Dealing with guys trying to steal my girlfriend?

Any insight from both men and women needed.. If you'd like.

I noticed that my girfriend is testing me by saying she's going to hang out with a guy that I don't know.
I'm wondering what she wants to hear, if she's testing if I care enough. Or just trying to win me over.

Not only is it that guys think they can steal her.. It could be that:

- She doesn't see a problem in it herself,
- she's either too naïve to notice that they want something from her
- she just isn't completely into me, I'm not entertaining her enough -> she wants / accepts to be entertainted by some overconfident guy.

I just said allright have fun, but I don't know whether I make the connection between us stronger or worse by showing that I don't want to 'bottle her up' for myself.

And I wonder if she does or doesn't notice that those guys are doing that with a purpose.

Ladies, please give me your VERY honest reason why you would do something like this..
And men, what the fuck should I do?

how do you know its a test?

shes getting creampied (hodgetwin voice)

Posted by Ssupes
Just let her do her thing.......If it bothers you that much and you dont trust her........bounce

+1

Fear is better then respect.

Fear is better then respect.

Posted by LillyBlossom

Posted by Weeds
Fear is better then respect.

Fear is not sustainable in a romantic relationship. Respect inspires loyalty, so it's bound to have longevity.

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This relationship is neither sustainable nor romantic. If one does not set boundaries early on and explain consequences then the partner will test the waters.

@OP: have you two discussed or set boundaries regarding going out with the opposite sex before hand? If not...it's a text and probably more. Heck did she ask you or tell you?

She's a piece of naive immature crap. Leave her now or find out later bout all the dick she has sucked. Seriously

Posted by tiziani

Anything to do with sex is pretty much a sideshow.

Posted by tiziani

So it's odds on the issue here is sex. What else would he be worried she's going to do with other men?

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all of this

However, I want to point out that in the title here, he stated that he wanted to know how to deal with the men. he didn't ask how to deal with her.

People have responded telling him how to deal with her, and what to do with her, how she might feel ... when that's not the question.

It's the men he wants to deal with.

Obviously, this is a child ... so it's not like he's going to actually get that it's about integrity.

I don't think she's testing you, I think she's telling you she wants to date someone else.
Girls this age (I assume she's around your age) are like that. You're way too young to get emotionally attached anyway.
Just slay pussy until your dick fals off.
🦇 Oh and you might want to fix that problem you were talking about in the mancave 🦇

P is kind of wrong I'm sorry, first I wanted to call the thread 'Girl testing me & dealing with guys trying to steal her?" but it didn't fit.

Don't assume people are out for one thing, you did this before. Actually any advice or opinion somebody can give that relates to this, is very appreciated. No answer is out of boundaries to me, I see possibilities in every type of answer or opinion to apply it to the subject matter.

I understand you do this to shake people up but I know what I'm doing ..

And ofcourse I understand it is about integrity, that's the biggest thing I'm pondering about.

Hey are you one of those One Direction dudes?!

I'm wondering which one of all things LillyBlossom said could be the reason why's doing this. It makes sense.

What would a good man do in a situation like this?

Because I feel like I'm strong by not trying to bottle her up, but I don't know if she receives it as me being a pussy or thinks I don't care. I seriously don't understand what she wants, I personally think I'm just too nice and she's testing how many shit she can pull off on me, but I don't know what kind of boundaries are good and which are not in a relationship.

It seems like we're growing apart and I don't know how to fix it. Maybe the first thing to do is not desiring for her so much.

I'm a Cap moon and venus and she's a Sag moon and venus, I wonder if that's compatible after all lol.

Posted by brianafay
Hey are you one of those One Direction dudes?!

Yes.

If I was in supposed situation.. I would completely cut her off.
And as soon as I get a text saying "why aren't you talking to me"
Id laugh and go about my business.
If anybody you date has no fear of ruining the relationship by their own hand something is diffenetly wrong. and I want no part of it.

Definitely blah

Posted by risesafterall
I'm wondering which one of all things LillyBlossom said could be the reason why's doing this. It makes sense.

What would a good man do in a situation like this?

Because I feel like I'm strong by not trying to bottle her up, but I don't know if she receives it as me being a pussy or thinks I don't care. I seriously don't understand what she wants, I personally think I'm just too nice and she's testing how many shit she can pull off on me, but I don't know what kind of boundaries are good and which are not in a relationship.

It seems like we're growing apart and I don't know how to fix it. Maybe the first thing to do is not desiring for her so much.

I'm a Cap moon and venus and she's a Sag moon and venus, I wonder if that's compatible after all lol.

If you don't feel comfortable with her seing another guy, just tell her, and watch her reaction. If she does nothing to appease you then just dump her.
If she backs down, don't lower your guard and be ready to dump her at any time.

There is no such thing as a "good man".

Ignore the mind games, there is a whole world of pussy out there for the taking.
Don't listen to the common opinion of guys who say they want a woman because "they don't want to die alone". If that's what you think, you'd better kill yourself right now. (I'm not talking for you aquaboy, lel)
There is nothing that is so important that you can't lose it, not a girlfriend or even a wife. So don't take decisions out of fear.

I know you are still young and still have romantic ideals and nothing I can say will really change what you think, but you will realize that these ideals are only a part of you and nobody will ever fully come into your world to be one with you.

Also: trust your intuition. When you start having bad vibes about the girl, it generally means she's already not into you.

Posted by risesafterall

Posted by brianafay
Hey are you one of those One Direction dudes?!

Yes.

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Harry?