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How do you stop thinking
How to Stop Overthinking Someone Nonstop
To reduce persistent thoughts about someone, focus on grounding techniques like deep breathing and engaging in activities that fully occupy your mind. Setting boundaries and practicing mindfulness can also help you regain control over your thoughts and lessen emotional attachment over time.
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haha that is not an option
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
Stop trying.
Also stop telling yourself to stop trying.
Also stop telling yourself to "stop telling yourself to stop trying".
And the list goes on 🤪
Seriously though, just enjoy it.
Main problem is since noticing the connection it is hard to not think. But it is not right to think of anything more, that is just how the situation is.
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
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Be grateful then! The reason why the rest of us obsess, is because we are not going to see them again! And it feels like...being buried alive!
Consider yourself lucky!
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
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I wait for those interactions which is the problem 😄
Then you only think about the baby.
What? how did it go there?
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
Be grateful then! The reason why the rest of us obsess, is because we are not going to see them again! And it feels like...being buried alive!
Consider yourself lucky!
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No no, I mean there is scope for interaction, but don't necessarily interact. It is weird, you want to talk, but also know it is not right to get used to.
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
ew
I wait for those interactions which is the problem 😄
do yall work together?
why the daily interactions?
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Yes, from different locations, so talk virtually. Not everyday, but this feeling started all of a sudden. So the restlessness.
haha that is not an option
Well...damn.
Alright so alternatives...well you gotta start doing it for you.
Seriously.
Love on yourself -I'm not talking about masturbation ya nasties!- unless you never get yourself off without a partner...in which case:
1.) My condolences
2.) Mix it up
3.) Thank me later
But really though...the effort and energy you would have devoted to that person, devote it to yourself...give it to the people who are ironclad in your life. Anything that you wanted to do that you haven't done on your "bucket list" now is the time to do it.
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I get it, thinking obsessively is not going to take it anywhere.
Do you have mercury or air placement?
dat aqua mind spiral just hits a lil too hard sometimes huh
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I'm considering drugs
haha that is not an option
Well...damn.
Alright so alternatives...well you gotta start doing it for you.
Seriously.
Love on yourself -I'm not talking about masturbation ya nasties!- unless you never get yourself off without a partner...in which case:
1.) My condolences
2.) Mix it up
3.) Thank me later
But really though...the effort and energy you would have devoted to that person, devote it to yourself...give it to the people who are ironclad in your life. Anything that you wanted to do that you haven't done on your "bucket list" now is the time to do it.
I get it, thinking obsessively is not going to take it anywhere.
Have you fully accepted you're not going to take it further?
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Even now I am not, it is only talking for work purposes, but you can't help feeling someway. Not acting on those feelings though.
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
Be grateful then! The reason why the rest of us obsess, is because we are not going to see them again! And it feels like...being buried alive!
Consider yourself lucky!
No no, I mean there is scope for interaction, but don't necessarily interact. It is weird, you want to talk, but also know it is not right to get used to.
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But you still see them! There is something called unspoken communication......energy, chemicals, body language, stare....more powerful than words, perhaps!
You can talk too, if you like. It may shift your obsession towards platonic love. You can love them as a friend. Love in itself does not mean possession. Possession is ego. Possession is greed. If you love them, you should be be happy for them, even when they find romantic love with someone else.
haha that is not an option
Well...damn.
Alright so alternatives...well you gotta start doing it for you.
Seriously.
Love on yourself -I'm not talking about masturbation ya nasties!- unless you never get yourself off without a partner...in which case:
1.) My condolences
2.) Mix it up
3.) Thank me later
But really though...the effort and energy you would have devoted to that person, devote it to yourself...give it to the people who are ironclad in your life. Anything that you wanted to do that you haven't done on your "bucket list" now is the time to do it.
I get it, thinking obsessively is not going to take it anywhere.
Have you fully accepted you're not going to take it further?
Even now I am not, it is only talking for work purposes, but you can't help feeling someway. Not acting on those feelings though.
So long as you don't act on it...it *will* absolutely die on the vine. Especially if you aren't ruminating and willfully are focusing on other things.
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That is something I need to start doing "focusing on other things". Yes, I agree.
Hobbies
But what if you have to interact with the person in everyday life?
Be grateful then! The reason why the rest of us obsess, is because we are not going to see them again! And it feels like...being buried alive!
Consider yourself lucky!
No no, I mean there is scope for interaction, but don't necessarily interact. It is weird, you want to talk, but also know it is not right to get used to.
But you still see them! There is something called unspoken communication......energy, chemicals, body language, stare....more powerful than words, perhaps!
You can talk too, if you like. It may shift your obsession towards platonic love. You can love them as a friend. Love in itself does not mean possession. Possession is ego. Possession is greed. If you love them, you should be be happy for them, even when they find romantic love with someone else.
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In this case the connection is virtual, but yes, I can feel the vibe. Maybe it is temporary, who knows.
Then you only think about the baby.
What? how did it go there?
Well son, when a lady and a man love eachother very much...
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Wish life was this simple.
Do you have mercury or air placement?
dat aqua mind spiral just hits a lil too hard sometimes huh
I'm considering drugs
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Find someone else you can't get enough of
If you REALLY want to get over him, then your mind will let you. It also helps to remind yourself of all his negative traits. Sooner or later you won't even have to try anymore.
I see my ex all the time, who I used to describe as THE love of my life. Now I'm completely out of fucks to give.
Xanax
The simplest way is actually to act on it in my experience.
Because either they won’t feel the same way, so your thoughts are done. Or they do feel the same way and then you both have to deal with becoming real life people to one another, annoying habits and everything.
either way mission accomplished.
What if you know the person is unavailable? And no, no emotions or personal feelings were ever expressed, it's just a connection feeling.
There is an old kabbalah technique for this.
You go to a quiet room sit down close your eyes and think of a blank chalk board.
You keep it blank for 3 seconds.
Now the goal is to reach the 3 seconds but don't expect to reach it at all.. this is just to give your thoughts some discipline. Do this once a week and you'll see a change.
Don't do it more then once a week because it's like playing with a lightbulb switch and eventually that bulb will burn out if you switch it on and off too much too often.
I need to think about it.
😄 about how to stop thinking?
about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?
Don't fight it. That just makes the thoughts more obsessive. Acknowledge the thought when it pops in your mind and then release it. Be like yup this is how I feel and it isn't shit I can do about it. Oh well. Then keep on with your day.
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I like this advice. Because there is literally nothing that can be done about it.
There is an old kabbalah technique for this.
You go to a quiet room sit down close your eyes and think of a blank chalk board.
You keep it blank for 3 seconds.
Now the goal is to reach the 3 seconds but don't expect to reach it at all.. this is just to give your thoughts some discipline. Do this once a week and you'll see a change.
Don't do it more then once a week because it's like playing with a lightbulb switch and eventually that bulb will burn out if you switch it on and off too much too often.
What do you mean burn out. Do you mean the extinguishing of the candle?
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The mind isnt ment to stop thinking so you can develop psychosomatic problems.
about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?
Call them directly and see how they respond. That will help you clarify some things and maybe trigger some more questions. But you will be able to check your feelings seeing how they react to you and viceversa. If they reject you you’ll think less about them for a while because I guess your Own mind will try to protect you. If they still flirt with you, then you’ll know.
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There is no chance for that. The person is unavailable. And no there has been no flirting or encouragement from either side. It is just a feeling of connection.
The simplest way is actually to act on it in my experience.
Because either they won’t feel the same way, so your thoughts are done. Or they do feel the same way and then you both have to deal with becoming real life people to one another, annoying habits and everything.
either way mission accomplished.
^This
If it's real, it may be worth exploring it.
If you get to a point were it's no longer worth the effort or the effort required to progress then you deal with that. Welcome to the joys of life the experience itself🤣
The simplest way is actually to act on it in my experience.
Because either they won’t feel the same way, so your thoughts are done. Or they do feel the same way and then you both have to deal with becoming real life people to one another, annoying habits and everything.
either way mission accomplished.
What if you know the person is unavailable? And no, no emotions or personal feelings were ever expressed, it's just a connection feeling.
You could still tell them you’ve been thinking about them non stop. If they react like a dick then the spell is over.
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I want to run miles away and go back to when I could have a conversation without thinking and whenever, not waiting for anything. But I cannot say or show anything. It is not right, and there is no scope for anything. Hope this is a temporary thing.
about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?
Call them directly and see how they respond. That will help you clarify some things and maybe trigger some more questions. But you will be able to check your feelings seeing how they react to you and viceversa. If they reject you you’ll think less about them for a while because I guess your Own mind will try to protect you. If they still flirt with you, then you’ll know.
There is no chance for that. The person is unavailable. And no there has been no flirting or encouragement from either side. It is just a feeling of connection.
The heart knows something you don’t
Want to acknowledge yet
That you like him and can’t do anything about it as he’s taken. But if he reciprocates, Even without encouraging you, it means he may even like you. But connection must be mutually fulfilling
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But even if he likes me there is no future, the situation is such. I cannot bring up something that is not right.
Xanax
I did feel down today and took some med lol 😄
Xanax
I did feel down today and took some med lol 😄
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I don't recommend taking them all the time unless your doc says otherwise but it does help to quiet the mind and that includes obsessive thinking.
There is an old kabbalah technique for this.
You go to a quiet room sit down close your eyes and think of a blank chalk board.
You keep it blank for 3 seconds.
Now the goal is to reach the 3 seconds but don't expect to reach it at all.. this is just to give your thoughts some discipline. Do this once a week and you'll see a change.
Don't do it more then once a week because it's like playing with a lightbulb switch and eventually that bulb will burn out if you switch it on and off too much too often.
What do you mean burn out. Do you mean the extinguishing of the candle?
The mind isnt ment to stop thinking so you can develop psychosomatic problems.
Hmm. I thought you would fall into a deep meditative state. They always say stilling the mind is how to get to your higher self. If you believe in that type of thing.
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But what is higher self? Insanity? Death?
We tend to romanticize "enlightenment" and don't really know what it is or what the price in exchange for it.
i've heard this can make it worse.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
And in such situations, where women want connection, men want distance.
I meditate frequently. There are certain types of guided meditation I prefer for this purpose.
But does it help with thinking less even while not meditating?
I meditate frequently. There are certain types of guided meditation I prefer for this purpose.
But does it help with thinking less even while not meditating?
Absolutely. For me anyway. It allows me to let go of the mental clutter making me grasp tightly to situations and people. This may be a bit woo woo for you but I believe we are tied to people by energy. Ever feel someone thinking of you? That tightly clasped feeling in your gut. The unshakable knowing and wondering about them. There are ways you can protect your own energy. Of course if you do a 10 minute meditation one time, it's not going to work for every day life. It's a practice. You keep at it and your perspective naturally shifts and it becomes easier to move forward.
I spend a great deal of time getting grounded and meditating when it comes to my personal relationships and work. It's not for everyone but just a suggestion from me as something very powerful in my life.
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Yes, at least a couple times I have been thinking about this person and at that instant have received a message, like he was thinking of me too. It's weird, few times while talking I was already thinking of how I will miss talking once this particular conversation is over. It is confusing as I don't know what caused this switch in thinking about this person, it was not like this before. Hope so there is again a switch and I stop thinking. 🙂
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
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True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
And in such situations, where women want connection, men want distance.
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That only means the guy isn’t that interested in you. Guys who like you don’t want distance.
Make a decision and swallow it. Literally repress the hell out of yourself and save it for like night time or something, like every time you feel yourself going there just say to yourself nope not right now not at work wait til whatever time you’ve decided on... Tbh I don’t know how you can do it if you have to see them every day that’s really hard. I had to work with my ex after breaking up once and it was honestly traumatic. But you just gotta put a brave face on and fake it til you make it really 🤷♀️ It will take time and it will take your life moving forward in other ways. Good luck though, my heart goes out to you that kind of anguish is not fun x
It is virtual presence, but still hard to not check who is online. 🙂 There is really nothing I can do about it, so only option is to repress. I think over time the feelings will fade since there will be no progress. Hope that is what happens.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
And in such situations, where women want connection, men want distance.
That only means the guy isn’t that interested in you. Guys who like you don’t want distance.
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If a guy likes you but knows there is no future due to circumstances, I think it is easier for him to distance, than it is for a girl. Also, girls are emotional and want to not cause hurt intentionally. Guys I don't think think too much about how you will feel. They do what feels right to them.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
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You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
And in such situations, where women want connection, men want distance.
That only means the guy isn’t that interested in you. Guys who like you don’t want distance.
If a guy likes you but knows there is no future due to circumstances, I think it is easier for him to distance, than it is for a girl. Also, girls are emotional and want to not cause hurt intentionally. Guys I don't think think too much about how you will feel. They do what feels right to them.
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Some people say they are using you for selfish purposes. I have experienced this a lot with online dating and see my friends experience it too!!! Only give what u get. If he doesn’t treat you well, leave. You’ll find better. I promise.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
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I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
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I've never heard of this Forza shit. Is it a video game? Either way, I think more people need to play it if it got you to this point.
I don't think it's the saddest, but yeah you're right if it's ruining your life then it's like poison.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
I've never heard of this Forza shit. Is it a video game? Either way, I think more people need to play it if it got you to this point.
I don't think it's the saddest, but yeah you're right if it's ruining your life then it's like poison.
Love this video. Almost posted it a few days ago.
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Yep. Very deep, creative and conceptual. I like music like that.
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
I've never heard of this Forza shit. Is it a video game? Either way, I think more people need to play it if it got you to this point.
I don't think it's the saddest, but yeah you're right if it's ruining your life then it's like poison.
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Nice relatable content there.
Forza is a driving video game on Xbox. Tag is a game where one car is assigned “it” and has to tag the other cars by crashing into them. That’s when they become it as well. Last person not hit by anyone wins. I won a lot!! 😁😁 loved that game. I believe it taught me when to speed up, break, reverse fast, jerk really quick, e brake, turn at different angles, etc to avoid colliding. Yes I had to think fast to win. I sometimes had two or more cars chasing after me at the same time 😂 the cars in the game are very realistic and function like real cars do. Plus every car has different weights and handling just as they do in real life. Great game. You know, I’ve never even hit an animal driving in real life because I’m good at avoiding it.
wow, it's like this video answers the question. Have a conversation with your heart because it knows why that person is on your mind. Focus on your heart till you feel happiness and then you are not thinking of other peoples thoughts. Also mentions spooky action at a distance
"Entanglement is what Einstein referred to as "spooky action at a distance." It's a phenomenon by which one particle can effectively "know" something about another particle instantaneously, even if those two particles are separated by a great distance."
Men can only focus on one thing at a time where as woman can focus on work, family, whatever and still focus on a man at the same time. It’s a gift and a curse.
That's probably why y'all suck at it so much. Learn to take things a step at a time and you'll have less car accidents.
True for those who aren’t good drivers. I’ve never been in a car accident...
It’s good because we can multitask. But it’s a mental health problem when it affects a persons daily life.
You've never been in a car accident? How long have you been driving?
I agree. I think it gets bad when it's more of an ego trip than trying to get things done quicker.
Some things just need your full attention in order to be done safely without error.
I’ve been driving for 15 years. I used to play tag on forza. That taught me a lot about driving and how to act quickly to avoid collisions. I am wondering if anyone on here knows what I’m even talking about 😅😅
The saddest thing to me is seeing people so obsessed with an ex that they sleep, eat, and breathe constant thoughts about the ex. It’s so bad that it has a negative impact on their life.
I've never heard of this Forza shit. Is it a video game? Either way, I think more people need to play it if it got you to this point.
I don't think it's the saddest, but yeah you're right if it's ruining your life then it's like poison.
Nice relatable content there.
Forza is a driving video game on Xbox. Tag is a game where one car is assigned “it” and has to tag the other cars by crashing into them. That’s when they become it as well. Last person not hit by anyone wins. I won a lot!! 😁😁 loved that game. I believe it taught me when to speed up, break, reverse fast, jerk really quick, e brake, turn at different angles, etc to avoid colliding. Yes I had to think fast to win. I sometimes had two or more cars chasing after me at the same time 😂 the cars in the game are very realistic and function like real cars do. Plus every car has different weights and handling just as they do in real life. Great game. You know, I’ve never even hit an animal driving in real life because I’m good at avoiding it.
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Sounds like a game I'd enjoy while high 😵
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about someone non stop? It is really frustrating. It is like an unspoken bond, and you cannot do anything about it. How do you distract yourself and stop thinking?