. I ran the gamut of thinking he fell ill, maybe his dad got sick again, etc. I left a vmail saying it was "rude" to keep people hanging and a courtesy call would be much appreciated. I didn't yell, but was firm. Over those 2 weeks my feelings went up and down and I left texts/vmails ranging from sweet to saying I'd not call him again. I just wanted an answer for his sudden disappearance when we'd left on such amorous and amicable terms. Closure. I sent him some seasoning for his steaks. No response.

I found his profile on Match. He'd been active in 5 days. Is this a sign he's "testing the waters" to see if I'm what he really wants? Or has he simply moved on? He hasn't blocked my texts yet. I put a profile up too and sent him an email saying "It's OKAY! Understood." Don't Virguys let you know when they're "done"? He's in OR, I'm in HI.

I guess the virguys can answer you from their point of view. I used to have a bad habit of blowing guys off with no explanation and ignoring all contact from them until they gave up when I wanted out of my involvement with them. I had to make a conscious effort to stop such thoughtless & selfish behaviour. What prompted the blow off was usually when I felt they liked me more than I liked them. I don't know if that's what is going on with this guy but he has shown you he is not worth any effort from you. Also if you write him off and stop trying to get in touch with him, he will probably miss the attention and second guess cutting you out, but, I think if he comes back you should tell him to go eff himself because he had his chance and blew it.

QLibramale: Yes, it IS RUDE isn't it!!?? I mean, that's what p*ssed me off the MOST about this whole thing. How RUDE he was being by not even bothering to acknowledge my genuine CONCERNS and CARE or the gift package I'd sent. Wouldn't normal human being at LEAST do THAT? But, if he is "afraid" to communicate with me for one reason or another, or is just plain avoiding me, then I guess he'd lower his standards that far to maintain that...he has to live with himself, I don't.

Besides, I got advice from a Virguy saying that "overt" emotional displays makes them "freak out" and not know what to do because they process emotions slowly and he just isn't "sure" probably. He's the one that was making more advances towards ME, not the other way around...I was keeping it cool, until I felt dissed by his rudeness. So, I have a profile up @ match and sent him an email there...I'm movin' on. I did tell him that his best friend, Johnathan Hillstrand from DC told me that he's a "great guy", and I went by that referral, and truly thought highly of him(Virguy), otherwise I wouldn't have TRIED so hard, and he let us BOTH down by being so RUDE. :-)

Haha, earth sign men. Especially the caps and virgos. If you're a water or fire sign it is SO easy to overwhelm them with "feelings". Maybe where taurus are different is that they are ruled by venus. I can always be sentimental and mushy with taurus people without scaring them off. They can still be slow as molasses from what I hear though.

Remember one thing about them... they are very practical creatures. He may be very uncomfortable with getting too friendly, and becoming emotionally attached, because you don't even live near each other. He might not be down for anything remotely resembling a LDR. Also, out of sight, out of mind.

@QLibraMale...Yeah, I've read that too, BUT, this wasn't "public"...it was over an IM chat and also through an email that HE was showing affection, by blowing kisses to me with those smiley faces, and also saying that I had him "spun", etc. and making it obvious that he apparently REALLY was starting to like me in a way OTHER than friendship. I kept it cool, which I heard Virguys take as a "sign of rejection" if you don't reciprocate an equal amount of their proposed interest back. But, c'mon. I'm trying to keep a level head here, and not rush into anything, so of course I'm gonna refrain from "overt" displays of affection, right off, until we get to know each other better. As a Virgo male I would think he'd appreciate "taking it slow", but he got himself all wound up and scared I think. So scared, he backed himself into a corner and risked being thought of as extremely "rude" because he just doesn't know how to deal with his feelings right now. I'm trying to understand.

As you know, Libras have analytical minds, and to top that off I'm a Triple Air sign, PLUS I have Virgo in Venus, so I understand HIS side of it, but I also NEED to understand WHY from an informed perspective, his behavior took such a 360 turn. I have blown it off and am not bothering to contact him at all. Dang, for all I know he could be planning something serious to surprise me with, OR he could just be backed in his corner and trying to forget all about this...who knows with Virguys...they're secretive and unpredicatable, but can be very affectionate in a detailed way, but also disconnect and avoid situations they can't deal with right now...I do it too, but not like THIS.

I admit, I took a look on Match at the kind of ladies that are available in his immediate area and he's got a lot of prospectives..I found a few that would be GREAT for him, in my opinion-same interests, etc. 😉 I hope he finds true happiness, closer to home. lol :-) I'm not vindictive, I just wanted CLARITY. Thank you.

you shouldn't have sent him the kobe steak. wtf were you thinking?

LOL...I sent him the Kobe steaks as a THANK YOU gift for his helping me that night I was being followed by creeps. Two trucks with guys in them were trying to block me in at the B&B I was staying at the first night of the Festival...I was able to get away and make it to the bar where the group was. Only Kevin cared enough to make sure I got back safely and watched out for me the whole rest of the evening while we were out. We did hit it off really well, and enjoyed each others company. I am not one to take these kinds of unselfish acts for granted, because nobody else seemed to care that I was upset by the whole ordeal. Kevin was though. He said in random discussion that he'd always wanted to try Kobe steaks so I took mental note and thought that'd be a great way to thank him for the help he gave me that evening...I appreciate gentleman..of course, he's not exaclty acting like one right now is he? But, no matter...a gift is a gift..I didn't ask for anything in return for it, just as he didn't expect anything in return for his making sure I was safe and walking a mile back to his hotel at 2am and getting blisters on his feet because of it. lol

I thought we had a friendship, and I don't think the worst, but give the benefit of the doubt. I will let the matter prove to be what it truly is without making hostile assumptions...at least I had good intentions, a good heart, and was totally honest...how he chooses to act at this time is totally on him, and it ain't looking so good, I tell you. But, no, I'm not one to "sit on my hands" and wait for him to call. I did call him out on his rude behavior, and gave him a chance to respond, but apparently it is what it is, and I have proclaimed it as a "lost cause" and "his loss", not mine.

He did blow me off, but I really think it's cause he got nervous about the whole thing. Guys do and they get paralyzed. lol No harm, no foul at this point. I get it. I don't think he's maliciously playing a control freak game...doesn't seem in his character to be that way. He needs to get his head on straight is all.

@QLibraMale: I'm sorry, I didn't quite understand what you meant by "Some control freaks love playing the Sims." What is the "sims"...sympathies?

@QLibramale...LOL...OHHHH...okayyy...😉 lol Look at you joking on my post. 😉 J/K...hehehe...