Will my Libra man come back to me? I'm so confused

I'm a gemini and my ex is a libra. He is 4 yrs younger than me. We were best friends for a year before we went into a relationship. We had the relationship for a year and half..until he broke up with me. Today would be one month since it happen. Our relationship was awesome! We were crazy for each other on all levels. All of our friends saw and I saw how much he cared and loved me. They thought I changed him, cuz they never saw him treat a girl, like how he treated me. Do you understand how I felt when I heard and saw all that? Amazing, cuz I honestly thought I have found my match. We never fight cuz we dont like to fight nor do we argue. We get irritated at each other but we brush it off..then we are fine. One weekend day, we were having a great time, I thought he disrespected me in front of his roommate. I got mad, and couldnt shake it off. I accidently cursed at him (which I never did before nor would he do it to me). I decided to go upstairs to cool off. Well, I still couldnt shake it off. So, I was contemplating to leave and go home or stay at his house mad. I decided to leave..too cool off at home (which is my 3rd or 4th time). I usually do this when I get really mad, cuz i dont like to fight nor argue. I tend to over react and take things to personal, which i did in this case. But i remove myself from the environment, and sleep on it...and i'm better the next day. Well, when I went downstairs..he asked me where i was going I said home. Since I didnt see him come out to try to make me stay..I got even more mad. So I texted me "you really dont deserve me do you". Next morning, I knew I screwed up...since i didnt hear from him. I finally texted him and he said "i was way out of line". Once I explained myself..he said you are right and if we are still friends. I was confused. So we talked on the phone. He thought broke up with him that night..and got him thinking about what i texted and he agreed. So now he was breaking up with me, cuz he thinks its the best for us right now to be friends. He doesnt know whats gonna happen in a month or so from now, but nothing was gonna change his mind at that moment. When I ask him why..he told me that we were too much alike and both hard headed ppl. To me, that was not a good enough reason to break up. I treated him like gold, and we were perfect. I just dont understand..how someone that can love you so much..can let go so easily. Or how it was so perfect and end it so quickly? Im so confused..plz make me understand

This is not going to be one of my typical "sweet" responses.. but I'm also not trying to HURT you.. I'm trying to get you to open your eyes to the other side of the situation so maybe you won't find yourself here again.

Cold, hard truth: You overreact and take things too personally. You thought he disrespected you? You "accidentally" (haha, ooookay. More like flipped your cookies and think it's fine now cuz you said sorry!) cursed at him, which is very disrespectful too, and two wrongs don't make a right, even if YOU felt disrespected first.

So you storm off and pout (calling it "cooling down").. but you still don't have the emotional maturity to get a grip on yourself, "couldn't shake it off" (hey, here's a thought -- maybe Libra "couldn't shake off" how you were disrespectful, foul-mouthed, RUDE (BIG no-no to a Libra!), and throwing a temper-tantrum in front of people??.. and probably have been before!).. and stomping off is not really cooling down if you then get mad cuz he didn't chase you down and stop you!!.. if that's what you wanted, then you storming off was for attention.. not a good look, very insecure and demanding. And immature.

But then you don't stop there, don't go home and "sleep on it" so you don't act the fool and do something you regret.. like, um.. adding even more fuel to the fire by texting him some ridiculous bullshit like he doesn't deserve you.. Really?!?! You, the fit-throwing, losing her grip and can't handle her OWN emotions chick.. who has NO trouble making a scene for attention.. and then, instead of "cooling off" (the reason you left, right?).. you wanna keep a fight going, so you text him some antagonizing, snotty crap like that?

Yeah, I'd say he was rethinking your whole relationship.. might have been "perfect" for YOU.. but I daresay ol' boy there was getting tired of catering to your emotional meltdowns and childish fits, even if rare. Still happened, still something no one wants to deal with. No one wants to carry the burden of your emotional baggage for you.. pack and stow that shit yourself.

And Libras under 30 especially.. they often break up over the seemingly smallest and simplest of reasons.. they tend to NOT stay in angsty, stressful relationships.. they'd rather be free to find another girl, a better fit.. knowing they're still young and have plenty of time to find The One.. cuz YOU keep proving you can't possibly be HIS The One.. cuz you can't control yourself, for one. And you make HIM responsible for YOUR own emotions.. which backfires with men of any sign. No, it obviously wasn't as "perfect" for him as you think it was for you. He's done being your emotional punching bag. Before you attempt another relationship (with him OR anyone else), you might want to rethink how you treat your man when you're angry or upset, and find better ways to deal with your emotions than spewing them all over him and having a fit.

Will he come back? That depends on if he's truly MADE HIS DECISION (that he's obviously been internally wrestling with for awhile now, in true Libra fashion. You might have not known how he was going over all of this in his head, but that's what Leebs do!).. if he's decided there's NO chance, then no he won't be back. He'll be your friend, of course.. Leebs seem to like staying friends with all their exes. If he HASN'T fully decided that you two simply will NOT work out.. and if you figure out how to get a better grip on yourself so shit doesn't happen that sorry can't fix.. then he could come back around in the future.

But I wouldn't hold my breath either way. Libra men take forever to decide. Plus a day.

We do have a nice https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/libra/give-your-best-libra-advice-2363814/>Give your best Libra advice thread going on DXP. Might want to check out the Do's and Don't and see how many YOU do and don't!

Nefer,
Thx for being honest. I know your not trying to be hurtful, but to open my eyes. I do realized what I had done. Like I said, we never fight at all. More like, he doesnt believe anything is worth arguing. Either he leaves the room too cool off or me. Then we are fine afterwards. But I have NEVER had a tantrum in front of ppl to make him look bad. Thats a big no no in my book. I just suck it up. That night was my first..idk what happen to me. I know..I have to learn to control my actions and my behavior. But what is done is done. And i'm driving myself crazy..knowing that i was the blame. I feel like i'm in limbo not knowing if he is coming back or not...or to just give him space and not bother him. I did everything for him. I treated him like a king..spoiled him rotten. I just miss him so much..always wondering if he misses me