Does he misses you? (Page 2)

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by MsTeeq1974
I'll never say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, because in truth, with me...if you're ass is absent enough...I'll forget about you. lol .

I say you had not loved, baby. He can be absent for years and be still missed. And if he loves you he will miss you as well in his absence.
And if you try so hard to forget and move on but still thinking about him - I am sure thee is a chance he is thinking about you as well.
That what love is. IMO

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Here is my example...my guy didn't call me all day when he was off on Oct. 4th. Now he knows damn well, he only has one day a week off. He texted me a little, but no phone call. Ok, cool. So I assumed he would do the very same thing or something similar this past Sunday. I went to the movies a ways away on public transpo, so I turned my phone on airplane mode. When I turned it on a few hours later, I was greeted with a pic of him in front of my house saying, "Sorry I missed you, I was trying to surprise you". Well, that lead to a whole bunch of unnecessary shit up until now. My thought is that if a person wants to be out of touch, then it's a decisive move, not one that is temporary or that they have an alternate plan in mind. I will take off on another route and most times, I'm not likely to come back unless given a GOOD reason. Once my mind goes down that other path or onto other things...everything else is likely to follow. It's not about love, it's about purpose. There are people I've been or was connected to that I still love, but since the relationship serves a purpose in either of us, I'm not all there. Besides, I'm a person who completely lives in there here and now. My lifestyle and obligations don't allow for dreamy notions and following whims. I have to be where I am and completely here or everything attached to my obligations suffers, including me.

Posted by tiziani
It's like pain vs pleasure. Which one do you pursue?

I'm a pleasure-oriented person, mostly.


Mars conjunct Venus - the hedonist's placement.

Same here...pleasure. I can withstand pain but I prefer my pain physical in the erotic sense. However, I do NOT pursue pain on a psychological or emotional level. I'm willing to go through a psychological or emotional painful experience to achieve the rainbow at the end BUT I gravitate towards and pursue pleasure. I believe my hedonist energy is driven by Venus chart ruler and the Mars in Taurus. When it's pleasurable, OMG...I try NOT to indulge, but I have a hard time refraining. lol ha ha ha ha

I'm the person in the bar who has a 2-3 drink maximum no matter the circumstance or situation, because I know that anything else while enjoyable in the moment is going overboard for me. I had to establish volume/numerical limits, because I'll overdo anything that is attached to a good time.

By the way Tiz ...I'm not sure if you're responsible for myallblackbook, but I found it. lol ha ha ha ha If that's you...amazing insight and the writing is phenomenal. It's very rare that I read a piece that uses words that I've never heard of before. This coming from someone who read the dictionary for pleasure in my teens and early twenties. lol I usually have to curb my enthusiasm for obscure vernacular, but enjoy it NO less. We have a guy at my workplace who has an honorary PhD from Harvard and man...I enjoy our dialogue so much. lol ha ha ha ha

I did find several grammatical errors, but enjoyed the writing not a stitch less.

Posted by Arielle83
They miss the sex.

o but some

Some do but some missing togetherness and communications.

Chances are, if a guy "misses" you after a split he really misses the sex.

There are exceptions to the rule, but generally, when you guys split, ESPECIALLY if he's the one doing the splitting, chances are he isn't going to look back or fawn over the idea of you like women tend to do.

When a guy calls it quits and feigns missing you, chances are he misses sex and wants some from you, or his other options didn't pan out and he "finally" saw the error of his ways in breaking up (not really).

Women, just because you miss him doesn't mean he misses you. It's understandable to wonder why guys can handle it like they do, but getting caught up in what's going on inside his head to crystal ball your hopes in getting back together is just detrimental to getting over someone. Do your best to move through that phase as quickly as you can.

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83
They miss the sex.

o but some

Some do but some missing togetherness and communications.

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Are you a female?

Women tend to substitue their own reactions when trying to understand guys. This is why there is so much confusion between the sex. You aren't thinking like a man, you're thinking like a woman who thinks a man should react/feel the same way.

Interesting...I never realized I was supposed to miss someone a certain way because I'm a woman, or that there was even a misunderstanding there (not something I've ever wondered about or been confused over).
Learn something new everyday.

I'll be sure to put more effort into pining away for the man in my next relationship (and to remind him to be so tied up in his work/life as not to think of or contact me in anyway).

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Arielle83
They miss the sex.

o but some

Some do but some missing togetherness and communications.

Are you a female?

Women tend to substitue their own reactions when trying to understand guys. This is why there is so much confusion between the sex. You aren't thinking like a man, you're thinking like a woman who thinks a man should react/feel the same way.

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I am a woman. So when I get a call just asking how is life - I know he is calling because he misses me.
And because we are with other people - this is all to it. It is simply way to say I am ok, hope you are
also fine and I miss you and thinking of you. No? It is not about sex. It is because he cares. Wrong?

Posted by TaureanVirgo
Interesting...I never realized I was supposed to miss someone a certain way because I'm a woman, or that there was even a misunderstanding there (not something I've ever wondered about or been confused over).
Learn something new everyday.

I'll be sure to put more effort into pining away for the man in my next relationship (and to remind him to be so tied up in his work/life as not to think of or contact me in anyway).

THAT was funny. And if he calls you - it is only because he wants sex. Nothing else.
Not like he might though of you and wanted to hear your voice. Nonononono

Posted by Arielle83
They miss the sex.

Pretty sure you are right because when woman is not romantic at all
and treat man as a sex object and does not show him care nor respect
- all he will remember about her is sex.

Posted by starlover
That is what i like about my female friends....they don't contact me because they want sex, but to connect from a different chakra


lol

I can't figure out if you are a male or female.
I though you are a male but then you said you are a female, no?

And about connecting from different chakra - there is a post on sex and astrology by me.

Read it.