Insight Men please

So as a friend, when one of your close mates finds a new lady...how do you feel all of a sudden when he doesn't have as much time for you anymore.. preferring to be with his new love? Do you get jealous and end up hating the gf and go all out and try and get him to go out with you and the boys. Or are you really happy that he has found someone even though you haven't.

I know when there are problems in a relationship which always happens we girls talk to our friends and complain as I'm sure you do too. And in saying that gf's then form an opinion of "him" in their minds but they don't necessarily voice their "honest" opinions too much or try to get you back out into the single world night clubbing etc unless they feel this guy is really wrong for you!

I'm curious for two reasons, one of my bf's friends (whom I've only met a couple of times) hasn't warmed up to me commenting once on his fb page when he announced that he was coming to see me and couldn't wait..."soft" and because my cousin recently put this out on his FB page, which I found hilarious and made a smart comment back but then a couple of weeks later added another statement about this friend who was "weakened" by this woman!



SOOOOOO a good friend recently gets a new girlfriend she moves in and it has been quite sometime since i have seen him with a beer in his hands insted it has been some kinda bubbly sparkly cordial stuff in a weird shaped bottle.
God kows what she has him hooked on
What to do? Do i have an intervention? Do i just wait and hope his man hood is returned in one piece?
Or is it much more serious than that?
Help a concerned friend.

THEN THIS...

Soooooo not so long ago i spoke of a friend and the evil that has been thrust upon him with the new girlfriend moving in.
Im afraid my friends this has become much worse than origanally thought.... Not only is he drinking some wierd arse bubbly sparkly shit out of a funny shaped bottle (and holding his pinky out) He is now of to do salsa and im not just talking potatoe chip salsa Im talkin of the dancing kind i am so afraid we have lost this one.
So not only did we loose a friend on the weekend to that evil thing called marriage but now another friend to salsa dancing.
Is there anyone left in my friend list that still has testicles if so please help and we must band together my friends to stop this evil rot amongst us.

Yes it's funny, I love his sense of humour but how much of this really hits home as what guys think?

There have indeed been times when a male friend has found someone, and that pretty much ended the friendship. It wasn't necessarily that we parted angrily, but we went our separate ways. He had his new love, and that person pretty much took up all their time and energy. I expect that is how it should be, but losing a friend is a very hard thing, of course.

Haha E, I don't have that problem. I'd love my man to appreciate wine with me but he's a beer drinker so I indulge with him every now and then 🙂 Plus I can share him with his mates as I have many gf's that I miss that are always entertaining. We are just in love land atm and enjoy being together more.

But I have seen it all before with my ex and now reading my cousins amusing status it does pose the question.

Also, Before Xmas he wanted to have a few beers with his mates after work so he said he wouldn't come over after...reason being he didn't want to get in "trouble" for having fun with his mates and coming back to mine smelling of beers and good times! When I cleared up the matter and told him that I didn't have a problem with him having a night out after a long working week or whenever he felt the need he explained that he was NEVER allowed to do this with his ex!!!! All hell broke loose if he did.

So you see it works both ways with the insecurity in a relationship. And from that one silly comment I do get the feeling that I have an opposer!

You've taken that out of context...or I should have added a comma in...

When I cleared up the matter and told him that I didn't have a problem with him having a night out after a long working week or whenever he felt the need,

he explained that he was NEVER allowed to do this with his ex!!!! All hell broke loose if he did. 😛

This might be interesting to you guys. I had read a while back that when you fall in love, you lose two close friends. here's an article on it:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2010/sep/15/price-love-close-friends-relationship

Absolutely not! A good friend of mines just recently got married in March, just 2 days before my birthday and I dedicated my birthday wish to him to find endurable bliss in all areas of his life. He moved to another state, but we absolutely stay in touch. There is no room for jealousy of him because he has alot of integrity and its so easy for me to trust him. I told him that I completely understand that marriage takes alot of time and energy for adjustments and compromise. I told him that I'm there for him regardless and when it comes to staying in touch, so get back to me whenever you can because it's better late than never. So, sweethearts, just continue being a good friend and don't let jealousy get the best of you, okay?

The Stellar One