@PlanetMercuryGirl
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Eye Contact
It depends. I think it's a little different from the men's perspective because we can come off annoying if we 'maintain eye contact' with the wrong woman. I do a lot of eye contact with the Scorpio at work but that's because I know her well and I know she'll smile back at me.... With strangers, I doesen't work that well because most people try to avoid eye-contact. Especially women.
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
So, when you are face to face with someone and you're looking in their eyes, which eye do you look at or have you trained each eye to be able to look at their each eye, LoL.
I don't do 'the stare', I kind of eat their faces with my eyes, lol. I go from one eye to the next, and then back again.
If I have a crush on someone, it's difficult to even be in the same ROOM with him, much less maintain eye contact.
I love looking in their eyes and wondering if he knows what I am thinking about doing to him.
**Obviously this is someone I know, not some handsome stranger that just walked into the coffee shop/bookstore wherever.
*his eyes, not their eyes
One at a time thanks🙂
Posted by MidniteStar
It's very difficult for me to maintain eye contact with a guy I'm interested in. I avoid it at all costs. I basically flat out ignore the guy and he'd probably never know I was interested. I've been told before by people that they thought I was stuck up haha. And God help me if he approaches me (which rarely happens because I pretty much make myself non-approachable) and tries to carry out a conversation with me because I'll keep my answers short and sweet...usually yes/no type answers and be on my way as soon as I can.Not sure why I'm like this because I sooo don't want to be. I know I'm shy, but the odd thing is I don't have a problem expressing myself physically. It's like I have all these words in my head, but can't make them come out of my mouth right. Grr..it gets quite frustrating! I'm seriously a communication retard! LOL
I quite understand where you are coming from. Men have told me after we've started conversating that at first they thought that I was stuck up. Are you a Virgo too because I too ignore a guy if I'm not sure if he likes me or not. As far as I know, if he never approaches me then he won't even know anything about how I feel. Once he's approached me however, I hunt him down with my eyes. It catches them off guard.
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
I love looking in their eyes and wondering if he knows what I am thinking about doing to him.**Obviously this is someone I know, not some handsome stranger that just walked into the coffee shop/bookstore wherever.
Yes! Usually in my case, they feel naked when I look at them. They say that they feel like they can't lie to me.
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
So, when you are face to face with someone and you're looking in their eyes, which eye do you look at or have you trained each eye to be able to look at their each eye, LoL.I don't do 'the stare', I kind of eat their faces with my eyes, lol. I go from one eye to the next, and then back again.
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Does this happen when you like them? Are you trying to let them know by eating their face that you are interested?
I can only maintain eye contact with someone whom I feel comfortable with or someone I'm getting to know. Strangers freak me out when they try looking into my eyes.
The Stellar One
Which eye do you look at ?
^^^^^^^^^^LoL. I never really thought of which eye to look at before until now. I think that I've met my match with the "eye stare". Now I find myself going from one eye to the next but really when someone looks at me it doesn't look as if I'm switching from eye to eye. It's just weird that I've been having this on my mind lately.
Posted by exoskeleton
^interesting. i think it depends on the person and what they're trying to express. in situations where they're trying to hide their feelings by trying come off a certain way, the eyes may give them away. and vice versa. body language is just as important too. i find myself attentive to everything. 🙂
That's true. The eyes do give away so much. Altering the voice and tone can be mastered by many. A good stare in the eyes is hard for the other person to maintain. It could take 5 minutes or years to come, eventually those trained eyes will break.
Posted by exoskeleton
i don't focus on one eye, but sometimes switch back and forth when searching. i have a steady gaze/bedroom eyes and hold eye contact with everyone as most scorps do. to others it can be unnerving, seductive, or both, lol.
Geez, you know? Scorpios are some of the most seductive people. Their eye gaze can make someone feel like they are peeling not only their clothes off with their eyes, but their soul and all their hidden truth.
Posted by MzSagittarius
I've always big really big on eye contact.When I was in 5th grade, I talked to this Indian girl. She'd never look me in the eyes and I used to get SO angry. I always felt that was rude and dishonest. Afterwards, I learned some cultures don't believe in eye contact
*Shrugs*
Whenever I talk to guys they don't make direct eye contact. They'll glance up... Glance down, look at their shoes, and then glance back up. Meanwhile, I'm sitting there like O_O
I think Cancer, Taurus, and Pisces make the best eye contact.
Geminis and Scorps don't like to look me in the eye.
But as for your question... When I like someone I can't maintain eye contact for long... I just can't! 😢
Really? You don't think that Scorps maintain good eye contact? That's a first that I've heard. Pisces? Yes! Yes! If you don't look into a Pisces eyes they will tell you to, LoL. Or ask why aren't you looking into their eyes.
Posted by PlanetMercuryGirl
Do you find it difficult to maintain eye contact with someone that you like? I don't have that problem but when I look at someone that I like it seems to make them nervous. I've been told that I have x-ray vision, LoL. So why can't it be done by everybody? What is the insecurity? So, when you are face to face with someone and you're looking in their eyes, which eye do you look at or have you trained each eye to be able to look at their each eye, LoL. Or do you stare right down the middle of their nose making it appear that you are looking them in the eye (do you go cross-eyed when you do that?). Put a nutshell over all of this! Thoughts?Yes i stare at the nos tto make it seem like I am looking them in the eye. I save the soul gazing for later.
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Soul gazing.....yes.
I've always found Librans or Mercury in Libra folks to be really BIG on eye contact. Sometimes things would get too intense that I'd have to look away for a breather.
The Stellar One
Posted by TheOhSoStellarOne
I've always found Librans or Mercury in Libra folks to be really BIG on eye contact. Sometimes things would get too intense that I'd have to look away for a breather.The Stellar One
Hahaha! I love it! I thoroughly enjoy when someone has to turn away for a breather. Especially if its someone that I'm in a relationship with. And I'm not a Libra or have Mercury in Libra!
Posted by Sutekh
In general I make strong eye contact, but I can tell when others are scared or bothered by it so I cool out then. But to me people who walk around giving no eye contact look like punks/scary a $ $ mofos.
Hahaha! My male Sag friend is probably used to making eye contact but he can't hold a gaze into my eyes without turning away all shy. He will be talking and I will be giving him my undivided attention and then he will stop speaking mid-sentence and get all shy or can't get his words out right. I don't think that he is a punk though. Maybe he will get used to me sooner or later as all men do. Nice and sweet at first and then small traces of who they really are begin to leak until they eventually explode. Not all men, I should say, but a good number of them.
Posted by ninh
But if don't feel like socializing then I will avoid eye contact.
That's interesting. I wonder if other people will confess to that. I do that sometimes. Especially if I see someone approaching me and I know that that person talks way too much.
I'll focus in on you, but I dont do eye contact at all. Never have. I'll just look at your face or between your eyes lol.
do you stare right down the middle of their nose making it appear that you are looking them in the eye?
I mostly do the above and sometimes look at them from eye to eye. I have been told I have an intense gaze. I once went on a date and didn't take my eyes off of him all night long. He even noticed saying 'You haven't looked away from me even once' I had no clue what was happening around us as I was so fixated on him.
He even told me later on during the evening that I was staring into his eyes so intensely that he's never experienced anything quite like it. I think I scared him. Pahh! I was actually picturing him naked (something my Scorp sis told me to do)
I could take anybody on in staring competition! Bring it on! lol
Posted by Sutekh
In general I make strong eye contact, but I can tell when others are scared or bothered by it so I cool out then. But to me people who walk around giving no eye contact look like punks/scary a $ $ mofos.Hahaha! My male Sag friend is probably used to making eye contact but he can't hold a gaze into my eyes without turning away all shy. He will be talking and I will be giving him my undivided attention and then he will stop speaking mid-sentence and get all shy or can't get his words out right. I don't think that he is a punk though. Maybe he will get used to me sooner or later as all men do. Nice and sweet at first and then small traces of who they really are begin to leak until they eventually explode. Not all men, I should say, but a good number of them.
Id destroy you in a staring contest definitely.
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I'm pretty sure that we'd destroy each other. I don't have a problem with holding eye contact. And ya know, this is just one sag that I'm talking about. I've met some that have that devilish sexy stare and they'll catch you at the most unexpected times. Like, I could be reading a box of cereal in the grocery store and then I'll turn and there is that STARE!
I could take anybody on in staring competition! Bring it on! lol
It has already been broughten!!
Like, I could be reading a box of cereal in the grocery store and then I'll turn and there is that STARE!
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Posted by everevolvingepithet
You wouldn't win imo.:p
You fancy betting on that? 😛
I could take anybody on in staring competition! Bring it on! lol
It has already been broughten!!
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OOoooh *shakin' in my boots* 😛
I could take anybody on in staring competition! Bring it on! lol
It has already been broughten!!
OOoooh *shakin' in my boots* 😛
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LoL
Making eye contact, no...but maintaining eye contact for extended periods, yes...
I think it's part of my "play it cool" approach...I don't know if this is all Sagis, or just me really, but I almost ignore people I'm attracted to...no clue why, it's so weird.
I don't know if I come across as shy or stuck up to them...probably the latter since I will talk to everyone but them.
:/
Posted by everevolvingepithet
You wouldn't win imo.:pYou fancy betting on that? 😛
I don't need to bet if I already know I've got it in the bag. 😛
See, people who consciously try to do it like some have said on here just look hilarious, trying to do that eye-fuck, imma stare you down and I intimidate you thing...nah. It's all in the woozinesses, like that disney snake with the pulsating eyes and stuff, everything is starting to go soft focus...they look away...or blink !!! I win 😄click to expand
LOL!!!
Posted by brianafay
Making eye contact, no...but maintaining eye contact for extended periods, yes...
I think it's part of my "play it cool" approach...I don't know if this is all Sagis, or just me really, but I almost ignore people I'm attracted to...no clue why, it's so weird.
I don't know if I come across as shy or stuck up to them...probably the latter since I will talk to everyone but them.:/
That's what I'm talking about. I know two Sags that are so shy. Is it game or what? But they can't maintain eye contact with me. I think that it is so cute and if it is part of their game then I they win. A shy guy is so cute sometimes. If it weren't for their good convo I'd be bored but once they warm up they are fabulous to be around. The thing is, the warming up process always occurs with the beginning of each meet up. They can't get past that initial jitters each time. So cute.
I send the wrong messages with my eyes, too lusty
Posted by bkbella86
I send the wrong messages with my eyes, too lusty
i can relate.
I don't like being looked at/being noticed. It's makes my mind go in circles and I end up thinking something like "Do they think I'm weird?", etc. I also look away because I think the person may not want me to know they're looking at me.
I typically glance at people, but don't stare. Especially if they're looking my way. I'm not sure the exact reason for this, but it's just how I am. I don't use physical ques to show people I'm interested.
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Do you find it difficult to maintain eye contact with someone that you like? I don't have that problem but when I look at someone that I like it seems to make them nervous. I've been told that I have x-ray vision, LoL. So why can't it be done by everybody? What is the insecurity? So, when you are face to face with someone and you're looking in their eyes, which eye do you look at or have you trained each eye to be able to look at their each eye, LoL. Or do you stare right down the middle of their nose making it appear that you are looking them in the eye (do you go cross-eyed when you do that?). Put a nutshell over all of this! Thoughts?