@Moonbutter
11 Years5,000+ Posts
Ladies!! You want to KNOW if your man is REALLY into you? Ask him this!
How to Know if Your Man Truly Loves You
Asking if you make him happy reveals his genuine feelings more than just hearing I love you. A man who truly cares will confidently say you bring him happiness and show it through his actions. Watch for his reaction when you ask, as hesitation may indicate insincerity or lack of deeper affection.
Yes, but really the difference between a man feeling happiness with you and just happy to be with you is night and day.
Posted by LonerLoop
It's not easy to come across a real gentleman, these days.All I can do is to just use my head and create one in my own world. A hero that looks like Liam Hemsworth will do me good. Ahhhh... LOL
You know, I have come to this conclusion based on my own experiences and just recently having met a man who is a commitmentphobe but he's the one telling everyone he's my bf and backing up everything in actions. He's showing me and telling me I make him a happier man and no sex! What a concept! But really sex blurs those lines fit everyone and creates confusion and heartbreak where it could have been avoided.
Posted by K_1018
Hmmm good point
Haha well if you ask a man a question he is not prepared for I believe you will get a genuine response whether verbally or non verbally.
Posted by K_1018
Hmmm good pointHaha well if you ask a man a question he is not prepared for I believe you will get a genuine response whether verbally or non verbally.
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Not true with me, I will get defensive and put a wall up. Some also believe if you get people drunk you're more liable to get the truth, it can happen but it's unreliable to depend on.
Actions > words is 100% true though, I believe this too.
Posted by Moonbutter
Ladies... Dont look at the "I love you" as the litmus test, instead ask him this. Ask him if you make him happy. We all want to be with someone who makes us happier, right? So I discovered that's what was missing from my relationships I never heard that "you make me happier" I just heard " I love you" and where did that get me? Yes, a one-way ticket to single town. It took a guy to straight up just tell me " you make me happy" to realize this is what we should be looking for. And I'm not talking sex, we never had sex he just likes who I am as a person and that makes him happier. And ladies, once they say that you will see in their actions. So ask your man this and watch his reaction. If he hesitates or looks uncomfortable then cut him loose and be available for the man who will find happiness just being with you, as a person which is not replaceable 🙂
Amen sista. I agree
Big thumbs up to the OP.
So I took this topic's advice and went and asked him.
His reply was "No, because women are trouble. When you're by yourself..the highs aren't as high...but the lows are never really low. It's a state of ease/peacefulness/contentment as opposed to an emotional roller coaster"
Now what?
Posted by Damnata
So I took this topic's advice and went and asked him.His reply was "No, because women are trouble. When you're by yourself..the highs aren't as high...but the lows are never really low. It's a state of ease/peacefulness/contentment as opposed to an emotional roller coaster"
Now what?
Wow... That's kinda telling... He has issues with women? Are you happy with him?
Posted by LonerLoop
It's not easy to come across a real gentleman, these days.All I can do is to just use my head and create one in my own world. A hero that looks like Liam Hemsworth will do me good. Ahhhh... LOL
You know, I have come to this conclusion based on my own experiences and just recently having met a man who is a commitmentphobe but he's the one telling everyone he's my bf and backing up everything in actions. He's showing me and telling me I make him a happier man and no sex! What a concept! But really sex blurs those lines fit everyone and creates confusion and heartbreak where it could have been avoided.
Do you think he's for real? What sign is he? I don't know. I am afraid of all this talks when it comes to men.
They can actually manipulate you. They might do things like that today and be something else tomorrow.
I hope he really mean what he said else I am gonna kill him for you!
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He's Aries... He's for real.
Posted by Damnata
So I took this topic's advice and went and asked him.His reply was "No, because women are trouble. When you're by yourself..the highs aren't as high...but the lows are never really low. It's a state of ease/peacefulness/contentment as opposed to an emotional roller coaster"
Now what?
Wow... That's kinda telling... He has issues with women? Are you happy with him?
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How would you interpret that?
I am, yeah.
Posted by Damnata
So I took this topic's advice and went and asked him.His reply was "No, because women are trouble. When you're by yourself..the highs aren't as high...but the lows are never really low. It's a state of ease/peacefulness/contentment as opposed to an emotional roller coaster"
Now what?
Wow... That's kinda telling... He has issues with women? Are you happy with him?
How would you interpret that?
I am, yeah.
Dang girl ... I would ask what he meant by that. Like what does he mean he gets more of a high by being with someone?
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Posted by LonerLoop
It's not easy to come across a real gentleman, these days.All I can do is to just use my head and create one in my own world. A hero that looks like Liam Hemsworth will do me good. Ahhhh... LOL
You know, I have come to this conclusion based on my own experiences and just recently having met a man who is a commitmentphobe but he's the one telling everyone he's my bf and backing up everything in actions. He's showing me and telling me I make him a happier man and no sex! What a concept! But really sex blurs those lines fit everyone and creates confusion and heartbreak where it could have been avoided.
Do you think he's for real? What sign is he? I don't know. I am afraid of all this talks when it comes to men.
They can actually manipulate you. They might do things like that today and be something else tomorrow.
I hope he really mean what he said else I am gonna kill him for you!
He's Aries... He's for real.
Cool! Okay all the best to you sweetheart. 🙂
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Thank u.. But this was more of a service announcement for ladies confused by guys. Lol
Posted by Moonbutter
Yes, but really the difference between a man feeling happiness with you and just happy to be with you is night and day.
How is it night and day?
Same man can be happy with you on Monday and with other woman on Wednesday.
When they are hunting and getting a woman they are happy!
Do they love those women? No, they are just happy to win! It is not as easy as you
described. Yes you make him happy while together. But is he happy to commit?
Here is 2 different situations...
Posted by notsosure
Doesn´t matter.I dated a guy for a long time who kept telling me how happy I made him and that things were way better after he met me. Didn´t want to be my boyfriend still.
If you question it all the time, love ain´t there.
Love comes and goes without warning.
Sometimes you think it is love but you see him had said or done
something and 'love' is poof! No more...
So my friend dumped her bf after she saw how he was with his mom.
She had never seen him being nasty to his mother after she had aged.
She said enough! Love went poof!
When I am asking if he still loves me I just want to hear him saying it
because it sounds so good to hear. I am not doubting it - I just please my years.🙂
Once I said 'if you ever feel like voluntiring your condession - feel free.
Next day he called and I asked what's up and he said I love you and we
had a long laugh. It felt awesome!
Just because I'm happy with you dosent mean I'm gonna stay. I gotta see a future. You can be an amazing woman and make me happy but just not be the one I can love. Then again, I can love you and not stay either.
This is huge implication of relying on others for their own personal happiness.
Someone should be JUST "happy" with you. If they're "happier" with you, then wtf was their mental state before?
Posted by Sssupes
Just because I'm happy with you dosent mean I'm gonna stay. I gotta see a future. You can be an amazing woman and make me happy but just not be the one I can love. Then again, I can love you and not stay either.what would make you stay?
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Honestly, I don't know that answer. I guess it would have to be the "total package". If that even exist. I guess I'll be able to answer that when I don't leave.
Dang girl ... I would ask what he meant by that. Like what does he mean he gets more of a high by being with someone?
I mean...when you are with someone there is this new dimension of relating since there's emotional involvement. It can go on either ends of the spectrum.
When you're not, since you're not caught in the dynamics, it's far simpler. Like men with their male friendships. No drama, easy peasy communication.
On the other hand, people pursue people/situations because they make them happy so if I don't...then where do I fit in this?
I've seen people pursue others that destroyed them mentally, emotionally, and financially.
They've got "love songs" about.... loving the way you hurt me... hurts so good, etc.
Just asked him this.
He said, "You make me mad...*pregnant pause...mad happy".
My understanding of my own spirituality, astrology, and psychology has helped me successfully navigate my relationships.
Accept that nothing is forever.
One of the reasons for my happiness in being divorced was I wouldn't have to face his death or mine. I wanted to die alone. I'm amazed that he still wants this journey to death.
I woke up from a nightmare of him dying. In such a Virgo-like response to console me, he grabbed his tablet and went over the insurance policy and other beneficiary documents with me. I was confused and speechless. But, that's my Virgo.... I just hugged him, kissed his forehead (we don't like to kiss), and laughed.
Posted by VenusAquarius
My understanding of my own spirituality, astrology, and psychology has helped me successfully navigate my relationships.Accept that nothing is forever.
One of the reasons for my happiness in being divorced was I wouldn't have to face his death or mine. I wanted to die alone. I'm amazed that he still wants this journey to death.
I woke up from a nightmare of him dying. In such a Virgo-like response to console me, he grabbed his tablet and went over the insurance policy and other beneficiary documents with me. I was confused and speechless. But, that's my Virgo.... I just hugged him, kissed his forehead (we don't like to kiss), and laughed.
that's so lovely, in a kind of dark way but so sweet.
Posted by Moonbutter
Ladies... Dont look at the "I love you" as the litmus test, instead ask him this. Ask him if you make him happy. We all want to be with someone who makes us happier, right? So I discovered that's what was missing from my relationships I never heard that "you make me happier" I just heard " I love you" and where did that get me? Yes, a one-way ticket to single town. It took a guy to straight up just tell me " you make me happy" to realize this is what we should be looking for. And I'm not talking sex, we never had sex he just likes who I am as a person and that makes him happier. And ladies, once they say that you will see in their actions. So ask your man this and watch his reaction. If he hesitates or looks uncomfortable then cut him loose and be available for the man who will find happiness just being with you, as a person which is not replaceable 🙂
yup.
you have to "light up his life" ..
there's a song about that too.
it's corny but true.
Posted by Impulsv
I see an issue with someone depending on U for their happiness.I think it's an American thing.
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The hell it is.
Just stop with the "it's an American thing"
Don't you think we get bashed on enough here? 😭 why you hate us Tiz?!?!
😛
Posted by Impulsv
I see an issue with someone depending on U for their happiness.I think it's an American thing.
The hell it is.
Just stop with the "it's an American thing"
Don't you think we get bashed on enough here? 😭 why you hate us Tiz?!?!
😛
My streak of labelling things "an American thing" is at an end!
Foiled by Sag Moons once again.
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Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
Mine says I give him headaches.. Then proceeded to smile and say Nah you make me happy.I believe he meant it though with the headaches. Sad times lol
I'd say this is a more positive reaction tbh. If a guy is teasing you like that, he's got soft squishy feelings for you haha.
Btw, I get what you mean by doing this OP. Relationships should be a complement to your life and if who you're with ADDS to current, healthy happiness, then yeah, they should make you even happier.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
Mine says I give him headaches.. Then proceeded to smile and say Nah you make me happy.I believe he meant it though with the headaches. Sad times lol
I'd say this is a more positive reaction tbh. If a guy is teasing you like that, he's got soft squishy feelings for you haha.
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I agree... Funny thing is my ex Gem said this to me once and I said he was the Advil to mine but he meant it in a teasing and loving way. Some guys express their feelings indirectly but you can tell if they are happy being with you 🙂
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Btw, I get what you mean by doing this OP. Relationships should be a complement to your life and if who you're with ADDS to current, healthy happiness, then yeah, they should make you even happier.
Precisely!
Posted by libraqueen
My fiancé tells me this all the time without me having to ask. Lmao this isn't thread worthy..smh. No offense.
Haha that's rich coming from someone like you ms "libraqueen" wow u are selfish. Just because YOU didn't find value in it doesn't mean others did not. Wake up, the world does not revolve around you.
Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid
Mine says I give him headaches.. Then proceeded to smile and say Nah you make me happy.I believe he meant it though with the headaches. Sad times lol
I'd say this is a more positive reaction tbh. If a guy is teasing you like that, he's got soft squishy feelings for you haha.
Lol I was joking, my fiancé is a triple Virgo. It's his way of being affectionate.
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...yes I know. That's what I just said....
Posted by libraqueen
My fiancé tells me this all the time without me having to ask. Lmao this isn't thread worthy..smh. No offense.Haha that's rich coming from someone like you ms "libraqueen" wow u are selfish. Just because YOU didn't find value in it doesn't mean others did not. Wake up, the world does not revolve around you.
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Don't mind the cuntbucket. She's not worth the response, m'dear. She's 12 and still has a lot of growing up to do, that much is painfully obvious in her posts.
Posted by libraqueen
My fiancé tells me this all the time without me having to ask. Lmao this isn't thread worthy..smh. No offense.Haha that's rich coming from someone like you ms "libraqueen" wow u are selfish. Just because YOU didn't find value in it doesn't mean others did not. Wake up, the world does not revolve around you.
Don't mind the cuntbucket. She's not worth the response, m'dear. She's 12 and still has a lot of growing up to do, that much is painfully obvious in her posts.
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True ☺️
Posted by libraqueen
My fiancé tells me this all the time without me having to ask. Lmao this isn't thread worthy..smh. No offense.Haha that's rich coming from someone like you ms "libraqueen" wow u are selfish. Just because YOU didn't find value in it doesn't mean others did not. Wake up, the world does not revolve around you.
You get offended pretty easily huh? Others may have found value, I did not. So I voiced my opinion. Thanks
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Thanks for being predictable. Move along now honey no one cares.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Just asked him this.He said, "You make me mad...*pregnant pause...mad happy".
Is he a Gemini?
:-p
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Gemini cancer cusper with a libra moon
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Ladies... Dont look at the "I love you" as the litmus test, instead ask him this. Ask him if you make him happy. We all want to be with someone who makes us happier, right? So I discovered that's what was missing from my relationships I never heard that "you make me happier" I just heard " I love you" and where did that get me? Yes, a one-way ticket to single town. It took a guy to straight up just tell me " you make me happy" to realize this is what we should be looking for. And I'm not talking sex, we never had sex he just likes who I am as a person and that makes him happier. And ladies, once they say that you will see in their actions. So ask your man this and watch his reaction. If he hesitates or looks uncomfortable then cut him loose and be available for the man who will find happiness just being with you, as a person which is not replaceable 🙂