10 Biggest Relationship Mistakes —

This was a good read for me. What say you? This is taken from 'a new mode', one of my free subscriptions delivered to my inbox. The only one I don't agree with is #3. Shaving legs or failing to "workout" has never doomed or saved a relationship lol But, I guess the gist is simply being well groomed, having great hygiene and looking presentable. Additionally, ALL of these apply to MALES also! Hmm.

10 Biggest Relationship Mistakes.....

1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman. It's a

man's nature to look, getting on his case shows you're

insecure, which is a huge turn-off. If you find yourself

getting jealous whenever a woman is within his vicinity, you

need to do an honest check in with yourself. At the root of it,

there is either trust missing from the relationship or you need

to build up your self-esteem.



2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or

doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be. Most

guys don't like to talk about their issues the way women do.

They prefer to pull back and work things out internally.



3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go. It really

is a shame to see how many women think it's okay to stop

working out and shaving their legs as soon as they're in a

relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to

make the effort once things are more settled to keep the

attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing.



4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who

forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a

man, it never ends well.

5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more

straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong

and then pout and mope around waiting for him to press you

further, you'll just cause anger and resentment to build. Be

honest and straightforward with him if you have an issue.

6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving

you every single thing you need. There will be times when

you're not happy with something he's doing. If this happen,

do not nag him over it. The best strategy is to tell him what it

is you want (I love it when you do X) instead of harping on

what you don't want (Why don't you ever do Y?)

7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he

isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then

acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show

you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.

8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's

understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and

be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a

negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are

happy and radiate a positive energy.

Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your

life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in

your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.

9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if

you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny

wrinkle by your mouth, these are your issues and hang ups

so don't turn them into relationship problems.

If he's with you, it's a given that he finds you attractive. Don't

talk him out of his attraction by highlighting all your flaws.

Chances are he won't even notice these things until you point

them out, so why draw attention to them? Men are attracted to

confident women so not only will you be making him a ware

of your flaws, you'll be diminishing his overall attraction to

you.

10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,

you need to take that person for exactly who he is, not who

you want him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it.

When it comes to minor things, like the fact that he wears

running shoes with dress pants, be gentle and encouraging.

Don't criticize and make him feel stupid. Say something that

makes him feel good and inspires him to make that change

on his own, for instance "You look really sexy in that outfit

but it would be even sexier with those loafers instead."

Recommended Reading: 5 Ways to Ruin a Budding Relationship

Lots of love,

Sabrina Alexis

Posted by PinsNNeedles

#1: Getting into astrology

LOL!

I agree with all of that.

Posted by NemDeux

reads like common sense to me - aka - duhhh.

i will never understand the need of books like these.

I agree! But...uhh, common sense isn't so common lol

Huh !!?

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by sweetpea2977

This was a good read for me. What say you? This is taken from 'a new mode', one of my free subscriptions delivered to my inbox. The only one I don't agree with is #3. Shaving legs or failing to "workout" has never doomed or saved a relationship lol But, I guess the gist is simply being well groomed, having great hygiene and looking presentable. Additionally, ALL of these apply to MALES also! Hmm.

10 Biggest Relationship Mistakes.....

1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman. It's a

man's nature to look, getting on his case shows you're

insecure, which is a huge turn-off. If you find yourself

getting jealous whenever a woman is within his vicinity, you

need to do an honest check in with yourself. At the root of it,

there is either trust missing from the relationship or you need

to build up your self-esteem.



2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or

doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be. Most

guys don't like to talk about their issues the way women do.

They prefer to pull back and work things out internally.



3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go. It really

is a shame to see how many women think it's okay to stop

working out and shaving their legs as soon as they're in a

relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to

make the effort once things are more settled to keep the

attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing.



4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who

forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a

man, it never ends well.

5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more

straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong

and then pout and mope around waiting for him to press you

further, you'll just cause anger and resentment to build. Be

honest and straightforward with him if you have an issue.

6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving

you every single thing you need. There will be times when

you're not happy with something he's doing. If this happen,

do not nag him over it. The best strategy is to tell him what it

is you want (I love it when you do X) instead of harping on

what you don't want (Why don't you ever do Y?)

7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he

isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then

acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show

you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.

8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's

understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and

be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a

negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are

happy and radiate a positive energy.

Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your

life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in

your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.

9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if

you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny

wrinkle by your mouth, these are your issues and hang ups

so don't turn them into relationship problems.

If he's with you, it's a given that he finds you attractive. Don't

talk him out of his attraction by highlighting all your flaws.

Chances are he won't even notice these things until you point

them out, so why draw attention to them? Men are attracted to

confident women so not only will you be making him a ware

of your flaws, you'll be diminishing his overall attraction to

you.

10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,

you need to take that person for exactly who he is, not who

you want him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it.

When it comes to minor things, like the fact that he wears

running shoes with dress pants, be gentle and encouraging.

Don't criticize and make him feel stupid. Say something that

makes him feel good and inspires him to make that change

on his own, for instance "You look really sexy in that outfit

but it would be even sexier with those loafers instead."

Recommended Reading: 5 Ways to Ruin a Budding Relationship

Lots of love,

Sabrina Alexis

this is really back-peddling to the role of females in the 1950ies .....this is supposed to be empowering?

this is manipulation of women and in extension of the males that are duped by such behaviour.

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Hmmm. Manipulation is skillful handling, controlling or using of something or someone. Yes?

So, I don't believe manipulation applies here. Forget the added context following the original statements. Doesn't it stand true that we, meaning male or female, shouldn't try to change others? shouldn't act a fool when our partner looks at the opposite sex? shouldn't chew someones ear off as if a child? show a lack of appreciation?

I'm no expert honestly BUT I think these hold some weight. There are better, more confident, more mature ways to carry ourselves WHEN in a relationship. I'm speaking from experience.

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by sweetpea2977

Posted by NemDeux

reads like common sense to me - aka - duhhh.

i will never understand the need of books like these.

I agree! But...uhh, common sense isn't so common lol

it should be, though. what went wrong on the way to our day and age .....

what´s next? how to wipe your ass, how to tie your shoe-laces?

smh.

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It definitely should be.

Posted by Jade_Alexander

#1 respect boundaries

His and Yours

Its not his job to fix you or yours to fix him

#2 learn to communicate

Drop the ego and games

Love this! I truly believe that it can be this simple.

Posted by Gobby

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by sweetpea2977

Posted by NemDeux

Posted by sweetpea2977

This was a good read for me. What say you? This is taken from 'a new mode', one of my free subscriptions delivered to my inbox. The only one I don't agree with is #3. Shaving legs or failing to "workout" has never doomed or saved a relationship lol But, I guess the gist is simply being well groomed, having great hygiene and looking presentable. Additionally, ALL of these apply to MALES also! Hmm.

10 Biggest Relationship Mistakes.....

1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman. It's a

man's nature to look, getting on his case shows you're

insecure, which is a huge turn-off. If you find yourself

getting jealous whenever a woman is within his vicinity, you

need to do an honest check in with yourself. At the root of it,

there is either trust missing from the relationship or you need

to build up your self-esteem.



2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or

doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be. Most

guys don't like to talk about their issues the way women do.

They prefer to pull back and work things out internally.



3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go. It really

is a shame to see how many women think it's okay to stop

working out and shaving their legs as soon as they're in a

relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to

make the effort once things are more settled to keep the

attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing.



4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who

forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a

man, it never ends well.

5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more

straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong

and then pout and mope around waiting for him to press you

further, you'll just cause anger and resentment to build. Be

honest and straightforward with him if you have an issue.

6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving

you every single thing you need. There will be times when

you're not happy with something he's doing. If this happen,

do not nag him over it. The best strategy is to tell him what it

is you want (I love it when you do X) instead of harping on

what you don't want (Why don't you ever do Y?)

7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he

isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then

acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show

you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.

8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's

understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and

be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a

negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are

happy and radiate a positive energy.

Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your

life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in

your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.

9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if

you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny

wrinkle by your mouth, these are your issues and hang ups

so don't turn them into relationship problems.

If he's with you, it's a given that he finds you attractive. Don't

talk him out of his attraction by highlighting all your flaws.

Chances are he won't even notice these things until you point

them out, so why draw attention to them? Men are attracted to

confident women so not only will you be making him a ware

of your flaws, you'll be diminishing his overall attraction to

you.

10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,

you need to take that person for exactly who he is, not who

you want him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it.

When it comes to minor things, like the fact that he wears

running shoes with dress pants, be gentle and encouraging.

Don't criticize and make him feel stupid. Say something that

makes him feel good and inspires him to make that change

on his own, for instance "You look really sexy in that outfit

but it would be even sexier with those loafers instead."

Recommended Reading: 5 Ways to Ruin a Budding Relationship

Lots of love,

Sabrina Alexis

this is really back-peddling to the role of females in the 1950ies .....this is supposed to be empowering?

this is manipulation of women and in extension of the males that are duped by such behaviour.

Hmmm. Manipulation is skillful handling, controlling or using of something or someone. Yes?

So, I don't believe manipulation applies here. Forget the added context following the original statements. Doesn't it stand true that we, meaning male or female, shouldn't try to change others? shouldn't act a fool when our partner looks at the opposite sex? shouldn't chew someones ear off as if a child? show a lack of appreciation?

I'm no expert honestly BUT I think these hold some weight. There are better, more confident, more mature ways to carry ourselves WHEN in a relationship. I'm speaking from experience.

if all those traits listed above are not a natural part of my character; and i bend backwards to make a relationship work - then it´s not right.

it´s manipulative, because all those actions and the desired reactions - are in self interest.

these "rules" are a set up for failure and the next - god forbid - sex and the city series.

In a nutshell, the situation you mentioned simply means that you aren't compatible with whoever expects those above points.

But I agree with the fact that you should be yourself...

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I agree, hence the mention of "bend backwards to MAKE a relationship work."

Posted by alexscaries

Not swallowing or giving the option of a facial. Why was that missed out?

Because it’s all bullshit! People write shit you know...

1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman.

Depends. All I read here is that men obnoxiously flirting with women in front of their women...yep! Keep encouraging. Suggest treesome.



2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or

doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be.

Guys LOVE talking about their issues. If he doesn’t talk to you - he already talked to another woman. That’s why he doesn’t talk to YOU!



3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go.

Are we assuming all men are fucking Studs?

What about being married to an ugly piece of shit who supposed to be happy if you shower once a months?

And I think down the list there is suggestion that he loves me the way I am so I do t have to be insecure...🤷‍♀️



4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who

forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a

man, it never ends well.

And those women who have lives are guarantee successful marriage?

Sure! While you hanging with your friends...have you noticed the one who couldn’t make it?

It’s becauae your man is ducking her while you are ‘having life!’

5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more

straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong

and then pout...

Yep! When you ask him if he is having another woman he gives you her contact number because men are straight forward.

6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving

you every single thing you need.

And as soon as you learn this magic technique your life will become a paradise.

You don’t have to nag him to do anything. If he said he will do it 6 months ago...he will do it!

If he doesn’t fuck you - he might have a perfect reason for that.

7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he

isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then

acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show

you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.

Now find what you can appreciate him for.

How much time do you need?



8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's

understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and

be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a

negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are

happy and radiate a positive energy.

Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your

life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in

your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.

Wake up with smile? Fuuuck! Really? I had never woke up with smile IN MY LIFE!

So NOW I have to start because...otherwise he will dump me? What kind of fare advise is that?

Don’t change a man! Change yourself—

How about his ass will see me the way IAM and still love me?

9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if

you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny

wrinkle by your mouth...

NO! It’s HIS problem! If I am changing to an opposite of who I am FIR HIM - this is WHY I am having those wrinkles! Because I am fucking PISSED OFF pretending to be happy, bitch!!!



10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,

you need to take that person for exactly who he is...

I did! And NOW instead of following this stupid shit to change myself I’ve decided that it would be much easier to change him because after all - THAT DICK WONT SUCK ITSELF!



Anyone else who NEVER HAD A MAN want to teach me ‘wisdom’?

ENTER IF YOU DARE!

Posted by -Damous

If you’re fighting for a little bit, step back and take a look at all the good times you’ve had and how it’s outweighed any bad and the bad will be overcome.

DONT TAKE YOUR EYE OFF THE BALL.

I like this 💙

Posted by Aac

Posted by Gemitati

1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman.

Depends. All I read here is that men obnoxiously flirting with women in front of their women...yep! Keep encouraging. Suggest treesome.



2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or

doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be.

Guys LOVE talking about their issues. If he doesn’t talk to you - he already talked to another woman. That’s why he doesn’t talk to YOU!



3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go.

Are we assuming all men are fucking Studs?

What about being married to an ugly piece of shit who supposed to be happy if you shower once a months?

And I think down the list there is suggestion that he loves me the way I am so I do t have to be insecure...🤷‍♀️



4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who

forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a

man, it never ends well.

And those women who have lives are guarantee successful marriage?

Sure! While you hanging with your friends...have you noticed the one who couldn’t make it?

It’s becauae your man is ducking her while you are ‘having life!’

5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more

straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong

and then pout...

Yep! When you ask him if he is having another woman he gives you her contact number because men are straight forward.

6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving

you every single thing you need.

And as soon as you learn this magic technique your life will become a paradise.

You don’t have to nag him to do anything. If he said he will do it 6 months ago...he will do it!

If he doesn’t fuck you - he might have a perfect reason for that.

7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he

isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then

acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show

you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.

Now find what you can appreciate him for.

How much time do you need?



8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's

understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and

be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a

negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are

happy and radiate a positive energy.

Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your

life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in

your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.

Wake up with smile? Fuuuck! Really? I had never woke up with smile IN MY LIFE!

So NOW I have to start because...otherwise he will dump me? What kind of fare advise is that?

Don’t change a man! Change yourself—

How about his ass will see me the way IAM and still love me?

9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if

you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny

wrinkle by your mouth...

NO! It’s HIS problem! If I am changing to an opposite of who I am FIR HIM - this is WHY I am having those wrinkles! Because I am fucking PISSED OFF pretending to be happy, bitch!!!



10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,

you need to take that person for exactly who he is...

I did! And NOW instead of following this stupid shit to change myself I’ve decided that it would be much easier to change him because after all - THAT DICK WONT SUCK ITSELF!



Anyone else who NEVER HAD A MAN want to teach me ‘wisdom’?

ENTER IF YOU DARE!

You just said a mouthful there, sister.

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Are we stating the obvious? 🤷‍♀️😂

Get your own life and don’t be hanging off your partner. Most men don’t want a woman that is clingy and overly invested in the rship. If anything it’s counter productive and pushes a man further away

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Well, to be honest, I do believe insecurities can stem from a relationship. If the man you're with is disrespecting you in any way, you can definitely develop insecurities.

I believe we are all connected to one another is some way or form. I could cause a ripple effect based on my attitude and how I treat others. If the man I'm with calls me fat, ugly, and looks at other women on a constant basis, you best believe my insecurities are due to him. When you marry a man, you become one with that person. You share each others' energy on a constant basis.

This is a great concept if all people were perfect... but, we're not and that's the beautiful thing about commitment and relationships. You work on bettering yourselves for the other.

It's a two way street. If I don't like my man looking at other women, I hope he would respect me enough to work on it because his love for me should outweigh is natural and biological need. His love for me should outweigh his own desires. Just like my love for him should outweigh my own selfish desire. When we give up our ego for the other person, that's when true love grows. When we all work on our flaws, that's when true love grows.

If I am taking all the above steps into consideration for him, I would hope he takes some things into consideration for me. If he doesn't, I deserve a better commitment and love. We cannot control another person.. but, someone who naturally loves another person will not mind listening to your concerns and discussing it in the relationship. Insecurity is the worst thing in the world. If I wore something that was making my boyfriend insecure, I would change. NO, not because I'm being controlled... but, because I love him and respect him. Point being, a relationship is a two way street in my opinion.. and the right guy should not leave a woman who tries to communicate her feelings, who is having a bad day, who is so busy with children and work she cannot put on makeup, who feels a bit insecure he's oggling at other women all the time, etc. With the proper communication, respect, honesty, and yearning to be with one another, your love will grow. Love grows out of respect.. not legalism and rules. Anyways, just my opinion.

I like this 💙

Posted by MyStarsShine

Get your own life and don’t be hanging off your partner. Most men don’t want a woman that is clingy and overly invested in the rship. If anything it’s counter productive and pushes a man further away

This is true 💙

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Posted by sweetpea2977

Posted by peaceandtranquility_96

Well, to be honest, I do believe insecurities can stem from a relationship. If the man you're with is disrespecting you in any way, you can definitely develop insecurities.

I believe we are all connected to one another is some way or form. I could cause a ripple effect based on my attitude and how I treat others. If the man I'm with calls me fat, ugly, and looks at other women on a constant basis, you best believe my insecurities are due to him. When you marry a man, you become one with that person. You share each others' energy on a constant basis.

This is a great concept if all people were perfect... but, we're not and that's the beautiful thing about commitment and relationships. You work on bettering yourselves for the other.

It's a two way street. If I don't like my man looking at other women, I hope he would respect me enough to work on it because his love for me should outweigh is natural and biological need. His love for me should outweigh his own desires. Just like my love for him should outweigh my own selfish desire. When we give up our ego for the other person, that's when true love grows. When we all work on our flaws, that's when true love grows.

If I am taking all the above steps into consideration for him, I would hope he takes some things into consideration for me. If he doesn't, I deserve a better commitment and love. We cannot control another person.. but, someone who naturally loves another person will not mind listening to your concerns and discussing it in the relationship. Insecurity is the worst thing in the world. If I wore something that was making my boyfriend insecure, I would change. NO, not because I'm being controlled... but, because I love him and respect him. Point being, a relationship is a two way street in my opinion.. and the right guy should not leave a woman who tries to communicate her feelings, who is having a bad day, who is so busy with children and work she cannot put on makeup, who feels a bit insecure he's oggling at other women all the time, etc. With the proper communication, respect, honesty, and yearning to be with one another, your love will grow. Love grows out of respect.. not legalism and rules. Anyways, just my opinion.

I like this 💙

Awwh! Thank you ☺️! Tee hee! I liked what you wrote as well! I definitely think it allows one to look within... I just hope both parties are looking within. I mean... I have so much to learn, so I could be wrong... but, I think it’s pretty lame for someone to leave another person because of XYZ (unless it’s abuse, cheating, moral incompatibilities, or major red flags) . To me, commitment is commitment and you work it out with love and respect... but, I am also single so you probably shouldn’t listen to me 😂! Team work makes a dream work ☺️

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In agreement! 💙

I feel if the writer would have went another way about it, it would be perfect relationship advice. The writing is good and inspiring, but I can see how it would look a bit one-sided to some woman. If there would have been more to each number, like things a man could do for his woman in the same sense, it would have got a ton more praise. It just sounds one-sided. I mean it takes two to tango. You can 100% believe those who are in old age and still deeply in love didn't get there by being one-sided to each other. They truly understood each other, knew exactly what the other needed, and worked together through life as equals. If they could have made it sound less one-sided it would have went from something a bit masochistic to really good inspiring relationships advice for couples to work on together. I just picture some guy sitting there expecting his woman to be perfect and not human, which isn't how it works. That might have not been their intention at all, and it was just misunderstood. Like I said the advice is good, but could have went a much better way imo.

Posted by Soul

I feel if the writer would have went another way about it, it would be perfect relationship advice. The writing is good and inspiring, but I can see how it would look a bit one-sided to some woman. If there would have been more to each number, like things a man could do for his woman in the same sense, it would have got a ton more praise. It just sounds one-sided. I mean it takes two to tango. You can 100% believe those who are in old age and still deeply in love didn't get there by being one-sided to each other. They truly understood each other, knew exactly what the other needed, and worked together through life as equals. If they could have made it sound less one-sided it would have went from something a bit masochistic to really good inspiring relationships advice for couples to work on together. I just picture some guy sitting there expecting his woman to be perfect and not human, which isn't how it works. That might have not been their intention at all, and it was just misunderstood. Like I said the advice is good, but could have went a much better way imo.

Yes. Great point! 💙

Posted by but_didyoudie

those are real issues that a relationship going down the hill will experience... surprised it didn't mention the sex realm of things... hence why people end up cheating.

other than that.... i just give me less hope to ever be in a relationship again.

SIGH*

"Less hope"? 😲😲😲

May I ask your age please?

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Posted by but_didyoudie

those are real issues that a relationship going down the hill will experience... surprised it didn't mention the sex realm of things... hence why people end up cheating.

other than that.... i just give me less hope to ever be in a relationship again.

SIGH*

"Less hope"? 😲😲😲

May I ask your age please?

i know what you're going to say and age doesn't matter people go through this regardless of age..... 20...30...40...50...60.... i think it probably stops once you become childlike again.... senior citizen age. i mean childlike state is probably the best but im just rambling meow ❤️

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LOL! Okay....

Expecting someone to “change”

Forget it!

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Posted by Soul

I feel if the writer would have went another way about it, it would be perfect relationship advice. The writing is good and inspiring, but I can see how it would look a bit one-sided to some woman. If there would have been more to each number, like things a man could do for his woman in the same sense, it would have got a ton more praise. It just sounds one-sided. I mean it takes two to tango. You can 100% believe those who are in old age and still deeply in love didn't get there by being one-sided to each other. They truly understood each other, knew exactly what the other needed, and worked together through life as equals. If they could have made it sound less one-sided it would have went from something a bit masochistic to really good inspiring relationships advice for couples to work on together. I just picture some guy sitting there expecting his woman to be perfect and not human, which isn't how it works. That might have not been their intention at all, and it was just misunderstood. Like I said the advice is good, but could have went a much better way imo.

Why? To appease female readers? To reduce causing any potential offence in this PC world?

No-one's perfect, but the article is a compilation of the main reasons why men kick women's asses to the curb (and vice versa but I've seen these negative traits more in women than men). It's not an article dictating to female readers how women should be (as finding a completely rational woman 24/7 is like the sighting of a unicorn).

Once again, people getting the wrong end of the stick and twisting it for their own agendas, especially when they can't handle the harsh truths...

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I never said to appease only female readers. My point was to appeal to all readers.

Idgaf what you consider to be PC or not. It's a different era, and if you want to truly be acknowledged and inspiring to people you need to learn how to curve your words to appeal to everyone.

Thats just how it is.

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Posted by Soul

Posted by Gobby

Posted by Soul

I feel if the writer would have went another way about it, it would be perfect relationship advice. The writing is good and inspiring, but I can see how it would look a bit one-sided to some woman. If there would have been more to each number, like things a man could do for his woman in the same sense, it would have got a ton more praise. It just sounds one-sided. I mean it takes two to tango. You can 100% believe those who are in old age and still deeply in love didn't get there by being one-sided to each other. They truly understood each other, knew exactly what the other needed, and worked together through life as equals. If they could have made it sound less one-sided it would have went from something a bit masochistic to really good inspiring relationships advice for couples to work on together. I just picture some guy sitting there expecting his woman to be perfect and not human, which isn't how it works. That might have not been their intention at all, and it was just misunderstood. Like I said the advice is good, but could have went a much better way imo.

Why? To appease female readers? To reduce causing any potential offence in this PC world?

No-one's perfect, but the article is a compilation of the main reasons why men kick women's asses to the curb (and vice versa but I've seen these negative traits more in women than men). It's not an article dictating to female readers how women should be (as finding a completely rational woman 24/7 is like the sighting of a unicorn).

Once again, people getting the wrong end of the stick and twisting it for their own agendas, especially when they can't handle the harsh truths...

I never said to appease only female readers. My point was to appeal to all readers.

Idgaf what you consider to be PC or not. It's a different era, and if you want to truly be acknowledged and inspiring to people you need to learn how to curve your words to appeal to everyone.

Thats just how it is.

And someone somewhere will ALWAYS be offended, regardless. So, your point is pretty much a mute one.

Anyway, I usually applaud those who don't pander towards the masses...

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Thats you, and on a personal level I don't necessarily disagree. If you want results though you need to think on a larger scale.

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Posted by Soul

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Posted by Gobby

Posted by Soul

I feel if the writer would have went another way about it, it would be perfect relationship advice. The writing is good and inspiring, but I can see how it would look a bit one-sided to some woman. If there would have been more to each number, like things a man could do for his woman in the same sense, it would have got a ton more praise. It just sounds one-sided. I mean it takes two to tango. You can 100% believe those who are in old age and still deeply in love didn't get there by being one-sided to each other. They truly understood each other, knew exactly what the other needed, and worked together through life as equals. If they could have made it sound less one-sided it would have went from something a bit masochistic to really good inspiring relationships advice for couples to work on together. I just picture some guy sitting there expecting his woman to be perfect and not human, which isn't how it works. That might have not been their intention at all, and it was just misunderstood. Like I said the advice is good, but could have went a much better way imo.

Why? To appease female readers? To reduce causing any potential offence in this PC world?

No-one's perfect, but the article is a compilation of the main reasons why men kick women's asses to the curb (and vice versa but I've seen these negative traits more in women than men). It's not an article dictating to female readers how women should be (as finding a completely rational woman 24/7 is like the sighting of a unicorn).

Once again, people getting the wrong end of the stick and twisting it for their own agendas, especially when they can't handle the harsh truths...

I never said to appease only female readers. My point was to appeal to all readers.

Idgaf what you consider to be PC or not. It's a different era, and if you want to truly be acknowledged and inspiring to people you need to learn how to curve your words to appeal to everyone.

Thats just how it is.

And someone somewhere will ALWAYS be offended, regardless. So, your point is pretty much a mute one.

Anyway, I usually applaud those who don't pander towards the masses...

Thats you, and on a personal level I don't necessarily disagree. If you want results though you need to think on a larger scale.

Of course but what makes you think that article was written for a 'large scale'? And why should one censor themselves to reach the massses?

I know where you're coming from and I know there are situations that call for diplomacy, but when it comes to self-expression of personal views in your own literature or on your own blog... Nah!

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Thats fine an all. Tbh I could care less one way or another. I didn't write it lol. I guess ones personal opinion is worth cutting yourself short in the end right? That sounds like a smart way to go about it.

Expectations

Expecting the other person to

Always fulfill your needs

Always be there for you

To be faithful

To be your everything

To be in your life forever

Shit happens, peoples needs change and sometimes they move on

Aim to be realistic, not idealistic

Letting someone bully you. I wouldn't keep a friend like that let alone a bf. But slowly little digs can chip away. Knock it on the head in a calm and dignified way and remember why you are with this person and keep positive.

Was that list from a “women’s site”? If you prefer, you could read the headers gender neutral and skip the details …I certainly did. The OP even has a disclaimer “ALL of these apply to MALES also!” .

Some people (notice the gender neutrality, lol) got a bit triggered by that list.

If you often do some of the “biggest mistakes”, good for you! Now spare a thought for those of us who naturally don’t do them, like myself. We are the real life bores. It is known from “men’s sites” that most men like a bit of drama, and overcoming challenges. They often pick the difficult girl over the quiet, undemanding one. So we have to deliberately introduce some mischief to spice things up!

If you have to go the other way round and sometimes restrain yourself, so be it! Every relationship needs compromise.

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Posted by Aac

Posted by Gemitati

1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman.

Depends. All I read here is that men obnoxiously flirting with women in front of their women...yep! Keep encouraging. Suggest treesome.



2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or

doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be.

Guys LOVE talking about their issues. If he doesn’t talk to you - he already talked to another woman. That’s why he doesn’t talk to YOU!



3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go.

Are we assuming all men are fucking Studs?

What about being married to an ugly piece of shit who supposed to be happy if you shower once a months?

And I think down the list there is suggestion that he loves me the way I am so I do t have to be insecure...🤷‍♀️



4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who

forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a

man, it never ends well.

And those women who have lives are guarantee successful marriage?

Sure! While you hanging with your friends...have you noticed the one who couldn’t make it?

It’s becauae your man is ducking her while you are ‘having life!’

5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more

straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong

and then pout...

Yep! When you ask him if he is having another woman he gives you her contact number because men are straight forward.

6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving

you every single thing you need.

And as soon as you learn this magic technique your life will become a paradise.

You don’t have to nag him to do anything. If he said he will do it 6 months ago...he will do it!

If he doesn’t fuck you - he might have a perfect reason for that.

7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he

isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then

acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show

you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.

Now find what you can appreciate him for.

How much time do you need?



8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's

understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and

be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a

negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are

happy and radiate a positive energy.

Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your

life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in

your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.

Wake up with smile? Fuuuck! Really? I had never woke up with smile IN MY LIFE!

So NOW I have to start because...otherwise he will dump me? What kind of fare advise is that?

Don’t change a man! Change yourself—

How about his ass will see me the way IAM and still love me?

9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if

you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny

wrinkle by your mouth...

NO! It’s HIS problem! If I am changing to an opposite of who I am FIR HIM - this is WHY I am having those wrinkles! Because I am fucking PISSED OFF pretending to be happy, bitch!!!



10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,

you need to take that person for exactly who he is...

I did! And NOW instead of following this stupid shit to change myself I’ve decided that it would be much easier to change him because after all - THAT DICK WONT SUCK ITSELF!



Anyone else who NEVER HAD A MAN want to teach me ‘wisdom’?

ENTER IF YOU DARE!

You just said a mouthful there, sister.

Hahahaha! And this is why I love Gemitati! She speaks her mind and I love it! hahah

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You just buttering me up because you want piece of @alexcaries...🤦‍♀️😂

Posted by MyStarsShine

Get your own life and don’t be hanging off your partner. Most men don’t want a woman that is clingy and overly invested in the rship. If anything it’s counter productive and pushes a man further away

I don’t disagree but I have to say that for some reason I’ve been mostly in rs when I am my man’s best friend and he is mine so...we can do stuff together so well that we don’t really need anybody else.

And it’s not that any of us is clingy...it’s just when something happening if we are not together - first thing pops up in mind is...I need to tell him! So we can laugh together or discuss or gossip...

EVEN with Scorpio...he was calling me as soon as something happened - from good to bad - just to talk it over...

With an ex we had mutual friend couple so we didn’t have to have girls-boys nights out. We were all together. Now after divorce he started to meet with his men friends and he sending me pics.

My current Aries is also the same way. He tells me his he has planned his day and at the end of the day we skype or just text and kid and dog is there...so all of us just chatting about everything and nothing...

So...here is another take on rships. It’s just happening this way...

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Get your own life and don’t be hanging off your partner. Most men don’t want a woman that is clingy and overly invested in the rship. If anything it’s counter productive and pushes a man further away

I don’t disagree but I have to say that for some reason I’ve been mostly in rs when I am my man’s best friend and he is mine so...we can do stuff together so well that we don’t really need anybody else.

And it’s not that any of us is clingy...it’s just when something happening if we are not together - first thing pops up in mind is...I need to tell him! So we can laugh together or discuss or gossip...

EVEN with Scorpio...he was calling me as soon as something happened - from good to bad - just to talk it over...

With an ex we had mutual friend couple so we didn’t have to have girls-boys nights out. We were all together. Now after divorce he started to meet with his men friends and he sending me pics.

My current Aries is also the same way. He tells me his he has planned his day and at the end of the day we skype or just text and kid and dog is there...so all of us just chatting about everything and nothing...

So...here is another take on rships. It’s just happening this way...

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Well if you're happy, that's good, but isn't it a bit limiting? Do you have good friends, Gem that you can have a laugh with and confide in, i know mine are like gold🌟

What happens when a rship ends? What do you do then?

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Get your own life and don’t be hanging off your partner. Most men don’t want a woman that is clingy and overly invested in the rship. If anything it’s counter productive and pushes a man further away

I don’t disagree but I have to say that for some reason I’ve been mostly in rs when I am my man’s best friend and he is mine so...we can do stuff together so well that we don’t really need anybody else.

And it’s not that any of us is clingy...it’s just when something happening if we are not together - first thing pops up in mind is...I need to tell him! So we can laugh together or discuss or gossip...

EVEN with Scorpio...he was calling me as soon as something happened - from good to bad - just to talk it over...

With an ex we had mutual friend couple so we didn’t have to have girls-boys nights out. We were all together. Now after divorce he started to meet with his men friends and he sending me pics.

My current Aries is also the same way. He tells me his he has planned his day and at the end of the day we skype or just text and kid and dog is there...so all of us just chatting about everything and nothing...

So...here is another take on rships. It’s just happening this way...

Well if you're happy, that's good, but isn't it a bit limiting? Do you have good friends, Gem that you can have a laugh with and confide in, i know mine are like gold🌟

What happens when a rship ends? What do you do then?

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You might haven’t noticed...I don’t end rs unless I have ‘reserve’...🤦‍♀️😂

What if friends are happened to be a mistake? Happens!

And to be serious I do have lifetime long friends by me and all over the world whom I’ve known since my youth...

It’s those whom I don’t have to be in touch daily but I can always count on.

Life just happened and unfortunately they are staying in stale stagnant rships and I can’t be in their faces with my newfound loves...since Scorpio...and I didn’t wanted to be because of all the pain I went trough. I didn’t want to moan and add on to their life issues.

Nowadays we are seeing each other more. Imagine me being all excited with ‘me me me’ and them just...not?

In November we all attending one of them child’s 30th BDay and I am bringing Aries and THAT should be interesting!

Imagine everybody knowing me with Cap forever and now is like...👀...what? I am not worry but it’ll be a riot! It’s good that none of us drinking as we used to anymore...

It’s long ass writing to do to explain this. It I am sure you understand! 🤝😂🤦‍♀️🍾🎉🧟‍♀️

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MyStarsShine

Get your own life and don’t be hanging off your partner. Most men don’t want a woman that is clingy and overly invested in the rship. If anything it’s counter productive and pushes a man further away

I don’t disagree but I have to say that for some reason I’ve been mostly in rs when I am my man’s best friend and he is mine so...we can do stuff together so well that we don’t really need anybody else.

And it’s not that any of us is clingy...it’s just when something happening if we are not together - first thing pops up in mind is...I need to tell him! So we can laugh together or discuss or gossip...

EVEN with Scorpio...he was calling me as soon as something happened - from good to bad - just to talk it over...

With an ex we had mutual friend couple so we didn’t have to have girls-boys nights out. We were all together. Now after divorce he started to meet with his men friends and he sending me pics.

My current Aries is also the same way. He tells me his he has planned his day and at the end of the day we skype or just text and kid and dog is there...so all of us just chatting about everything and nothing...

So...here is another take on rships. It’s just happening this way...

Well if you're happy, that's good, but isn't it a bit limiting? Do you have good friends, Gem that you can have a laugh with and confide in, i know mine are like gold🌟

What happens when a rship ends? What do you do then?

You might haven’t noticed...I don’t end rs unless I have ‘reserve’...🤦‍♀️😂

What if friends are happened to be a mistake? Happens!

And to be serious I do have lifetime long friends by me and all over the world whom I’ve known since my youth...

It’s those whom I don’t have to be in touch daily but I can always count on.

Life just happened and unfortunately they are staying in stale stagnant rships and I can’t be in their faces with my newfound loves...since Scorpio...and I didn’t wanted to be because of all the pain I went trough. I didn’t want to moan and add on to their life issues.

Nowadays we are seeing each other more. Imagine me being all excited with ‘me me me’ and them just...not?

In November we all attending one of them child’s 30th BDay and I am bringing Aries and THAT should be interesting!

Imagine everybody knowing me with Cap forever and now is like...👀...what? I am not worry but it’ll be a riot! It’s good that none of us drinking as we used to anymore...

It’s long ass writing to do to explain this. It I am sure you understand! 🤝😂🤦‍♀️🍾🎉🧟‍♀️

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Haha Gemini....always have one on standby 😛

Yes Gem, I understand 😊❤️

You should make a grand entrance to the party by sitting on Aries shoulders wearing a crown 👸... your Leo 🌝 will love it 🥰