How do I handle this delicately? (As a blunt Taurus)

Or do I not get involved at all?

So as some of you may know my sort of odd situation with my significant other. Primarily being he lives in my ex bf's families basement and his best friend (my ex's brother) is his landlord.

We of course have faced a lot of animosity in our relationship, which we totally expected. We even discussed the possibility of his friendship being strained and his living situation being in jeopardy, both risks HE wanted to take.

Skip forward 5 months to present day, eveeything has been fine. We are all getting along eveything seemed to be going smoothly. I've been staying there 3 nights a week. I never shower there, I don't over stay, I don't do laundry. I take a backpack there and leave with it. No way take advantage. (I have my own apartment I pay for). So yesterday my bf gets hit with "hey boots can't stay over here anymore. She's here too much..1x a week"

I'm super frustrated, and it leave a sour taste in my mouth.

My boyfriend says "his house his rules" and I respect that, but I still can't help but be upset and I want to say something.

Maybe I should bite my tongue though.

Btw, my boyfriend did argue it a bit, but he doesn't wanna lose a friendship or step on toes...ugh back to square fu,king one 😢

I also wonder why he doesn’t just stay at your place?

Wouldn’t that be easier?

That situation would be uncomfortable for me.

Posted by Apis

I wouldn't say anything. Wont change much will it. But then again if I were to say something in a case like that i get kinda..... fiery? And it usually just escalates.

Why not just share Bill's with him and let him live with you?

Yes I get firey in these situations too a honestly petty.

They have been kind of jerks to my boyfriend lately about a bunch of things and as friends They have grown apart. So I want to say all that to him.

My boyfriend says "I'm just not doing anyone any favors anymore" but then he's at their beck and call again.

He doesn't wanna live with me until we have been together a year...i have to respect his pace with that and logically ot makes sense. But it would be more beneficial for us...

Posted by Arkansassy

Stay at your place

Right now this isn't an option.

But we have done that in the past when this first occurred back in march.

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

Posted by Arkansassy

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Arkansassy

Stay at your place

Right now this isn't an option.

But we have done that in the past when this first occurred back in march.

Why is it not an option? It's your place..

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He has his parents dog he's been watching while his step father is I'll. He's an old dog plus I can't have dogs at my place. He's with us for an unseeable amount of time, possibly a few months.

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

You should bite your tongue and your bf should move. Realistically the friendship is already toast. Would the landlord have kicked up a fuss if you weren’t the girlfriend? Or did they make an alternative offer like you moving in or contributing to the bills?

This has never been an issue in the past with his last gf before me.

It's just because of who I am to the family.

I have said I would be willing to do that. That's too much for him. Too similar to living togther. Plus I have a lease until November and like I sajd..i don't use any unnecessary ulitities.

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Posted by Apis

I wouldn't say anything. Wont change much will it. But then again if I were to say something in a case like that i get kinda..... fiery? And it usually just escalates.

Why not just share Bill's with him and let him live with you?

Yes I get Corey in these situations too a honestly petty.

They have been kind of jerks to my boyfriend lately about a bunch of things and as friends They have grown apart. So I want to say all that to him.

My boyfriend says "I'm just not doing anyone any favors anymore" but then he's at their beck and call again.

He doesn't wanna live with me until we have been together a year...i have to respect his pace with that and logically ot makes sense. But it would be more beneficial for us...

But it's not really logical to stay there, is it?

I'd say hes wearing out his welcome. It's all well and good that you and him hit it off better than you and his friend, but there will still be some animosity and hurt regardless of if he says it or not. He needs to get away before he destroys the friendship. And has no place to go.

Plus financially it's just more savvy to combine resources.

If you can make it living together for the first year you guys will be rock solid. Its rough at the start, I think that's universal.

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Lol I wish you could tell him this. I've been trying to reason with him about that, but sadly is is very stubborn and bullheaded with it. Come November I won't have a place to go, so I asked if he we can tall about living togther then (8 months into our relationship) his response "1 year. That's final"...so you're going to make me move in with my.mom for 3 months...? 😐🤔

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

She’s saying you’re in denial by implying you’re not there much because you don’t shower, etc. but you’re actually there half the week.

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Lol it's gross but both my bf and I aren't big shower people. He can go 3 days. I go every other. And I stop home and shower after work.

Posted by Arkansassy

Putting the dog down is an option

Take it back! He's still got some life in him lol

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Posted by Apis

I wouldn't say anything. Wont change much will it. But then again if I were to say something in a case like that i get kinda..... fiery? And it usually just escalates.

Why not just share Bill's with him and let him live with you?

Yes I get Corey in these situations too a honestly petty.

They have been kind of jerks to my boyfriend lately about a bunch of things and as friends They have grown apart. So I want to say all that to him.

My boyfriend says "I'm just not doing anyone any favors anymore" but then he's at their beck and call again.

He doesn't wanna live with me until we have been together a year...i have to respect his pace with that and logically ot makes sense. But it would be more beneficial for us...

But it's not really logical to stay there, is it?

I'd say hes wearing out his welcome. It's all well and good that you and him hit it off better than you and his friend, but there will still be some animosity and hurt regardless of if he says it or not. He needs to get away before he destroys the friendship. And has no place to go.

Plus financially it's just more savvy to combine resources.

If you can make it living together for the first year you guys will be rock solid. Its rough at the start, I think that's universal.

Lol I wish you could tell him this. I've been trying to reason with him about that, but sadly is is very stubborn and bullheaded with it. Come November I won't have a place to go, so I asked if he we can tall about living togther then (8 months into our relationship) his response "1 year. That's final"...so you're going to make me move in with my.mom for 3 months...? 😐🤔

Let him live and learn then.

Make sure you handle yours though.. then point and laugh EXTREMELY HARD when hes homeless.

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Lol, I laugh but I'll never be like that to him.

Did I mention he's a Taurus too.

Somethings we just don't budge on

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

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Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

She’s saying you’re in denial by implying you’re not there much because you don’t shower, etc. but you’re actually there half the week.

Lol it's gross but both my bf and I aren't big shower people. He can go 3 days. I go every other. And I stop home and shower after work.

Maybe you two stink and they can't stand it

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This must be the answer!

Eureka!!

Posted by Ariqua

What could you possibly say to make the situation better and not worse?

This is true.

I just want to shake my bf though and tell him he needs to consider moving / talking man to man with his bestfrienf and stating its unfair to treat him the way he has been

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Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

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I don't think you are quite getting it.

There are 7 days a week, and you are there 3 out of those 7. That means, on a consist basis you are there 43% of the week.

Add to that, but you are dating the friend of an ex, who lives with your ex's brother. Your bf broke the ultimate code of "bros before hos". Which is fine and dandy, but your being there so often, is constantly shoving it in their faces of his "transgression" and inability to be loyal to a friendship that likely came before you were a part of their lives.

Neither of you are taking into account the level of awkwardness that you are putting your ex's brother in. Him allowing you to stay so much, and so often, could easily be seen by your ex, as him being disloyal to his own brother.

All you guys are thinking of is your own comfort, and not how your comfort impacts those around you, and puts added stress on them. Especially given that you have a place of your own, regardless of the excuse you have in terms with the dog.

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

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Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

I don't think you are quite getting it.

There are 7 days a week, and you are there 3 out of those 7. That means, on a consist basis you are there 43% of the week.

Add to that, but you are dating the friend of an ex, who lives with your ex's brother. Your bf broke the ultimate code of "bros before hos". Which is fine and dandy, but your being there so often, is constantly shoving it in their faces of his "transgression" and inability to be loyal to a friendship that likely came before you were a part of their lives.

Neither of you are taking into account the level of awkwardness that you are putting your ex's brother in. Him allowing you to stay so much, and so often, could easily be seen by your ex, as him being disloyal to his own brother.

All you guys are thinking of is your own comfort, and not how your comfort impacts those around you, and puts added stress on them. Especially given that you have a place of your own, regardless of the excuse you have in terms with the dog.

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I respect your answer.

This is very true. Fyi my ex and I are on good terms, it was a mutual breakup and we hang at the house on occasion. Him and my boyfriend play handball very Saturday while I'm at work. So it isn't as awkward as the family makes it seem.

But yes, I agree with you. We are being a tad selfish I guess, and I can see how the landlord is between a rock and a hard space. As they say blood is thicker than water.

So what do you suggest? Limit our time to 1 day a week...sadly to me that is not sustainable for a relationship.

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Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

I don't think you are quite getting it.

There are 7 days a week, and you are there 3 out of those 7. That means, on a consist basis you are there 43% of the week.

Add to that, but you are dating the friend of an ex, who lives with your ex's brother. Your bf broke the ultimate code of "bros before hos". Which is fine and dandy, but your being there so often, is constantly shoving it in their faces of his "transgression" and inability to be loyal to a friendship that likely came before you were a part of their lives.

Neither of you are taking into account the level of awkwardness that you are putting your ex's brother in. Him allowing you to stay so much, and so often, could easily be seen by your ex, as him being disloyal to his own brother.

All you guys are thinking of is your own comfort, and not how your comfort impacts those around you, and puts added stress on them. Especially given that you have a place of your own, regardless of the excuse you have in terms with the dog.

I respect your answer.

This is very true. Fyi my ex and I are on good terms, it was a mutual breakup and we hang at the house on occasion. Him and my boyfriend play handball very Saturday while I'm at work. So it isn't as awkward as the family makes it seem.

But yes, I agree with you. We are being a tad selfish I guess, and I can see how the landlord is between a rock and a hard space. As they say blood is thicker than water.

So what do you suggest? Limit our time to 1 day a week...sadly to me that is not sustainable for a relationship.

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Also 43% ...they aren't full days. Most times I don't get there until 10pm, then I have work and I work 8 hours. Saturday and Sunday. I'm not there 24/3

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Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

I don't think you are quite getting it.

There are 7 days a week, and you are there 3 out of those 7. That means, on a consist basis you are there 43% of the week.

Add to that, but you are dating the friend of an ex, who lives with your ex's brother. Your bf broke the ultimate code of "bros before hos". Which is fine and dandy, but your being there so often, is constantly shoving it in their faces of his "transgression" and inability to be loyal to a friendship that likely came before you were a part of their lives.

Neither of you are taking into account the level of awkwardness that you are putting your ex's brother in. Him allowing you to stay so much, and so often, could easily be seen by your ex, as him being disloyal to his own brother.

All you guys are thinking of is your own comfort, and not how your comfort impacts those around you, and puts added stress on them. Especially given that you have a place of your own, regardless of the excuse you have in terms with the dog.

I respect your answer.

This is very true. Fyi my ex and I are on good terms, it was a mutual breakup and we hang at the house on occasion. Him and my boyfriend play handball very Saturday while I'm at work. So it isn't as awkward as the family makes it seem.

But yes, I agree with you. We are being a tad selfish I guess, and I can see how the landlord is between a rock and a hard space. As they say blood is thicker than water.

So what do you suggest? Limit our time to 1 day a week...sadly to me that is not sustainable for a relationship.

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Remember, that it isn't necessarily about you, its the actions and context of your bf dating his bestfriend's ex. It could be anyone else, besides you, and they would probably react the same. So no matter what, even if you are on good terms with your ex, it still can cause conflict, without you even knowing it. I doubt they would even tell you if it did.

I suggest that you maybe lessen on the overnight stays, or find a way to do so at your place. You may be relegated to dates outside of each of your respective homes until the dog situation clears up. There are compromises that can occur until circumstances change.

Posted by Arkansassy

I mean.. honestly, how long to you think the dog has?

He could be ded tomorrow...or 5 years

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I mean.. honestly, how long to you think the dog has?

He could be ded tomorrow...or 5 years

I know a guy..

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That was my next question for you...what is his proximity to NYC?

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Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

I don't think you are quite getting it.

There are 7 days a week, and you are there 3 out of those 7. That means, on a consist basis you are there 43% of the week.

Add to that, but you are dating the friend of an ex, who lives with your ex's brother. Your bf broke the ultimate code of "bros before hos". Which is fine and dandy, but your being there so often, is constantly shoving it in their faces of his "transgression" and inability to be loyal to a friendship that likely came before you were a part of their lives.

Neither of you are taking into account the level of awkwardness that you are putting your ex's brother in. Him allowing you to stay so much, and so often, could easily be seen by your ex, as him being disloyal to his own brother.

All you guys are thinking of is your own comfort, and not how your comfort impacts those around you, and puts added stress on them. Especially given that you have a place of your own, regardless of the excuse you have in terms with the dog.

I respect your answer.

This is very true. Fyi my ex and I are on good terms, it was a mutual breakup and we hang at the house on occasion. Him and my boyfriend play handball very Saturday while I'm at work. So it isn't as awkward as the family makes it seem.

But yes, I agree with you. We are being a tad selfish I guess, and I can see how the landlord is between a rock and a hard space. As they say blood is thicker than water.

So what do you suggest? Limit our time to 1 day a week...sadly to me that is not sustainable for a relationship.

Also 43% ...they aren't full days. Most times I don't get there until 10pm, then I have work and I work 8 hours. Saturday and Sunday. I'm not there 24/3

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Doesn't matter, you are still there 3 days of the week. Most people that are working, are not home until after 6 pm, if they have a regular work schedule of Mon to Friday.

My roommate does this, and she is a Taurus. She subconsciously will come up with justifying responses or excuses to make whatever thing that is most comfortable, the logical answer.

I guess this is a bite my tongue. Obey the landlord wishes a d hope we come out stronger, better and on the other side of this solid.

My boyfriend will prob marry me if I get through this with little fuss.

I can /have a habit of making a fuss in these situations. They why I needed to ask for advice on if this is worht the battle or not.

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Posted by Waterbearerwearer

Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

I don't think you are quite getting it.

There are 7 days a week, and you are there 3 out of those 7. That means, on a consist basis you are there 43% of the week.

Add to that, but you are dating the friend of an ex, who lives with your ex's brother. Your bf broke the ultimate code of "bros before hos". Which is fine and dandy, but your being there so often, is constantly shoving it in their faces of his "transgression" and inability to be loyal to a friendship that likely came before you were a part of their lives.

Neither of you are taking into account the level of awkwardness that you are putting your ex's brother in. Him allowing you to stay so much, and so often, could easily be seen by your ex, as him being disloyal to his own brother.

All you guys are thinking of is your own comfort, and not how your comfort impacts those around you, and puts added stress on them. Especially given that you have a place of your own, regardless of the excuse you have in terms with the dog.

I respect your answer.

This is very true. Fyi my ex and I are on good terms, it was a mutual breakup and we hang at the house on occasion. Him and my boyfriend play handball very Saturday while I'm at work. So it isn't as awkward as the family makes it seem.

But yes, I agree with you. We are being a tad selfish I guess, and I can see how the landlord is between a rock and a hard space. As they say blood is thicker than water.

So what do you suggest? Limit our time to 1 day a week...sadly to me that is not sustainable for a relationship.

Also 43% ...they aren't full days. Most times I don't get there until 10pm, then I have work and I work 8 hours. Saturday and Sunday. I'm not there 24/3

Doesn't matter, you are still there 3 days of the week. Most people that are working, are not home until after 6 pm, if they have a regular work schedule of Mon to Friday.

My roommate does this, and she is a Taurus. She subconsciously will come up with justifying responses or excuses to make whatever thing that is most comfortable, the logical answer.

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Does it make a difference that the landlords gf is there just as much and I know for a fact she doesn't pay rent or bills.

Also he was dating a girl before me and she was there just as much as me and they never made a peep. And I know this because I was around.

Their sister is a good friend of mine btw. So I've been to the house for years.

I'm not a stranger...

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Look I love you Taurus but there’s a strange congintive dissonance going on here.

You stay over 50 percent of the week at your exes brothers place with your current bf and you think life’s just going to happen cos of Taurean entitlement (let’s be real now you guys invented mooching) not hating it’s an art.

But honestly just think about it.

Not quite catching your drift sorry.

And if you are insinuating I'm a moocher you are very wrong

3 days a week at your bfs and I’m assuming you don’t pay rent?

That’s mooching sorry

Youve never spent a weekend at your boyfriends place?

I don't think you are quite getting it.

There are 7 days a week, and you are there 3 out of those 7. That means, on a consist basis you are there 43% of the week.

Add to that, but you are dating the friend of an ex, who lives with your ex's brother. Your bf broke the ultimate code of "bros before hos". Which is fine and dandy, but your being there so often, is constantly shoving it in their faces of his "transgression" and inability to be loyal to a friendship that likely came before you were a part of their lives.

Neither of you are taking into account the level of awkwardness that you are putting your ex's brother in. Him allowing you to stay so much, and so often, could easily be seen by your ex, as him being disloyal to his own brother.

All you guys are thinking of is your own comfort, and not how your comfort impacts those around you, and puts added stress on them. Especially given that you have a place of your own, regardless of the excuse you have in terms with the dog.

I respect your answer.

This is very true. Fyi my ex and I are on good terms, it was a mutual breakup and we hang at the house on occasion. Him and my boyfriend play handball very Saturday while I'm at work. So it isn't as awkward as the family makes it seem.

But yes, I agree with you. We are being a tad selfish I guess, and I can see how the landlord is between a rock and a hard space. As they say blood is thicker than water.

So what do you suggest? Limit our time to 1 day a week...sadly to me that is not sustainable for a relationship.

Also 43% ...they aren't full days. Most times I don't get there until 10pm, then I have work and I work 8 hours. Saturday and Sunday. I'm not there 24/3

Doesn't matter, you are still there 3 days of the week. Most people that are working, are not home until after 6 pm, if they have a regular work schedule of Mon to Friday.

My roommate does this, and she is a Taurus. She subconsciously will come up with justifying responses or excuses to make whatever thing that is most comfortable, the logical answer.

Does it make a difference that the landlords gf is there just as much and I know for a fact she doesn't pay rent or bills.

Also he was dating a girl before me and she was there just as much as me and they never made a peep. And I know this because I was around.

Their sister is a good friend of mine btw. So I've been to the house for years.

I'm not a stranger...

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Honestly, you saying this, is just another form of you trying to justify your logic as being "right". The logic behind what you are using to make an argument, in my opinion, is somewhat delusional.

It is his house, your bf is just a tenant. They aren't roommates, and share the house in terms of ownership. Unless that is the case, and your bf is on the mortgage, neither you nor your bf has any authority to dictate what his landlord can do with his house, or who he can have there. Whether you want to hear it or not, it is his house, his rules, and as much as that bothers you, its the facts.

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Posted by Boots1313

My boyfriend will prob marry me if I get through this with little fuss.

I can /have a habit of making a fuss in these situations. They why I needed to ask for advice on if this is worht the battle or not.

You’ve got to pick your battles. Is this worth fighting over when there are other choices like moving out or moving in together? What does ‘winning’ actually look like in this situation? You ultimately want to move out and in together anyway.

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Yes, that would be the prime outcome. But I know he won't agree to that yet.

Winning I guess would just be having a relationship where we can be in one on our terms and how we want to have one, not one dictated by others.

But as of right now, I really don't have an option.

Did your bf sign anything that specifies how many times per week he can have guests over?

Posted by LadyNeptune

Did your bf sign anything that specifies how many times per week he can have guests over?

Nope, it's technically an illegal apartment.

No kind of rental agreement. Just simply helping out his friend financially

Posted by Impulsv

It’s part of the consequences

Mmm do u live far apart

There is alway him going home first feeding walking dog

Then going to ur place just not stay over

The dog has a lot of needs.

He should be out down, but that's not my choice to make.

He needs to be let out every 2 hours. He just can't hold ot anymore.

We live 45 minutes from eachother.

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I mean.. honestly, how long to you think the dog has?

He could be ded tomorrow...or 5 years

I know a guy..

That was my next question for you...what is his proximity to NYC?

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Welp hes dead....are you happy now @arkansassy

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Posted by Boots1313

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Posted by Arkansassy

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Arkansassy

I mean.. honestly, how long to you think the dog has?

He could be ded tomorrow...or 5 years

I know a guy..

That was my next question for you...what is his proximity to NYC?

Welp hes dead....are you happy now @arkansassy

So it all worked out? Moving into your place?

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Not quite but the dog isn't an issue anymore... still have the cat