How young is too young?

I am a strong believer of "age is but a number", though I know that depending on your age, you may have a different mindset, goals, wants/needs than say someone who is older than you. But then again, this is where maturity comes into play. I know that *I* acted very mature even at a young age. So in saying that, state your age, and how much younger you would date, or have dated.

My reason for this post, today I approached this dude at the gym that i've been eyeing for a little while now, only to come find out that he's waaaay younger than me. :/ We only talked for like 5 minutes (I ended the conversation), but he seemed very sweet and was easy to talk with. I mentioned that I had two girls, he asked what ages they were, and when I told him, proceeded to tell me that his mom was 42, making the comparison that she had her kids young just like me. He also asked how far away I lived from the gym, I told him only a couple of minutes, and he said " me too!". I don't know if he has a gf or not, but I didn't wanna ask him outright if he did or not lol! But the vibe that he gave off, made it seem like he doesn't.

I think because I don't feel or look like mybage, that I gravitate towards younger guys, even though I don't mean to. I just don't know if pursuing him is a smart thing to do, I feel like i'd be robbing the cradle lmao! I am obviously interested in him, otherwise I wouldn't have approached him like I did, but a relationship is not something I NEED, I just wanna have some fun/companionship. So thoughts on this, your experiences?

*my age

Posted by ButtWipe
If he knows what a nintendo 64 is he's too young for you.

Haha, well I know what that is, but i'm not "young".

10-15 years is max for me

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Posted by ButtWipe
If he knows what a nintendo 64 is he's too young for you.

Haha, well I know what that is, but i'm not "young".

Don't discount yourself though, 42 is young these days. The "it's not how old you are, it's how old you feel" moniker rings true if you really believe in it. But in this case with a guy as you describe it way younger then you, it'll be nothing more then a fling and an awkward/bad decision. But again you're certainly not old, but i would not pursue this one bit rather take it as flattery that you could be pursued by a younger man then you. If anything it's confidence boost, not that you may need it.

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Mmmm, you're probably right. Damn him for being so young lol! I really thought he was like 27, not 22. F me.

Posted by Pnmee
10-15 years is max for me

I am 13 years his senior. He seems very successful and driven, but I realize that most people his age, are by no means ready to settle down. I want marriage and perhaps another baby, he's still in college lmao!

He's too young if we aren't looking in the same direction, metaphorically speaking.

some people in their 30s and 40s still act like they are in junior high school, some people in their 20s act like they are seasoned sages. it is a number but there has to be understanding both ways...

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Posted by ButtWipe
If he knows what a nintendo 64 is he's too young for you.

Haha, well I know what that is, but i'm not "young".

"it's not how old you are, it's how old you feel" ...

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I like to think that's "you're only as old as the person you're feeling... up"...
So if I wanna wuttwutt a 24year old, I am 24 Goddammit!

Posted by ButtWipe
If he knows what a nintendo 64 is he's too young for you.

what about ps4

In this day and age if you want kids then a younger guy if you don't then an older guy.

Man I had at least one game system in our household growing up between me and my bros.. I have wii. haha.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
In this day and age if you want kids then a younger guy if you don't then an older guy.

If you want children, a mature grounded guy would be preferable....

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No doubt. That's all I ask for. But not so easy anymore.

See I am the single no kids type. Everyone around me has kids and or getting divorced or wants fwb with me. So it's tough. And I'm not in a hurry I'm 34 so people rush and rush and in over here if it's meant to be great if not great too. I can adopt kids or animals.

I'm an grounded type of person too that has no kids never married. I So no bullshit early on lay everything down so I can plan accordingly and take appropriate measures or actions. I got ballz. But I still am cautious.

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Posted by Pnmee
10-15 years is max for me

I am 13 years his senior.

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I think in this case age is not an issue if you guys have that understanding that it's nothing more than companionship . You could learn a lot from people a different stages in life. The age difference is a bonus .

I do believe in age and time. With age we do take in lots of things. (personally)..and I do believe there is a time for everything.

This is a personal view though.

It has nothing to do with valuing young or old just because of age. Respect everyone.

Posted by RumiL
I do believe in age and time. With age we do take in lots of things. (personally)..and I do believe there is a time for everything.

This is a personal view though.

It has nothing to do with valuing young or old just because of age. Respect everyone.

I feel the older you are you must be more experienced, with someone younger they must be less experienced. Why not find someone in between to learn and grow around the same age. That way the whole marriage and kids problems and solutions are solved and believe me I asked these types of questions. Haha.

Thank you for all the responses! Friendship and sexy time is what I want atm, but if it grows into something else on his accord, then I will tread lightly. I won't disregard love if it happens just because of a #. But like I mentioned before, I can tell that he has a good head on his shoulders, is successful and driven, and to me, that points to maturity. Not to say that he couldn't be a player, but I wouldn't know if I don't give him a chance. And because of my last "relationship" with a younger Cancer boy, I know now what to look out for. I refuse to be played again!

1 or 2 yrs younger might be ok depending on the person but that is irrelevant now.

My age is too young. Minimum 2 years older and up

Posted by Arielle83
I've got a 20 year old Pisces on my ass at work.

I just want zac efron though!

As to who though would you compare Zac Efron to? At that age group..he' hot.

10 years younger is my max. Age is nothing but a number to a certain extent. For example: it's not just a number when you take in a 23 yr old to live with you that has mother abandonment issues (she left when he was a kid & never came back) to live with you in your small apartment at the age of 46, then proceed to act like his mother & sleep with him at the same time. Disgusting. I draw the line there... His father kicked him out btw. They didn't move into the apartment as a couple & weren't a couple to begin with... His actual mother is 42 and they are still living together. SMH