How to deal with emotional distress after a failed relationship/rejection

I thought it would be helpful to have a thread dedicated to ways to get over someone/stop feeling sad etc.

So I'll start first. Mine is a relationship that didn't even start - guy led me on and whatnot. Symptoms of emotional distress in my case include a heaviness in my chest, exhaustion, nervousness at having to continue interacting with him, loss of appetite. Rationally I know he's the one who's worthless, not me, but reasoning it out doesn't stop the emotional distress.

I've just kept repeating the mantra in my head. I'm surrounded by people who tend to be more rational, meaning I don't really have anyone to help deal with this. I don't even know how I should deal with this.

I'm thinking of either going into a park to think, or keeping myself busy, but the latter is difficult when I'm emotionally exhausted.

Margaritas. Duh.

I'll admit I was feeling this way today. I am confused and overly emotional for some reason so I just cried. I also talked to a few guy friends who flirt and are so nice to me. So both of those things made me feel better!

Go to the gym

Posted by SofiaV87
Go to the gym

This.

Pets can really help when you feel super depressed. They're nonjudgmental and they listen and comfort you. Stroking their fur and giving them a hug helps me. Maybe it will help you. It's too bad you don't have someone to share your heartache with. That would be my first choice. It can really help to have a friend to pour your heart out to and to get together with and do something spontaneous and fun.

Hugs. I hope you'll feel better.

Things to help one to move on (my experience):

1. Time

2. Getting up under someone else

3. No contact: eliminate/block the ex from all social media, block phone, text and email. Eliminate all reminders of the person.

4. Analysis of what went wrong and convincing myself that it was for the best. Recognizing the lessons I've learned so that I feel that the relationship experience was not a total lost and was not in vain.

Posted by SofiaV87
Go to the gym

Best advice ^^. I go for a run usually find a big hill and push myself as hard as I can to get to the top, it gets rid of that horrible feeling you get in your tummy and clears your head. Exercise is great when you feel shit it gives you an instant pick up and also works wonders in the long run for your self esteem

Meditate is also good, I have an app on my phone that talks you through a daily 10 minute session. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it makes me cry but at least it's helping release the negative feelings/thoughts

Take no notice of people who trivialise your feelings and tell you to pull yourself together. They just make you feel worse. Its a horrible feeling especially when we know we're being silly but can't pull ourselves together. Good luck xx

Posted by AriesLove
Why are you doing this to yourself? And over a "relationship that didn't even start"

You have people fighting for their lives over real sickness and disease and here you are doing this to yourself.

There is NOBODY in this MF world especially not a boy that should make you loose your breath, starve yourself, have irregular heartbeat, and shaky syndrome.

But if you need advice: Think of every negative and mean thing about this person, confront them or call them up and lay it on them. That way you know it's over. No running back now.

Yea, I know. It's because of the watery influence in my chart, Scorpio moon and whatnot. It's alright, I've moved past it. ?

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Posted by SofiaV87
Go to the gym

Best advice ^^. I go for a run usually find a big hill and push myself as hard as I can to get to the top, it gets rid of that horrible feeling you get in your tummy and clears your head. Exercise is great when you feel shit it gives you an instant pick up and also works wonders in the long run for your self esteem

Meditate is also good, I have an app on my phone that talks you through a daily 10 minute session. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it makes me cry but at least it's helping release the negative feelings/thoughts

Take no notice of people who trivialise your feelings and tell you to pull yourself together. They just make you feel worse. Its a horrible feeling especially when we know we're being silly but can't pull ourselves together. Good luck xx

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Thanks. Yup, I meditated, raged and cried a bit. I'm all good ?

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I thought it would be helpful to have a thread dedicated to ways to get over someone/stop feeling sad etc.

So I'll start first. Mine is a relationship that didn't even start - guy led me on and whatnot. Symptoms of emotional distress in my case include a heaviness in my chest, exhaustion, nervousness at having to continue interacting with him, loss of appetite. Rationally I know he's the one who's worthless, not me, but reasoning it out doesn't stop the emotional distress.

I've just kept repeating the mantra in my head. I'm surrounded by people who tend to be more rational, meaning I don't really have anyone to help deal with this. I don't even know how I should deal with this.

I'm thinking of either going into a park to think, or keeping myself busy, but the latter is difficult when I'm emotionally exhausted.

How are you feeling today?

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I'm feeling confident and strong after being able to see the big picture ?

Posted by SofiaV87
Go to the gym

Let's go, and then after we go eat. Lol

Posted by Season
Pets can really help when you feel super depressed. They're nonjudgmental and they listen and comfort you. Stroking their fur and giving them a hug helps me. Maybe it will help you. It's too bad you don't have someone to share your heartache with. That would be my first choice. It can really help to have a friend to pour your heart out to and to get together with and do something spontaneous and fun.

Hugs. I hope you'll feel better.

Pet therapy works wonders. Amen.

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Posted by SofiaV87
Go to the gym

Let's go, and then after we go eat. Lol

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Yes ma'am ! (:

It's a phase and a process. Sometimes you just feel down and like pinkbird said, cry a bit. Do things that make you happy... Shop, meet friends, listen to your favourite music, dance... Whatever get's you going. I do a bit of all of this and voilà, the feeling has passed and the world is lovely again. Atb!

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Posted by SofiaV87
Go to the gym

Let's go, and then after we go eat. Lol

Yes ma'am ! (:

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And margaritas.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

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Posted by SofiaV87
Go to the gym

Let's go, and then after we go eat. Lol

Yes ma'am ! (:

And margaritas.

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What about vodka water & a lemon