libralotus
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I NEED SOME SOLID ADVICE
If you aint got the money, i guess youll be walking on eggshells
Grown adult women do not leave home without money. You hadn't seen this man in years, didn't know theses friends, and you thought it was okay to trust the situation so much to not have a budget, money, etc.
Then, you felt comfortable enough to indulge in alcohol with strangers at a place you've never been.
This is what we call in the south, "free 'til you're fool."
Then, you felt comfortable enough to indulge in alcohol with strangers at a place you've never been.
This is what we call in the south, "free 'til you're fool."
Posted by VenusAquarius
Grown adult women do not leave home without money. You hadn't seen this man in years, didn't know theses friends, and you thought it was okay to trust the situation so much to not have a budget, money, etc.
Then, you felt comfortable enough to indulge in alcohol with strangers at a place you've never been.
This is what we call in the south, "free 'til you're fool."
Probably should specify. I can be bailed out if need be and have an acquaintance here. He was a pretty good friend of mine a few years ago but I moved and haven't seen him. So, yes I trusted him. I also felt obligated so I just went with the flow because he's never acted like this.
Posted by leowwwAh, I have money. Just not thousands of dollars. Definitely not enough to pay for a hotel the rest of the trip or a flight back home. I can have my family send me money but I feel like it would more complicated. I just can't decide if I rather do that or be unhappy.
Oh.. I would leave... Definitely wouldn't stay somewhere I'm not wanted.. How do you travel and not bring any money with you...thats so dangerous you're at the mercy of whoever took you there. I know you're young... But don't you have a credit card? I did at your age.. Can't you call your family to send you money to get you back home?
Posted by KoniuchaaTold him I would then I changed my mind later and he already planned for the two of us. He seemed bitter about me canceling. I'm also not out of the US but in Hawaii.
Why did you feel obligated?
Who's 20 and who's 22? You mention going to a club before your trip started.. what country was this in ? If in America, it was either rude or illegal to go to a place where not everyone could partake in the activities.
Posted by AndalusiaHe's 22 I'm 20. In the city the aren't concerned with IDs so it wasn't a big deal getting in.
Who's 20 and who's 22? You mention going to a club before your trip started.. what country was this in ? If in America, it was either rude or illegal to go to a place where not everyone could partake in the activities.
Posted by libralotusLesson learned... that's all. This is stuff my grandma taught me so I didn't make this mistake.Posted by VenusAquarius
Grown adult women do not leave home without money. You hadn't seen this man in years, didn't know theses friends, and you thought it was okay to trust the situation so much to not have a budget, money, etc.
Then, you felt comfortable enough to indulge in alcohol with strangers at a place you've never been.
This is what we call in the south, "free 'til you're fool."
Probably should specify. I can be bailed out if need be and have an acquaintance here. He was a pretty good friend of mine a few years ago but I moved and haven't seen him. So, yes I trusted him. I also felt obligated so I just went with the flow because he's never acted like this.
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I would try to endure to save coins but, gtfo and go to a hotel if need be. The longer you stay the less hotel days. If you leave, he may not give you your flight info or tickets. Do you have the ticket in your possession?
... and, apologize... for whatever, whenever. Use that Libra charm. Be sincere though and find your wrong. I see it in your OP... and, I think you can if you try.
Posted by libralotusAhhhh, under age. Live and learn 🤗 cyber hugs!Posted by AndalusiaHe's 22 I'm 20. In the city the aren't concerned with IDs so it wasn't a big deal getting in.
Who's 20 and who's 22? You mention going to a club before your trip started.. what country was this in ? If in America, it was either rude or illegal to go to a place where not everyone could partake in the activities.click to expand
Love,
Eva
Posted by libralotusBook a flight, who says you need a hotel room. Push come to shove, go to a hostel OR try your country's embassy.Posted by leowwwAh, I have money. Just not thousands of dollars. Definitely not enough to pay for a hotel the rest of the trip or a flight back home. I can have my family send me money but I feel like it would more complicated. I just can't decide if I rather do that or be unhappy.
Oh.. I would leave... Definitely wouldn't stay somewhere I'm not wanted.. How do you travel and not bring any money with you...thats so dangerous you're at the mercy of whoever took you there. I know you're young... But don't you have a credit card? I did at your age.. Can't you call your family to send you money to get you back home?click to expand
Posted by libralotusBook a flight to cali or whatever state would be cheapest and ask your family to buy you a ticket to your actual state..that will probably be cheaper and more affordable for you.Posted by KoniuchaaTold him I would then I changed my mind later and he already planned for the two of us. He seemed bitter about me canceling. I'm also not out of the US but in Hawaii.
Why did you feel obligated?click to expand
Posted by libralotusWtf. Hawaii and you're miserable??Posted by KoniuchaaTold him I would then I changed my mind later and he already planned for the two of us. He seemed bitter about me canceling. I'm also not out of the US but in Hawaii.
Why did you feel obligated?click to expand
Gurl bye
Posted by DMVWell she isnt in her 30s and finacially established. She is also worried about if she will get home so I can see how that can ruin some things...what a messy situation.Posted by libralotusWtf. Hawaii and you're miserable??Posted by KoniuchaaTold him I would then I changed my mind later and he already planned for the two of us. He seemed bitter about me canceling. I'm also not out of the US but in Hawaii.
Why did you feel obligated?
Gurl byeclick to expand
This is just a mess... live and learn but honestly there are worse places to be trapped. I would say screw them and hit the beach but if you're too miserable to enjoy then figure out a way home. You're a resourceful gal - you got this guy to take you to Hawaii, I'm sure you can figure out a way to get him to send you home. Buck up little trooper and get to moving.
All because you couldn't say "no."
Posted by rockyroadicecreamThis is true lol
All because you couldn't say "no."
Posted by bumboklattIt's not like I was ever given a reason to not trust him until we started the trip. Definitely a lesson learned but I don't really know what to do.
Terrible
this is like my worst nightmare even tho it hasnt happened to me
thats why I try to remain as independent as possible
THIS is one of the reasons I hate money and how people use it to their advantage
BUT hopefully you learn from this
Posted by leowwwPosted by libralotusBut... They want you gone... Eggshells or not... How can you stay there knowing that? My ass would be gone asap. Dignity intact.Posted by leowwwAh, I have money. Just not thousands of dollars. Definitely not enough to pay for a hotel the rest of the trip or a flight back home. I can have my family send me money but I feel like it would more complicated. I just can't decide if I rather do that or be unhappy.
Oh.. I would leave... Definitely wouldn't stay somewhere I'm not wanted.. How do you travel and not bring any money with you...thats so dangerous you're at the mercy of whoever took you there. I know you're young... But don't you have a credit card? I did at your age.. Can't you call your family to send you money to get you back home?click to expand
girl I feel the same way. I just rather have my dignity
Posted by malloryorPosted by DMVWell she isnt in her 30s and finacially established. She is also worried about if she will get home so I can see how that can ruin some things...what a messy situation.Posted by libralotusWtf. Hawaii and you're miserable??Posted by KoniuchaaTold him I would then I changed my mind later and he already planned for the two of us. He seemed bitter about me canceling. I'm also not out of the US but in Hawaii.
Why did you feel obligated?
Gurl bye
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Thank you! This is why I love Pisces the most. So understanding.
Posted by feby
I suggest first and foremost you temporarily let go of the chip you're holding about being disrespected etc to at least deal with the more important situation at hand. You should be completely honest with him. If you truly do not have the money to get home then tell him. Take it from there but keep the line of communication open with him for now.
I have money to get home but it would be super inconvenient. I've tried talking to him and his mother but they fail to see my side or try to think objectively.
Posted by febyAWWW! I get it. I just really trusted him. That's why this whole trip was even a thing.. Anyways, lesson learned. Still don't know what I'm going to do but I'll figure it out I guess.
Also please be careful about drinking like that in the future under those circumstances....people you don't know, unfamiliar place. Just don't do that again ok. I am a mom btw lol
Posted by libralotusWhat is it exactly you're wanting them to do? I'm lost... what is the point of this thread?Posted by feby
I suggest first and foremost you temporarily let go of the chip you're holding about being disrespected etc to at least deal with the more important situation at hand. You should be completely honest with him. If you truly do not have the money to get home then tell him. Take it from there but keep the line of communication open with him for now.
I have money to get home but it would be super inconvenient. I've tried talking to him and his mother but they fail to see my side or try to think objectively.
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Posted by bumboklattPosted by libralotusSame thing happened to my GF (Libra) when we first started dating. I had to bail her out. She became kinda paranoid after thatPosted by bumboklattIt's not like I was ever given a reason to not trust him until we started the trip. Definitely a lesson learned but I don't really know what to do.
Terrible
this is like my worst nightmare even tho it hasnt happened to me
thats why I try to remain as independent as possible
THIS is one of the reasons I hate money and how people use it to their advantage
BUT hopefully you learn from this
So my advice just gather some help and bail ASAP stop being so considerate especially to such vampires lol. I know you libras are awesome but see the dark side for once.click to expand
Yeah I think I'm going to leave early and just stick it out. I feel so bad though because I wanted to talk about things before he went to his mother and they both exploded on me. At the same time they're awful for inviting me here, exploding over something silly, and making me figure out how to get home.
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