
about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?


Posted by Ixi

Posted by PinsAndNeedles
Hobbies

Posted by Hamsthetics
Stop trying.
Also stop telling yourself to stop trying.
Also stop telling yourself to "stop telling yourself to stop trying".
And the list goes on 🤪
Seriously though, just enjoy it.


Posted by colorsPosted by PinsAndNeedles
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?click to expand

Posted by dillweedPosted by colorsPosted by PinsAndNeedles
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
ewclick to expand

Posted by Hypnotoad
Then you only think about the baby.

Posted by UndinePosted by colorsPosted by PinsAndNeedles
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
Be grateful then! The reason why the rest of us obsess, is because we are not going to see them again! And it feels like...being buried alive!
Consider yourself lucky!click to expand

Posted by dillweedPosted by colorsPosted by dillweedPosted by colorsPosted by PinsAndNeedles
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
ew
I wait for those interactions which is the problem 😄
do yall work together?
why the daily interactions?click to expand

Posted by IxiPosted by colorsPosted by Ixi
haha that is not an option
Well...damn.
Alright so alternatives...well you gotta start doing it for you.
Seriously.
Love on yourself -I'm not talking about masturbation ya nasties!- unless you never get yourself off without a partner...in which case:
1.) My condolences
2.) Mix it up
3.) Thank me later
But really though...the effort and energy you would have devoted to that person, devote it to yourself...give it to the people who are ironclad in your life. Anything that you wanted to do that you haven't done on your "bucket list" now is the time to do it.click to expand

Posted by dillweedPosted by ELIGAB
Do you have mercury or air placement?
dat aqua mind spiral just hits a lil too hard sometimes huhclick to expand

Posted by IxiPosted by colorsPosted by IxiPosted by colorsPosted by Ixi
haha that is not an option
Well...damn.
Alright so alternatives...well you gotta start doing it for you.
Seriously.
Love on yourself -I'm not talking about masturbation ya nasties!- unless you never get yourself off without a partner...in which case:
1.) My condolences
2.) Mix it up
3.) Thank me later
But really though...the effort and energy you would have devoted to that person, devote it to yourself...give it to the people who are ironclad in your life. Anything that you wanted to do that you haven't done on your "bucket list" now is the time to do it.
I get it, thinking obsessively is not going to take it anywhere.
Have you fully accepted you're not going to take it further?click to expand

Posted by colorsPosted by UndinePosted by colorsPosted by PinsAndNeedles
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
Be grateful then! The reason why the rest of us obsess, is because we are not going to see them again! And it feels like...being buried alive!
Consider yourself lucky!
No no, I mean there is scope for interaction, but don't necessarily interact. It is weird, you want to talk, but also know it is not right to get used to.click to expand

Posted by IxiPosted by colorsPosted by IxiPosted by colorsPosted by IxiPosted by colorsPosted by Ixi
haha that is not an option
Well...damn.
Alright so alternatives...well you gotta start doing it for you.
Seriously.
Love on yourself -I'm not talking about masturbation ya nasties!- unless you never get yourself off without a partner...in which case:
1.) My condolences
2.) Mix it up
3.) Thank me later
But really though...the effort and energy you would have devoted to that person, devote it to yourself...give it to the people who are ironclad in your life. Anything that you wanted to do that you haven't done on your "bucket list" now is the time to do it.
I get it, thinking obsessively is not going to take it anywhere.
Have you fully accepted you're not going to take it further?
Even now I am not, it is only talking for work purposes, but you can't help feeling someway. Not acting on those feelings though.
So long as you don't act on it...it *will* absolutely die on the vine. Especially if you aren't ruminating and willfully are focusing on other things.click to expand

Posted by UndinePosted by colorsPosted by UndinePosted by colorsPosted by PinsAndNeedles
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
Be grateful then! The reason why the rest of us obsess, is because we are not going to see them again! And it feels like...being buried alive!
Consider yourself lucky!
No no, I mean there is scope for interaction, but don't necessarily interact. It is weird, you want to talk, but also know it is not right to get used to.
But you still see them! There is something called unspoken communication......energy, chemicals, body language, stare....more powerful than words, perhaps!
You can talk too, if you like. It may shift your obsession towards platonic love. You can love them as a friend. Love in itself does not mean possession. Possession is ego. Possession is greed. If you love them, you should be be happy for them, even when they find romantic love with someone else.click to expand

Posted by HypnotoadPosted by colorsPosted by Hypnotoad
Then you only think about the baby.
What? how did it go there?
Well son, when a lady and a man love eachother very much...click to expand

Posted by dillweedPosted by ELIGABPosted by dillweedPosted by ELIGAB
Do you have mercury or air placement?
dat aqua mind spiral just hits a lil too hard sometimes huh
I'm considering drugs
😂😂😂😂click to expand




Posted by tiziani
The simplest way is actually to act on it in my experience.
Because either they won’t feel the same way, so your thoughts are done. Or they do feel the same way and then you both have to deal with becoming real life people to one another, annoying habits and everything.
either way mission accomplished.


Posted by Antiphates
I need to think about it.

Posted by CreamyPVcupPosted by colors
about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?
Don't fight it. That just makes the thoughts more obsessive. Acknowledge the thought when it pops in your mind and then release it. Be like yup this is how I feel and it isn't shit I can do about it. Oh well. Then keep on with your day.click to expand

Posted by CreamyPVcupPosted by Weeds
There is an old kabbalah technique for this.
You go to a quiet room sit down close your eyes and think of a blank chalk board.
You keep it blank for 3 seconds.
Now the goal is to reach the 3 seconds but don't expect to reach it at all.. this is just to give your thoughts some discipline. Do this once a week and you'll see a change.
Don't do it more then once a week because it's like playing with a lightbulb switch and eventually that bulb will burn out if you switch it on and off too much too often.
What do you mean burn out. Do you mean the extinguishing of the candle?click to expand

Posted by aquarius_man_Posted by colors
about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?
Call them directly and see how they respond. That will help you clarify some things and maybe trigger some more questions. But you will be able to check your feelings seeing how they react to you and viceversa. If they reject you you’ll think less about them for a while because I guess your Own mind will try to protect you. If they still flirt with you, then you’ll know.click to expand

Posted by tiziani
The simplest way is actually to act on it in my experience.
Because either they won’t feel the same way, so your thoughts are done. Or they do feel the same way and then you both have to deal with becoming real life people to one another, annoying habits and everything.
either way mission accomplished.

Posted by tizianiPosted by colorsPosted by tiziani
The simplest way is actually to act on it in my experience.
Because either they won’t feel the same way, so your thoughts are done. Or they do feel the same way and then you both have to deal with becoming real life people to one another, annoying habits and everything.
either way mission accomplished.
What if you know the person is unavailable? And no, no emotions or personal feelings were ever expressed, it's just a connection feeling.
You could still tell them you’ve been thinking about them non stop. If they react like a dick then the spell is over.click to expand

Posted by aquarius_man_Posted by colorsPosted by aquarius_man_Posted by colors
about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?
Call them directly and see how they respond. That will help you clarify some things and maybe trigger some more questions. But you will be able to check your feelings seeing how they react to you and viceversa. If they reject you you’ll think less about them for a while because I guess your Own mind will try to protect you. If they still flirt with you, then you’ll know.
There is no chance for that. The person is unavailable. And no there has been no flirting or encouragement from either side. It is just a feeling of connection.
The heart knows something you don’t
Want to acknowledge yet
That you like him and can’t do anything about it as he’s taken. But if he reciprocates, Even without encouraging you, it means he may even like you. But connection must be mutually fulfillingclick to expand

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Xanax

Posted by colorsPosted by LostinmyMind11
Xanax
I did feel down today and took some med lol 😄click to expand

Posted by CreamyPVcupPosted by WeedsPosted by CreamyPVcupPosted by Weeds
There is an old kabbalah technique for this.
You go to a quiet room sit down close your eyes and think of a blank chalk board.
You keep it blank for 3 seconds.
Now the goal is to reach the 3 seconds but don't expect to reach it at all.. this is just to give your thoughts some discipline. Do this once a week and you'll see a change.
Don't do it more then once a week because it's like playing with a lightbulb switch and eventually that bulb will burn out if you switch it on and off too much too often.
What do you mean burn out. Do you mean the extinguishing of the candle?
The mind isnt ment to stop thinking so you can develop psychosomatic problems.
Hmm. I thought you would fall into a deep meditative state. They always say stilling the mind is how to get to your higher self. If you believe in that type of thing.click to expand




Posted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.

Posted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.

Posted by _mudra_
I meditate frequently. There are certain types of guided meditation I prefer for this purpose.

Posted by _mudra_Posted by colorsPosted by _mudra_
I meditate frequently. There are certain types of guided meditation I prefer for this purpose.
But does it help with thinking less even while not meditating?
Absolutely. For me anyway. It allows me to let go of the mental clutter making me grasp tightly to situations and people. This may be a bit woo woo for you but I believe we are tied to people by energy. Ever feel someone thinking of you? That tightly clasped feeling in your gut. The unshakable knowing and wondering about them. There are ways you can protect your own energy. Of course if you do a 10 minute meditation one time, it's not going to work for every day life. It's a practice. You keep at it and your perspective naturally shifts and it becomes easier to move forward.
I spend a great deal of time getting grounded and meditating when it comes to my personal relationships and work. It's not for everyone but just a suggestion from me as something very powerful in my life.click to expand

Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.click to expand

Posted by colorsPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
And in such situations, where women want connection, men want distance.click to expand

Posted by akitu
Make a decision and swallow it. Literally repress the hell out of yourself and save it for like night time or something, like every time you feel yourself going there just say to yourself nope not right now not at work wait til whatever time you’ve decided on... Tbh I don’t know how you can do it if you have to see them every day that’s really hard. I had to work with my ex after breaking up once and it was honestly traumatic. But you just gotta put a brave face on and fake it til you make it really 🤷♀️ It will take time and it will take your life moving forward in other ways. Good luck though, my heart goes out to you that kind of anguish is not fun x

Posted by pinkbird03Posted by colorsPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
And in such situations, where women want connection, men want distance.
That only means the guy isn’t that interested in you. Guys who like you don’t want distance.click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.click to expand

Posted by colorsPosted by pinkbird03Posted by colorsPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
And in such situations, where women want connection, men want distance.
That only means the guy isn’t that interested in you. Guys who like you don’t want distance.
If a guy likes you but knows there is no future due to circumstances, I think it is easier for him to distance, than it is for a girl. Also, girls are emotional and want to not cause hurt intentionally. Guys I don't think think too much about how you will feel. They do what feels right to them.click to expand

Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.click to expand

Posted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.click to expand

Posted by CreamyPVcupPosted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
I've never heard of this Forza shit. Is it a video game? Either way, I think more people need to play it if it got you to this point.
I don't think it's the saddest, but yeah you're right if it's ruining your life then it's like poison.
Love this video. Almost posted it a few days ago.click to expand

Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
I've never heard of this Forza shit. Is it a video game? Either way, I think more people need to play it if it got you to this point.
I don't think it's the saddest, but yeah you're right if it's ruining your life then it's like poison.
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Posted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03Posted by AnomalousPosted by pinkbird03
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
I've never heard of this Forza shit. Is it a video game? Either way, I think more people need to play it if it got you to this point.
I don't think it's the saddest, but yeah you're right if it's ruining your life then it's like poison.
Nice relatable content there.
Forza is a driving video game on Xbox. Tag is a game where one car is assigned “it” and has to tag the other cars by crashing into them. That’s when they become it as well. Last person not hit by anyone wins. I won a lot!! 😁😁 loved that game. I believe it taught me when to speed up, break, reverse fast, jerk really quick, e brake, turn at different angles, etc to avoid colliding. Yes I had to think fast to win. I sometimes had two or more cars chasing after me at the same time 😂 the cars in the game are very realistic and function like real cars do. Plus every car has different weights and handling just as they do in real life. Great game. You know, I’ve never even hit an animal driving in real life because I’m good at avoiding it.click to expand
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