men and text messaging.....

I dont know if the problem is with me or with the guys but for some reason whenever guys (who i have been involved with) texts me and asks how i am etc I reply and tell them ( i dont go deep, usally just a "yeah ive been good/busy/not up to much") and ask how they are and they dont respond— then a few days later they text and see how I am again and i get the same thing - no response! Is there some particular response that they are looking forthat i'm not giving, other then to ask how theyve been too? lol im confused :S

I have noticed though that it always seems to be aquarius mooners that do this? not sure if its just something you guys do 😛 haha

Would agree with you but its a day time thing more of a "hey i was watching such and such the other day and it remined me of blah blah blah lol so how you been you been up to much" kind of thing. Just dont understand why someone would engage me in conversation if they have no intention of replying or if it is my reply that somehow ends it? and constantly do the same thin over and over again...

Yeah it really bugs me. I could understand if it was me initiating contact, but just seems odd because they are the ones contacting me. I have decided that from now on I will just reply that im fine and not ask them how they are but then I just feel rude lol but im bored of playing whatever game this is!

My friend/potential has an aqua moon and I swear for a few days we'll be texting butt buddies and then he'll take off for like 3 days. I took it personally at first (thanks scorp moon), but I'm beginning to just let it go because I'm starting to understand we need space sometimes (him more than me, but I also need to focus on myself at times), and I realize half the time I don't even feel like texting him during his disappearing period lol.

I do think in some cases with guys it's reassurance that you're still around. Of course it seems a little childish, but some people don't view texting as an end all/be all. Like, if he doesn't text, he probably doesn't feel like it's such a big deal compared to most things.

If not this, then he's probably just playing silly little games.

this used to happen to me all the time when i was dating. i only responded a couple times to a couple guys before i caught on that they didn't have anything to say. then i just started ignoring the texts. =P

don't know why they do it.

maybe they're bored and they're like hmmmmm who can i text, so they text a bunch of people, then they see your response and they're like oops why did i do that for? i hv so many other intrstng ppl to txt with! yayyyyy!

Posted by libra sun
I dont know if the problem is with me or with the guys but for some reason whenever guys (who i have been involved with) texts me and asks how i am etc I reply and tell them ( i dont go deep, usally just a "yeah ive been good/busy/not up to much") and ask how they are and they dont respond— then a few days later they text and see how I am again and i get the same thing - no response! Is there some particular response that they are looking forthat i'm not giving, other then to ask how theyve been too? lol im confused :S

I have noticed though that it always seems to be aquarius mooners that do this? not sure if its just something you guys do 😛 haha

I always respond I think it's only polite really, not always the exact second i got it. I'll try again sometimes but I don't over do it tbh.

Yeah! Maybe because it's summertime in the states because I've received 2 random text messages THIS WEEK from two male friends that I don't speak to on a regular basis. Every several months or once a quarter even!

One of which got pissy saying that I never return his RANDOM calls or texts. We did have an exchange of texting wars and ended with him saying don't call or text him anymore. Acting like a little Bee-yatch! He irritated me!

I didn't respond to the other, I figured "What's Up?" is not an emergency! So I ignored that one...

I never have that problem. You need to follow it up with "how are you doing?" or they have nothing to respond to. The guy could also just think you're busy because I only write texts like you did above when I'm busy and don't want people to talk to me anymore. Plus it sounds selfish...at least to me. Hope this helps.

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Posted by libra sun
I dont know if the problem is with me or with the guys but for some reason whenever guys (who i have been involved with) texts me and asks how i am etc I reply and tell them ( i dont go deep, usally just a "yeah ive been good/busy/not up to much") and ask how they are and they dont respond— then a few days later they text and see how I am again and i get the same thing - no response! Is there some particular response that they are looking forthat i'm not giving, other then to ask how theyve been too? lol im confused :S

I have noticed though that it always seems to be aquarius mooners that do this? not sure if its just something you guys do 😛 haha

I always respond I think it's only polite really, not always the exact second i got it. I'll try again sometimes but I don't over do it tbh.

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Yeah I'm the same way, and if they don't text back right away I just assume they're busy and usually forget I texted them back until I get a text back. You just shouldn't take texts too seriously. Oh the carefree life of a sag 🙂
Sometimes when the scorpio texts me saying we should hang I have him call me just to make sure he's being serious if it's late at night. He always is serious, but it's always good to make sure by hearing his voice...plus I like to hear him beg lol

I'm probably guilty of that. I'm mainly the initiatee of the exchange though, not the initiator (I don't initiate text convos that much). So if I just get a text from someone like "How are you doing?", I would say "I've been good, you?" And after they respond with whatever, I don't respond back much of the time.

Sometimes I can take hours when responding back; a few times I can even take until the next day if someone texted me like a question or something. Sometimes I find myself not even responding back and forgetting that they texted at all. I only respond back immediately if it's urgent/necessary. Thing is I don't take texting that seriously I guess, and I assume others are the same way. People do it with me too and I'm fine with that (they probably learned it from me lol).

I wouldn't however do it if I'm in a relationship with someone. That's an entirely different story.

Posted by libra sun
I dont know if the problem is with me or with the guys but for some reason whenever guys (who i have been involved with) texts me and asks how i am etc I reply and tell them ( i dont go deep, usally just a "yeah ive been good/busy/not up to much") and ask how they are and they dont respond— then a few days later they text and see how I am again and i get the same thing - no response! Is there some particular response that they are looking forthat i'm not giving, other then to ask how theyve been too? lol im confused :S

I have noticed though that it always seems to be aquarius mooners that do this? not sure if its just something you guys do 😛 haha

lol!!! hahahahahaha

You closed off the topic with your response i.e. they asked, you answered, finished.
With Aqua anything, you gotta tickle their excessive curiosity membrane by saying something completely incoherent/unrelated to the question, not answering the question but asking them one random question back.
Also, try not to respond immediately, that also gets them on high alert so when you respond, they would have gone into curiosity coma & the response just wakes them up so they reply 😄 don't try this at home.

rotfl!
Exactly, if you want a response, pick up the mothafuckin fone!

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Posted by libra sun
I dont know if the problem is with me or with the guys but for some reason whenever guys (who i have been involved with) texts me and asks how i am etc I reply and tell them ( i dont go deep, usally just a "yeah ive been good/busy/not up to much") and ask how they are and they dont respond— then a few days later they text and see how I am again and i get the same thing - no response! Is there some particular response that they are looking forthat i'm not giving, other then to ask how theyve been too? lol im confused :S

I have noticed though that it always seems to be aquarius mooners that do this? not sure if its just something you guys do 😛 haha

lol!!! hahahahahaha

You closed off the topic with your response i.e. they asked, you answered, finished.
With Aqua anything, you gotta tickle their excessive curiosity membrane by saying something completely incoherent/unrelated to the question, not answering the question but asking them one random question back.
Also, try not to respond immediately, that also gets them on high alert so when you respond, they would have gone into curiosity coma & the response just wakes them up so they reply 😄 don't try this at home.

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No guys worth that much effort lol. If someone asks how i am I tell them and ask what they have been up to and then its their turn to respond. Anyone who doesnt follow that simple ettiquette isnt for me. Just annoying that I keep getting constantly asked how i am!!! oh well im not gonna let myself get hung up on it, was just wondering if there was some explanation for this behaviour or if other guys do it for a particular reason, or if there was some particular reply they were looking for as if there was they should say what they mean. Im not hereto play stupid games and keep people entertained haha

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Posted by libra sun
I dont know if the problem is with me or with the guys but for some reason whenever guys (who i have been involved with) texts me and asks how i am etc I reply and tell them ( i dont go deep, usally just a "yeah ive been good/busy/not up to much") and ask how they are and they dont respond— then a few days later they text and see how I am again and i get the same thing - no response! Is there some particular response that they are looking forthat i'm not giving, other then to ask how theyve been too? lol im confused :S

I have noticed though that it always seems to be aquarius mooners that do this? not sure if its just something you guys do 😛 haha

lol!!! hahahahahaha

You closed off the topic with your response i.e. they asked, you answered, finished.
With Aqua anything, you gotta tickle their excessive curiosity membrane by saying something completely incoherent/unrelated to the question, not answering the question but asking them one random question back.
Also, try not to respond immediately, that also gets them on high alert so when you respond, they would have gone into curiosity coma & the response just wakes them up so they reply 😄 don't try this at home.

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No guys worth that much effort lol. If someone asks how i am I tell them and ask what they have been up to and then its their turn to respond. Anyone who doesnt follow that simple ettiquette isnt for me. Just annoying that I keep getting constantly asked how i am!!! oh well im not gonna let myself get hung up on it, was just wondering if there was some explanation for this behaviour or if other guys do it for a particular reason, or if there was some particular reply they were looking for as if there was they should say what they mean. Im not hereto play stupid games and keep people entertained haha

Posted by libra sun

No guys worth that much effort lol.

Really?

You've put forth a lot of thought in this thread, and effort.

So, he's not worth effort on your part, but, having your feelings validated are ... perhaps, that is the answer to this equation.

who is he? and what feelings? if you read my initial post you will see i am refering to guys (particularly aqua moons) in general as they always seems to do this. It was a general pondering of why someone would do this as it intrigues me.

Posted by TyDyed

I've always thought that texts can be answered whenever & that people shouldn't expect immediate replies.

I agree. I treat them same as e-mails.

No one has said they must be answered immediately have they— The question was why would someone INITIATE a text convo then NEVER reply when you respond to them and then start the whole thing again a few days later.....

I dont really want a phone convo with these guys, I text them back to be polite as they have took an interest in how I am. Just find it wierd that they never reply when they started it.

Posted by libra sun

Posted by TyDyed

I've always thought that texts can be answered whenever & that people shouldn't expect immediate replies.

I agree. I treat them same as e-mails.

No one has said they must be answered immediately have they— The question was why would someone INITIATE a text convo then NEVER reply when you respond to them and then start the whole thing again a few days later.....

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I answered that clearly in my first post. Sounds like a legit reason to me, being busy and whatnot and the fact that you don't ask how they are doing back. What reason is there to respond back to you?

If you had read my post properly you will see that I DO ask how they are back which is what they DONT reply to. WOW this thread is like talking to a brick wall with some of you guys!!

Thanks to all the people that actually undersood my post and replied

haha love a bit of Pink Floyd on a Wednesday night

Posted by libra sun
If you had read my post properly you will see that I DO ask how they are back which is what they DONT reply to. WOW this thread is like talking to a brick wall with some of you guys!!

Thanks to all the people that actually undersood my post and replied

Well then you have guys who just wanna booty call or obviously you're not saying something that peaks their interest. Idk why this is so important to you. If it bugs you so much just don't respond. Simple.

For the billionth time i was just curious about the behaviour! Even if I do ignore it it's still doesnt stop it being annoying. People who want booty calls dont usually text in the daytime asking me how I am, usually a night time thing saying "wanna meet up for some fun" which is why I asked if this is something aquarius moons might do often. I was looking for suggestions on why a guy would keep doing this, or if other people have had guys do this to them, Not what I need to do to get them to respond.

i have an aqua moon, it's prob a boredom thing like i said. 😛

Well always nice to know someone thought of you, even if it was only for 2 minutes to pass the time 😛 haha.

Posted by libra sun
For the billionth time i was just curious about the behaviour! Even if I do ignore it it's still doesnt stop it being annoying. People who want booty calls dont usually text in the daytime asking me how I am, usually a night time thing saying "wanna meet up for some fun" which is why I asked if this is something aquarius moons might do often. I was looking for suggestions on why a guy would keep doing this, or if other people have had guys do this to them, Not what I need to do to get them to respond.

Oh dear lord? what's your chart? because I feel like i'm having this exact same problem...

Sun - Libra
Moon - Cancer
Mercury -scorpio
Venus - scorpio
Mars - libra

Maybe we will be able to find a link— lol

nah, not the same we share the same venus and that's it,,naybe we have the same aspects..or attract the same types of people...but that whole frustration about posting something in plain english and people keep misreading and peop[le lacking what you thibk is a common courtesy...

had one sag friend bitch how i never talk to him but he rarely has any thing to say to me but 'sup'

It has happened to me too. It's like one initial contact and I answer back and also ask about them and no answer! I think it's a bit rude since they initiated and it just seems to me that they aren't 'really' interested in chatting if they can't do more than one or two sentences or answer a question back. Why bother?
Who knows why they do it except maybe they are bored or just thinking they can string you along if they stay in some sort of contact?
I don't know but when they do it more than 2-3 times then I just don't answer back after that.

^ Right. It's common courtesy.

Busy thread tonight it seems. Mine was in response to Bling.

LOL GAH! Less coffee woman. In any event. You wouldn't just cease speaking mid-conversation face to face staring off into space for hours on end. That would be rude ( or indication you are one brick shy of a load ). Same thing applies.

^ Yes.

The fact that it has happened to so many females....(it has happened to me too...and I stare at my phone and think.."Where did you go?" It is frustrating.)tells me men are not communicators like we are.

I think men are not "communicators" in general...they are not wired like women for being "vocal" and that includes email,im etc as well as voice.
Notice how a woman types a long text and most guys type a very short, to the point text..even on here the men have all shorter posts and the women type novels....