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Love is for the weak
You don’t give all your love. You give part of it. You are sharing your love. You have to be strong to do that and not loose yourself
Sounds like a relationship. Not love.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Are you talking about friends and family members who pretty much ignore/ghost ya once they’re in a relationship?
Absolutely. Those treacherous bastards with no allegiance
People are kind of messed up sometimes.
- John Linnell
- John Linnell
Hard disagree.
Knowing that you could give your love unconditionally and the other person could take advantage or hurt you, but doing it anyway cause it's who you are or cause they mean that much to you...that takes incredible strength.
Ofc you should also love yourself just as much!
Knowing that you could give your love unconditionally and the other person could take advantage or hurt you, but doing it anyway cause it's who you are or cause they mean that much to you...that takes incredible strength.
Ofc you should also love yourself just as much!
Posted by FireStarter
Hard disagree.
Knowing that you could give your love unconditionally and the other person could take advantage or hurt you, but doing it anyway cause it's who you are or cause they mean that much to you...that takes incredible strength.
Ofc you should also love yourself just as much!
Sounds like the archetype of a fool
Posted by 777Posted by FireStarter
Hard disagree.
Knowing that you could give your love unconditionally and the other person could take advantage or hurt you, but doing it anyway cause it's who you are or cause they mean that much to you...that takes incredible strength.
Ofc you should also love yourself just as much!
Sounds like the archetype of a foolclick to expand
Opposite of foolish but many people can't or don't understand this.
Sounds like you may be bitter and cynical. If that's the path you choose, well at least it's your choice.
First of all there is no such thing as unconditional love when it comes to romantic relationships.
But tbh I kind of feel sorry for people that avoid love out of fear. Life is too short to let fear rob you of potentially great experiences.
But tbh I kind of feel sorry for people that avoid love out of fear. Life is too short to let fear rob you of potentially great experiences.
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by 777Posted by FireStarter
Hard disagree.
Knowing that you could give your love unconditionally and the other person could take advantage or hurt you, but doing it anyway cause it's who you are or cause they mean that much to you...that takes incredible strength.
Ofc you should also love yourself just as much!
Sounds like the archetype of a fool
Now I understand what they mean to ground yourself
When ur In love one forgets reality n has this unconditional love as love conquers all
Love does not conquer allclick to expand
No unconditional love is simply without condition, it is no cure all. And this is beyond a lover, it is all love. This is reality if you choose it.
Posted by Ariqua
No you’ve got it backwards..love is for the strong. Knowing it could destroy your life and still going for it without fear.
Avoiding love is for the weak.
That sounds like somthing out a cheap childrens fairytale. This is the real world. In the real world there are real consequences fof our ignorance. Its about knowing your enemy before going into battle. Not diving into the unknown without a strategy like a damn fool
sounds like smth an aries would say
What? I dont inow what you mean but i see this as the opposite.
After having a heartbreak, it's either you becoming pitiful or learn from the experience and become stronger.
After having a heartbreak, it's either you becoming pitiful or learn from the experience and become stronger.
Posted by Antiochus
If you are talking about the current idea or understanding of love in our societies: agreed.
If you are talking about the ideal and it's concept: disagreed.
The first one.
I know love has its own power attached to it. Im talking about the concept of love which has been expolited & used to keep fools preoccupied with blindness.
Posted by 777
Being willing to give a person all of your love & attention is a weakness. The same reasons you wouldnt give all of your food, clothing, and money away, is the same reason you shouldnt give away love freely. People "will" take advantagd of u. Once you start giving a person too much it then becomes expectation & entitlement. Once you start loving a single person more than others you become weak.
Like negativity, too much love can be dangerous
It’s only a weakness if you lower your guard to the wrong person. If they are your ride or die they won’t take advantage. They lift you up when you are weak, not tear you down.
Pro tip: if your only looking as deep as money, looks, and confidence from someone your not protecting yourself from the vultures.
You’ll get back as much as your willing to put in. You can’t be mad that your can’t find something real if you always keep to shallow water. Js.
Posted by 777
Being willing to give a person all of your love & attention is a weakness. The same reasons you wouldnt give all of your food, clothing, and money away, is the same reason you shouldnt give away love freely. People "will" take advantagd of u. Once you start giving a person too much it then becomes expectation & entitlement. Once you start loving a single person more than others you become weak.
Like negativity, too much love can be dangerous
Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeetttt
Posted by LadyNeptune
You’ll get back as much as your willing to put in. You can’t be mad that your can’t find something real if you always keep to shallow water. Js.
I see this all the time, even here on dxp.
People expecting someone to jump through hoops for them and not having the same energy in return. Makes zero sense.
Posted by 777
Being willing to give a person all of your love & attention is a weakness. The same reasons you wouldnt give all of your food, clothing, and money away, is the same reason you shouldnt give away love freely. People "will" take advantagd of u. Once you start giving a person too much it then becomes expectation & entitlement. Once you start loving a single person more than others you become weak.
Like negativity, too much love can be dangerous
Who hurt you?
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by 777
Being willing to give a person all of your love & attention is a weakness. The same reasons you wouldnt give all of your food, clothing, and money away, is the same reason you shouldnt give away love freely. People "will" take advantagd of u. Once you start giving a person too much it then becomes expectation & entitlement. Once you start loving a single person more than others you become weak.
Like negativity, too much love can be dangerous
It’s only a weakness if you lower your guard to the wrong person. If they are your ride or die they won’t take advantage. They lift you up when you are weak, not tear you down.
click to expand
amen...applies equally well to friends IMO....and even if you happen to lower it to the wrong person once in a while, I still see it as a strength....you find out whether or not you can trust them w/it sooner than you would have with your guard up, waste less time, w/less or no love lost....typically will reveal my biggest weaknesses early on just for that reason....
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by LadyNeptune
You’ll get back as much as your willing to put in. You can’t be mad that your can’t find something real if you always keep to shallow water. Js.
Not true that you get what give
People have given it all n lost it allclick to expand
Did you read my first comment?
You need to prequalify em. Don’t give 100 to a user.
And don’t make excuses for em. They will show you the person they are.
i agree with the others. giving love is not the problem. "giving love freely" is.
you don't give it away without qualification. the first step is giving it to yourself. once you have done that, then you can share it with the right person - not just any joker off the street.
it does make you weak, though paradoxically it also gives you strength in equal measure.
you don't give it away without qualification. the first step is giving it to yourself. once you have done that, then you can share it with the right person - not just any joker off the street.
it does make you weak, though paradoxically it also gives you strength in equal measure.
I think it's weak not to love. It's weak to be afraid to lose anything but your life really... being so afraid of losing material things so you never give or receive love—? No thanks! I'm gonna hafta pass.
Posted by LadyNeptune
You’ll get back as much as your willing to put in. You can’t be mad that your can’t find something real if you always keep to shallow water. Js.
This is false. Plenty of unbalanced relationships out there where one takes, and takes and takes.
Posted by jeane
i agree with the others. giving love is not the problem. "giving love freely" is.
you don't give it away without qualification. the first step is giving it to yourself. once you have done that, then you can share it with the right person - not just any joker off the street.
it does make you weak, though paradoxically it also gives you strength in equal measure.
Love this 🙂
Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it'd not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
Everyone has fears.
Posted by SagicornPosted by bkbella86Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it'd not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
Everyone has fears.
Yeah...some have a few fears while others are pure cowards. This description from op goes under the category of cowards tbh. It's not the same to have a fear of a bullet and a mouse right?click to expand
I don’t think it matters. I also don’t think not loving is cowardly.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by SagicornPosted by bkbella86Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it'd not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
Everyone has fears.
Yeah...some have a few fears while others are pure cowards. This description from op goes under the category of cowards tbh. It's not the same to have a fear of a bullet and a mouse right?
I don’t think it matters. I also don’t think not loving is cowardly.click to expand
i don't think not loving is cowardly. it becomes cowardly though when a person wants to love and also to be loved but sabotages in a way out of fear. i don't know. part of me thinks you can't control it anyway. once you really love someone you are powerless to stop it with any sort of cerebral gymnastics.
Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it's not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
The spartans were homosexuals who practiced pedastry. Sodomozing a child isnt my idea of what a true warrior is.
No need to spit baseless accusations at me
I dont care about how u feel.
You are weak & needy.
Posted by jeanePosted by bkbella86Posted by SagicornPosted by bkbella86Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it'd not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
Everyone has fears.
Yeah...some have a few fears while others are pure cowards. This description from op goes under the category of cowards tbh. It's not the same to have a fear of a bullet and a mouse right?
I don’t think it matters. I also don’t think not loving is cowardly.
i don't think not loving is cowardly. it becomes cowardly though when a person wants to love and also to be loved but sabotages in a way out of fear. i don't know. part of me thinks you can't control it anyway. once you really love someone you are powerless to stop it with any sort of cerebral gymnastics.click to expand
Agreed
Posted by SagicornPosted by 777Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it's not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
The spartans were homosexuals who practiced pedastry. Sodomozing a child isnt my idea of what a true warrior is.
No need to spit baseless accusations at me
I dont care about how u feel.
You are weak & needy.
And you know this because you were there and saw it with your own eyes! Yeah sure they did.
You know nothing dear. You're delusional. You're just too much of a coward, that's all.click to expand
U can repeat ur statements as much as youd like. It wont change the fact that you seek love because you are weak. I only seek whats within. Everything outside is just a bonus
Posted by bkbella86Posted by SagicornPosted by bkbella86Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it'd not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
Everyone has fears.
Yeah...some have a few fears while others are pure cowards. This description from op goes under the category of cowards tbh. It's not the same to have a fear of a bullet and a mouse right?
I don’t think it matters. I also don’t think not loving is cowardly.click to expand
Thats why i love aries women. Strong inside & out. Love is not the deciding factor in who you really are
Posted by SagicornPosted by 777Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it's not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
The spartans were homosexuals who practiced pedastry. Sodomozing a child isnt my idea of what a true warrior is.
No need to spit baseless accusations at me
I dont care about how u feel.
You are weak & needy.
And you know this because you were there and saw it with your own eyes! Yeah sure they did.
You know nothing dear. You're delusional. You're just too much of a coward, that's all.click to expand
I guess you seek love to compensate your idiocy. Here weakling:
(Life of Lykourgos 17.1)
When the boys reached this age, they were favoured with the society of lovers from among the reputable young men. The elderly men also kept close watch of them, coming more frequently to their places of exercises, and observing their contests of strength and wit, not cursorily, but with the idea that they were all in a sense the fathers and tutors and governors of all the boys. In this way, at every fitting time and in every place, the boy who went wrong had someone to admonish and chastise him.
Posted by SagicornPosted by 777Posted by SagicornPosted by 777Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it's not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
The spartans were homosexuals who practiced pedastry. Sodomozing a child isnt my idea of what a true warrior is.
No need to spit baseless accusations at me
I dont care about how u feel.
You are weak & needy.
And you know this because you were there and saw it with your own eyes! Yeah sure they did.
You know nothing dear. You're delusional. You're just too much of a coward, that's all.
I guess you seek love to compensate your idiocy. Here weakling:
(Life of Lykourgos 17.1)
When the boys reached this age, they were favoured with the society of lovers from among the reputable young men. The elderly men also kept close watch of them, coming more frequently to their places of exercises, and observing their contests of strength and wit, not cursorily, but with the idea that they were all in a sense the fathers and tutors and governors of all the boys. In this way, at every fitting time and in every place, the boy who went wrong had someone to admonish and chastise him.
You seriously believe everything you ever read? Actually no, you believe what you prefer to believe. Unless you have scientific proof of what you're saying, how can you believe such things? I don't know how can someone believe everything they read with so widely know fact that informations are so manipulated withclick to expand
Well, i leave the details up to you since your such a history buff. Though it sounds like ur basing ur opinion solely off of the hollywood blockbuster.
Posted by SagicornPosted by 777Posted by SagicornPosted by 777Posted by SagicornPosted by 777Posted by Sagicorn
Who hurt you? You're spitting out negativety all around. And it's not weakness, it's the ability, power that many people don't have. Those who fear to love because they MIGHT get hurt are the true weak ones. Accent is on FEAR. Strong people don't have fears, only the weak ones do. The possibility of getting hurt doesn't stop the true warriors. Ever heard of Spartans? You think they became that cause they had FEAR of getting hurt?
The spartans were homosexuals who practiced pedastry. Sodomozing a child isnt my idea of what a true warrior is.
No need to spit baseless accusations at me
I dont care about how u feel.
You are weak & needy.
And you know this because you were there and saw it with your own eyes! Yeah sure they did.
You know nothing dear. You're delusional. You're just too much of a coward, that's all.
I guess you seek love to compensate your idiocy. Here weakling:
(Life of Lykourgos 17.1)
When the boys reached this age, they were favoured with the society of lovers from among the reputable young men. The elderly men also kept close watch of them, coming more frequently to their places of exercises, and observing their contests of strength and wit, not cursorily, but with the idea that they were all in a sense the fathers and tutors and governors of all the boys. In this way, at every fitting time and in every place, the boy who went wrong had someone to admonish and chastise him.
You seriously believe everything you ever read? Actually no, you believe what you prefer to believe. Unless you have scientific proof of what you're saying, how can you believe such things? I don't know how can someone believe everything they read with so widely know fact that informations are so manipulated with
Well, i leave the details up to you since your such a history buff. Though it sounds like ur basing ur opinion solely off of the hollywood blockbuster.
Movie is cool but no, I don't believe what I see in movies. There's a lot of examples of the point I was saying but you chose to twist the story into discussion of credibility of Spartans which wasn't the point of the story, just a random example of the point.click to expand
You started by equating love to cowardice. You made the comparison about the spartans & being honorable. Youre the one with the dumbass aries moon comments. I dont care.
Stick to love because thinking isnt ur strong point
So then don't give it out quick, date them without intimacy for a few months, Pie of anyone who wastes your time. Only give to that one who demonstrates what you seek
the rest is bitterness sorry dude it is.
the rest is bitterness sorry dude it is.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Attachment leads to fear, fear leads to the dark side.
I can tell you flunked Ideology at Sith Lord College. This is only half the quote!
I believe unconditional love is very rare outside of being a parent loving their children.
I would not like getting all of someones attention, it is suffocating.
Too much of anything loses its meaning.. like too much attention, will seem more like control not love.
show love, be moderate dont spoil it
I would not like getting all of someones attention, it is suffocating.
Too much of anything loses its meaning.. like too much attention, will seem more like control not love.
show love, be moderate dont spoil it
I only read the OP so if someone shared same/similar sentiments as I...disregard...but I find statements like those in the op sooo passê.
Love is not a FINITE RESOURCE! And false, it does not make one weaker unless you’re obtuse to begin with which...well that a topic for another discussion.
Everyone tries to find excuses to justify their choices so they can keep feeling good about themselves. Sometimes this leads to self delusion, sometimes it doesnt. Its all human nature though.
Welcome to the human world, OP.
I hope that you find yourself in it.
I hope that you find yourself in it.
Posted by Impulsv
I’m starting to believe relationships are just someone to fuck n share expenses as long as you can Laugh
I am voting it as best postnif the day!
👍
Posted by nyx100
So then don't give it out quick, date them without intimacy for a few months, Pie of anyone who wastes your time. Only give to that one who demonstrates what you seek
the rest is bitterness sorry dude it is.
Apparently you’ve never heard of those who ran after first sex anyway...even being waiting for months...
Or you made him wait to find out his peepee is well...just for peepeeing.
What a time waste!
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