Whats the best advice you would give someone thats trying to come out of their shell trying to date? Like they never hardly ever had much experience of having a long term relationship ?
growing relationships.
Just do it and know you'll make mistakes along the way. People who matter wont care and you'll learn and grow in the process.
I'm in the same boat girl lol
I am 20 years old and decided to start dating late in life compared to others. Worst part about that I don't have experience and I have to learn everything that others probably learned years ago. I've had two relationships, been on plenty of dates. I am learning how to balance my life between being myself, having other priorities in life other than my relationship (when I actually find one I like, I'm very picky.)
I am learning... NEVER change yourself for anybody, huge huge mistake I see girls make. Also, be honest and open. If you and your partner are not honest about everything in the beginning, or hide things, it can kill the relationship fast. Be their friend first, girlfriend second. Make sure you have similar interests. Don't just date because you think he's cute (yep, I was young and clueless) . Don't be clingy, keep up with hobbies go out with friends; you don't want to become too much invested too fast (I tend to do this and then overthink everything as a consequence) take everything slow and get to know them the best that you can. If he is busy, you stay busy. Let him chase you. Don't try too hard, just be yourself. It is very hard to get used to when you've been single for so long, but I think I'm getting there.
I am 20 years old and decided to start dating late in life compared to others. Worst part about that I don't have experience and I have to learn everything that others probably learned years ago. I've had two relationships, been on plenty of dates. I am learning how to balance my life between being myself, having other priorities in life other than my relationship (when I actually find one I like, I'm very picky.)
I am learning... NEVER change yourself for anybody, huge huge mistake I see girls make. Also, be honest and open. If you and your partner are not honest about everything in the beginning, or hide things, it can kill the relationship fast. Be their friend first, girlfriend second. Make sure you have similar interests. Don't just date because you think he's cute (yep, I was young and clueless) . Don't be clingy, keep up with hobbies go out with friends; you don't want to become too much invested too fast (I tend to do this and then overthink everything as a consequence) take everything slow and get to know them the best that you can. If he is busy, you stay busy. Let him chase you. Don't try too hard, just be yourself. It is very hard to get used to when you've been single for so long, but I think I'm getting there.
I'm 23. Been single for three years now. I tried to date but its like i don't know to express myself. I think I'm scared of being accepted for who i really am. I'm always by myself my thoughts stay to myself. I don't want to freak people out to being all sensitive all the time talking bout real life situations. So i pretend to live the moment cause i don't want to rush things. Its not like I'm not a likable person i just keep my guard up and build walls for our of rejection.
Posted by TharealherThat is a risk you have to be willing to take. I know exactly how you're feeling but if you never try you'll never know.
I'm 23. Been single for three years now. I tried to date but its like i don't know to express myself. I think I'm scared of being accepted for who i really am. I'm always by myself my thoughts stay to myself. I don't want to freak people out to being all sensitive all the time talking bout real life situations. So i pretend to live the moment cause i don't want to rush things. Its not like I'm not a likable person i just keep my guard up and build walls for our of rejection.
Posted by heartlocketI just got out a situation that thought me to love myself and really know what my worth is. I was bitter and always being negative towards others. The guy wanted a relationship but i really look at it if he doesn't fight for you he doesn't want you. Three years ago i had a dude i was seeing for a year and half brought the worst out of me. I been thru some tragic things few years ago that i let control myself. I think its best for ne to live life enhoy it while I'm here and stop wasting time on people who doesn't want to work for a relationship.
I'm in the same boat girl lol
I am 20 years old and decided to start dating late in life compared to others. Worst part about that I don't have experience and I have to learn everything that others probably learned years ago. I've had two relationships, been on plenty of dates. I am learning how to balance my life between being myself, having other priorities in life other than my relationship (when I actually find one I like, I'm very picky.)
I am learning... NEVER change yourself for anybody, huge huge mistake I see girls make. Also, be honest and open. If you and your partner are not honest about everything in the beginning, or hide things, it can kill the relationship fast. Be their friend first, girlfriend second. Make sure you have similar interests. Don't just date because you think he's cute (yep, I was young and clueless) . Don't be clingy, keep up with hobbies go out with friends; you don't want to become too much invested too fast (I tend to do this and then overthink everything as a consequence) take everything slow and get to know them the best that you can. If he is busy, you stay busy. Let him chase you. Don't try too hard, just be yourself. It is very hard to get used to when you've been single for so long, but I think I'm getting there.
You hid your thread where you stated that you are currently fucking a taken man ... knowing full well that he has a girlfriend. And you mentioned nothing in your testimony that even remotely suggests that you have any guilt associated for participating in emotionally injuring another woman by sleeping with her man. Your only mentions were talking about how you feel, and what you think you deserve.
Skank is a good word. It describes bitches well, who are homewreckers.
Posted by TharealherAbsolutely. Don't waste your time with people who don't put in effort, will just bring more heartache. But, that doesn't mean ya gotta be a single lady forever! 😉 I was led on for three years, I was so young and clueless. But then, I decided to finally put myself out there and move on, and risk feeling that pain again. Sometimes, they will suck, sometimes wonderful ! But guys are honestly worth a dime a dozen! Don't be too hard on yourself.Posted by heartlocketI just got out a situation that thought me to love myself and really know what my worth is. I was bitter and always being negative towards others. The guy wanted a relationship but i really look at it if he doesn't fight for you he doesn't want you. Three years ago i had a dude i was seeing for a year and half brought the worst out of me. I been thru some tragic things few years ago that i let control myself. I think its best for ne to live life enhoy it while I'm here and stop wasting time on people who doesn't want to work for a relationship.
I'm in the same boat girl lol
I am 20 years old and decided to start dating late in life compared to others. Worst part about that I don't have experience and I have to learn everything that others probably learned years ago. I've had two relationships, been on plenty of dates. I am learning how to balance my life between being myself, having other priorities in life other than my relationship (when I actually find one I like, I'm very picky.)
I am learning... NEVER change yourself for anybody, huge huge mistake I see girls make. Also, be honest and open. If you and your partner are not honest about everything in the beginning, or hide things, it can kill the relationship fast. Be their friend first, girlfriend second. Make sure you have similar interests. Don't just date because you think he's cute (yep, I was young and clueless) . Don't be clingy, keep up with hobbies go out with friends; you don't want to become too much invested too fast (I tend to do this and then overthink everything as a consequence) take everything slow and get to know them the best that you can. If he is busy, you stay busy. Let him chase you. Don't try too hard, just be yourself. It is very hard to get used to when you've been single for so long, but I think I'm getting there.click to expand
Posted by DastardAlthough it is completely unforgivable, calling her a "worthless skank" isn't going to help. She obviously has commitment issues, and needs to get help.Posted by TharealherPosted by heartlocketI just got out a situation that thought me to love myself and really know what my worth is. I was bitter and always being negative towards others. The guy wanted a relationship but i really look at it if he doesn't fight for you he doesn't want you. Three years ago i had a dude i was seeing for a year and half brought the worst out of me. I been thru some tragic things few years ago that i let control myself. I think its best for ne to live life enhoy it while I'm here and stop wasting time on people who doesn't want to work for a relationship.
I'm in the same boat girl lol
I am 20 years old and decided to start dating late in life compared to others. Worst part about that I don't have experience and I have to learn everything that others probably learned years ago. I've had two relationships, been on plenty of dates. I am learning how to balance my life between being myself, having other priorities in life other than my relationship (when I actually find one I like, I'm very picky.)
I am learning... NEVER change yourself for anybody, huge huge mistake I see girls make. Also, be honest and open. If you and your partner are not honest about everything in the beginning, or hide things, it can kill the relationship fast. Be their friend first, girlfriend second. Make sure you have similar interests. Don't just date because you think he's cute (yep, I was young and clueless) . Don't be clingy, keep up with hobbies go out with friends; you don't want to become too much invested too fast (I tend to do this and then overthink everything as a consequence) take everything slow and get to know them the best that you can. If he is busy, you stay busy. Let him chase you. Don't try too hard, just be yourself. It is very hard to get used to when you've been single for so long, but I think I'm getting there.
Worthless skank.
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Tharealher, you are ruining someone's relationship. Imagine how his girlfriend will feel when she finds out? Imagine that being done to you? Do you really think he cares about your well-being? Seriously... you're only making everything harder for yourself and the longer you let this go on the worse this will all end. You don't have to listen to me or take anybody's advice but the next time you decide to sleep with a taken man, remember this. We receive the love we think we deserve.
Posted by P-AngelYou're 57 so shut up. I admit i was wrong to him. So wtf are you even talking bout. First off you don't know anything you going by my posts and you can have your opinion. No lie I'm over that and i moved on with my life. I can mess with whoever its my business and my body I'm single i can do that. Go on with your miserable life. I'm 23 and you're 57 i bet you was a skank old ass hoe.
You hid your thread where you stated that you are currently fucking a taken man ... knowing full well that he has a girlfriend. And you mentioned nothing in your testimony that even remotely suggests that you have any guilt associated for participating in emotionally injuring another woman by sleeping with her man. Your only mentions were talking about how you feel, and what you think you deserve.
Skank is a good word. It describes bitches well, who are homewreckers.
My advice? Forget men and dating until you know who you are as a person. For women this doesn't happen until at least your late 20's.
I shake my head at comments that 20 is quite late in life. Jesus your brain hasn't even stopped growing. Get a sense of yourself first and be independent. Once you have that you won't need people to tell you how to behave.
I shake my head at comments that 20 is quite late in life. Jesus your brain hasn't even stopped growing. Get a sense of yourself first and be independent. Once you have that you won't need people to tell you how to behave.
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Posted by P-AngelYou're 57 so shut up. I admit i was wrong to him. So wtf are you even talking bout. First off you don't know anything you going by my posts and you can have your opinion. No lie I'm over that and i moved on with my life. I can mess with whoever its my business and my body I'm single i can do that. Go on with your miserable life. I'm 23 and you're 57 i bet you was a skank old ass hoe.
You hid your thread where you stated that you are currently fucking a taken man ... knowing full well that he has a girlfriend. And you mentioned nothing in your testimony that even remotely suggests that you have any guilt associated for participating in emotionally injuring another woman by sleeping with her man. Your only mentions were talking about how you feel, and what you think you deserve.
Skank is a good word. It describes bitches well, who are homewreckers.click to expand
Still, no mention of how you purposely emotionally harmed another woman by sleeping with her man. You only talk about yourself and that "you are over it" .. meaning, you're over how you felt.
Meanwhile, you fucked another woman's man, and had zero cares about it.
You even go so far as to say that you can mess with whomever you like because you're single.
You can NOT mess with another woman's man ... period.
But, you're so far up your own ass that you refuse to recognize how fucked up that is.
My hope is that all of the females in your world realize that you can't be trusted ... that you're not loyal, and that you would have no qualms about fucking them over by sleeping with their men.
You're a home wrecker, and you don't even care ... you say you're allowed to if you're single. Well, when all of your friends realize what a real bitch you are, and they bail on you for being dishonest .... you'll care then.
Posted by P-AngelPosted by Tharealher
Posted by P-AngelYou're 57 so shut up. I admit i was wrong to him. So wtf are you even talking bout. First off you don't know anything you going by my posts and you can have your opinion. No lie I'm over that and i moved on with my life. I can mess with whoever its my business and my body I'm single i can do that. Go on with your miserable life. I'm 23 and you're 57 i bet you was a skank old ass hoe.
You hid your thread where you stated that you are currently fucking a taken man ... knowing full well that he has a girlfriend. And you mentioned nothing in your testimony that even remotely suggests that you have any guilt associated for participating in emotionally injuring another woman by sleeping with her man. Your only mentions were talking about how you feel, and what you think you deserve.
Skank is a good word. It describes bitches well, who are homewreckers.
Still, no mention of how you purposely emotionally harmed another woman by sleeping with her man. You only talk about yourself and that "you are over it" .. meaning, you're over how you felt.
Meanwhile, you fucked another woman's man, and had zero cares about it.
You even go so far as to say that you can mess with whomever you like because you're single.
You can NOT mess with another woman's man ... period.
But, you're so far up your own ass that you refuse to recognize how fucked up that is.
My hope is that all of the females in your world realize that you can't be trusted ... that you're not loyal, and that you would have no qualms about fucking them over by sleeping with their men.
You're a home wrecker, and you don't even care ... you say you're allowed to if you're single. Well, when all of your friends realize what a real bitch you are, and they bail on you for being dishonest .... you'll care then.
You someone's grandma. Shut up with your old ass. I don't care wtf you got to say with me i only been with 12 people in my life. My last relationship my man just passed away so before you judge anything. And not my fault for him ruining his relationship i don't owe his girl loyalty he does. Really i don't care bout anything you say you sound like a miserable ass hoe who sits at home waiting for something to happen. You're man probably left your ass too being a hateful dumb ass bitch. Granny go home and sit yo thot ass down. — you cracking me up no lie. You don't know me but I'm a homewrecker mf don't even live with his gf. Don't claim her ass not my problem and mf keeps coming back to me trying to give me chances to be with him. So before you speak i revise you to shut the hell up.
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I'm glad someone got feelings I'll admit i don't. That shit can go out the window. I don't mfs say I'm on games i like people thats straight forward and honest on what they want. I'm numb i lost a man of three years. So i don't need no motherly advice so save it. I don't want sympathy. No lie no one on this thread has reached me on my level to me to have a nice way to talk y'all miserable want to judge a book by its cover get mad someone shuts your ass out and doesn't comment on your rude harsh comments. You sound like a internet bully i bet you was in my face a mf wouldn't be running no talk on me like that i don't care how old you are.
And still no mention of accountability in your participation of emotionally harming another woman by sleeping with her man.
In fact, more mention of how you are excused of having accountability.
Again, my hope is in that the females in your world realize that you can't be trusted, because you wont' honor boundaries.
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And still no mention of accountability in your participation of emotionally harming another woman by sleeping with her man.
In fact, more mention of how you are excused of having accountability.
Again, my hope is in that the females in your world realize that you can't be trusted, because you wont' honor boundaries.
I don't owe you an explanation so wtf old granny get over yourself please.
Yup it's a free country i do wtf i please you got an problem old bitch. I don't need a therapist. So move on with your life. ——— you trying to test me old ass hoe.
Posted by leowwwThank you appreciate it.Posted by TharealherMaybe you're trying to hard. Chill girl. Take your time getting to know people. I understand the trust part, that comes in time...not everyone you'll meet is deserving of that trust. That's just my opinion. Make genuine connections, quality over quantity. Doesn't matter how long it's been... Maybe you weren't ready to date before. The right person will see you for who you are, no matter how guarded you feel. Good luck Op.
I'm 23. Been single for three years now. I tried to date but its like i don't know to express myself. I think I'm scared of being accepted for who i really am. I'm always by myself my thoughts stay to myself. I don't want to freak people out to being all sensitive all the time talking bout real life situations. So i pretend to live the moment cause i don't want to rush things. Its not like I'm not a likable person i just keep my guard up and build walls for our of rejection.click to expand
maybe you do need some counseling after all you say you've gone through - if you've lost your way, they can help - I agree that you shouldn't be doing any dating or anything until you get yourself squared away and that takes some time - for sure -
there is no one that is going to come along and "save" you - no prince on a white horse - this is real life and it's not all fun and games - what you do comes back to you
take care of yourself, mind your business, work and do well and get confident and stay healthy and first of all be friends with men, don't screw them first - you need real friendships, real people who are honest and care - and maybe you will learn and grow as a good person and find yourself ...
there is no one that is going to come along and "save" you - no prince on a white horse - this is real life and it's not all fun and games - what you do comes back to you
take care of yourself, mind your business, work and do well and get confident and stay healthy and first of all be friends with men, don't screw them first - you need real friendships, real people who are honest and care - and maybe you will learn and grow as a good person and find yourself ...
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