Can Men and Women Just Be Friends?

This may have been asked previoiusly in the forum but I will post it.

Can men and women just be friends?

My opinion is No. Under certain circumstances yes, but most of the time no.

What does everyone else think and why?

Yes of course. The real question isn't whether not males and females can or cannot. Its, "How long"?

Actually it isn't even certain with same gender friendships. Bi curious people are everywhere. So the real question is the same.

God told the world not to try though. Because its evil, you know.

I think so. Even after a relationship. It all depends on the maturity level of the people involved.

I think so! I prefer male friendships, and my closest friend is a male. Even if a little attraction was there, it was put on the back-burner and didn't get in the way of the friendship.

Even if I like a person, I can being just their friend. It's usually up to the guy if he can.

Not a simple question. It can't have a simple answer. I have female friends but If I was attracted to any of them I don't think that I could've been friends. It is what it is. Few of my ex GF are friends of mine today but that's just because I don't have any feelings for them. So my answer is YES and NO at the same time.

This is a bit deep , but I am sitting alone , really hurting and thinking al sorts do suicidal crap! Been through hell and back and it seems to be never ending.... Like quick sand. I have an Aries friend and what is it with Aries , they dream up these great friendships , and then selfishly drop you like trash. I know how they work been there worn the t'shirt , but me and this friend were going through lows, she is a weed smoker also daily 4-5 times maybe more a day, and she has given up her 14 year relationship etc, and I left my life after 12 years also , just mental abuse.

she and I have been great friends rock solid, but then the odd clinch will appear m normally after seeing her man , and she will retreat , and go cold, blaming it on menstrual cycles ,etc etc, now I am no idiot, and I said look don't kid me into the fact your down because of you're so called man mood, I would then go off accept it , then it was I know what I want lets be friends again .

It's really hurtful pushing me away after we bond agin for three months , worst still I get really close to her 4 year old son, so I loose there too.Recently I asked her to buy a train ticket to come to see a car, but she never did, so the morning I was leaving she hadn't bought her ticket , so ended up staying home for the bank holiday alone.

After coming back , she hasn't fridaybeen round for 3 weeks this Friday, it's my birthday sat , we have been solid for 18 months, and now its like I don't exist , she says she's not feeling it , so unless she does , she in her cave, while she runs around with any but me. Ok in the past I would have rang , begged anything, but I m tired of this crap from any one... it really hurts , and then you gotta pretend it doesn't.,.and the worst is I moved out into the sticks to be near her after she convinced me , all was good.

Now its like , if I pull away eventually I will get the message, she left her tooth brush here and printer, I asked for her to pick me up to collect a printer i bought , as I need it to get my business running. but she respond with she's moving her stuff into her new flat etc off the boat she shared with her ex, and that after she does that , her car is being fixed, all bull crap! she would have done that without hesitation, but now uts avoid avoid.. since learned she's running around with a friend who as come back from leave in the navy.I think she just wants us to stop being close , but Im pissed were meant to be mates , is this h

Sorry post only adds so much. Ok the question is when you get an Aries who starts to treat the friends this way what is the best form of action!? Please a serious helpful response is preferred/need it really torn.plus this is the deciding factor to were I live cant stay here as the memory of why I came here is because of her. she seems to be drawn to helping anyone when they're going through stress or down on their luck Yet says she cant do depression., yet always seems to be down, I swear the language I really want to use I can on here.

Yes even if im attracted to them I have a couple girl friends that are cute thst doesn't mean they get to touch my dick.

Straight heterosexual male, no

Homosexual/Transgender male, yes

Sure, I have plenty of female friends. Of course, I am attracted to some of them too, but that doesn't mean I'll be heartbroken if we just remain friends.

^ Agreed, also fucking your friends means there not friends.

Why not? I've got plenty of friends that I've slept with. They're still my friends, just a little bonus involved every once in a blue moon.

no


The women think they are friends with men because they have no sexual desires for the men .... while the other side of this scenario is male, and alls they ever have are sexual desires for the this alleged female. The females don't get that and falsely believe that these men don't have sexual thoughts about them.

Of course, women in general don't get men .. so why would this be any different.

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I have mixed feelings about this.

I'm prob one of those females that has guy friends I feel are just friends and have no other interests than friendship. In reality, they've prob got other ideas floating around in their heads. One of my current guy friends has a gf, I have a bf. I would'nt be surprised if he still has thoughts for something more on the back back burner. Is that arrogant of me to think, or just realistic? I dunno. Until it becomes an issue, I don't care. It's not an issue right now. He's a cool guy and we have a good time hanging out in our plutonic friendship. My bf knows him... we've all hung out together. Everyone seems cool with this arrangement, and I foresee us all hanging out more in the future.

I want to believe it's possible and I'm quite certain there are scenarios in which it is. The difficulty is that for straight men and women, there's always that underlying sexual dynamic that we can't help wondering about. Curiosity leaves us just steps away from wanting to give things a try.

Depends if the people have healthy boundaires or not

I guess OP asking about "platonic" friendship...?!

I think it is possible between those who are open-minded to have opposite gender as their good/close friends...without thinking of/asking for sex.
Platonic friendship should be the most beautiful relationship between a man & a woman who really like each other. 🙂

But unfortunately, most men have such a problem to stop thinking of sex...... So for them, it is Impossible to have a platonic friendship with a pretty woman.
From my experience, it is very hard to find & maintain Platonic friendship in reality.
I have been seeking platonic friendship for years, it just worked at the beginning...then guys want more from me sexually since they can't control themselves.
Very upset at the end. 😢

NOOOOOOOPE

SOMEONE ALWAYS CATCHES FEELINGS OR HAS/HAD A HIDDEN AGENDA OR SECRET CRUSH!!!!


ITS JUST HUMAN NATURE.....

BESIDES FRIENDSHIP SHOULD BE THE FOUNDATION OF A INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP ....SO ITS NATURAL FOR SOMEONE 2 CATCH FEELINGS

Posted by tiki33
Straight heterosexual male, no

Homosexual/Transgender male, yes

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Yes, of course.


As long as they don't want to do eachother.

Posted by P-Angel
no


The women think they are friends with men because they have no sexual desires for the men .... while the other side of this scenario is male, and alls they ever have are sexual desires for the this alleged female. The females don't get that and falsely believe that these men don't have sexual thoughts about them.

Of course, women in general don't get men .. so why would this be any different.

+1

I think some women understand but use the situation to there advantage

Not in its true sense.

I think what often happens is that a "friendship" forms between a man and a woman and while the woman is happy with this, the man wants more but doesn't know how to ask for it or get it in this situation (and I have certainly been in this frustrating situation!) Perhaps the woman is naively unaware that the man has sexual feelings for her despite the famous "woman's intuition". This can ultimately lead to bust-ups in these friendships (as has happened with me) when the guy just gets too frustrated!

My ex is French and though she (and French people in general) often piss me off, one thing I do like about French culture is that there does not seem to be this naive idea in France that men and women can (easily) be "just friends", so I think that if you as a guy manage to get on well with a French woman you won't be left hanging around as "just a friend" - French people are not that naive about human nature. Same in Spain and Italy I am sure.

Of course, GAY men sometimes get on well with women as "just friends" (though other gay men hate women) but I suppose that is mainly because the women know that the gay guy is not after getting them in bed so can regard the friendship as a "non-threatening" one.

Then...I really am a demisexual.

Nope

Sounds like that both men and women here both say no. Some say yes, but the tendency is that if you are attracted to this person, eventually the friendship line will be crossed.
Had a friend co-worker at a different place where I work now, he moved to a different location. Began a friendship with a girl in his apartment. A few years later, they married and now have a family. He told me on several instances, that she was just a friend, but one day he told me the story of how he had a great time with her and how he proposed to her. So much for frienship.
It becomes difficult to search for a relationship when one has the opposite sex as a friend. Especially if there is any attraction at all or curiousity about each other.
To me, the answer is NO. Friendship can be maintained but for only a short time period. Eventually it will be broken.

Posted by tiki33
Straight heterosexual male, no

Homosexual/Transgender male, yes

^ Same

It never seems to work with the straight men. I'm not always sure why. I had a gay male friend...it worked well while it lasted.

I have more female than male mates in general.

I have male friends, but it's very different from my female friends or gay friends. There is a significant distance. It's not a "real" friendship. It's more of a group friendship, because I can't remember ever spending alone time with one of my guy friends. The friendship is very light and playful. I'm very fond of them, but there is no deep emotional attachment or sharing. I have two best friends who know me inside and out, I can't imagine having that with a guy and there not being romantic undertones.

I can't see myself being "real" close, just friends with a man 🙂 How would that even happen? lol If your a man and you make me feel comfortable enough and connected enough, to develop a real deep friendship with you...then I'm probably already romantically interested or am on my way there.

A LOT OF GAY MEN HAVE WOMEN FRIENDS
AND A LOT OF LISBO WOMEN HAVE MALE FRIENDS
SO THERE YOU ARE

I DON'T KNOW ABOUT BI SEXUALS.

It depends on the chick ! Me, I can be just friends with a woman... no sense going there if physical or chemical attraction does not exist inbetween !

So... based on what I can see... CreepyPants, pretty713, delishhh, and harry99... I don't think we can just be friends. Of course... I would have to actually meet you to be sure. Voila !
😉