Yep, it's over

My husband served me divorce papers.

Wow!!! Still in shock.

He called today to say he was happy with his new life. I told him that's great and hung up.

The fuck!!!

I really don't have emotions at this point.

He filed before I found out about his shit.

Posted by sunkisses26
oh man ....I don't know the whole story?
are you happy?
did you want a divorce?
what happened?

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/my-husband-and-i-don-t-click-as-of-late-6419614/

Shit is embarrassing. I haven't told any of my family/friends yet.

He cheated on me and he's over there living his new, happy life.

HIGH FIVE!!!!!!

oh man...this just sucks. I'm so sorry.

So he wants a divorce. Fine.

Hit him where it hurts. Use the fact that he cheated on you to your advantage and squeeze him dry.

Posted by LadyNeptune
So he wants a divorce. Fine.

Hit him where it hurts. Use the fact that he cheated on you to your advantage and squeeze him dry.

I agree with what she said... And while ur sucking him dry, u make sure u look good doing it. Let him see that ur a true Queen and ur unbothered!

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Posted by LadyTate

Posted by LadyNeptune
So he wants a divorce. Fine.

Hit him where it hurts. Use the fact that he cheated on you to your advantage and squeeze him dry.

I agree with what she said... And while ur sucking him dry, u make sure u look good doing it. Let him see that ur a true Queen and ur unbothered!

Unless you live in Florida where you can cheat as much as you want and it will have no impact on your divorce. Might want to check the laws where you live.

Sucks, and I know it is embarrassing. Sorry you are going through this.

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U have kids for him... SUCK HIM DRY! Ask the courts to make him pay for medical expenses, daycare, a monthly clothing expense. Any and everything! I know my cousin who lives in Dublin, GA did it to her husband. He has to pay 80% medical expenses, 50% after school activities, all school fees, and so on!

Are you fucking kidding me?!?! Didn't you just have a baby? What a fucking cock sucker from HELL. EVIL. Milk him for every penny.

certainly fight for your rights and do not give in easily. make it a mission to give yourself justice then it's not gonna be pain. it will be fun.

show yourself what you are made of

Sorry to hear I haven't been in that situation but have been with which it felt like marriage of 6 years. I never got kids from him or never that this is the guy I want to marr

Would you ever get married or haven kids are? Would you take back if you could or are you content and will be stronger than ever and build again with you and your baby?

What is the advice for others who are going through this too?

by the way, he was smart to kick you out of the house. he planned to divorce way before that and obviously he was no stupid to leave the house.

The situation sucks, but at least you've done nothing wrong. Anyone who questions you would likely take your side. Go find support with your family or have a night out with your friends. Don't keep it bottled up.

Also, you might want to start planning things out now. Make sure you have what you need available to make him pay up for this. It sounds like he's a step ahead of you when it comes to taking action.

i hope you know what's going on with your joint finance and accounts. it's way easier to prepare for battle when you are in the house.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
So he wants a divorce. Fine.

Hit him where it hurts. Use the fact that he cheated on you to your advantage and squeeze him dry.

I agree with what she said... And while ur sucking him dry, u make sure u look good doing it. Let him see that ur a true Queen and ur unbothered!

Unless you live in Florida where you can cheat as much as you want and it will have no impact on your divorce. Might want to check the laws where you live.

Sucks, and I know it is embarrassing. Sorry you are going through this.

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True. But she can still use the cheating to assassinate his character to the court and gain majority custody of her kid/s.

With the way OP makes it sound, I don't know if he would even want any visitation rights for the kid. "He's happy with his new life"...that usually means leaving the past behind him. Having to collaborate visits with the kid would make him tied down to OP (his past). But, he could surprise me (wouldn't make him any less of an asshole, though)

Posted by Scenic
The situation sucks, but at least you've done nothing wrong. Anyone who questions you would likely take your side. Go find support with your family or have a night out with your friends. Don't keep it bottled up.

Also, you might want to start planning things out now. Make sure you have what you need available to make him pay up for this. It sounds like he's a step ahead of you when it comes to taking action.

This.

Make sure you have good legal representation--

that part is not a joke, and you need someone

with experience on your side.

Fck revenge-- make sure you and your kids are

WELL provided for, though.

Careful with the motives because they will work

against you if you aren't... whoever said blessing

in disguise was right, even though it may take a

minute to see how.

And don't let him see you affected, angry or otherwise

upset-- it will drive him insane.

Come hang out in the LEO den/ forum if you need support

on that front.

🙂

I cannot stress how important it is to get a good attorney. I live in a state where adultery technically doesn't count but a good attorney will use it in your favor, they understand how to! Please, I know your feeling awful, but you've got to pick yourself up and protect your son. You can do this!

So this dumb ass, big ass confused kid comes ringing the doorbell.

Him: So that's all you have to say? What do you mean that's good?

Me: Dumb ass, you had divorce papers sent here. Do yiu want your son?

Him: That's because you didn't fight for me. Then you tell me that's good that I'm somewhere else?

Me: (walks off into closet) *throws confetti* Gad damn right that's good. Now if you're not here to see your son, you can get the fuck out!!! Now!!!

Now at this point, he's crying. I tell him to leave. He says, "remember, you made me leave.

Me: Get yo dumb ass out my face.

I let him out. His son was so happy to see him. He didnt even look his way. He didn't even care.

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Posted by Scenic
With the way OP makes it sound, I don't know if he would even want any visitation rights for the kid. "He's happy with his new life"...that usually means leaving the past behind him. Having to collaborate visits with the kid would make him tied down to OP (his past). But, he could surprise me (wouldn't make him any less of an asshole, though)

I think that might just be tough talk on his part because he feels embarrased at how much he screwed himself.

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Anything is possible at this point.
Is this the dude who was cheating while before and after her pregnancy? I'm sort of basing my views on that, as well. Doesn't seem like he ever really cared about being a father. I hope whatever decision is made, that it works out for OP, though.

@Impulsv

When you told me to go home, that's what I did. I made his ass leave. I went back that day. Packed his things and changed the locks.

Im in a fault state, so adultery can be used as a reason to divorce. I have 2 accounts, a joint and an individual. My individual account is where all my money goes.

Posted by Foreverloveme
Sorry to hear...Wishing you and your son the best through the process

Thank you. Im numb at this point. He didnt even look at his son.

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Posted by mzmee
He cheated on me and he's over there living his new, happy life.

you know what! fuck him and whateva skank ass bitch that he's with .....this divorce is a blessing in disguise

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I hope so. I'm still backtracking in my mind what I did wrong.

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Posted by mzmee
He called today to say he was happy with his new life. I told him that's great and hung up.

lol my scorpio ex always makes sure I notice how happy he is...and I always proceed to ignore him

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This is some low shit. It really is.

Yes, get a good attorney.

But be happy that you have an opportunity at a better life as well. One day it will all make sense when your life is going so well. Life will get better. I'm sorry you have to go through this, but hold your head up high.

I wish you the best!

@mzmee

First off.

Sign NOTHING. Take the papers to a lawyer. In all inevitability you will be counter-suing in your divorce. If you need help finding legal representation in your state, send me a PM, I'll help you look.

Secondly, it's time you take back the house. Banish him to the basement or something, you and the little take the big room. Clear out the closet. Toss his crap out in boxes.

Thirdly. It's time you start building your case divorce. You'll need to go through the house, get your hands on financial records, phone records, etc.

Any credit or account cards where you are the primary and he is an accessory holder, cancel or take his name off. Any joint accounts you have, get the bank summaries for the last year and see if there have been any large withdrawals, or a repetitive withdrawal as if he is siphoning to a secondary account. If you don't see any, then divide the current balance in half, and take that to open a new account or convert to cash.

Let me tell you, the MINUTE he feels like he isn't going to get his way, you will probably lose access to any accounts or they will close. This man is not your friend, he is not your husband, he is not going to put you or the baby first.

YOU have to do it and it fucking sucks but you can do it. I know you feel like your family has your back, and they will, but it gets old to feel dependent on family over a long period of time. A contested divorce where you are determining custody types, visitation, alimony, child support, any financial settlements can tie you up for almost 2 years if he decides to be a dick.

So be prepared, put your wonder woman war panties on and don't hesitate to seek advice or support, *fistbump* we got your back.

Also, if you counter sue in your divorce on the basis of adultery, you can name the bitch in the court documents and order in your custody and visitation that he isn't allowed to have the child in her presence, it's called an Order of Protection and it comes from Family Court.

What the fuck is he trying to play at? He wants to play the victim now?
Try to act like the bigger person in your interactions with him and talk to a lawyer asap. He could try to play the victim in court too and attempt to make you look like the devil. Not sure how well that would work in his situation, but better safe than sorry.

Posted by iCloud9
by the way, he was smart to kick you out of the house. he planned to divorce way before that and obviously he was no stupid to leave the house.

Initially, he didnt kick me out, i left. I came back and changed the locks. He's over there with his new life.

Posted by Impulsv

Posted by iCloud9
by the way, he was smart to kick you out of the house. he planned to divorce way before that and obviously he was no stupid to leave the house.

That's why I said go back home!
My ex did the same
Now get a good attorney
Now he has to pay u at ur accustomed lifestyle
Living with parents when u were in ur own home.
Get a good attorney fast!!

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I went back that day!!! He's over her house.

Posted by Gennie
@mzmee

First off.

Sign NOTHING. Take the papers to a lawyer. In all inevitability you will be counter-suing in your divorce. If you need help finding legal representation in your state, send me a PM, I'll help you look.

Secondly, it's time you take back the house. Banish him to the basement or something, you and the little take the big room. Clear out the closet. Toss his crap out in boxes.

Thirdly. It's time you start building your case divorce. You'll need to go through the house, get your hands on financial records, phone records, etc.

Any credit or account cards where you are the primary and he is an accessory holder, cancel or take his name off. Any joint accounts you have, get the bank summaries for the last year and see if there have been any large withdrawals, or a repetitive withdrawal as if he is siphoning to a secondary account. If you don't see any, then divide the current balance in half, and take that to open a new account or convert to cash.

Let me tell you, the MINUTE he feels like he isn't going to get his way, you will probably lose access to any accounts or they will close. This man is not your friend, he is not your husband, he is not going to put you or the baby first.

YOU have to do it and it fucking sucks but you can do it. I know you feel like your family has your back, and they will, but it gets old to feel dependent on family over a long period of time. A contested divorce where you are determining custody types, visitation, alimony, child support, any financial settlements can tie you up for almost 2 years if he decides to be a dick.

So be prepared, put your wonder woman war panties on and don't hesitate to seek advice or support, *fistbump* we got your back.

Also, if you counter sue in your divorce on the basis of adultery, you can name the bitch in the court documents and order in your custody and visitation that he isn't allowed to have the child in her presence, it's called an Order of Protection and it comes from Family Court.

Thank you humbly!!!

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Posted by sunkisses26

Posted by mzmee
He cheated on me and he's over there living his new, happy life.

you know what! fuck him and whateva skank ass bitch that he's with .....this divorce is a blessing in disguise

I hope so. I'm still backtracking in my mind what I did wrong.

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YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!

Him and only him are responsible for his actions.

Everything we used to talk about, our fears, everything, it seemed like he did exactly what I told him I was afraid of going thru. Like he did the shit on purpose.

Thanks everyone. I'm gonna respond tomorrow. This is a lot to process. Plus my baby is currently sitting on my head.

Good night

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Posted by Scenic
What the fuck is he trying to play at? He wants to play the victim now?
Try to act like the bigger person in your interactions with him and talk to a lawyer asap. He could try to play the victim in court too and attempt to make you look like the devil. Not sure how well that would work in his situation, but better safe than sorry.

From this point on be careful
What u say
It can be used against u
Refer to ur attorney

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I only plan on responding if it has to do with his son. Otherwise, he wont hear a peep out of me.

What hurts me the most...

He didn't even pay attention to our baby.

When he left, my baby boy cried for him.

He didn't even acknowledge him.

I haven't stopped crying. Been up damn near all night.

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Posted by Goldigold
Don't worry Karma will find him.

It already did......the Leo Rainbow woman...nightmare stuff!

OP, i am so glad you are rid of this idiot

She showed you too?!

I'm appalled!

I wish I had a wittle baby sitting on my head though.

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Only you two. No one else.

Yall asked. Got an eyefull too lol

Posted by mzmee
What hurts me the most...

He didn't even pay attention to our baby.

When he left, my baby boy cried for him.

He didn't even acknowledge him.

I haven't stopped crying. Been up damn near all night.

it's going to shake out ok in the end. Meanwhile, happy things

Posted by Gennie

Posted by mzmee
What hurts me the most...

He didn't even pay attention to our baby.

When he left, my baby boy cried for him.

He didn't even acknowledge him.

I haven't stopped crying. Been up damn near all night.

it's going to shake out ok in the end. Meanwhile, happy things

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Thank you.

I'm definitely going to PM you. I need to get myself together first.

Keep your head up dear. Men are something fuckin else. It's going to be rough in the beginning but in time it'll get better. He's going to regret it watch. You'll be over it by then. Just watch. Sending you an enormous amount of love and positive vibes.

Make sure you wipe that smirk off his face.

Posted by sunkisses26

Posted by mzmee
He cheated on me and he's over there living his new, happy life.

you know what! fuck him and whateva skank ass bitch that he's with .....this divorce is a blessing in disguise

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Exactly fuck them!!

Three things you should focus on-

1. Get all the legal matters taken care of asap and appropriately.
2. Move on and live your life well. This is the best form of revenge.
3. Give no fucks about him (or continue to). His coming back to gloat and get a different response tells you where his headspace is- typical Scorp manipulation tactics at play here.