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@LadyTate
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Advice for a friend!
I think there are too many fish in the sea to deal with someone who may have commitment issues
Posted by GennieI agree
I think there are too many fish in the sea to deal with someone who may have commitment issues
That's crazy and this happened recently. Trust no one and make sure she does know what she wants and needs and it should be with someone your trust, love. And grow responsible for actions. Wear protection and have your own shit still and make sure he doesn't have other kids man. Wtf.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Yea, it happened recently and he has other kids. 1 or 2 I think... Not sure.
That's crazy and this happened recently. Trust no one and make sure she does know what she wants and needs and it should be with someone your trust, love. And grow responsible for actions. Wear protection and have your own shit still and make sure he doesn't have other kids man. Wtf.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
And she wants that? What kind of friend are you to let her do that from jump?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428What kind of friend I am? The type that see the fact that we are both grown and make our own decisions. And how can I LET another grown person do anything? AlL I can do is share my opinion and what she does then is her choice. SO IF UR NOT TRYING TO GIVE ADVICE BUT RATHER PASS JUDGEMENT ON WHAT TYPE OF FRIEND I MAY BE, please move on to another thread!Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
And she wants that? What kind of friend are you to let her do that from jump?click to expand
Posted by ForeverlovemeHer bday is Nov 13th and his is Jan 11
I don't like your friends situation, I agree with you. I think she should move on because it doesn't sound like he wants a relationship. What is her sign and his? Also what type of father is he to the kids he already has?
Posted by ForeverlovemeI'm sorry... Missed the kids part. He's great with his kids from what I've seen and heard. My initial thoughts... I think he's cool. He's fun to be around when we go out or when they come over but he can be standoffish at times I feel.
I'd find out how he is with his other kid(s). Remove the kid idea for now, if she's set on that she might want to move on. Focus on working on the relationship if she wants to stay...like trying hanging out without sex or if they are connecting on any other levels conversation wise more than just sending sexual pics.
Have you met the guy? If so what was your initial impression of him?
Posted by ForeverlovemeI like him for her, he's really a good dude but I still don't think he wants a relationship. I don't think he wants to tell her because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.
If she wants to be patient give it another month or 2 to see if it goes anywhere...this one is hard to tell because I could see both sides of it going either way
Am I the only one who doesn't see a red flag? One kid from a FWB situation, accidents happen. By my count this guy had at least 3, one of which was your friend's miscarriage. That just smacks of irresponsibility. And before someone hops in here about both sides being responsible.....I'm specifically pointing out that if I were a guy, after the second kid, I'd be paranoid about keeping my stuff under wraps.
Is he truly irresponsible? I dunno, but his situation doesn't translate well on its own.
Is he truly irresponsible? I dunno, but his situation doesn't translate well on its own.
Posted by ForeverlovemeThink so... I think they already have a great friendship established.Posted by LadyTateOh ok I see. Do you think she would be okay just establishing a good friendship foundation? I mean there's stories in here of cap men not wanting a relationship atm, but ending up with the lady later on when he's ready for one.Posted by ForeverlovemeI like him for her, he's really a good dude but I still don't think he wants a relationship. I don't think he wants to tell her because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.
If she wants to be patient give it another month or 2 to see if it goes anywhere...this one is hard to tell because I could see both sides of it going either wayclick to expand
Posted by GennieI'm not sure if he has more than 1 kid. I've seen him with 2 but if my memory serves me correct, the sec child his not actually his but a child he was helping raise from a previous relationship. Again... I'm trying to remember all the facts.
Am I the only one who doesn't see a red flag? One kid from a FWB situation, accidents happen. By my count this guy had at least 3, one of which was your friend's miscarriage. That just smacks of irresponsibility. And before someone hops in here about both sides being responsible.....I'm specifically pointing out that if I were a guy, after the second kid, I'd be paranoid about keeping my stuff under wraps.
Is he truly irresponsible? I dunno, but his situation doesn't translate well on its own.
Posted by ForeverlovemeI told her I would let it go and see what happens. Wait and see if he reaches out to her and shows interest in more than just being a FWB. I mean that's what I had to do in my situation for him to see that I needed more from him then my own assumption.
Keep in mind too that Caps typically think long term & want those types of relationships. Him asking for sex 1 last time could be his version of I miss you or trying to reestablish the relationship.
If she's unsure just give it time. If he truly wants her, he'll get over himself the same way yours did.
Posted by ElleDuMondeShe's not at all fucked up, as u say. I mean u would have to know her reason and full story to really understand her choice in wanting to get pregnant again.
your friends sounds all kinds of fucked up.
I mean, something is seriously wrong if she's trying to get pregnant via FWB.
I would say she needs therapy.
Posted by ElleDuMondeHow do u figure she's validating her existence with knot he's on her bed post. U don't know how many men she's slept with. He could very well be the 2nd or 3rd man she's ever been with. Maybe she is choosing to have a child with him rather than going to a sperm bank because she knows what she's getting rather going be injected with unknown sperm. Could that be a reason ppl prefer to have children with ppl they know rather than going to a alarm bank? AND... What makes u think she is trying to use a kid to keep that man in her life? How do u know she just doesn't want another child? As her friend, I know for a fact that she isn't trying to use the child to keep him in her life. She actually just wants another child. Her are about to graduate HS and go off to collage and she's ready to start over. U say ur not against ppl who FWB but yet ur post seems to be judging them.
I'm not trying to be mean but she seems to be validating her existence with knotches in her bed post...it's going to end up looking like the back of a mini van that has those pictures of people, kids and pets.
If she isn't looking for a relationship than she shouldn't be negotiating on having children. There are sperm banks for that.
I'm not against people sowing their oats through fwb....not my cup of tea....but I know it happens.
I am a bit perturbed that women use kids to keep men in their life.
That's not how you relationship.
*shrugs*
Posted by ElleDuMondeHow do u figure?
There is no good reason. He didn't give her a month to think about anything....he gave himself enough time to bail.
Posted by ElleDuMondeA response as to if he wants a relationship He is still willing to give her a child. My guess is that he may also want another. Idk...
A month later after telling him how she felt and not getting a response from him,
^^^^^^^
Posted by ElleDuMondeHe knew she wanted another child from day one... For the moment they decided to have unprotected sex (as far as I know). He chose to take a chance just as much as she did so I wouldn't say she is trying to trap him.
She is forcing a baby on him....18+ years of commitment and they are FWB.
How do you not see an issue with this?
He wasn't screwing her to make a baby....I think it would be fair if she let him know her intent.
In my opinion, he dodged a bullet.
Posted by ElleDuMondeI understand... And I may have become defensive of her because I kind of felt like u were attacking her.
I see alot of issues and I don't see anything good coming out of this.
Sorry.
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