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"Does he miss me?"

This is always an interesting question to get as a male psychic. The answer is not an easy one.

Men and women are wired very differently. I hope that despite a 50 year campaign of the gender-benders to make all humans androgynous, most observant and practical people are acknowledging these profound differences between the sexes.

None of the biological distinctions that I will write about below negate or replace spiritual feelings and aspirations such as love, hope, sentimental or sweet emotions. The biological component overlaps!

Also keep in mind as you read that this blog addresses most established relationships and/or marriages, not a new dating dynamic.

These natural, biological differences go back tens of thousands of years (at least), to primitive times when humans where primarily hunter-gathers. Men often left on extended hunting expeditions that lasted days or weeks. Their survival depended on emotionally detaching so they could focus on the hunt. If they did not focus, they could get injured, killed or even worse, return to the tribe with no food!

Our society and technology may have changed significantly in the past thousand years, but biology moves much slower. Men still have the habit of emotionally detaching to focus on work or important aspects of life.

Women, being hard-wired for emotional closeness and intimacy, as a survival mechanism, are on the opposite end. While women may no longer physically or financially have to depend on a man for her survival, emotionally she responds just like she did thousands of years ago: panic.

Let's get back to the question of missing: Yes, your man misses you, but not in the same way you miss him. A man very rarely feels waves of sentimental feelings sweep over him immediately after he has departed his love's presence. What women in the modern world needs to understand is that this lack of sentimentality is not a bad thing! Your man still loves you, still wants you, and is still attracted to you. But when he departs, biology sometimes kicks in and he feels the wonder lust of the hunt (for food, income, acquisitions, and personal productivity).

For thousands of years, that detachment meant the survival of his family and tribe. And that will not change overnight, but neither does it need to be looked at as callousness, lack of love or lack of caring.

Yes, your man loves you, yes he misses you; just not in the same way, with the same intensity and on the same time table as a woman. And that's a good thing! 😄 It is completely possible for you balance your need for closeness and intimacy with your man's occasional need to pull away. It's a matter of understanding, tolerance and trust that goes both ways.

There are many more issues revolving around this one topic I could go into. However, in the spirit of brevity, I'm going to end it here.

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Posted by starlover
....and that is one reason i would like to be able to *be* with women romantically

no deficit

:-))

what is that reason? missing her? I am missing your point completely

Posted by starlover
Men and women are wired very differently.

Yes, your man misses you, but not in the same way you miss him. A man very rarely feels waves of sentimental feelings sweep over him immediately after he has departed his love's presence.

T h i s ^ ^ ^

Women understand women better

So when man tells me that he missed me - should I just go 'yeah...;? 🙂

To me missing a person meaning wishing to be with him when he is not with you.

How is it different for men?

Posted by starlover
I honestly don't know

Haven't you ever been in relationships?

Posted by starlover
Five long term relationships

I still honestly don't know

How would i know whether your bf means he misses you or not?

Why are you asking these questions?

It is not what I had been asking of you.

I am just surprised that 'missing' is different for sexes.

I think 'missing' someone means wanting to be together when not
and it is unisex feeling.

Posted by starlover
Why are you still surprised at the differences?

We are two very different creatures.....women and men that is

There is no *unisex* about it, believe me

Women think with their hearts a lot of the time
Men think with their heads a lot of time

The two processes do intermingle at times of course

But when you are in relationship and this person is not with you - what do you feel/?
Like 'whatever' or 'heck with her'? NO! You are missing her if you love her, no?

Posted by Ixion120

Posted by starlover
But i am a woman so cannot answer from the man's POV

Even from a woman's perspective I have dated several girls in the past who were relatively chill with some distance being present in the relationship. Sometimes I would even find myself missing them before they did me. Not all the time it just worked out that way.

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...humans are so complicated

Posted by tiziani
Yup, usually I am the more detached one but it can happen the other way around. And sometimes you can easily end up trading places in the very same relationship.

Right? And the fact that you were supposed to detach and go hunting has nothing to do with feelings.
Men misses women as we do miss them. Period!
And if man is calling you or texting you it means he is thnking about you and wishes you were there.

Posted by Ixion120

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by tiziani
Yup, usually I am the more detached one but it can happen the other way around. And sometimes you can easily end up trading places in the very same relationship.

Right? And the fact that you were supposed to detach and go hunting has nothing to do with feelings.
Men misses women as we do miss them. Period!
And if man is calling you or texting you it means he is thnking about you and wishes you were there.

Indeed its not hard to figure out. How to figure out if I miss you? I sought you out...I hit you up...I ask after you, I ask to see you. I tell you outright? Its not verbal hieroglyphics here.

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Right? And when you detached from me and busy 'hunting' - it is ok but as soon as nothing else is on your mind
it is ME again and you are wishing I was there. Right?

So men please explain. When will you miss a woman when you part ways and for how long after do you start missing her? @lxion120 @starlover

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Posted by Shaniajam
So men please explain. When will you miss a woman when you part ways and for how long after do you start missing her? @lxion120 @starlover

there is no set time...nor any set duration. When me and her are separate there is always a very low level kind of "pining" for my partner but not the sort that I necessarily feel the need to voice openly. If I don't see her for 2-3 days sometimes I will opt to say it out loud. Not seeing her for the work week will usually resort in a public declaration by the end of the week.

But go by the saying Shania..."absence makes the heart grow fonder"

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Or love dies with neglect?

Posted by Ixion120

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Seems like it's only the women who think about if they're being missed...do men think and ask themselves if a woman misses them too?

We're only human...male but human. The thought crosses my mind from time to time If I haven't heard from her. I don't typically obsess over it though.

I take the time a part as a time to work and get ahead or enjoy my time with just myself and others (friends, family).

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And I am sure you have male friends who are sitting there with you texting their women
non stop telling them how they HAD to go with guys but wish she was here. LOL 🙂

Posted by Prince_Pisces
I am still in awe that straight people need articles to understand eachother. How embarassing

LmaO!

At what point does missing become clingy/needy?

Posted by Weeds
At what point does missing become clingy/needy?

At the point when sitting at the bar with friends you developing
carpal tunnel syndrome texting her that guys 'made' you go with them
but you wish she was here. LOL 🙂

Actually more seriously I say it becomes needy when other
person feeling it becomes needy. Until then...
Some actually loved to have needy people around.

Posted by derpette
Lol. As great as it is to describe hunter and gatherer relations, we're in the 21st Century. Arguably, in our market both men and women hunt and gather. (Women working similar jobs as men, or work for similar purposes as men—livelihood of their families.)

As convincing the article is written, I don't think there's a great difference really. Though expressed differently, both men and women have similar needs. It's just the gender roles and conditioning that's been placed over generations. Attachment is exclusive from dependency.

For example, my bf and I definitely need our space to do our own things separately. When he needs his space to focus on work it doesn't mean he feels less for me. Similarly, he knows when I need to focus on work and doesn't hear from me, the same applies. When we're "detached" it doesn't mean emotionally cut-off, it just means our focus is on something else at that moment.

so if he knows you're sick and didnt text you the whole day cause he was running around at work the whole day.. and you get the feeling that maybe he doesnt care enough anymore.. does that appear needy?

Posted by starlover

Posted by Weeds
At what point does missing become clingy/needy?

Immediately for a Virgo man 😛

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Only with a cancer moon

@starlover good question!!!

Ask mister reeves

Posted by Prince_Pisces
I am still in awe that straight people need articles to understand eachother. How embarassing

Actually, I feel that way about same gender relationships. How can you NOT understand someone who has the same basic mental, emotional, and physical traits as you do. Men and women are COMPLETELY different. Yes, we need articles, counselors, alcohol, pills, and whatever else it takes to cope with one another. lol ha ha ha ha

Posted by tiziani
I like to see that she's thinking about my success and me. I don't really think about it or ask myself. I like visual cues. If I don't see it then I assume she is living her life. Which is obviously a great thing too, but one makes me feel bonded to her... the other makes me appreciate her from afar. It's great when you find both in one relationship.

And men talk about how women are complicated. lol ha ha ha ha THIS. As a woman, it's difficult, because we aren't men remember....to provide visual queues and still live our lives. This is why you find women on one end of the spectrum or another. That visual queue thing, but live your life thing...males are the experts. We are genetically wired to attach and expect men to "come home" of sorts. So, this is why we have this wait in anticipation thing and why we as women expect so much when you guys show up. We've been waiting for something to happen when you show up or for you to bring us something when you show up...something other than an erect penis. I don't necessarily mean material goods, but maybe it's an outpouring of affection that we are waiting for...something to indicate that we didn't WAIT in vain. So, this is why when you show up with the items that suit only YOU...we're disappointed. I personally think that we've been groomed to expect too much from each other. Men hunt and bring back the kill, women nurture. Period. It just takes wayyyyyy too much to try to do it all. I'm fine with nurturing and letting my mate know that the problem between us lies in his not accepting/acknowledging the nurturing and/or bringing back the kill/provision from his hunt. Everything else in between is just fluff.

Posted by Weeds
At what point does missing become clingy/needy?

Depends on the person. Missing becomes clingy to me when it gets in the way of practical everyday things like the fact that I need to work late or starting arguments, because I needed to tend to a friendship for a minute...because my friend needed me. I don't have lots of these situations, but admittedly, my life IS high functioning. I have work, my own business, kids, friends, family, hobbies, etc. Plus, I need to get some sleep. lol So, for me...I need some wiggle room. Now, my man is more than welcomed to accompany me to the non-work and to some degree the non-home business related stuff.

On the other hand...I need to see clear signs that we are still attached/good or that my lifestyle isn't driving him to seek part-time partnership elsewhere. In this relationship, he's actually busier than I am now. Used to be the other way around and he was SO cool with it. Our relationship was absolutely wonderful when I was the busier one. I could get shit taken care of and it seemed like our lives sped up/slowed down at the perfect time for us to get together every day or almost every day. Now that he's SUPER busy...I mean busier than anyone SHOULD be...I'm still busy, but I find myself checking on whether or not he's available for us to connect.

Previous relationships, I was always the lesser clingy of the two just by virtue of my hectic/full schedule.

This is all too much for me... I must sit down

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Posted by MsTeeq1974

Posted by tiziani
I like to see that she's thinking about my success and me. I don't really think about it or ask myself. I like visual cues. If I don't see it then I assume she is living her life. Which is obviously a great thing too, but one makes me feel bonded to her... the other makes me appreciate her from afar. It's great when you find both in one relationship.

Lol I was under the impression what I said was simple though. It's just my personal taste. Not necessarily reflective of all men.

If and when you have to do your own thing, just

1. Send me a picture in the morning of yourself
2. Wear my jersey (figuratively speaking - or wear my ring if we're really like that)

Just those two things really. Things that show me you're invested in how my success is faring.

Other than that, some men want their woman to be around them 24/7 or constantly sharing space and I've never been like that (so far). I like to be able to take a step back and admire what she is up to in her own life from a different perspective every now and then. If you stay too close, you start to become blind to details you fell in love with her over, in the first place.

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Ok...see, it is simple. The "visual cues" that you're referring to are VERY simple. When you said visual cues, all sorts of things popped up in my head. Like, do you want me to jump out of your hedges and say GOOD MORNING as you're on your way to work or do you want me to send you flowers, or simply text you a photo. Of course, I send photos or I share a funny story about something that happened in the day. That way it doesn't demand a response like, "How are you?" or "How is your day going?", which CAN be answered with one word, but in truth are conversation starters. It also sounds like you're saying that you require distance in order to be able to see the complete picture so that you can remember why you fell in love with her. That's a new notion. I've never realized that seeing a person from 'afar' in the mind without them constantly in your face, helps you reflect. I'm like that as well. When someone's constantly in my face, I'm so focused on trying to walk step in step with them that I can't/don't reflect on their personal value. Hmmm...I wouldn't necessarily say that absence makes the heart grow fonder as much as I would say that it helps to keep things into perspective. I'll never say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, because in truth, with me...if you're ass is absent enough...I'll forget about you. lol Eventually the magic will wear off and I'll develop an urgent desire to have someone else light this fire. THAT'S

I'll never say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, because in truth, with me...if you're ass is absent enough...I'll forget about you. lol Eventually the magic will wear off and I'll develop an urgent desire to have someone else light this fire. THAT'S why I need my partner in touch often for me. I've seen what happens in men when they become a "has been" due to absence and it's not pretty. I become the bad person and they're baffled. I guess I'm wired different than most women or I have ADD or something. Men have literally been like, "What? Wait...did you just forget about me?" Ummmm...kinda sorta.

Posted by Weeds
This is all too much for me... I must sit down

Lol ha ha ha ha

Posted by MsTeeq1974
I'll never say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, because in truth, with me...if you're ass is absent enough...I'll forget about you. lol Eventually the magic will wear off and I'll develop an urgent desire to have someone else light this fire. THAT'S why I need my partner in touch often for me. I've seen what happens in men when they become a "has been" due to absence and it's not pretty. I become the bad person and they're baffled. I guess I'm wired different than most women or I have ADD or something. Men have literally been like, "What? Wait...did you just forget about me?" Ummmm...kinda sorta.

That's me... If I have to constantly try to get your atgbetion or you not reaching out or our contact is 5 mins per day and then nothing else. Eventually I'm gonna wonder cause you're putting a lot of things before me so I start assuming that means other people and possibly women too... I just start looking in the fish tank again slowly but surely Š

so to go back to an earlier question, if men say they miss you, should women believe it?

i haven't seen my bf in over week now and i miss him so much i feel like my arms are going to fall off.

Posted by dontgetmewrong

Posted by MsTeeq1974

Posted by Weeds
This is all too much for me... I must sit down

Lol ha ha ha ha

Hi MsTeeq! 🙂..good to put a face to a name.

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Hey Hun. :-)

Posted by jeane
so to go back to an earlier question, if men say they miss you, should women believe it?

i haven't seen my bf in over week now and i miss him so much i feel like my arms are going to fall off.

LMBO!!! Nooooo, not the arms. Lol ha ha ha

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Posted by jeane
so to go back to an earlier question, if men say they miss you, should women believe it?

i haven't seen my bf in over week now and i miss him so much i feel like my arms are going to fall off.

LMBO!!! Nooooo, not the arms. Lol ha ha ha

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oh ms teeq, i feel like my whole body is just going to break off one by one in blocks with only two stumps of feet left. i just need a big hug from him. 😭

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Posted by MsTeeq1974

Posted by jeane
so to go back to an earlier question, if men say they miss you, should women believe it?

i haven't seen my bf in over week now and i miss him so much i feel like my arms are going to fall off.

LMBO!!! Nooooo, not the arms. Lol ha ha ha

oh ms teeq, i feel like my whole body is just going to break off one by one in blocks with only two stumps of feet left. i just need a big hug from him. 😭

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Sounds like serious business. You might need to invest in a body pillow. Lol

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Posted by jeane
so to go back to an earlier question, if men say they miss you, should women believe it?

i haven't seen my bf in over week now and i miss him so much i feel like my arms are going to fall off.

LMBO!!! Nooooo, not the arms. Lol ha ha ha

oh ms teeq, i feel like my whole body is just going to break off one by one in blocks with only two stumps of feet left. i just need a big hug from him. 😭

Sounds like serious business. You might need to invest in a body pillow. Lol

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this is not creepy at all...

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Posted by MsTeeq1974

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Posted by jeane
so to go back to an earlier question, if men say they miss you, should women believe it?

i haven't seen my bf in over week now and i miss him so much i feel like my arms are going to fall off.

LMBO!!! Nooooo, not the arms. Lol ha ha ha

oh ms teeq, i feel like my whole body is just going to break off one by one in blocks with only two stumps of feet left. i just need a big hug from him. 😭

Sounds like serious business. You might need to invest in a body pillow. Lol

this is not creepy at all...

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LMBO!!!!!!!!!!! I'm literally choking off of this. Lol haaaaa ha ha ha. Shit, while you playin...I need one. Lol

Posted by MsTeeq1974
LMBO!!!!!!!!!!! I'm literally choking off of this. Lol haaaaa ha ha ha. Shit, while you playin...I need one. Lol

portable size

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by tiziani
Yup, usually I am the more detached one but it can happen the other way around. And sometimes you can easily end up trading places in the very same relationship.

Right? And the fact that you were supposed to detach and go hunting has nothing to do with feelings.
Men misses women as we do miss them. Period!
And if man is calling you or texting you it means he is thnking about you and wishes you were there.

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Unless they are being polite

Posted by christinelovessnickers

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by tiziani
Yup, usually I am the more detached one but it can happen the other way around. And sometimes you can easily end up trading places in the very same relationship.

Right? And the fact that you were supposed to detach and go hunting has nothing to do with feelings.
Men misses women as we do miss them. Period!
And if man is calling you or texting you it means he is thnking about you and wishes you were there.

Unless they are being polite

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I don't think men can be made polite.
If he doesn't think about you he will not call, text but when
confronted 'I was busy' is much easier to say than
pretend he cares by calling/texting.

Posted by starlover
Men and women are wired very differently.

Yes, your man misses you, but not in the same way you miss him. A man very rarely feels waves of sentimental feelings sweep over him immediately after he has departed his love's presence.

T h i s ^ ^ ^

Women understand women better

Thats like taking the easy road. Anything that aint worth working for aint worth having. Just saying

Posted by truecap
as a male psychic.

I can't read past this point.

They exist? Mind=blown

Posted by MsTeeq1974
I'll never say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, because in truth, with me...if you're ass is absent enough...I'll forget about you. lol .

I say you had not loved, baby. He can be absent for years and be still missed. And if he loves you he will miss you as well in his absence.
And if you try so hard to forget and move on but still thinking about him - I am sure thee is a chance he is thinking about you as well.
That what love is. IMO

Posted by channingtatumsneck
yes but they're gay

I went to this lady to do a card reading for me and my Pisces friend.

I swear when we entered her apartment and she looked at him, she had a supreme bewildered look on her face.

I could almost hear her thoughts "This has to be the first man to come get a readin lmfao, it's usually women". Then when I found out she's a Virgo, I was sure that's what she thought.

She pegged me for a Scorpio though. That was hilarious.

aww, he looks friendly enough.

did you hug him?

Posted by tiziani
I guess I really don't need to know if someone is missing me (seems negative and hollow). It's more that it's always great to know they spent time thinking about me, of us. What we've achieved. What we're still capable of.

Also what ixion said about not being the centre of someone's universe but a part of their world was brilliant.

How can you control someone missing you? And how is that you don't NEED it?
Nobody NEED it - it is just a feeling you can't help having.

Posted by channingtatumsneck
yes but they're gay

If you quoted it would be understood by everyone what you are trying to say.

Posted by tiziani
"I'm missing you so much right now" text messages = teen angst

"I'm thinking we should go spend some time on the beach" = yes

What about missing a person knowing that nothing ever going to happen?
Just living daily and wishing for that happening but...none of you can DO anything about it?

Posted by Gemitati

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by tiziani
Yup, usually I am the more detached one but it can happen the other way around. And sometimes you can easily end up trading places in the very same relationship.

Right? And the fact that you were supposed to detach and go hunting has nothing to do with feelings.
Men misses women as we do miss them. Period!
And if man is calling you or texting you it means he is thnking about you and wishes you were there.

Unless they are being polite

I don't think men can be made polite.
If he doesn't think about you he will not call, text but when
confronted 'I was busy' is much easier to say than
pretend he cares by calling/texting.

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What about in response? I know people do that...just respond to be nice instead of just being honest.

Posted by tiziani
I guess I really don't need to know if someone is missing me (seems negative and hollow). It's more that it's always great to know they spent time thinking about me, of us. What we've achieved. What we're still capable of.

Also what ixion said about not being the centre of someone's universe but a part of their world was brilliant.

+1

Missing someone is not equivalent to wanting to be with them.

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Posted by MsTeeq1974
LMBO!!!!!!!!!!! I'm literally choking off of this. Lol haaaaa ha ha ha. Shit, while you playin...I need one. Lol

portable size

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I would take my "man" EVERYWHERE with me. Even to work. Cuddling while working. Sounds amazing...lol ha ha ha

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by tiziani
I guess I really don't need to know if someone is missing me (seems negative and hollow). It's more that it's always great to know they spent time thinking about me, of us. What we've achieved. What we're still capable of.

Also what ixion said about not being the centre of someone's universe but a part of their world was brilliant.

How can you control someone missing you? And how is that you don't NEED it?
Nobody NEED it - it is just a feeling you can't help having.

I'm not looking to control someone else's feelings. You didn't understand my point. My point is their feelings of "missing me" are not my concern nor is it my business.

I don't want to know if someone is missing me. I want to know what we plan to do about it. I like it when they share quality thoughts as that is a great bond to build.

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"You didn't understand my point"...LMBO!!!! I don't know why I find that statement hilarious, but it is. lol ha ha ha ha But Tiz...I don't share the opinon that one should NEED their partner to miss them, but isn't missing someone the very reference point for getting together over and over again in the first place? or no? Who gets together over and over with someone or allows someone to occupy a significant amount of their time unless they FEEL like they are valued/sought out/missed, etc. I totally get the opinion that how one feels about you is none of your business. I reflect on this myself so often. I think a little too much and it might fuel my somewhat lone wolf way of navigating through most of my dating situations.