Have you ever been dumped?

LOL it hurted at the time but funny now. I was dating this guy for about 3 months, one night we were suppose to go to the movie but he didnt show. So I called him to see what happened and he picked up the phone saying —why are you calling me? I told you I had a girlfriend?? I was like what—— Is he making it sound like I pursued and was stalking him. Then I hear the girlfriend in the background say —tell her that what ever she thought y??all had is over!!! Then she get on the phone and says —lose his # B*****?? I could have said something but I left it that??_she can have the LOSER ! I mean he didnt even have the guts to dump me himself..i just want to know why she was mad at me and not at him... I should have known better I mean how many men you know drives a VW Beetle..anyways I was young and I learned from it.

Oh hun...they are always mad at the other woman. It's like girl code or something...don't be mad at the poor sweet man, that other girl's the bitch! This is normal...

"I should have known better I mean how many men you know drives a VW Beetle..anyways I was young and I learned from it. "

LOL!

I've never been dumped like that...more of mutual dumps, I guess.

be mad at everyone get a gun and stalk them

i kinda prefer getting dumped instead of having to dump someone because i don't like feeling guilty and mean

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
He didn't break up with you himself,because he really was not planning on it until his bitchy old lady forced him to 🙂

LMFAO! Damn, I hate when that happens...f@cking b@tchy old lady - the nerve! LMAO!
Been dumped before...don't like it, and will try to avoid that at all costs!

Posted by i love ewe
i kinda prefer getting dumped instead of having to dump someone because i don't like feeling guilty and mean

Now, I have NO problems dumping 🙂

fucking in a VW that could be hard.

Posted by virgo_vix3n
LOL it hurted at the time but funny now. I was dating this guy for about 3 months, one night we were suppose to go to the movie but he didnt show. So I called him to see what happened and he picked up the phone saying —why are you calling me? I told you I had a girlfriend?? I was like what—— Is he making it sound like I pursued and was stalking him. Then I hear the girlfriend in the background say —tell her that what ever she thought y??all had is over!!! Then she get on the phone and says —lose his # B*****?? I could have said something but I left it that??_she can have the LOSER ! I mean he didnt even have the guts to dump me himself..i just want to know why she was mad at me and not at him... I should have known better I mean how many men you know drives a VW Beetle..anyways I was young and I learned from it.

Wow.

She wasn't REALLY mad at you, threatened yes...or perhaps she is a DicksBeforeChicks kinda Gal...let her have the weasel.

BTW - although I don't personally know him (Thank you Jesus) - Serial Killer Ted Bundy drove a VW!

I've never been dumped but in hindsight there are 2 relationships that I wish I had been.

Posted by i love ewe
i kinda prefer getting dumped instead of having to dump someone because i don't like feeling guilty and mean

This is interesting, because I somewhat feel the same way. However, I have noticed that with me it depends on the person. A very wise DXP lady told me once (in summary) "sometimes it's better to be the one hurt because you may be the stronger of the two in the relationship and knowing that you hurt someone else is often an even harder cross to bear."

Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved

Posted by i love ewe
i kinda prefer getting dumped instead of having to dump someone because i don't like feeling guilty and mean

This is interesting, because I somewhat feel the same way. However, I have noticed that with me it depends on the person. A very wise DXP lady told me once (in summary) "sometimes it's better to be the one hurt because you may be the stronger of the two in the relationship and knowing that you hurt someone else is often an even harder cross to bear."

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Wow...love that!

lol .... I would imagine that signs were there telling you that the exit was stage left.


However, the common theme is ignorance of them ..... for purposes of suffering.

There isn't a chump out there who could be this much of asswipe ..... that is flying under the radar undetected .. for if he was then he'd have classy women at his disposal, not bitch-whores.

Which means his asswipedness is apparant for those who are paying attention because on his arm is trash, not class.

If his energy is attracting the type of women that talked to you on the phone .... then what the hell are you all about, since his energy, this SAME energy attracted you?



wtf?




Next time, actually listen to your gut.

To answer your question .... no, I've never been dumped.


I have enough practical sense to comprehend that changes in a partner means something other than just him having a bad hair day. When a partner is getting ready to break up with you .... there are fucking horns honking, lights flashing.



Look at all the women in here bitching about being hurt ... if they are prompted about details, we find out the signs were smacking them in the face and they were too concerned about getting hurt to see them.


Irony .... was that pain actually worse?

No !!!!!!!!!


Fuck, people are so stupid, and don't even know it.

^^^Yes, the writing is always on the wall; unfortunately, some chose to ignore it.

My cancer ex who is now my friend dumped me for his first love. When he tried to get back with her she treated him real shitty and acted all nonchalant. So much for a first love. It was karma to me. AND he came back to me and no, it didn't work. I was over him within 2 days. I so wish I could go back to my state of mind in my younger days. I was way less tolerant when it came to guys bullshit, I got over a break up at max a week, I had more fun.

Hell yes. She dumped me because I was an hour late to our date.

I was 21 I think... a friend was having troubles with his wife... he called asking for advice and it screwed up my timeline. She lived in Chicago, which was over an hours drive from me... I encountered some bad traffic on the way up to her place... and man was she pissed. She dumped me on the spot... said I had no respect for her because I didn't call to let her know I was going to be late... it broke my heart... I actually cried because she wouldn't accept my apology... to no avail. I learned a hard lesson that day.

I've been dumped before, but looking back the loser who dumped me actually did me a FAVOR. I've been in situations where I was dating a guy whom I thought was single, only to find out that he was emotionally unavailable due to 1. Secretely & already being in a relationship & 2. Not having yet been over the ex that he was no longer with. Either way it goes, it's to be expected that the "other woman" will always be chastised the most. I think that stems from alot of women claiming they didn't know when in fact they actually DID know the guy was already taken. In most cases, alot of women can AT LEAST see a few signs that indicate that the guy is hiding something and/or that something "just isn't right." And the REAL girlfriends knowing this, automatically assume their boyfriends are moreso the victim than they are the one whose more in the wrong. I've had the REAL girlfriends approach me & call me all the names in the book. Part of that was b/c they didn't have the balls to blaim the RIGHT person, which in truth is part of the reason the man played her in the first place (Men pick up on this & use it to their advantage) & the other part came from it being easier for the girlfriend to get her true feelings of anger, heartbreak & fury out to the "other woman" e.i. the person that she LEAST cares about in the whole situation. I always laugh & say, "Trust me, I don't want him. But here's some food for thought: If he was YOUR man, we wouldn't be having this conversation, now would we?" That always shuts it down every time. Part of the reason men get away with cheating on their girlfriends time after time is b/c they were never held accountable the 1st time they slipped up. Most people would rob a bank if they knew they probably wouldn't get caught. THat is the mentality of cheaters.

People don't understand that they can't expect for others outside of their relationship to respect their relationship unless the 2 people in it actually respect the relationship. When the "other woman" gets found out by the REAL girlfriend it's almost as if the real girlfriend lashes out at the other woman, as if the other woman was supposed to naturally & already KNOW the truth. Granted, some women play dumb & act like they didn't know he was taken or they might pretend like they didn't see all the "red flags" but still...I think it's unrealistic to place that kind of burden on someone OUTSIDE of the relationship. To all the girlfriends out there: Even if your man cheats on you & the other woman knew about you, make sure that your anger is directed the MOST (keyword) toward the person that was obligated to you. The "other woman" isn't the one who committed to you & told you that she'd never hurt you; he did. So even if another woman knows that a man is already taken, it's still up to the MAN to make the CHOICE to allow another woman to disrespect his relationship. No matter how you look at it, the MAN or the person who committed to you should be the person you direct most, if not all your fury to. Men will tell you this: The oldest TRICK IN THE BOOK is pitting 2 women up against eachother! Women continue to fall for it & waste all of their energy focusing on releasing their fury to the wrong person. Men are not idiots. They know exactly what they are doing. A man makes the decision to cheat. Another woman can tempt him all day long, but ultimately, if cheating happens, it's HIS fault, not anyone else's fault. A woman can't make a man do something he doesn't want to do

Posted by krysrenee7
People don't understand that they can't expect for others outside of their relationship to respect their relationship unless the 2 people in it actually respect the relationship. When the "other woman" gets found out by the REAL girlfriend it's almost as if the real girlfriend lashes out at the other woman, as if the other woman was supposed to naturally & already KNOW the truth. Granted, some women play dumb & act like they didn't know he was taken or they might pretend like they didn't see all the "red flags" but still...I think it's unrealistic to place that kind of burden on someone OUTSIDE of the relationship. To all the girlfriends out there: Even if your man cheats on you & the other woman knew about you, make sure that your anger is directed the MOST (keyword) toward the person that was obligated to you. The "other woman" isn't the one who committed to you & told you that she'd never hurt you; he did. So even if another woman knows that a man is already taken, it's still up to the MAN to make the CHOICE to allow another woman to disrespect his relationship. No matter how you look at it, the MAN or the person who committed to you should be the person you direct most, if not all your fury to. Men will tell you this: The oldest TRICK IN THE BOOK is pitting 2 women up against eachother! Women continue to fall for it & waste all of their energy focusing on releasing their fury to the wrong person. Men are not idiots. They know exactly what they are doing. A man makes the decision to cheat. Another woman can tempt him all day long, but ultimately, if cheating happens, it's HIS fault, not anyone else's fault. A woman can't make a man do something he doesn't want to do

This.

no, i have not been dumped yet. i was always the dumper.