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Allow me to display my bias.

It's not a sign. People who know their worth aren't put off when someone else expresses they see it too.

but some people like to take their time apparently

That's a different matter than it lowering the other person's value. If you see someone's value lowered because they like you, it follows to me that you think you're not that great so wonder what's wrong with them.

I was so confused by that question so I avoided it.

Is she asking if people who are on the receiving end feel like the telling person is lower value or

Is she asking if people who are told are lowering their own value?

I took her to mean the former. I've seen a lot of people express similar opinions. I think that's what the having options thing is all about...trying to appear cool, uninterested. I see all of that as insecure people playing children's games.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Scheherazade

Posted by Fanta

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Fanta

Allow me to display my bias.

It's not a sign. People who know their worth aren't put off when someone else expresses they see it too.

but some people like to take their time apparently

That's a different matter than it lowering the other person's value. If you see someone's value lowered because they like you, it follows to me that you think you're not that great so wonder what's wrong with them.

I was so confused by that question so I avoided it.

Is she asking if people who are on the receiving end feel like the telling person is lower value or

Is she asking if people who are told are lowering their own value?

sorry if a little confusing

first question is about someone who is really blunt

second question is about someone who might not like that

I don’t consider someone telling someone their feelings blunt.

It's a good point. Blunt means different things to different people. And no one wants to see this...

For me blunt is a consistent mannerism/personality trait that doesn’t sugarcoat or follow social norms when speaking.

I think that’s how I feel these two things are disconnected.

If it’s being turned off by someone expressing their feelings openly it’s more about the person on the receiving end than that speaker. Ball is in their court. No wrong decisions there.

It takes courage to put yourself out there and that can be attractive. But only when you already considered them an actual potential person not a piece of meat. 😛

Yeah, I see what you mean. Some people have a harsh, brusque demeanor that is a turn-off to me, even if they're just professing their opinion about food or something.

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