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LibrasRule36!
some of us do just ask them if they answer bull shit them drop them
@lR36, I'm getting too old to go through all the stress and worry about trying to anaylize his every move and really feel that he needs to put himself out there for me but the damage is when they tell you everything in the beginning and get you hooked... I now deal with that silently and through here.
I love dxp 🙂
I'm also happy to be on my own til some fucker fucks with me and makes me think otherwise!!!
Hard to know what bullshit is James when they sugar coat it....and they do!!!!!!! My friend tells me beautiful things all the time and then flirts with everyone else online....wtf....what am I to believe to me it's disrespectful and he must know that I can see it so is it a game or what—?? Cos really I wont play!
Posted by sweethearts
Hard to know what bullshit is James when they sugar coat it....and they do!!!!!!! My friend tells me beautiful things all the time and then flirts with everyone else online....wtf....what am I to believe to me it's disrespectful and he must know that I can see it so is it a game or what—?? Cos really I wont play!
READ what you wrote and chew on it...
PAY ATTENTION to WHAT he does as well as what he SAYS - Does it MATCH? OR is it CONFLICTING?
If a man told you that he loved you and then proceeded to beat the snot out of you - Would you call that LOVE? Would his words supercede his actions? I think not.
Get back in the driver's seat, sit up and observe (and observe some more), & guard your heart.
Just want to say in general - The worst kind of lie that is told is the ones we tell ourselves.
Dear 109 dump hi9m move on there are better men out there for you
Posted by LibrasRule36!
Posted by sweethearts
Hard to know what bullshit is James when they sugar coat it....and they do!!!!!!! My friend tells me beautiful things all the time and then flirts with everyone else online....wtf....what am I to believe to me it's disrespectful and he must know that I can see it so is it a game or what—?? Cos really I wont play!
READ what you wrote and chew on it...
PAY ATTENTION to WHAT he does as well as what he SAYS - Does it MATCH? OR is it CONFLICTING?
If a man told you that he loved you and then proceeded to beat the snot out of you - Would you call that LOVE? Would his words supercede his actions? I think not.
Get back in the driver's seat, sit up and observe (and observe some more), & guard your heart.
Just want to say in general - The worst kind of lie that is told is the ones we tell ourselves.
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WORD! I couldn't have saidit better myself. Also, I think sometimes (people in general) SEE/HEAR what they want to SEE/HEAR. It's funny how a person will say, "Such and so wasn't like this at the beginning...now, he/she has CHANGED!" Have they changed, or has your perception of them changed— Just a question, because I know that oftentimes, the person has been consistently doing/saying certain things since the beginning, but when that lovely, lust veneer is stripped away --- then you really start opening your eyes to the "real" person. They haven't changed, your perception of them has, because you aren't in that "New relationship" haze anymore.
"Saidit" = "said it." Obviously it's not ONE word! OY!
Posted by sweethearts
So how do you correctly read a man?
There is no 'correct' way to read a man! If there was, I'd be one rich ass biotch cause I'd capitalize on that shit!
Posted by USCTaurusGal
Posted by LibrasRule36!
Posted by sweethearts
Hard to know what bullshit is James when they sugar coat it....and they do!!!!!!! My friend tells me beautiful things all the time and then flirts with everyone else online....wtf....what am I to believe to me it's disrespectful and he must know that I can see it so is it a game or what—?? Cos really I wont play!
READ what you wrote and chew on it...
PAY ATTENTION to WHAT he does as well as what he SAYS - Does it MATCH? OR is it CONFLICTING?
If a man told you that he loved you and then proceeded to beat the snot out of you - Would you call that LOVE? Would his words supercede his actions? I think not.
Get back in the driver's seat, sit up and observe (and observe some more), & guard your heart.
Just want to say in general - The worst kind of lie that is told is the ones we tell ourselves.
WORD! I couldn't have saidit better myself. Also, I think sometimes (people in general) SEE/HEAR what they want to SEE/HEAR. It's funny how a person will say, "Such and so wasn't like this at the beginning...now, he/she has CHANGED!" Have they changed, or has your perception of them changed— Just a question, because I know that oftentimes, the person has been consistently doing/saying certain things since the beginning, but when that lovely, lust veneer is stripped away --- then you really start opening your eyes to the "real" person. They haven't changed, your perception of them has, because you aren't in that "New relationship" haze anymore.
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I agree with all of this!
i've only experienced that pulling away bit once in my life with men. it's hard for me, as a female, to fully relate with other females. i'm kinda like a guy. i have a strong tomboyish and spend most of my time in the company of other males. i think because of this it has made it easier for me to "figure them out". when that one guy did his hot and cold bit it was because our situation was complicated. the biggest thing was that he had a girlfriend. he came to me for his love fix and left with what he wasn't receiving with his gf. we never did anything physical but we did have a strong spiritual and emotional connection. so i dunno how to help u. i've come to understand that men and women speak different languages so it's up to us as individuals to become bi-lingual. there is something to be said about detachment. detachment meaning that we should always remain objective. understand and accept.
Stop trying to read us.
Posted by VirgoHero
Stop trying to read us.
I already got yer' #### Mr. Man! LOL! j/k.
Also (generalizing here), I think women (moreso than men) tend to try to hard. Sometimes it's best to just sit back and enjoy the ride. I know that it's difficult for some people because they are trying to make "connections" find their "soul mate" or a "husband/so". But sometimes it's just good to "BE." Stop putting all of this "serious" pressure on you and the other person and enjoy the time...just my minimal .02 worth.
Posted by USCTaurusGal
Posted by VirgoHero
Stop trying to read us.I already got yer' #### Mr. Man! LOL! j/k.
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HAHAHAHA psh I'm so innocent and naive! *polishes his halo*
Posted by VirgoHero
Stop trying to read us.
Unless it's in braile? Can I read you then?
Posted by ninjamu
i've only experienced that pulling away bit once in my life with men. it's hard for me, as a female, to fully relate with other females. i'm kinda like a guy. i have a strong tomboyish and spend most of my time in the company of other males. i think because of this it has made it easier for me to "figure them out". when that one guy did his hot and cold bit it was because our situation was complicated. the biggest thing was that he had a girlfriend. he came to me for his love fix and left with what he wasn't receiving with his gf. we never did anything physical but we did have a strong spiritual and emotional connection. so i dunno how to help u. i've come to understand that men and women speak different languages so it's up to us as individuals to become bi-lingual. there is something to be said about detachment. detachment meaning that we should always remain objective. understand and accept.
Ninjamu... you know I always find so much of what you say to be very much the same as me (Ive mentioned this before). We have a lot of the same placements so I can say that I too am a lot like how you mentioned above. I have been told a number of times by my many ex-bfs and male friends that I am not the typical female and that I am more of a guy. Because of that I seem to always end up bff's with all my exes! I dont know if this is a curse or not, since I tend to not end up as the long-term gf a lot of times. But I do know what you mean about being bi-lingual. However, sometimes I do meet men that I just don't CLICK with so communication on a romantic level doesnt work, however on a friendship level it goes very well for me.
Posted by VirgoHero
Posted by USCTaurusGal
Posted by VirgoHero
Stop trying to read us.I already got yer' #### Mr. Man! LOL! j/k.
HAHAHAHA psh I'm so innocent and naive! *polishes his halo*
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Yo VH, can you polish mine too. I'm kinda empty handed right now. 😄
Posted by VirgoHero
Posted by USCTaurusGal
Posted by VirgoHero
Stop trying to read us.I already got yer' #### Mr. Man! LOL! j/k.
HAHAHAHA psh I'm so innocent and naive! *polishes his halo*
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*ouch* I think I just got struck by lightning! LMAO!
Posted by Jason2213
I can't polish mine because mine is a real transparent one. 😢
That's what happened, if you hang around too much with those horny girls. 😄
Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
Posted by ninjamu
i've only experienced that pulling away bit once in my life with men. it's hard for me, as a female, to fully relate with other females. i'm kinda like a guy. i have a strong tomboyish and spend most of my time in the company of other males. i think because of this it has made it easier for me to "figure them out". when that one guy did his hot and cold bit it was because our situation was complicated. the biggest thing was that he had a girlfriend. he came to me for his love fix and left with what he wasn't receiving with his gf. we never did anything physical but we did have a strong spiritual and emotional connection. so i dunno how to help u. i've come to understand that men and women speak different languages so it's up to us as individuals to become bi-lingual. there is something to be said about detachment. detachment meaning that we should always remain objective. understand and accept.
Ninjamu... you know I always find so much of what you say to be very much the same as me (Ive mentioned this before). We have a lot of the same placements so I can say that I too am a lot like how you mentioned above. I have been told a number of times by my many ex-bfs and male friends that I am not the typical female and that I am more of a guy. Because of that I seem to always end up bff's with all my exes! I dont know if this is a curse or not, since I tend to not end up as the long-term gf a lot of times. But I do know what you mean about being bi-lingual. However, sometimes I do meet men that I just don't CLICK with so communication on a romantic level doesnt work, however on a friendship level it goes very well for me.
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Yeah, I pretty much am a lot like a guy too...blessing and a curse 🙂 For the larger part I do agree that women (can) nag too much and pressure situations without letting the relationship go down it's "natural" path/progression. With that being said there is like 15.5% of me that's a woman, and I do think that men can be jacka $ $ es too sometimes! But I have to agree that I have a lot of male friends for a good reason, because a lot of women are just too needy and time consuming for me. I think to myself, "Damn, if they are this needy in a friendship what the hell must they be like in a relationship—" I am a firm believer
Notice how all the "halos" belong to the Virgo's!!—
I call bullshit!
Except in Jason's case!
sorry, got cut off - just finishing by saying that if somebody wants to see/be with you, trust me they will hunt your a $ $ down and find you!
Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
Notice how all the "halos" belong to the Virgo's!!—I call bullshit!
Except in Jason's case!
Yupp, those Virgo's try to "fool us" since their name is akin to "virgin" but WE know the truth!!!!!
Posted by USCTaurusGalYeah, I pretty much am a lot like a guy too...blessing and a curse 🙂 For the larger part I do agree that women (can) nag too much and pressure situations without letting the relationship go down it's "natural" path/progression. With that being said there is like 15.5% of me that's a woman, and I do think that men can be jacka $ $ es too sometimes! But I have to agree that I have a lot of male friends for a good reason, because a lot of women are just too needy and time consuming for me. I think to myself, "Damn, if they are this needy in a friendship what the hell must they be like in a relationship—" I am a firm believer
Totally agree with this! I do have a pretty decent circle of female friends, but I notice that they are all similar in personality to me. Totally agree with some women friends being too needy... I can't do it, I have to limit my time with them or they drive me fuckin nuts!!! Get a life, I have one!
Probably why I was drawn to you, ninjamu, trifles, LR36, Eden and a few other females here on DXP and we all tend to end up in the same forums. Guess what's true IRL also applies online. Especially when you are dealing with personalities and not actual physical forms. Interesting.
Hahah I'm told my horns hold up my halo. This offends me!
You know what LeoLadyLoves, you may be onto something. I think since my ascendant is in Leo, and my Venus is in Aries, they tend to carry some more masculine characterstics moreso than some other signs. One of my best girlfriends (I love her to death) but she has a lot of Cancer in her chart and her Moon is in Gemini. She is TOO time consuming to me, and she cries a lot, and is VERY sensitive. I want to shake her sometimes, but of course I don't! LOL. She smothers her boyfriends and then cries to them all the time, and then wonders why she can't keep a man—?? I'm like, "You can barely keep friends, much less a man!" It's just too much. People have their own lives and problems to worry about. I thought she'd get better with age, but she hasn't!
I attract needy girlfriends; although, I do have some girlfriends that I very similar to me too. Trust me, I know I am not perfect; I have a whole scroll I can roll out and tell of my imperfections! Everyone now knows on here that I have commitment issues! LOL.
@Virgohero - yeah, thankfully you DO have those horns to hold up that halo (which needs to be shined as it's slightly tarnished)!
"I" = "Are"
Posted by VirgoHero
Hahah I'm told my horns hold up my halo. This offends me!
You are so NOT offended!!!
You know you like having those horns!
Posted by VirgoHero
Hahah I'm told my horns hold up my halo. This offends me!
Kinda like this one....😄
USCTG -
Yep sounds about right. My chart's ablazing with all Fire and Air with Aqua Ascendant..... I have a couple of earth but barely any water (Scorp in Jup) so could be why I'm not as sensitive as most women as well. My friends all tell me that I let shit roll off me very easily. It takes a lot to offend me. I too have a friend like you mentioned. Frustrating!!! *smh*
Thank you ladies for helping once again to confirm what I am already thinking...putting it out there and getting your feedback just makes me all the more stronger... I will sit back and do nothing and observe but already feel it's gone beyond that point...
Posted by sweethearts
Thank you ladies for helping once again to confirm what I am already thinking...putting it out there and getting your feedback just makes me all the more stronger... I will sit back and do nothing and observe but already feel it's gone beyond that point...
Girl, I feel you. Just remember that you can't control anyone's actions but your own. People can only affect you with what you allow them to.
In your opening post you signed with "totally frustrated and preparing to be frustrated alone".... Nothing wrong with that, in fact sometimes that's the best way to be frustrated!
*hugz*
Leolady, you dont look anything i imagined, the way you talk and knowing you as a gym freak. You definitely look more ladylike in your pic..beautiful 🙂
frustrated with the situation but moreso disappointed....because I was prepared to open up completely and be The LOVER and not sheild myself like the LOVED as per one of the discussions we had here...and I felt he would be very careful with me given our history but his actions say other...
Now the task ahead to STOP trying to re-harsh through everything said and done and let go...daunting!
Cool, will do Bella ♥
Posted by sweethearts
Leolady, you dont look anything i imagined, the way you talk and knowing you as a gym freak. You definitely look more ladylike in your pic..beautiful 🙂
LOL!! Yes, I know.... I am sure I surprise people a lot by that. I cant help it... Im kind of a tomboy with a sailor's mouth that embraces her feminity and sexuality with mad conviction. I love to look like a lady and go all out in that department. Yes, Im a gym freak but the category in which I compete is along the lines of fitness/athletic model so I can understand misconceptions. Thank you very much for the compliments!
frustrated with the situation but moreso disappointed....because I was prepared to open up completely and be The LOVER and not sheild myself like the LOVED as per one of the discussions we had here...and I felt he would be very careful with me given our history but his actions say other...Now the task ahead to STOP trying to re-harsh through everything said and done and let go...daunting!
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It is very frustrating when we open ourselves up only to experience disappointment, so I understand your delima. I too have recently experienced the same thing. Honestly, even though it hurt a great deal, I decided within myself to NOT let it affect me negatively and have taken it as a learning experience. I chose to see it as an opportunity that was afforded to me that taught me that I am capable of loving again. Even though I know that it will be while before I am ready to open up again, I now KNOW that I can and just having that feeling has brought me a certain peace within.
I am now taking some time to heal myself by myself for a while and I am truly enjoying it. Letting go is the hardest part, but with it comes a sense of relief sometimes! I wish you the best!
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Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
Notice how all the "halos" belong to the Virgo's!!—I call bullshit!
Except in Jason's case!
ROFL ... 😄
yeah, they are already dead and in heaven.. 😛
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he he!! Yep!
Posted by Jason2213
awesome pic LeoLady!
😉 TY cutie Pie!
Posted by Beergo85
Posted by Jason2213
I can't polish mine because mine is a real transparent one. 😢
That's what happened, if you hang around too much with those horny girls. 😄
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*l@@ks around*
Yep I think I might like to give woman a go...they are far easier creatures to read!
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Posted by sweethearts
Yep I think I might like to give woman a go...they are far easier creatures to read!
if i was a woman, id stick to women...
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If only women had penises.... so would I! 😄
Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
Posted by ianthefish
Posted by sweethearts
Yep I think I might like to give woman a go...they are far easier creatures to read!
if i was a woman, id stick to women...
If only women had penises.... so would I! 😄
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I think most Taurus women got one, if I'm not mistaken..
I kid. 😛
Note: I love Taurus women. 😄
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Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
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Posted by sweethearts
Yep I think I might like to give woman a go...they are far easier creatures to read!
if i was a woman, id stick to women...
If only women had penises.... so would I! 😄
I think most Taurus women got one, if I'm not mistaken..
I kid. 😛
Note: I love Taurus women. 😄
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LMAO!!! That was just plain wrong!
Posted by BellaBulleautiful
I'll show her my penis too! I'll smack her in the damn face with it!
LMAO Bella you are too much!!!
Posted by BellaBulleautiful
I'll show her my penis too! I'll smack her in the damn face with it!
I would pay top $ $ $ $ to see that. 😛
Maybe you guys can penis slap together. 😄
*Give Bella a big virgo hug* 😄
*......and a back rub and neck massage*
butter, i keep forgetting the big meaty steak and loads of cash. That's the only way to calm a Taurus down. 😄
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So how do you correctly read a man? I've heard a few times here that they are black and white so everything is on face value...is that right? They only say what they mean...but then if they throw it all out there to begin with(whats that about?) and then withdraw...how is that to be read? Change of mind or heart?
I've found guys will lay everything on the line to grab your interest and as soon as you start to show some interest they close down...wtf??
Seriously no wonder we woman over-anaylize your every move/action!
Signed totally frustrated and preparing to be frustrated alone!!!