I've finally gotten the answers I've been looking for!

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by LadyTate on Saturday, June 11, 2016 and has 23 replies.

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@LadyTate
10 Years

So for the last 2 days I've been avoiding talking to my cap interest. Well last night, he sends me a text asking if I was ok because he's worried about me. Saying it's not like me not to call or text him. I replied with all is fine. He then called and I didn't answer. He texts again asking if he did something wrong and asked me to call him so we can talk. So I let about an hr pass before I called him and on the 2nd ring he answered. Here's how the convo went:
Him: so what's wrong? Are u and the kids really ok? Do u need anything? What can I do? Me: no we're all fine. Him: well why haven't I heard from u the last 2 days? Me: I've been busy but umm... Phone contact works 2 ways. U didn't text me in those 2 days either. Him: well I don't want to disturb ur sleep or interrupt u at work so I wait for u to text or call me (he works overnight and sleeps most of the day). Me: well if u text me and I'm up I'll respond, if in sleep I'll reply to u later. So that's not an excuse. Him: I apologize beautiful. I'll contact u more but don't ever just leave me hanging like that not knowing if u and the kids are okay. Me: sorry... Didn't think u would worry so much. Him: why wouldn't I? I care about what happens to u and the kids. Y'all are like family to me. Me: family as in what? Step-Cousins? Or am I like a sister to u? Him: come on now... With the things u let me do to ur body, I could never consider u as a sister. Lol! Me: (with not a speck of laughter in my voice) oh really... So what do u consider me? Him: u won't stop until u hear it huh? Me: hear what? Him: do u really want me to say it that bad! Me: yes I need to hear u verbally tell me how u feel! I don't want to look at ur actions and assume how u feel. Hell! The way u are with me, ur that way with everyone! Ur always respectful, always willing to lend a helping hand, always make time for ur family, blah blah blah. Him: key word is family. The ppl I love. The same group of ppl I placed u and ur kids with. Me: so what does that mean? Him (laughing) that means u have a place in my....chest! Me: left side, right side, or middle? Him: I think it's positioned more in the middle. Right next to that thing that helps keep me alive. Me: so in other words, what u are saying is... U love me? Him: yes that's what I'm saying. I am in love with u! Me: now was that really that hard for u to say? Him: yes! Because now I feel u have full power over me. me: well come sit right next to me in the powerless club house because I've felt the same way since I admitted my feelings to u!

To sum it up... I got the answer I was looking and hoping for. When he comes home in a few weeks, he promised that we would further discuss our future and introducing the kids.

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@mzmee
20 Years1,000+ Posts

Didn't I tell yo mgwbdhnsfnhsfhn ass to fall back!!!!! I told you, that shit works like a charm.

Yaaaaassss!!! Nigga we made it!!! He's in love honey!!!

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@LadyTate
10 Years

Posted by mzmee
Didn't I tell yo mgwbdhnsfnhsfhn ass to fall back!!!!! I told you, that shit works like a charm.

Yaaaaassss!!! Nigga we made it!!! He's in love honey!!!

Lol... It def worked. Threw his ass in a panic real quick. God knows I was scared but I threw up that wall like if this doesn't get his attention then fuck it... Moving on!

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@LadyTate
10 Years

Posted by mzmee
Sometimes you gotta give them that space. If they really like you, they'll come around.

That is true. He admitted that he's scared as hell that things will change with me and him know that I know I'm his weakness. But like I told him, it'll only change for the better because now I can actually give him all of me and not hold back.

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@LadyTate
10 Years

Posted by Foreverloveme
Posted by LadyTate
So for the last 2 days I've been avoiding talking to my cap interest. Well last night, he sends me a text asking if I was ok because he's worried about me. Saying it's not like me not to call or text him. I replied with all is fine. He then called and I didn't answer. He texts again asking if he did something wrong and asked me to call him so we can talk. So I let about an hr pass before I called him and on the 2nd ring he answered. Here's how the convo went:
Him: so what's wrong? Are u and the kids really ok? Do u need anything? What can I do? Me: no we're all fine. Him: well why haven't I heard from u the last 2 days? Me: I've been busy but umm... Phone contact works 2 ways. U didn't text me in those 2 days either. Him: well I don't want to disturb ur sleep or interrupt u at work so I wait for u to text or call me (he works overnight and sleeps most of the day). Me: well if u text me and I'm up I'll respond, if in sleep I'll reply to u later. So that's not an excuse. Him: I apologize beautiful. I'll contact u more but don't ever just leave me hanging like that not knowing if u and the kids are okay. Me: sorry... Didn't think u would worry so much. Him: why wouldn't I? I care about what happens to u and the kids. Y'all are like family to me. Me: family as in what? Step-Cousins? Or am I like a sister to u? Him: come on now... With the things u let me do to ur body, I could never consider u as a sister. Lol! Me: (with not a speck of laughter in my voice) oh really... So what do u consider me? Him: u won't stop until u hear it huh? Me: hear what? Him: do u really want me to say it that bad! Me: yes I need to hear u verbally tell me how u feel! I don't want to look at ur actions and assume how u feel. Hell! The way u are with me, ur that way with everyone! Ur always respectful, always willing to lend a helping hand, always make time for ur family, blah blah blah. Him: key word is family. The ppl I love. The same group of ppl I placed u and ur kids with. Me: so what does that mean? Him (laughing) that means u have a place in my....chest! Me: left side, right side, or middle? Him: I think it's positioned more in the middle. Right next to that thing that helps keep me alive. Me: so in other words, what u are saying is... U love me? Him: yes that's what I'm saying. I am in love with u! Me: now was that really that hard for u to say? Him: yes! Because now I feel u have full power over me. me: well come sit right next to me in the powerless club house because I've felt the same way since I admitted my feelings to u!

To sum it up... I got the answer I was looking and hoping for. When he comes home in a few weeks, he promised that we would further discuss our future and introducing the kids.

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Lol love it! Congrats! I'm

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@LadyTate
10 Years

Posted by Skye
Posted by LadyTate
Him (laughing) that means u have a place in my....chest! Me: left side, right side, or middle? Him: I think it's positioned more in the middle. Right next to that thing that helps keep me alive. Me: so in other words, what u are saying is... U love me? Him: yes that's what I'm saying. I am in love with u! Me: now was that really that hard for u to say? Him: yes! Because now I feel u have full power over me. me: well come sit right next to me in the powerless club house because I've felt the same way since I admitted my feelings to u!

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How adorable. lol

He now feels vulnerable. 😄

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Ikr... 🙂

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@sultrykitty
11 Years5,000+ Posts

Knew it.

I wonder how many beautiful relationships never get off the ground or end in bitterness because one (usually the woman) assumes that just because he isn't falling all over you or knocking down mountains to get to you means he doesn't have real feels.

Now on to phase 2; good for you.

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@prettyCap01
10 Years

Posted by LadyTate
So for the last 2 days I've been avoiding talking to my cap interest. Well last night, he sends me a text asking if I was ok because he's worried about me. Saying it's not like me not to call or text him. I replied with all is fine. He then called and I didn't answer. He texts again asking if he did something wrong and asked me to call him so we can talk. So I let about an hr pass before I called him and on the 2nd ring he answered. Here's how the convo went:
Him: so what's wrong? Are u and the kids really ok? Do u need anything? What can I do? Me: no we're all fine. Him: well why haven't I heard from u the last 2 days? Me: I've been busy but umm... Phone contact works 2 ways. U didn't text me in those 2 days either. Him: well I don't want to disturb ur sleep or interrupt u at work so I wait for u to text or call me (he works overnight and sleeps most of the day). Me: well if u text me and I'm up I'll respond, if in sleep I'll reply to u later. So that's not an excuse. Him: I apologize beautiful. I'll contact u more but don't ever just leave me hanging like that not knowing if u and the kids are okay. Me: sorry... Didn't think u would worry so much. Him: why wouldn't I? I care about what happens to u and the kids. Y'all are like family to me. Me: family as in what? Step-Cousins? Or am I like a sister to u? Him: come on now... With the things u let me do to ur body, I could never consider u as a sister. Lol! Me: (with not a speck of laughter in my voice) oh really... So what do u consider me? Him: u won't stop until u hear it huh? Me: hear what? Him: do u really want me to say it that bad! Me: yes I need to hear u verbally tell me how u feel! I don't want to look at ur actions and assume how u feel. Hell! The way u are with me, ur that way with everyone! Ur always respectful, always willing to lend a helping hand, always make time for ur family, blah blah blah. Him: key word is family. The ppl I love. The same group of ppl I placed u and ur kids with. Me: so what does that mean? Him (laughing) that means u have a place in my....chest! Me: left side, right side, or middle? Him: I think it's positioned more in the middle. Right next to that thing that helps keep me alive. Me: so in other words, what u are saying is... U love me? Him: yes that's what I'm saying. I am in love with u! Me: now was that really that hard for u to say? Him: yes! Because now I feel u have full power over me. me: well come sit right next to me in the powerless club house because I've felt the same way since I admitted my feelings to u!

To sum it up... I got the answer I was looking and hoping for. When he comes home in a few weeks, he promised that we would further discuss our future and introducing the kids.

Lovely to hear such stories..all the best and dont loose him , i think he is such a sweety..considering that he doesnt think of u only but

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@LadyTate
10 Years

Posted by sultrykitty
Knew it.

I wonder how many beautiful relationships never get off the ground or end in bitterness because one (usually the woman) assumes that just because he isn't falling all over you or knocking down mountains to get to you means he doesn't have real feels.

Now on to phase 2; good for you.

I was about to be one of those woman because I was really about to walk away. Had he not initiated contact I would've thrilled up the deuces and walked away.