@LadyTate
10 Years
update #2... I don't think my cap is interested. Woman's intuition.
Understanding Women's Intuition in Relationships
Women's intuition often guides feelings about a man's interest and intentions. If you feel overly controlled or addicted, it may signal emotional imbalance or red flags. Trusting your instincts and setting boundaries can help clarify genuine interest versus unhealthy attachment.
But what is wrong with just being swept away and enjoying the ride? Why not reach the shore and get a little grounded in time when it happens? Why pull away? Life's too short to not hold on to love.
I am no familiar with your story, so forgive me if I misunderstand.
Posted by LillyPetal
But what is wrong with just being swept away and enjoying the ride? Why not reach the shore and get a little grounded in time when it happens? Why pull away? Life's too short to not hold on to love.I am no familiar with your story, so forgive me if I misunderstand.
1... I have NEVER EVER met a man that has ever had me feeling out of control as he does.
2... I NEED direction as to where "we" are going. I can not follow blindly for too long.
3... I used to being in control
4... This is not a known feeling for me
5... I tend to be very weary when my feelings are involved.
Quick background. I'm involved with a man and I don't know his true feelings for me. We started off as FWB but when I started having feelings, I cut off the sex to just be friends BUT... I'm still madly head over hills with him.
What is your sign?
Posted by TaurusBull1977
What is your sign?
Scorpio
Posted by TaurusBull1977
What is your sign?Scorpio
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Are u going to read me? Lol...
Posted by AriesLove
Yes when you are always wondering and asking questions that is usually a sign.It's always nice to hear a man tell you how much they want to be with you and only you versus you asking for a commitment or where the relationship is going.
When it comes to him talking about his feelings... It's like trying to cross The Great Wall of China. IMPOSSIBLE! But yes... It's nice to have verbal confirmation.
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>
Posted by AriesLove
Yes when you are always wondering and asking questions that is usually a sign.It's always nice to hear a man tell you how much they want to be with you and only you versus you asking for a commitment or where the relationship is going.
When it comes to him talking about his feelings... It's like trying to cross The Great Wall of China. IMPOSSIBLE! But yes... It's nice to have verbal confirmation.
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He was a fwb, now he's just friends. Talking about emotion and feelings is not in his contract.
Posted by DeedleFaerie
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>
what a Scorp and a Cap?
If you've pondered on it all this time and it's not to your liking, you gotta change something.
Posted by mzmee
If you've pondered on it all this time and it's not to your liking, you gotta change something.
Oh I am... I can't do the "unknown" I'm done. Number blocked, moving on...
Posted by DeedleFaerie
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>what a Scorp and a Cap?
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Yes.
Posted by tiziani
Why obsess about his feelings? You'll never understand them and it just makes awkward when you ignore everything else the relationship has to offer by getting tunnel vision for the emotional side. Obviously feeling something new is very understandable and you should prioritise that within yourself, not within him.
Yep... Sounds great but I can't stick around.
Posted by DeedleFaerie
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>what a Scorp and a Cap?
Yes.
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I've heard great things about a Cap and a Scorp but I'm kind of leaning towards ur perspective. Lol
Posted by AriesLove
Yes when you are always wondering and asking questions that is usually a sign.It's always nice to hear a man tell you how much they want to be with you and only you versus you asking for a commitment or where the relationship is going.
When it comes to him talking about his feelings... It's like trying to cross The Great Wall of China. IMPOSSIBLE! But yes... It's nice to have verbal confirmation.
He was a fwb, now he's just friends. Talking about emotion and feelings is not in his contract.
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I know what the contract reads...
Posted by tiziani
Why obsess about his feelings? You'll never understand them and it just makes awkward when you ignore everything else the relationship has to offer by getting tunnel vision for the emotional side. Obviously feeling something new is very understandable and you should prioritise that within yourself, not within him.Yep... Sounds great but I can't stick around.
No one said you have to. Even after you're both gone, you'll still have to sort out your own feelings. The more time you spend focusing on his emotions, the more time you have to make up later on sorting yourself out. Doesn't matter whether he's in the picture or not.
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My cut off and forget about u game so strong... Give me a week, I'll forget u ever existed.
Posted by DeedleFaerie
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>what a Scorp and a Cap?
Yes.
I've heard great things about a Cap and a Scorp but I'm kind of leaning towards ur perspective. Lol
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There is absolutely no understanding between the two besides physical. xP
Posted by DeedleFaerie
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>what a Scorp and a Cap?
No it's a good pairing.
But when people have other factors...kids, work, distance they aren't as quick to jump into situations. They may view the relationship as another obligation rather than an advantage.
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Well nothing more for him to consider here. I'm so not for the hot, cold, maybe so type of ppl.
Posted by tiziani
Why obsess about his feelings? You'll never understand them and it just makes awkward when you ignore everything else the relationship has to offer by getting tunnel vision for the emotional side. Obviously feeling something new is very understandable and you should prioritise that within yourself, not within him.Yep... Sounds great but I can't stick around.
No one said you have to. Even after you're both gone, you'll still have to sort out your own feelings. The more time you spend focusing on his emotions, the more time you have to make up later on sorting yourself out. Doesn't matter whether he's in the picture or not.
My cut off and forget about u game so strong... Give me a week, I'll forget u ever existed.
I don't know how old you are but this is what you said
Posted by LadyTate
4... This is not a known feeling for meGood luck with that in a week's time. That's all I have to say. Neither he nor anyone else is going to deal with it for you.
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For me to be this "into" a person is not a known feeling. Me forgetting about a person within a weeks time, has happened. So that I know I'm capable of. And I'm not asking for anyone to deal with anything for me.
Posted by tiziani
Why obsess about his feelings? You'll never understand them and it just makes awkward when you ignore everything else the relationship has to offer by getting tunnel vision for the emotional side. Obviously feeling something new is very understandable and you should prioritise that within yourself, not within him.Yep... Sounds great but I can't stick around.
No one said you have to. Even after you're both gone, you'll still have to sort out your own feelings. The more time you spend focusing on his emotions, the more time you have to make up later on sorting yourself out. Doesn't matter whether he's in the picture or not.
My cut off and forget about u game so strong... Give me a week, I'll forget u ever existed.
I don't know how old you are but this is what you said
Posted by LadyTate
4... This is not a known feeling for meGood luck with that in a week's time. That's all I have to say. Neither he nor anyone else is going to deal with it for you.
For me to be this "into" a person is not a known feeling. Me forgetting about a person within a weeks time, has happened. So that I know I'm capable of. And I'm not asking for anyone to deal with anything for me.
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Oh and I'm 33
"I don't think he's interested.... woman intuition.... I HAVE NEVER PUT THIS MUCH THOUGHT INTO A MAN... so addicted.... I have to keep snapping myself back into reality!.... I'm a Scorpio...."
Warning, warning...
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Posted by tiziani
You've never known this feeling before yet you know what you're capable of... I see.
Ok... Let me further break this down...
Have I ever met someone at any point in my life and later forgot they existed? Yes!
Have I ever had feelings like this for someone? No!
So... with that being clarified... Am I capable of forgetting someone exists? Yes... Please refer to example stated in my breakdown above. That is how I know what I am capable of.
Posted by tiziani
Why obsess about his feelings? You'll never understand them and it just makes awkward when you ignore everything else the relationship has to offer by getting tunnel vision for the emotional side. Obviously feeling something new is very understandable and you should prioritise that within yourself, not within him.Yep... Sounds great but I can't stick around.
No one said you have to. Even after you're both gone, you'll still have to sort out your own feelings. The more time you spend focusing on his emotions, the more time you have to make up later on sorting yourself out. Doesn't matter whether he's in the picture or not.
My cut off and forget about u game so strong... Give me a week, I'll forget u ever existed.
You are so full of it....lol
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Think so... Lol
Posted by DeedleFaerie
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>what a Scorp and a Cap?
Yes.
I've heard great things about a Cap and a Scorp but I'm kind of leaning towards ur perspective. Lol
There is absolutely no understanding between the two besides physical. xP
You are full of it too...not in a funny way like the OP but in a not so nice way....as you are a cancer married to a cap while flirting with scorpio men online.
You might be a stellar multi tasker though.
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So u mean to tell me, @deedlefaerie is married and flirting online? Tsk, tsk... Shame in u! Lol
Posted by ElleDuMonde
I am just going to watch your story unfold. I don't have anything else and won't give you are hard time (even though it's fun 😛)
Honestly... I'm bored as shit and had nothing better to do but post some BS online and start a ruckus. Lol. All in fun though.
I have a platonic Scorpio friend irl. :B
Posted by tiziani
You've never known this feeling before yet you know what you're capable of... I see.Ok... Let me further break this down...
Have I ever met someone at any point in my life and later forgot they existed? Yes!
Have I ever had feelings like this for someone? No!
So... with that being clarified... Am I capable of forgetting someone exists? Yes... Please refer to example stated in my breakdown above. That is how I know what I am capable of.Lol And yet there's still the matter of your feelings.
I'll stop it here because I'm coming off real condescending right now, but I just don't understand why so many women come here and look to a man's feelings as permission to then begin exploring her own.
But I really don't know what I'm talking about, honestly.
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I'll deal with those later... Them lil demons don't listen. I told there asses not to get involved. That they would mess everything up and look at this shit now.
Posted by DeedleFaerie
I have a platonic Scorpio friend irl. :B
A little late night keyboard stroking... I see u boo
Posted by Ryoko
What are your moon and rising signs (out of curiosity)And do you know his?
I have to go back and find that post about my signs. Give me a sec to go thru my old threads. Lol
Posted by Ryoko
What are your moon and rising signs (out of curiosity)And do you know his?
I have to go back and find that post about my signs. Give me a sec to go thru my old threads. Lol
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Posted by ElleDuMonde
Is someone screwing with me?
I am
Scorp sun
Aries moon
Sag merc
Libra venus
...but mars in virgo
Posted by ElleDuMonde
@TizianiI don't think you are being condescending at all.
click to expandI don't know what it's like to be a woman so after a while it's not my place. Every so often actually you will say things that remind me not to go overboard, that everyone is individual.
You can't control a male cap. If he is silent he's working it out internally and has to. I'm not a cap but it's my moon. Paranoia could either be real or from your admission to being more used to having control.
How often do you see him? Some time apart may help both of you clear your heads a little. Sounds like he hasn't figured it out yet but does think on it if I go by what you said in your last topic about him. I think he would have combusted by now and been completely unavailable from your pressing him if he had no conflict of emotions for you. Either way maybe clear your head regardless of what comes next, because it may be making it harder for him to sort it out.. Which means longer for you to know anything. If he does then it should be much easier to get communication from there on out…
If you're done then you're done. I don't think so though.. A person who has control of their emotions by nature needs to know it's safe.
Posted by tiziani
"Holy shit that Gemini Moon just stole my feelings!""What about the ones left, here...."
"I checked. They're all counterfeit."
It's a real thing.
It's only funny if everyone can laugh and I don't get it... ?!
Posted by ElleDuMonde
@TizianiI don't think you are being condescending at all.
I don't know what it's like to be a woman so after a while it's not my place. Every so often actually you will say things that remind me not to go overboard, that everyone is individual.
What is your moon?
I think Aries Moon. That would probably explain her anxiety and impatience. Aries Moon people are way more nervous and impatient then Aries Sun.
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That must explain why I'm able to cut ppl off and move on so quick? It's that damn impatient Aries moon in me.
Posted by tiziani
"Holy shit that Gemini Moon just stole my feelings!""What about the ones left, here...."
"I checked. They're all counterfeit."
It's a real thing.
It's only funny if everyone can laugh and I don't get it... ?!
Let's give it a week.
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Ok and when I come back and I'm still confused, u promise to explain? Lol😉
Posted by ElleDuMonde
@TizianiI don't think you are being condescending at all.
I don't know what it's like to be a woman so after a while it's not my place. Every so often actually you will say things that remind me not to go overboard, that everyone is individual.
What is your moon?
I think Aries Moon. That would probably explain her anxiety and impatience. Aries Moon people are way more nervous and impatient then Aries Sun.
That must explain why I'm able to cut ppl off and move on so quick? It's that damn impatient Aries moon in me.
I'm dating a Leo Sun Aries Moon...talk about impatient and egotistical. He smokes cigarettes like crazy to calm his nerves eww! But he works so hard and doesn't sleep much. But everything has to be Right Now!
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Well I don't smoke or have any "calming down" habits. I just get impatient and hate waiting on others.
Posted by ElleDuMonde
@TizianiI don't think you are being condescending at all.
I don't know what it's like to be a woman so after a while it's not my place. Every so often actually you will say things that remind me not to go overboard, that everyone is individual.
What is your moon?
I think Aries Moon. That would probably explain her anxiety and impatience. Aries Moon people are way more nervous and impatient then Aries Sun.
That must explain why I'm able to cut ppl off and move on so quick? It's that damn impatient Aries moon in me.
I'm an aries moon but sometimes I can't move on. Depends on the person and if there's closure rather than false hope.
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I've never found it hard for me to cut ppl off once I made up my mind that I'm over them or the situation.
Posted by ElleDuMonde
@TizianiI don't think you are being condescending at all.
I don't know what it's like to be a woman so after a while it's not my place. Every so often actually you will say things that remind me not to go overboard, that everyone is individual.
What is your moon?
I think Aries Moon. That would probably explain her anxiety and impatience. Aries Moon people are way more nervous and impatient then Aries Sun.
That must explain why I'm able to cut ppl off and move on so quick? It's that damn impatient Aries moon in me.
I'm dating a Leo Sun Aries Moon...talk about impatient and egotistical. He smokes cigarettes like crazy to calm his nerves eww! But he works so hard and doesn't sleep much. But everything has to be Right Now!
Well I don't smoke or have any "calming down" habits. I just get impatient and hate waiting on others.
Yes that's how he is. Everything is in the Now. He thinks I'm playing games cuz I move at my own pace. Oh well, he's always on time and always about his word.
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I'm always about my word but all that being on time... Umm... Depends on if I want to do it or not. If I'm not whole heartedly into it, I will procrastinate until I can't procrastinate anymore.
Posted by ElleDuMonde
@TizianiI don't think you are being condescending at all.
I don't know what it's like to be a woman so after a while it's not my place. Every so often actually you will say things that remind me not to go overboard, that everyone is individual.
What is your moon?
I think Aries Moon. That would probably explain her anxiety and impatience. Aries Moon people are way more nervous and impatient then Aries Sun.
That must explain why I'm able to cut ppl off and move on so quick? It's that damn impatient Aries moon in me.
I'm dating a Leo Sun Aries Moon...talk about impatient and egotistical. He smokes cigarettes like crazy to calm his nerves eww! But he works so hard and doesn't sleep much. But everything has to be Right Now!
Well I don't smoke or have any "calming down" habits. I just get impatient and hate waiting on others.
Yes that's how he is. Everything is in the Now. He thinks I'm playing games cuz I move at my own pace. Oh well, he's always on time and always about his word.
I'm always about my word but all that being on time... Umm... Depends on if I want to do it or not. If I'm not whole heartedly into it, I will procrastinate until I can't procrastinate anymore.
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But I will tell I up front that I'm not interested in whatever it is. So I don't leave no one blindsided.
Aries moon? Make sure you won't double think your decision later. Personal experience. 🙂
Posted by ElleDuMonde
@TizianiI don't think you are being condescending at all.
I don't know what it's like to be a woman so after a while it's not my place. Every so often actually you will say things that remind me not to go overboard, that everyone is individual.
What is your moon?
I think Aries Moon. That would probably explain her anxiety and impatience. Aries Moon people are way more nervous and impatient then Aries Sun.
That must explain why I'm able to cut ppl off and move on so quick? It's that damn impatient Aries moon in me.
I'm an aries moon but sometimes I can't move on. Depends on the person and if there's closure rather than false hope.
I've never found it hard for me to cut ppl off once I made up my mind that I'm over them or the situation.
This i can do--once I've made my choice and i cut off all contact. But if there's false hope involved and no closure then i can't cut that person off because there's no reason to cut off a person who hasn't actually been mean to me. It's this middle ground that makes it difficult. A limbo.
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what do u mean by false hope?
Posted by AriElla7
Aries moon? Make sure you won't double think your decision later. Personal experience. 🙂
I may... but the stubborn Scorpio in me won't let me act on it.
I told you he's full of shit.
Your other thread was pissing me off just from the other silly twits responding with super seeeekrit made up woman code that his douche response meant more. Make excuses and reasons for something you should have been wtf over.
If he was into you, he wouldn't have given you that douche response. It was totally evasive and flighty. It does NOT matter what sign a guy is. If he is into you, he has NO problem admitting that or acknowledging that there is something significant between you two.
You're going to run into doormat, silly bitches on this shit that perpetuate mythical information that there's some grey area where he REALLY means.... or because he's X sign that means you should coddle bullshit responses.
Dumb bitches here use astrology as justification to tolerate bullshit. Don't be one of those dumb bitches.
Btw, if we're going to fixate on Caps, this is a fucking red flag. I've been there, done that with this sign. They aren't known for being the users of the zodiac for no reason. Again, they're either into you for sure or they aren't. If you have to question, they aren't. That goes for anyone with a penis in this situation.
Posted by DeedleFaerie
Not a good pairing.Trust me...... >____>what a Scorp and a Cap?
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NOPE. Toxic shit right there.
Posted by LadyTate
So first let me say... I HAVE NEVER PUT THIS MUCH THOUGHT INTO A MAN! What gives? Wtf is it about him that has me so addicted?!This man has absolute control over me when I'm in his presence or when I hear his voice! It's like he has a trance over me! I have never... I mean never been this caught up in a man.
When I talk/text him... I have to keep snapping myself back into reality! I have it bad and It scared the hell out of me. I think it's time for me to pull away and get my head together. This man CAN NOT have this type of control over me! Smh...
Wrong title but oh'well...
Are you a cancer rising or Scorpio moon?
Posted by TaurusBull1977
What is your sign?Scorpio
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Ah so Scorpio sun... I cannot say anything. I understand how you feel!
But..relax a little.. As much as I (as Scorpio moon) love being taken away, I'm very much scared of it too. I keep saying to myself "come back here- be realistic!". Especially when I'm not sure I will marry him! ...
How long have you been with him?? I think over the years you may enjoy losing yourself into him..
It takes time to feel comfortable with how you are feeling. It's normal according to me... But don't worry, enjoy and relax a little 😄
Posted by TaurusBull1977
What is your sign?Scorpio
Ah so Scorpio sun... I cannot say anything. I understand how you feel!
But..relax a little.. As much as I (as Scorpio moon) love being taken away, I'm very much scared of it too. I keep saying to myself "come back here- be realistic!". Especially when I'm not sure I will marry him! ...
How long have you been with him?? I think over the years you may enjoy losing yourself into him..
It takes time to feel comfortable with how you are feeling. It's normal according to me... But don't worry, enjoy and relax a little 😄
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It's def a scary feeling. But I've been knowing him almost a year now.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
What is your sign?Scorpio
Ah so Scorpio sun... I cannot say anything. I understand how you feel!
But..relax a little.. As much as I (as Scorpio moon) love being taken away, I'm very much scared of it too. I keep saying to myself "come back here- be realistic!". Especially when I'm not sure I will marry him! ...
How long have you been with him?? I think over the years you may enjoy losing yourself into him..
It takes time to feel comfortable with how you are feeling. It's normal according to me... But don't worry, enjoy and relax a little 😄
It's def a scary feeling. But I've known him almost a year now.
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Fixed.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
What is your sign?Scorpio
Ah so Scorpio sun... I cannot say anything. I understand how you feel!
But..relax a little.. As much as I (as Scorpio moon) love being taken away, I'm very much scared of it too. I keep saying to myself "come back here- be realistic!". Especially when I'm not sure I will marry him! ...
How long have you been with him?? I think over the years you may enjoy losing yourself into him..
It takes time to feel comfortable with how you are feeling. It's normal according to me... But don't worry, enjoy and relax a little 😄
It's def a scary feeling. But I've known him almost a year now.
Fixed.
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Thanks for the grammar lesson 🙂 but both are actually grammatically correct. I'm just "wordy" in my writing.
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So first let me say... I HAVE NEVER PUT THIS MUCH THOUGHT INTO A MAN! What gives? Wtf is it about him that has me so addicted?!
This man has absolute control over me when I'm in his presence or when I hear his voice! It's like he has a trance over me! I have never... I mean never been this caught up in a man.
When I talk/text him... I have to keep snapping myself back into reality! I have it bad and It scared the hell out of me. I think it's time for me to pull away and get my head together. This man CAN NOT have this type of control over me! Smh...
Wrong title but oh'well...