Andalusia
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Posted by TwodrinksLol, or lack or air signs. (That's what I have).
My Aqua doesn't know how. I have to tell him in explicit detail..."when we go to sleep at night it's kind of customary to give each other a good night kiss and say goodnight instead of just falling asleep without speaking"
I'll write a book later entitled "Teaching air signs to emote"
Posted by tizianiSo we can't be ourselves?
Yeah, people can get too comfortable being by themselves. I certainly did at one point.
Posted by TwodrinksLove this. From one Aqua lover to another. š
My Aqua doesn't know how. I have to tell him in explicit detail..."when we go to sleep at night it's kind of customary to give each other a good night kiss and say goodnight instead of just falling asleep without speaking"
I'll write a book later entitled "Teaching air signs to emote"
Posted by tizianiI asked if we can't be ourselves while in relationships.Posted by TeenaWhat do you mean?Posted by tizianiSo we can't be ourselves?
Yeah, people can get too comfortable being by themselves. I certainly did at one point.click to expand
Actually I read it wrong.Your comment.Overlooked "by" š
Posted by AndalusiaYes, for a variety of reasons. The odds are higher that this happens because you're not dating someone who is on par with you on simillar behavior, aka a mismatch (royal you)
For someone to not know how to be in a relationship?
Posted by AndalusiaYes, but it's more likely to become estranged, and alien to partnership in general, not necessarily too independent. People will find a way to incorporate the partner in their lives and understand the dynamics. If that doesn't happen, again a mismatch.
Is it possible to be *too independent*?click to expand
Yes. Even on campus, when someone tries to sit with me, I am essentially sitting alone because I'm just like š. And then I put on my headphones and watch my documentaries.
I attempted to "go out" with a guy, and it was the strangest thing - kind of like when you are trying to slow dance, but you keep stepping on the other person's toes because you are so used to just wildly dancing Gangnam style alone in the middle of your living room. There was one point during our time out together where I opened the door when he wanted to, and then I let the door shut and kind of did this awkward side step to allow him to open it for me, and then I thanked him. Hugs are the WORST. Why do people insist on it as a greeting? What ever happened to hand waves? Guys ALWAYS say "that has got to be the weirdest and most awkward hug I have ever had!" And then they laugh. I don't like hugs that I don't initiate.
Walking side-by-side is also tricky because I tend to walk briskly, and I had to consciously remind myself to slow down. The hardest part? Having focus being put on me. I am very awkward. When men compliment me, I remember to say "thank you," but I always get the feeling as though I sound like we are making a business transaction because I have this tone in my voice that is like "I will accept your compliment and not deny that there is truth to what you say." This is a step up from my usual reaction which was to get offended (don't ask.) I remember to text thanking the guy for his time and telling him I enjoyed myself but, again, I don't know if that's weird and business transaction-y.
I then kind of don't want to be bothered for a while, and that may ruin any chances of anything building because I am aware it disrupts momentum. I hate the initial phase of constant texts and calls. It's too overwhelming. I also don't like to be touched, so hand holding is an anxiety filled moment as there is no real nice way to say 'no.' I also don't like my things touched, so when we lunch and he adjusts my cup, it bothers me. I generally like being the one to give than to receive, but the catch is: I only like to give when it's my idea. If a guy asks me to pay, I don't mind, but a small part inside of me feels repulsed and I cannot help it, but I feel as though I lost respect - as though he has relinquished power to me and my paying for his slushie and lunch has somehow created a bizarre shift in power. But then, I love getting people things, and it makes me happy because I feel I always find the perfect gift.
Good grief.
I attempted to "go out" with a guy, and it was the strangest thing - kind of like when you are trying to slow dance, but you keep stepping on the other person's toes because you are so used to just wildly dancing Gangnam style alone in the middle of your living room. There was one point during our time out together where I opened the door when he wanted to, and then I let the door shut and kind of did this awkward side step to allow him to open it for me, and then I thanked him. Hugs are the WORST. Why do people insist on it as a greeting? What ever happened to hand waves? Guys ALWAYS say "that has got to be the weirdest and most awkward hug I have ever had!" And then they laugh. I don't like hugs that I don't initiate.
Walking side-by-side is also tricky because I tend to walk briskly, and I had to consciously remind myself to slow down. The hardest part? Having focus being put on me. I am very awkward. When men compliment me, I remember to say "thank you," but I always get the feeling as though I sound like we are making a business transaction because I have this tone in my voice that is like "I will accept your compliment and not deny that there is truth to what you say." This is a step up from my usual reaction which was to get offended (don't ask.) I remember to text thanking the guy for his time and telling him I enjoyed myself but, again, I don't know if that's weird and business transaction-y.
I then kind of don't want to be bothered for a while, and that may ruin any chances of anything building because I am aware it disrupts momentum. I hate the initial phase of constant texts and calls. It's too overwhelming. I also don't like to be touched, so hand holding is an anxiety filled moment as there is no real nice way to say 'no.' I also don't like my things touched, so when we lunch and he adjusts my cup, it bothers me. I generally like being the one to give than to receive, but the catch is: I only like to give when it's my idea. If a guy asks me to pay, I don't mind, but a small part inside of me feels repulsed and I cannot help it, but I feel as though I lost respect - as though he has relinquished power to me and my paying for his slushie and lunch has somehow created a bizarre shift in power. But then, I love getting people things, and it makes me happy because I feel I always find the perfect gift.
Good grief.
@andalusia
Chances are your SO finds your independent nature extremely sexy and was drawn to you, in part, because of it. Don't try to fix it if it ain't broke.
Chances are your SO finds your independent nature extremely sexy and was drawn to you, in part, because of it. Don't try to fix it if it ain't broke.
@OP, I think with time, you will learn to tango. Has your independence created any friction?
From my observations, I think allowing a man to do little things for you is important. A co-worker injured her leg, her husband came to see her at work and offered to carry all of her bags, "I got it." She proceeded to hobble out while carrying all of her things. Her husband looked deflated and just followed her out.
From my observations, I think allowing a man to do little things for you is important. A co-worker injured her leg, her husband came to see her at work and offered to carry all of her bags, "I got it." She proceeded to hobble out while carrying all of her things. Her husband looked deflated and just followed her out.
Posted by cheekyfaerieI think it's "easier" if both parties are relationship "rusty."Posted by DamnataA mix of this and what Twodrinks said for us.Posted by AndalusiaYes, for a variety of reasons. The odds are higher that this happens because you're not dating someone who is on par with you on simillar behavior, aka a mismatch (royal you)
For someone to not know how to be in a relationship?
Posted by AndalusiaYes, but it's more likely to become estranged, and alien to partnership in general, not necessarily too independent. People will find a way to incorporate the partner in their lives and understand the dynamics. If that doesn't happen, again a mismatch.
Is it possible to be *too independent*?
Been a long time since either of us were in a real relationship, but it helps that compatibility's off the charts. Nothing feels forced. So many people that come here for relationship advice are trying to put a square peg in a round hole.click to expand
Posted by WhiteChocolateHow so?
Sounds to me like you need healing.
Posted by LadyNeptuneI find this perspective intriguing.. I will come back to this.
@andalusia
Chances are your SO finds your independent nature extremely sexy and was drawn to you, in part, because of it. Don't try to fix it if it ain't broke.
Posted by WhiteChocolate#not buying itPosted by Andalusia#justbeingasmartassPosted by WhiteChocolateHow so?
Sounds to me like you need healing.click to expand
You have something on your mind grapes. It's just either not fully formed yet or too problematic to type out right now.
Posted by cheekyfaerieWhodatbe?Posted by AndalusiaThink he was just channeling Heartonmysleevesag's thread.Posted by WhiteChocolate#not buying itPosted by Andalusia#justbeingasmartassPosted by WhiteChocolateHow so?
Sounds to me like you need healing.
You have something on your mind grapes. It's just either not fully formed yet or too problematic to type out right now.click to expand
Posted by WhiteChocolateahahahahahaha.
*facepalm*
Posted by Damnataš¢Posted by WhiteChocolateahahahahahaha.
*facepalm*click to expand
Posted by Andalusianot laughing at you sugarplum.Posted by Damnataš¢Posted by WhiteChocolateahahahahahaha.
*facepalm*click to expand
deze scorpio men failing...
Posted by Twodrinkswhat the fuckā
My Aqua doesn't know how. I have to tell him in explicit detail..."when we go to sleep at night it's kind of customary to give each other a good night kiss and say goodnight instead of just falling asleep without speaking"
I'll write a book later entitled "Teaching air signs to emote"
my husband has LACK OF AIR, and he doesn't do this.
if he has to "Customary" do the kissing and goodnite thing every single night because he has to.....it's robotic.
if he's tired as hell i dont expect anything out of him but he does expect me to be by his side every freaking night and he loves the cuddles.
there are NO RULES in relationships.
if you love being with eachother, then it's easy peasy.
if you love being with eachother, then it's easy peasy.
Posted by LadyNeptunei agree 100%
@andalusia
Chances are your SO finds your independent nature extremely sexy and was drawn to you, in part, because of it. Don't try to fix it if it ain't broke.
why do you have to change who you are, Andy?
it's fake if you have to follow rules.
Posted by Twodrinksi do forget at times, well alot of times that ALOT of couples out there NEED "rules".Posted by lisabethur8CongratsPosted by Twodrinkswhat the fuckā
My Aqua doesn't know how. I have to tell him in explicit detail..."when we go to sleep at night it's kind of customary to give each other a good night kiss and say goodnight instead of just falling asleep without speaking"
I'll write a book later entitled "Teaching air signs to emote"
my husband has LACK OF AIR, and he doesn't do this.
if he has to "Customary" do the kissing and goodnite thing every single night because he has to.....it's robotic.
if he's tired as hell i dont expect anything out of him but he does expect me to be by his side every freaking night and he loves the cuddles.click to expand
anyway for me, it's fake. but for others it's NOT fake. I have to remember that.... it's hard but every couple s different.
i have to stop and think and not be so emotionally reactive to stuff. So no offense to those who love rules.
i have to stop and think and not be so emotionally reactive to stuff. So no offense to those who love rules.
Posted by Twodrinksso weird. but isn't that what you were doing when you posted it the first time?? you just ASSUME all of them are like that. I already know long enough with astrology since i dont get out much that people are different.Posted by lisabethur8There are no rules and I was being facetious. I don't recite what is customary to him. I just tell him to give me a kiss.Posted by Twodrinksi do forget at times, well alot of times that ALOT of couples out there NEED "rules".Posted by lisabethur8CongratsPosted by Twodrinkswhat the fuckā
My Aqua doesn't know how. I have to tell him in explicit detail..."when we go to sleep at night it's kind of customary to give each other a good night kiss and say goodnight instead of just falling asleep without speaking"
I'll write a book later entitled "Teaching air signs to emote"
my husband has LACK OF AIR, and he doesn't do this.
if he has to "Customary" do the kissing and goodnite thing every single night because he has to.....it's robotic.
if he's tired as hell i dont expect anything out of him but he does expect me to be by his side every freaking night and he loves the cuddles.
Arguing/debating with you is like debating with my Aqua...you're almost completely oblivious to your own behaviors and then counterattack instead of trying to understand/empathize the other persons point of view at all. It's extremely annoying and one of the traits of Aqua that grates my nerves.click to expand
Posted by Twodrinksthat's good. stay away from me then.Posted by lisabethur8Or you could come to terms with the fact that aquas don't have the warmest personalities which you pretty much single handidly prove. Even your own responses on dxp are "robotic"
anyway for me, it's fake. but for others it's NOT fake. I have to remember that.... it's hard but every couple s different.
i have to stop and think and not be so emotionally reactive to stuff. So no offense to those who love rules.click to expand
Posted by Twodrinksi can see through your bullshit. and using astrology to twist it.Posted by lisabethur8This post for example. What even is this? Is this snark? You have to make a mental note that other people are different from you? Lol. "Must. Remember. Other. People. Have. Emotions. Too. Just different from mine? How odd." Way to showcase your empathy Aqua sign!
anyway for me, it's fake. but for others it's NOT fake. I have to remember that.... it's hard but every couple s different.
i have to stop and think and not be so emotionally reactive to stuff. So no offense to those who love rules.click to expand
boring.
What is your MBTI Mel?
Posted by Twodrinksyou seem to care alot about me.Posted by lisabethur8Except it's not bullshit. You're one of the most contrived and robotic posters on dxp. Aside from offering helpful astrological information in a way that I read in my head as rainman...I've never once read any posts from you that even remotely come across as a genuine or sincere display of any emotion. Except when you're arguing with people about how emotional and warm aquas can be.Posted by Twodrinksi can see through your bullshit. and using astrology to twist it.Posted by lisabethur8This post for example. What even is this? Is this snark? You have to make a mental note that other people are different from you? Lol. "Must. Remember. Other. People. Have. Emotions. Too. Just different from mine? How odd." Way to showcase your empathy Aqua sign!
anyway for me, it's fake. but for others it's NOT fake. I have to remember that.... it's hard but every couple s different.
i have to stop and think and not be so emotionally reactive to stuff. So no offense to those who love rules.
boring.
click to expand
and you are with an aqua but you keep complaining about him and how cold he is. If you are with a cold man why the hell are you with himā
all you do is attack about the signs/placements that i am. and about how your bf is this sign and how cold he is. it makes me wonder how you a really are as a person talking shit about your bf like that.
Posted by TwodrinksPosted by lisabethur8Because im a venus in aries and detachment doesn't bother me...but im still going to call it what it is. He's not cold per se but he's not as openly warm and expressive as you'd like to claim aquas to be.Posted by Twodrinksyou seem to care alot about me.Posted by lisabethur8Except it's not bullshit. You're one of the most contrived and robotic posters on dxp. Aside from offering helpful astrological information in a way that I read in my head as rainman...I've never once read any posts from you that even remotely come across as a genuine or sincere display of any emotion. Except when you're arguing with people about how emotional and warm aquas can be.Posted by Twodrinksi can see through your bullshit. and using astrology to twist it.Posted by lisabethur8This post for example. What even is this? Is this snark? You have to make a mental note that other people are different from you? Lol. "Must. Remember. Other. People. Have. Emotions. Too. Just different from mine? How odd." Way to showcase your empathy Aqua sign!
anyway for me, it's fake. but for others it's NOT fake. I have to remember that.... it's hard but every couple s different.
i have to stop and think and not be so emotionally reactive to stuff. So no offense to those who love rules.
boring.
and you are with an aqua but you keep complaining about him and how cold he is. If you are with a cold man why the hell are you with himā
all you do is attack about the signs/placements that i am. and about how your bf is this sign and how cold he is. it makes me wonder how you a really are as a person talking shit about your bf like that.
Furthermore, you're the one who jumped in this thread and every other thread for that matter...acting like an authority. No, every relationship is not like yours. And every relationship that is different is not "faulty".
Be thankful you have aquas like feby and others who are far more personable and friendly and genuinely warm because you're not exactly the best spokesperson for aquas.click to expand
i'm very thankful for them that's for sure. you should go to them and PM and be all buddy buddy.
Posted by DamnataWhat is an MBTI?
What is your MBTI Mel?
Posted by elllesqueNot sure exactly.. wine was responsible for me *posting* about it, but the actual trigger?
can I ask you what triggered this feeling?
Probably because there's a guy in my life I have feelings for and I'm kind of seeing some of my "issues" or reservations mirrored back from him. Caps and Virgos - or at least he and I - really are a lot alike.. especially when it comes to emoting, it seems.
Posted by elllesqueYou mean you cant??! When did they take that away?Posted by AndalusiaI thought maybe that was it (not the wine š)....I wish I could unhide posts now...lol.Posted by elllesqueNot sure exactly.. wine was responsible for me *posting* about it, but the actual trigger?
can I ask you what triggered this feeling?
Probably because there's a guy in my life I have feelings for and I'm kind of seeing some of my "issues" or reservations mirrored back from him. Caps and Virgos - or at least he and I - really are a lot alike.. especially when it comes to emoting, it seems.click to expand
Posted by LadyOfRebirthI relate to the self reliance thing. I'm not used to asking for much. I'm working on it, but since I'm unpracticed, I fear either over compensating and asking/sharing too much, or sounding whiny or negative.Posted by AndalusiaYes.
For someone to not know how to be in a relationship?
Because if so, I think that's what I'm experiencing now in myself.
Is it possible to be *too independent*?
In my experience though, it had more to do with not allowing people to help me. Even in hardships I'd rather suffer than ask someone for help. Self sufficiency to an extreme.
My Virgo pointed this out to me, him being the helper that he is really struggled with this aspect of mine. It wasn't that I didn't trust him to help me, but because of my life experiences I became really self reliant. He felt like he wasn't much help to me and that bothered him a lot. I didn't want him to feel that way so I decided to allow myself to receive his help. Might sound pathetic but it was much harder than I expected. I'm still self sufficient but now I allow myself to depend more on people now.click to expand
I should change my user name to comma splice, lol.
Posted by elllesqueI read it. In my case I really do think it's a mixture of both he and i. I don't get the sense I'm being taken for a ride. But I've been wrong before, lol.
well, I had to go into "more"....lol
His most recent comment about "being cautious in his involvement because he's comfortable around me" was both confusing and relatable at the same time though.
Yep.
A good description is actually lyrics from a song I posted.
"I'm but a clean man, stable and alone man
Make it so I won't have to try
The faces always stay the same
So I face the fact that I'm just fine
I said that I'm just fine"
Though it's delusional thinking if you understand the song as a whole.
A good description is actually lyrics from a song I posted.
"I'm but a clean man, stable and alone man
Make it so I won't have to try
The faces always stay the same
So I face the fact that I'm just fine
I said that I'm just fine"
Though it's delusional thinking if you understand the song as a whole.
Posted by Andalusia
For someone to not know how to be in a relationship?
this is too ambiguous to answer, considering every person you try to relate with is different ... it's like asking what color is clear?
Posted by elllesqueUggh I just don't know!
You may not be taken for a ride, I just have concern of his previous disclaimer....only because I've experienced the fall out from that.
However, you are a virgo and I am a scorpio.....so, his approach may make more sense to you.
I just found, in my experience, that was a way for him to have his cake and eat it too....and I'm not just talking about sexual relations. I have experienced where all the motions and actions appeared as we were in a relationship or working towards a relationship but when the rubber hit the road (at the point where a situation came up where he was expected to acknowledge this)....I was sorely disappointed. It felt like a carpet being pulled from underneath me. At that point, the relationship (or whatever we were participating in) was beyond repair.
Prior to that happening, I was almost always on a level of confusion because, like your experience, the same types of phrases were uttered...."I don't get close to anyone."...and in hindsight, I can go back and remember other tell tale signs as well.
It sucks to have to be so guarded and when you aren't naturally guarded....and start feeling like you have to be...it can create this internal turmoil of..."Well, maybe I don't know how to be in a relationship."
When a relationship is naturally forming and both people are on the same page...which I experienced with a partner *after* that experience (also a cap).....you don't have those feelings. I promise š
I've been accused of being guarded by previous partners.. with them admitting they try to pick fights just to get a spontaneous, emotional response from me.
The Cap is the most like of anyone I've been with, but I find myself over analyzing his responses like I haven't done since I was a teenager.
One man's trash is another man's treasure ..... so there is no definitive answer here. One guy could absolutely adore how independent you are, while another finds it disgusting.
I didn't read past the OP, so perhaps you clarified the situation more clearly, so that you could get answers other than just opinions on what color is clear.
Posted by Andalusiahttp://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.aspPosted by DamnataWhat is an MBTI?
What is your MBTI Mel?click to expand
Posted by Andalusia
For someone to not know how to be in a relationship?
Because if so, I think that's what I'm experiencing now in myself.
Is it possible to be *too independent*?
No, everyone knows how to be in a relationship but not.everyone knows how to stay in a rrlationship with someone that isn't compatible.
Posted by elllesqueYou can share as much as you want. I welcome the insight.
and to add to my thoughts (and then I'll stop, promise).....
If I were to ever attempt another relationship with a cap (or anyone for that matter....lol....I'm currently wearing my 'invisible cloak so men cannot see me').....I would most definitely look back at my prior experiences....and because there was such a contrast in the courting process....one very negative and one very positive....I should be well aware whether to invest my time or not. I think it will grant me the opportunity to pick up my marbles and go home a lot faster to avoid a lot of heartache.
but you are a virgo and you may do things similar to a cap because you have that element of earth as something in common. I'm just an emotionally challenged scorpio š
Now, if only I had a Cap translator...
Posted by HeartI actually am the third of 10 children, lol šPosted by AndalusiaDid you grow up as an only child? Because I notice people with siblings don't have this issue.
For someone to not know how to be in a relationship?
Because if so, I think that's what I'm experiencing now in myself.
Is it possible to be *too independent*?
I've always been independent, but now at 23 it makes me feel lonely. Sometimes it takes me longer to get things done because I have to bite my pride to ask for help. I enjoy being self-sufficient but just the presence of the people I care about is enough. My ideal relationship is where the two of us spend hours merely talking, sharing wine and pizza. As long as we're both loyal, respectful, and have our own friends and careers.click to expand
Posted by DamnataPosted by Andalusiahttp://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp<div class="bqfade">click to expandPosted by DamnataWhat is an MBTI?
What is your MBTI Mel?
I'm taking this when I get home!
Posted by AndalusiaINTJ according to that link.Posted by DamnataI'm taking this when I get home!Posted by Andalusiahttp://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.aspPosted by DamnataWhat is an MBTI?
What is your MBTI Mel?click to expand
Posted by AndalusiaYou're in good company with Rabbit.Posted by AndalusiaINTJ according to that link.Posted by DamnataI'm taking this when I get home!Posted by Andalusiahttp://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.aspPosted by DamnataWhat is an MBTI?
What is your MBTI Mel?click to expand
INTJ relationships are slow to start, usually because this personality is romantically awkward. Personal relationships tend to deviate from the logical world in which āscientistsā thrive, thus leaving such an individual unequipped to maneuver the emotional and physical aspects of a relationship. This character is just as interested in entering a relationship as other personality types but they tend to lack the drive to initiate a relationship. Ever the planner, this individual will have a clear idea of what type of person they are looking for before they even step onto the proverbial field. Self-confidence is one of the ājewelsā of this personality and the case often seems to be that the INTJās self-confidence shines brightest when they arenāt looking for a relationship. This air of self-assurance can be extremely attractive to a potential mate and will help to instigate a relationship.
Once in a relationship, INTJ takes the commitment very seriously and will work hard to ensure that the relationship has a good chance of working out. The āstrategistā will begin to sniff out ways that they can make the relationship better which can involve frequently redefining procedures and searching for ideas that could āfixā inefficient or unbalanced areas of the connection. More than anything, INTJ wants a healthy relationship in which they and their partner are comfortable and content. This driving need to constantly work on and improve the relationship can become annoying and stressful to INTJās partner if allowed to get out of control.
It is no secret that INTJ has a difficult time expressing emotions, but in actuality they can feel very strongly about a companion. The introverted intuition factor can prevent this individual from sharing personal information even with a trusted partner.
Over time, INTJās mate may become frustrated with having learned so little about their partnerās true self. Patience is a key factor in this type of relationship because āstrategistsā place a lot of value on their independence; any excessive pushing or attempts to drag information from this individual will only make them strengthen their internal walls (and develop a healthy amount of resentment against such a disrespectful tactic).
Also, this:
http://intjforum.com/showthread.php?t=50427
(i am cheating on dxp with another forum with mbti types..getting really interested in this)
http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/11/538816/
http://personalitycafe.com/intj-forum-scientists/
Also, this:
http://intjforum.com/showthread.php?t=50427
(i am cheating on dxp with another forum with mbti types..getting really interested in this)
http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/11/538816/
http://personalitycafe.com/intj-forum-scientists/
Posted by DamnataWhat's your personality type, Delphi?
Over time, INTJās mate may become frustrated with having learned so little about their partnerās true self. Patience is a key factor in this type of relationship because āstrategistsā place a lot of value on their independence; any excessive pushing or attempts to drag information from this individual will only make them strengthen their internal walls (and develop a healthy amount of resentment against such a disrespectful tactic).
Also, this:
http://intjforum.com/showthread.php?t=50427
(i am cheating on dxp with another forum with mbti types..getting really interested in this)
http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/11/538816/
http://personalitycafe.com/intj-forum-scientists/
Posted by DamnataI'm an INTJ, and that was probably the most accurate description I've read about us in relationships.
Over time, INTJās mate may become frustrated with having learned so little about their partnerās true self. Patience is a key factor in this type of relationship because āstrategistsā place a lot of value on their independence; any excessive pushing or attempts to drag information from this individual will only make them strengthen their internal walls (and develop a healthy amount of resentment against such a disrespectful tactic).
Also, this:
http://intjforum.com/showthread.php?t=50427
(i am cheating on dxp with another forum with mbti types..getting really interested in this)
http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/11/538816/
http://personalitycafe.com/intj-forum-scientists/
The only thing I disagree with is that I'm slow to get into a relationship. If nothing ese, I'm too quick to get attached and want one NOW.
Maybe because I've already analyzed the situation way in advance of ever approaching someone and am confident that it will work.
ENFP
Totally can. How do I even relationship anymore.
PS melly let's hook up, we can be socially awkward and independent in co-existence.
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is there a mountain too high? a valley too low? a river too wide? is there a point where two people who truly love each other should face reality and accept they are beaten? or is no obstacle too big to overcome where love is concerned?
This all has been an observation I've made over the last year or two from those I've interacted with. Before anyone gets upset and freaks out, there is nothing wrong with this generally. It's the motivation, or lack thereof, behind this concept for some.
Is this untypical for a gemini?
I suppose this is really for atheists/non-religious. But religious dating outside their own faith would be as relevant I suppose. I ended up spending a lot of time with this guy during the weekend. I met him before, maybe a few weeks ago and was proba
What would be any reasons you didnt want to have sex with someone u normally have tons of sex with? Im just curious on this specific topic lol.
My dude asked me to hold him last night as we were lying in bed. So I cuddled up to him. Fast forward a bit and he was sleeping peacefully while I was attempting to regain feeling in my numb arm wedged under his neck. My front was too hot, my back too col
I just wanted to be able to post this somewhere. Because I am crying and wish I could tell someone how I feel I wish I had a dad who treated me like his daughter. Who, when he looked to me or turned to speak to me, would do so in that magical way. Wher
simple question.. whats your experience about that? (this is targeting other signs than Leos)
Just want to know if anyone else has done this? or been rejected? I've recently gone through a trial such as this and wanted to get some clarity I guess... We started dating over a year ago but had been talking while I was overseas. When I came back
Wth, would a woman suggest keeping thing casual? It's such a desperate move. Its saying, "I know you don't want to put effort into a realtionship, but I'm willing to put my self respect aside and let you screw me. I'm okay with any crumb of attention
How long did you take? When did you know you were ready to get back into dating? I know I'm not ready to start dating yet, but I feel like I need some kind of goal here. I initially decided to take a break from dating with a vague plan to sort myself
Iāve been dating the same man for two years. Committed to each other emotionally and sexually, called each other boyfriend and girlfriend. However, our life styles couldnāt be more different: he is a well-off, stay-at-home father-of-two; Iām a child
Wow let's just say that the beginning or our relationship was rocky. I was still seeing someone else and hadn't told him about it. He fell for me fast, after about two weeks and he found out about the other guy and told me I should break it off. I did bec
I have been sensing mixed signals to my crush lately. I have been avoiding him like the plague, not because I hate him, but ever since he reciprocated his interest, it has made me feel very nervous. Now he thinks he hates me. The thing is, we don'
I hate it fucking annoys me endlessly Idk what to make of texting behaviours especially if it's texting with a guy ... Opinions please what's acceptable what's not in terms of response time etc Yes I'm fucking clueless I'm not into 3 day rule
So i met this sag guy, he has a Scorp moon, scorp venus, pisces mars and i am a virgo with a scorp moon, scorp venus and cancer mars. He asked me for my number and we texted for a few weeks, he did most of the initiating, i was kind of giving him the
Because if so, I think that's what I'm experiencing now in myself.
Is it possible to be *too independent*?