Would you agree that...

*You're not fully over your ex yet until you can HONESTLY say to yourself that you're happy for them EVEN IF their happiness does NOT involve you?

*Relationships are nothing more than 2 people waiting on someone/something better to come along?

*The #1 cause of divorce is marriage!? hehe =P

Some people claim they're fully over their ex's but yet the minute they find out their ex is happy with someone else or happy w/o them period, their body language changes! *Dead give away✨

I have a little Cap friend whom I love like I've never loved before. So genuine and pure. I want him happy no matter with who, what, or where.

And no, that was not an intentional display of my horrible poeticnesses 🙂

Lol at 3!

*You're not fully over your ex yet until you can HONESTLY say to yourself that you're happy for them EVEN IF their happiness does NOT involve you?

*Relationships are nothing more than 2 people waiting on someone/something better to come along?

*The #1 cause of divorce is marriage!? hehe =P

1. For me, this is true. I would like my ex to be happy even if its not with me, and even if the relationship ended on a sour note. I do agree with the concept from whomever said that someone elses happiness is not mine.

2. Not necessarily. There are people out there that believe in true love. I don't think that people are disposable, they just are not the glove for my hand 😛 But there is always room in the drawer 🙂

3. I see where you are going with this statement.....but it's funny. I thought the #1 cause of marriage was divorce 😛

i dont believe you should have to feel happy for your ex, that would mean the thought of them still sparks some kind of emotion! indifference is what means you are over someone. i dont love/hate/admire/feel happy for/feel sorry my ex i simply just dont care. i nothing him lol.

Posted by libra sun
i dont believe you should have to feel happy for your ex, that would mean the thought of them still sparks some kind of emotion! indifference is what means you are over someone. i dont love/hate/admire/feel happy for/feel sorry my ex i simply just dont care. i nothing him lol.

I'm not saying you oughta jump & down if you hear good/bad news about your ex, but it's impossible to not have SOME kind of emotional thought/reaction after hearing that your ex has moved on.

Granted, it may not necessarily bother you but hearing the news may not excite you either.

Think of it this way...had anyone else came to you saying "Omg, I'm so happily married now!" I'm sure you wouldn't just stand there with a blank face. The fact that you would with your ex means that you can't fully allow yourself to be happy for him

Posted by krysrenee7
*You're not fully over your ex yet until you can HONESTLY say to yourself that you're happy for them EVEN IF their happiness does NOT involve you?

No
For me being over % 100 over means I'm neutral or that there is no anger if it was a bad relationship.
Also I'd be happy for my first love's happiness because I will always love him (as a friend though).

Posted by krysrenee7

*Relationships are nothing more than 2 people waiting on someone/something better to come along?

Not to me - I think you can be with someone you wouldn't trade the world for, but I gues over time you will either love
your partner in a different way than you did in the beginning or just not at all.

Posted by krysrenee7

*The #1 cause of divorce is marriage!? hehe =P

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Yup 🙂

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@ krys i have no need to be happy for him same way as i dont care if a stranger gets married. it has no emotional effect on me. i would only be happy for an ex that i was still friendly with. i do not believe being happy for someone means you have moved on.i agree with virgodreamz i am neutral with people when i have moved on, no strong feelings for or against them. and also about the whole first love thing, i will always love my first love yet i am still happy for him that he has settled down with a nice woman. I m happy because i care about him and his well being.

"I'm not saying you oughta jump & down if you hear good/bad news about your ex, but it's impossible to not have SOME kind of emotional thought/reaction after hearing that your ex has moved on."

A sigh of relief? 😛

I have some fairly mixed feelings about this. In one sense I am happy, if not actually quite pleased, that my ex is doing well. On the other hand, it makes me sad to know that they are happy, but that I am not part of what is making them happy.

Basically, happiness is such a good thing, but why can't I be part of that happiness to?

Oh this is a tricky one for me.

In terms of being over my ex husband - yeah, I'm over him. But for three years after we split (until 3 months ago), i still held a lot of anxiety over whether or not he was happy.
I ended a 14 year marriage, but it broke my heart to see him so hurt, really broke my heart. Even so, I wouldn't agree to getting back with him simply to stop his immediate hurt because I didn't want to be with him any longer, i knew it would turn to shit and I thought it be very cruel for him to go through another breakup.

Over him? Yes, I was a long time ago. But i cared so deeply that he was unhappy.

He's with someone else now and I can honestly say that while I was curious about his new woman - a natural thing I expect - I wasn't negatively affected in any way on the day he and she helped my move house. She was there, they were hugging etc - I didn't feel a jolt of emotion or jealousy.

I was actually happy for him for two reasons: 1) he's decided to get happy and has actively found a way to do that by dating another woman, 2) I can finally let go of feeling responsible for making sure he's happy and worrying about him.

Do i love him? Oh for sure, always will, even if he's an arse at times.
Do I care about him? For sure, I'd help him out, listen to his troubles etc.
Do I miss him? I miss the "old" him, not who he became.
Am i sad it ended? Of course, we were together for years, many of them really sweet, wonderful years with plenty of cherished events.

Am i over him? Yes.

And I wish him good health, laughter, love and fortune, because for many years we were crazy about each other and just because we aren't together now it doesn't mean i have to hate him.

I am happy for him because he is a lovely man with a huge heart and he deserves to be happy.

Well when I'm fully over my ex I wouldn't care whether they're happy or not. Heck, I wouldn't even care if he's still breathing or not. It seems like they have disappeared from my head.

There might be some emotional response from me, but if there is it's due to my pride (i.e. ex dumped me then he dates someone who's uglier than me. It'll go like this in my head "ha dude, you dumped me and now you end up with that ugly bitch. Your loss!"). Doesn't mean that I'm not over him.

but why must you wish them the best? This is what I dont understand. I couldnt care less about them, dont care if they are happy or sad. I dont wish happiness upon them and I dont wish sadness upon them either. They are not even a passing thought in my head.

My mum actualy mentioned my ex fiance of 3 years to me the other day and my genuine response was "who?" she thought it was hilarious that I didnt automatically link the name with him . If someone told me he was happily married my response would be "ok" if someone told me he had died my response would be "ok" if someone told me he was running for prime minister my response would be "ok".

The only people I wish the best to are people I care about. Wishing unhappiness on someone is a sign you havnt moved on and they still have the power to effect you, but wishing nothing (good or bad) on them, to me, is a sign you are completely over someone.

I would also offer that perhaps there is a certain perspective to be added into this mix. I was with my ex for over half my life. This isn't something that you just shrug off. With that much of life with someone else, that someone simply does not disappear from your life once you are "no longer together."

I wish my ex husband every happiness, he got exactly what he deserved.

I understand you Libra sun. For me also, wishing happiness or unhappiness is an indication that there is something there still - but I don't think anything is wrong with that. It's great to have good feelings for another human being. Just because a bond is not completely broken that doesn't mean it can't take a new form. I just think as far as the original question happiness for an ex's happiness doesn't mean you are over him or her.