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Boundaries in relationships
Setting Boundaries in Relationships for Respect and Clarity
Boundaries define acceptable behavior and protect emotional well-being. Recognizing and communicating limits helps maintain respect and trust. If boundaries are crossed repeatedly, it may indicate incompatibility. Understanding each other's true selves can prevent ongoing hurt and foster healthier relationships.
It really is If You Give a Mouse a Cookie.
I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go.
was resistant to this school of thought for some time coz i want to believe in progress/improvement but it's actually pretty rare for people to truly change. partly why i'm very forgiving. i mean it happens but usually as a last resort or when something drastic happens to them. even when they get older, adjustments are made simply to cloak what they've always been like.
Crossing the line as in cheating? To me crossing the line like you is extreme. I’d have a talk about it and set boundaries and if they aren’t adhered too then yeah, deal breaker.
Showing up to someone’s unannounced? A partner or someone you’ve been on a date with? Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Crossing the line? 🤣
It’s common sense that there are things in life one should not do to a partner. Cheating, abusing, disrespecting, etc.
However, some have “boundaries” that nobody would have guessed! Such boundaries often make a hill out of a mole, and are attempts to keep the other person at arm length or control them in some way. When they are manifestations of a deranged, intolerant personality, most people will call them personal issues, not boundaries!
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
You will miss a lot of learning by being all square and dead-set on your principles. Not saying you should compromise those intentionally, but with the right person, it may happen..
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
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You know whats crazy— Thats the exact relationship that made me this way. A karmic one. You spoke my thought out loud buy thats wild to me to see someone say this. Because even today, it gets past walls it shouldnt but I wouldnt be this person without going thru what I went thru with her. Its changed me alot but pushed me spiritually in the right direction. It definitely changed us both and sadly its a bond I can never detach myself from. Never entertain it ever but its a part of me that will never disappear and always changes me.
You will miss a lot of learning by being all square and dead-set on your principles. Not saying you should compromise those intentionally, but with the right person, it may happen..
Naw naw you right bro. Im still learning. I guess my new foundation is settting boundaries because when I didnt alotta shit happened
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
You know whats crazy— Thats the exact relationship that made me this way. A karmic one. You spoke my thought out loud buy thats wild to me to see someone say this. Because even today, it gets past walls it shouldnt but I wouldnt be this person without going thru what I went thru with her. Its changed me alot but pushed me spiritually in the right direction. It definitely changed us both and sadly its a bond I can never detach myself from. Never entertain it ever but its a part of me that will never disappear and always changes me.
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I can't speak for anyone else really, you have to determine for yourself if it was a good or bad "destructive/regenerating " relationship.
A pinpoint is if you can remember the bad times with a smile on your face cuz it was with this person, those bad times probably served a constructive purpose and it was a positively charged karmic bond despite all.
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
You know whats crazy— Thats the exact relationship that made me this way. A karmic one. You spoke my thought out loud buy thats wild to me to see someone say this. Because even today, it gets past walls it shouldnt but I wouldnt be this person without going thru what I went thru with her. Its changed me alot but pushed me spiritually in the right direction. It definitely changed us both and sadly its a bond I can never detach myself from. Never entertain it ever but its a part of me that will never disappear and always changes me.
I can't speak for anyone else really, you have to determine for yourself if it was a good or bad "destructive/regenerating " relationship.
A pinpoint is if you can remember the bad times with a smile on your face cuz it was with this person, those bad times probably served a constructive purpose and it was a positively charged karmic bond despite all.
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Its ongoing so maybe Ill know in the end. Its been both I can say that. You a wise dude!!!
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
You know whats crazy— Thats the exact relationship that made me this way. A karmic one. You spoke my thought out loud buy thats wild to me to see someone say this. Because even today, it gets past walls it shouldnt but I wouldnt be this person without going thru what I went thru with her. Its changed me alot but pushed me spiritually in the right direction. It definitely changed us both and sadly its a bond I can never detach myself from. Never entertain it ever but its a part of me that will never disappear and always changes me.
I can't speak for anyone else really, you have to determine for yourself if it was a good or bad "destructive/regenerating " relationship.
A pinpoint is if you can remember the bad times with a smile on your face cuz it was with this person, those bad times probably served a constructive purpose and it was a positively charged karmic bond despite all.
Its ongoing so maybe Ill know in the end. Its been both I can say that. You a wise dude!!!
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Yeah I didn't know it while it was ongoing either so it's a personal process. But dont listen to me cuz maybe you looking for reasons to remain in a destructive relationship and wind up chewed up on the other side. Most destructive relationship are probably just that
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
You know whats crazy— Thats the exact relationship that made me this way. A karmic one. You spoke my thought out loud buy thats wild to me to see someone say this. Because even today, it gets past walls it shouldnt but I wouldnt be this person without going thru what I went thru with her. Its changed me alot but pushed me spiritually in the right direction. It definitely changed us both and sadly its a bond I can never detach myself from. Never entertain it ever but its a part of me that will never disappear and always changes me.
I can't speak for anyone else really, you have to determine for yourself if it was a good or bad "destructive/regenerating " relationship.
A pinpoint is if you can remember the bad times with a smile on your face cuz it was with this person, those bad times probably served a constructive purpose and it was a positively charged karmic bond despite all.
Its ongoing so maybe Ill know in the end. Its been both I can say that. You a wise dude!!!
Yeah I didn't know it while it was ongoing either so it's a personal process. But dont listen to me cuz maybe you looking for reasons to remain in a destructive relationship and wind up chewed up on the other side. Most destructive relationship are probably just that
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Lol naw man I gotta co parent with her. We been over for 4 years. We just always clash and Im always forced to change to deal with her. I just didnt wanna come out and say all that but yea I gotta deal with her til he graduates at least.
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
So you don`t believe people will not doing something again if they apologize?
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
You know whats crazy— Thats the exact relationship that made me this way. A karmic one. You spoke my thought out loud buy thats wild to me to see someone say this. Because even today, it gets past walls it shouldnt but I wouldnt be this person without going thru what I went thru with her. Its changed me alot but pushed me spiritually in the right direction. It definitely changed us both and sadly its a bond I can never detach myself from. Never entertain it ever but its a part of me that will never disappear and always changes me.
I can't speak for anyone else really, you have to determine for yourself if it was a good or bad "destructive/regenerating " relationship.
A pinpoint is if you can remember the bad times with a smile on your face cuz it was with this person, those bad times probably served a constructive purpose and it was a positively charged karmic bond despite all.
Its ongoing so maybe Ill know in the end. Its been both I can say that. You a wise dude!!!
Yeah I didn't know it while it was ongoing either so it's a personal process. But dont listen to me cuz maybe you looking for reasons to remain in a destructive relationship and wind up chewed up on the other side. Most destructive relationship are probably just that
Lol naw man I gotta co parent with her. We been over for 4 years. We just always clash and Im always forced to change to deal with her. I just didnt wanna come out and say all that but yea I gotta deal with her til he graduates at least.
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If it’s about co parenting then you do what is best for your kids only. Forget the conflict or at least try not to let it affect your judgement. Hold those values no matter how erratic the other party is and can be. It might not feel like your getting anywhere at the time but the children will figure it out in time.
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
Yeah all of those are just words. I was like that too... until you meet someone who tears that wall of principles down. I'm not talking about being in an abusive relationship, but rather a karmic one: dealing with someone whose fucked up matches yet oposses yours.
One has something the other one doesn't and vice versa, you clash but in a way that makes you grow and leave your comfort zone, tearing you down - even destructively so- in order to regenerate and you come out the other side a better person, knowing well what u just went through was fucked up, but bc it's this person, thinking back on it you can only remember it with a smile on your face like, those were good times.
Bc you know that person can't hurt you, they are not evil spirits, there is a sort of karmic trust there.
You know whats crazy— Thats the exact relationship that made me this way. A karmic one. You spoke my thought out loud buy thats wild to me to see someone say this. Because even today, it gets past walls it shouldnt but I wouldnt be this person without going thru what I went thru with her. Its changed me alot but pushed me spiritually in the right direction. It definitely changed us both and sadly its a bond I can never detach myself from. Never entertain it ever but its a part of me that will never disappear and always changes me.
I can't speak for anyone else really, you have to determine for yourself if it was a good or bad "destructive/regenerating " relationship.
A pinpoint is if you can remember the bad times with a smile on your face cuz it was with this person, those bad times probably served a constructive purpose and it was a positively charged karmic bond despite all.
Its ongoing so maybe Ill know in the end. Its been both I can say that. You a wise dude!!!
Yeah I didn't know it while it was ongoing either so it's a personal process. But dont listen to me cuz maybe you looking for reasons to remain in a destructive relationship and wind up chewed up on the other side. Most destructive relationship are probably just that
Lol naw man I gotta co parent with her. We been over for 4 years. We just always clash and Im always forced to change to deal with her. I just didnt wanna come out and say all that but yea I gotta deal with her til he graduates at least.
If it’s about co parenting then you do what is best for your kids only. Forget the conflict or at least try not to let it affect your judgement. Hold those values no matter how erratic the other party is and can be. It might not feel like your getting anywhere at the time but the children will figure it out in time.
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Real talk!!!
I’m like this after a person plows through my boundaries and runs over them about 5 or 6 times. Then I know for sure that they are that person who doesn’t respect me.
But I do give them a chance to see if they will change. They just usually don’t. Sometimes I’m ok with small boundaries being ignored. Big ones, I’m not.
I don’t have advice, I don’t have children. But something tells me you are the best dad that can be for your son. You always talk about him with so much love and care. 💙 👨👦
So heartwarming to read!
Don’t forget to take care of yourself too 🤗
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
So you don`t believe people will not doing something again if they apologize?
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It depends on what they are apologizing for. If its something major then I just rather cut ties. Some thing sorry cant fix.
I don’t have advice, I don’t have children. But something tells me you are the best dad that can be for your son. You always talk about him with so much love and care. 💙 👨👦
So heartwarming to read!
Don’t forget to take care of yourself too 🤗
Damn I appreciate that! He is definitely my world!! Thanks for that fr!
...Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
....it's like buying car insurance after you've wrecked the car.
People that lack respect for you or your relationship will cross your boundaries regardless of when you've state them or not. If you didn't have boundaries to begin with, well that's a whole other issue.
Boundaries are more about the person setting them than the person(s) that cross/violate them.
Depends on the boundaries. Turning up at my house unannounced is a boundary for me, but one I can forgive for example.
Do you invite them in or ignore the knock at the door?
Crossing the line? 🤣
Grounds for divorce....!!!
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
So you don`t believe people will not doing something again if they apologize?
It depends on what they are apologizing for. If its something major then I just rather cut ties. Some thing sorry cant fix.
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I agree some stuff is just too big to just let it slide. Sometimes I discover a flaw and its just so egregious that it`s impossible to unsee it.
Crossing the line? 🤣
Grounds for divorce....!!!
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Crossing the line? 🤣
sometimes i put some food on the guy's plate. is that like a gross thing? they eat it tho so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
last time i did it was in an indian restaurant when i ordered a beef dish on a date with the leo (he had chicken) and i was just piling beef on his plate and he didn't complain, just kept eating.
you are saying truths, one time a snake bite you it will bite again. Only if it is defang or remove from you that it cannot bite but it will still give try. Same as persons who say sorry it is still in them to cross the boundary.
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
yeah true, but sometimes boundaries are unknowingly crossed...with good communication, it will be okay. When the boundary crossing is continuous though
..I move on. My fiance and I communicate a lot and it helps. With friendships, I've learned sometimes people just don't "get it", and the longest lasting friendships that I have are because there is that sense of mutual understanding from the beginning. I had this one aries sun/moon combo (I'm aries sun/cap moon) acquaintance that was nice at first, but she felt entitled to always cross boundaries and when there was a gentle, yet polite boundary set, she would question it, almost to make me feel like what I said was nonsensical. I cut my ties with her (no falling out or anything, just kept saying "I'm busy").
can you give some examples?
i have no idea. it all depends who, when, and why.
I think we all have different boundaires. So just as a whole what is ultimately unacceptable.
For me habitual liars. Means I cant trust you at all.
Thieves for obvious reasons
Ppl who bring me gossip. Hate it because they are usually the "dont tell anyone I told you this" type and always bring a bone back while carrying one to you.
Disrespect. No sir. Ill fight a mf before I let that go. No real friendship/relationship can form as this as the basis.
Manipulators. Cant do it. Been friends with em and they always lead you to mf traps. They improvise so no real plan is created until you show up. Sounds fun until you knee deep in bullshit at 1am.
As for relationships, I think its obvious that being inviting or cheating is a no go. Im not the type to tell a person stop what they are doing to be with me. I simply take note and end it. If youre comfortable flirting and giving your number out then obviously im not the guy for the job. And Im not about to tell you to stop when youll just do it behind my back. You free now.
I know communcation is key but WHO you communicating with makes a worlds of difference
can you give some examples?
i have no idea. it all depends who, when, and why.
I think we all have different boundaires. So just as a whole what is ultimately unacceptable.
For me habitual liars. Means I cant trust you at all.
Thieves for obvious reasons
Ppl who bring me gossip. Hate it because they are usually the "dont tell anyone I told you this" type and always bring a bone back while carrying one to you.
Disrespect. No sir. Ill fight a mf before I let that go. No real friendship/relationship can form as this as the basis.
Manipulators. Cant do it. Been friends with em and they always lead you to mf traps. They improvise so no real plan is created until you show up. Sounds fun until you knee deep in bullshit at 1am.
As for relationships, I think its obvious that being inviting or cheating is a no go. Im not the type to tell a person stop what they are doing to be with me. I simply take note and end it. If youre comfortable flirting and giving your number out then obviously im not the guy for the job. And Im not about to tell you to stop when youll just do it behind my back. You free now.
I know communcation is key but WHO you communicating with makes a worlds of difference
ok, but i wouldn't call that boundaries. those examples are something no one wants to deal with. i don't like gossip as well.
when it comes to disrespect, we are different and yes "normal" ppl can overcome it through communication.
but then again life and ppl are not that simple. idk really lol. as i'm getting older i'm becoming less and less opinionated.
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You said some good stuff there! As Im getting older, My tolerance for certain things are going down. I guess I see it as boundaries because thats where I put a stop to things and usually get a lil angry. Those are things I feel like need to be addressed or stoooed but that's because of what I went thru. As we age we all have different ideas of boundaries maybe?
I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
Also GemiMay....... I know you coming in to talk some shit. Just give a daddy a chance tho😉😎
You should had said :
Whats yall (except GemiMay) views…
It’s almost like you waiting for my input but I don’t have anything to say. Too boring. Go on…
Crossing the line? 🤣
sometimes i put some food on the guy's plate. is that like a gross thing? they eat it tho so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
last time i did it was in an indian restaurant when i ordered a beef dish on a date with the leo (he had chicken) and i was just piling beef on his plate and he didn't complain, just kept eating.
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Wait! Since when Indians eat beef? 🤔
can you give some examples?
i have no idea. it all depends who, when, and why.
I think we all have different boundaires. So just as a whole what is ultimately unacceptable.
For me habitual liars. Means I cant trust you at all.
Thieves for obvious reasons
Ppl who bring me gossip. Hate it because they are usually the "dont tell anyone I told you this" type and always bring a bone back while carrying one to you.
Disrespect. No sir. Ill fight a mf before I let that go. No real friendship/relationship can form as this as the basis.
Manipulators. Cant do it. Been friends with em and they always lead you to mf traps. They improvise so no real plan is created until you show up. Sounds fun until you knee deep in bullshit at 1am.
As for relationships, I think its obvious that being inviting or cheating is a no go. Im not the type to tell a person stop what they are doing to be with me. I simply take note and end it. If youre comfortable flirting and giving your number out then obviously im not the guy for the job. And Im not about to tell you to stop when youll just do it behind my back. You free now.
I know communcation is key but WHO you communicating with makes a worlds of difference
ok, but i wouldn't call that boundaries. those examples are something no one wants to deal with. i don't like gossip as well.
when it comes to disrespect, we are different and yes "normal" ppl can overcome it through communication.
but then again life and ppl are not that simple. idk really lol. as i'm getting older i'm becoming less and less opinionated.
You said some good stuff there! As Im getting older, My tolerance for certain things are going down. I guess I see it as boundaries because thats where I put a stop to things and usually get a lil angry. Those are things I feel like need to be addressed or stoooed but that's because of what I went thru. As we age we all have different ideas of boundaries maybe?
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By the age of 70 you’ll achieve holiness.
Right now you just simply perfect. 🤷♀️
you are saying truths, one time a snake bite you it will bite again. Only if it is defang or remove from you that it cannot bite but it will still give try. Same as persons who say sorry it is still in them to cross the boundary.
People aren’t snakes tho 😆 we are capable of free will and change and aren’t being ruled by animal instinct.
Crossing the line? 🤣
sometimes i put some food on the guy's plate. is that like a gross thing? they eat it tho so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
last time i did it was in an indian restaurant when i ordered a beef dish on a date with the leo (he had chicken) and i was just piling beef on his plate and he didn't complain, just kept eating.
Wait! Since when Indians eat beef? 🤔
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lol you'd think so. but the restaurant was one of those asian fusion restaurants that was predominantly indian with a lot of curry dishes but also had indonesian/filipino/thai dishes as well. they served beef, chicken and some seafood as well.
Crossing the line? 🤣
sometimes i put some food on the guy's plate. is that like a gross thing? they eat it tho so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
last time i did it was in an indian restaurant when i ordered a beef dish on a date with the leo (he had chicken) and i was just piling beef on his plate and he didn't complain, just kept eating.
Wait! Since when Indians eat beef? 🤔
lol you'd think so. but the restaurant was one of those asian fusion restaurants that was predominantly indian with a lot of curry dishes but also had indonesian/filipino/thai dishes as well. they served beef, chicken and some seafood as well.
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Good! So the ‘fusion’ just threw ‘Indian’ for fullness of the description. 😂
It sounds like choices for all! Love curry but meat a must…right? 💪
Crossing the line? 🤣
sometimes i put some food on the guy's plate. is that like a gross thing? they eat it tho so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
last time i did it was in an indian restaurant when i ordered a beef dish on a date with the leo (he had chicken) and i was just piling beef on his plate and he didn't complain, just kept eating.
Wait! Since when Indians eat beef? 🤔
lol you'd think so. but the restaurant was one of those asian fusion restaurants that was predominantly indian with a lot of curry dishes but also had indonesian/filipino/thai dishes as well. they served beef, chicken and some seafood as well.
Good! So the ‘fusion’ just threw ‘Indian’ for fullness of the description. 😂
It sounds like choices for all! Love curry but meat a must…right? 💪
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i like to have beef coz i mostly have veggies and chicken which is boring. i don't really like seafood with curry. plus i'm allergic to pork so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
Crossing the line? 🤣
sometimes i put some food on the guy's plate. is that like a gross thing? they eat it tho so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
last time i did it was in an indian restaurant when i ordered a beef dish on a date with the leo (he had chicken) and i was just piling beef on his plate and he didn't complain, just kept eating.
Wait! Since when Indians eat beef? 🤔
lol you'd think so. but the restaurant was one of those asian fusion restaurants that was predominantly indian with a lot of curry dishes but also had indonesian/filipino/thai dishes as well. they served beef, chicken and some seafood as well.
Good! So the ‘fusion’ just threw ‘Indian’ for fullness of the description. 😂
It sounds like choices for all! Love curry but meat a must…right? 💪
i like to have beef coz i mostly have veggies and chicken which is boring. i don't really lkke seafood with curry. plus i'm allergic to pork so 🤷♀️🤷♀️
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Yep! Never had curry seafood. I don’t think so…
And YESSS beef!!! 👍
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I see alot of times where a partner crosses a line and the other forgives them.and sets boundaries. I cant imagine myself doing that. I feel like a person will always be themselves. Rather in front of you or behind your back, their true self will always emerge. For this reason, when lines get crossed for me I tend to just let the relationship go. Because some things are simply understood and if you going thru all that just to hide it, then naw lol be free my girl. I would much rather accept that this is who you are and that we aint a match. Whats yall views on boundaries that are set after certain ones should never be crossed?
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