sags and breakups

Hi there!

So my Sag and I broke up. It started with an argument and I said we're over cuz i was angry. He took it seriously and so broke up with me despite me wanting another chance. Anyway, I have some stuff for his aunt and his mom that I want to give back and I have told him several times that I would like him to come get them and still he has not, he always side steps it when I bring it up. I even got angry and said please pick up your stuff so that I can move on and he didn't even respond. Anyway, he seems really angry with me because he said he's not going to run me down or chase me!! and he won't hear a word I have to say. Why won't he pick up his darned stuff so that we can get on with our lives!!

It's been a week. by the way he's acting he would love to get over me like now. so why not pick up his stuff so it's easier for us both to get on with our lives?!

I hate when people do that.

It isn't funny to say something is "over" and not mean it. How would you feel if someone did that to you? Think about that.

Posted by WynterBourne
Tell him he's got 3 days to come pick up the damn stuff or it's going in the garbage.

If he doesn't pick it up after 3 days, throw it in the garbage.

Ya than just throw it out. YOU MOVE ON.

Sounds like he doesnt want to break up and neither do you... Have you considered talking to him about that.

I don't want to break up , but alot of his hurt feelings are my fault because I was selfish and wanted to protect myself from being vulnerable and any "perceived potential heartbreak". He's very angry and i think he doesn't want to appear weak by running back to me. have told him that I am sorry and that I want him back, that I want another chance but he said we were friends before so he just wants to be friends because he's unhappy with the way we were and so he can't be committed to me. So i said ok but asked him to get his stuff which as i said he's ignored. I specifically told him that he should get them so we can move on. yet he ignores this. So yes i thought maybe it was a sign he wanted me back and didn't want to break up but what do i do? i told him i'm not over him, that i want him back yet nothing from him. So i dunno.

Posted by Lissanth
I specifically told him that he should get them so we can move on. yet he ignores this.

If there was a girl I really did deep down want to see again then I wouldnt get my stuff either. If it were me doing that I wouldnt get it because, as you stated yourself, that would end it permanently.

Im no relationship expert but if it were me and my gf said "I want to break up" just because she was angry I would think a few things.
1) She doesnt value the relationship since she is ready to throw it away so quickly.
2) She doesnt value me because she is ready to throw everything away so quickly.
3) I need a 12 pack, backrub, and a TV.

It sounds like you were holding back from "percieved potential heartbreak" so he probably also thinks that you didnt take him or the relationship seriously.. ie he was putting in more effort than you were. Which also then, if it were me, would make me think she is just trying to have power over me. Again just what I personally would think. So if it were me what would be the solution...
Option 1: You want to save the relationship. Keep his stuff and continue to reassure him that you do want another chance. Dont wait 6 months... but give him some time to get a little more secure with the situation. I, as you, would guess that he does want to stick around. You know wait until im calm... and your at home... go get my stuff.. start rubbing your leg, look into your eyes... say "your the jam in my jelly roll," and make like squirrels...
Option 2: You dont want to save the relationship. Go with the above and give him 3 days to get it and then throw it out. Although I have to say this sounds rather harsh to me considering you said yourself you know his hurt feelings are your fault. Unless he has an elephant crapping all over the place would it kill you to hold onto it a bit longer...

By the way should be known im a Libra, not a Sagittarius, lol. Might matter.

Can't throw the stuff away as they belong to his mom and his aunt. So they are not his per se.

And yes Lookoutbelow, what you said perfectly resonates with the situation. He feels that I always want things my way and therefore do not care about him or the relationship. And i blame myself for that because it's not who I am. He just came on too strong when I was in place where I wasn't ready to open up and then shut me out by not communicating with me.

I'm just going to see what happens over the next few days--without contacting him etc. Maybe he's trying to punish me and teach me a lesson. Cuz he keeps saying "see other people have feelings too"

Posted by lookoutbelow84093
By the way should be known im a Libra, not a Sagittarius, lol. Might matter.

your not just any libra....your my fave libra!

hmmm throw my stuff out on the curb and your in for the fire fight of your life.

better call the coroner..going to be alot of slow singing, flower bringing.

*what does his chart looks like?

When they get angry at you after a break up, don't they stay angry a long time?

his chart

rising pisces
sun sag
moon sag
merc sag
venus cap
mars scorp
jup aries
sat sag
uran sag
nep cap
pluto scorp

i don't know his actual birth time so that might influence the moon sign

Posted by DMV

Posted by lookoutbelow84093
By the way should be known im a Libra, not a Sagittarius, lol. Might matter.

your not just any libra....your my fave libra!

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Aw thanks DM your the Shiz

Posted by Lissanth
his chart

rising pisces
sun sag
moon sag
merc sag
venus cap
mars scorp
jup aries
sat sag
uran sag
nep cap
pluto scorp

i don't know his actual birth time so that might influence the moon sign

ahhhhh. good ol Mars in scorpio. The Mars planet is agression or how we would all act on our menstrual cycle. he would act like a scorpio.

which is why he wont come get his stuff, hes probably playing some subtle manipulative game on you.

He messages me this morning saying "he's been dreaming about me every night" Talk about mixed signals! What's up with that? YoU tell me it's over and you're not running me down, i say ok come get your stuff, you ignore me, then you say I've been dreaming about you?! Uhmm.....please you sagis out there put this into perspective for me! Cuz really SAY WHAT YOU WANT AND MEAN UPFRONT! i am enough indecisive for the 2 of us being a gem!

mars in scorpio.....read up on it.

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by DMV
hmmm throw my stuff out on the curb and your in for the fire fight of your life.

better call the coroner..going to be alot of slow singing, flower bringing.

*what does his chart looks like?

Lol.
How so?
Your stuff in the street and the locks have changed ?

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grrrr

Posted by lookoutbelow84093
Sounds like he doesnt want to break up and neither do you... Have you considered talking to him about that.

I agreeeeee

🙂

Well he messaged me yesterday asking me to tell my mom happy mother's day which I took as a good sign. But then i realised that I don't want to be hanging on hoping everytime he messages me that we'll get back together. So i asked his dad to come for the stuff.

Posted by Lissanth
Well he messaged me yesterday asking me to tell my mom happy mother's day which I took as a good sign. But then i realised that I don't want to be hanging on hoping everytime he messages me that we'll get back together. So i asked his dad to come for the stuff.

lol

hes playing a manipulation game with the OP. his aggression is that of a scorpio

Thanks Wynterbourne for your oh so SERIOUS advice. Would definitely come to you in a life and death situation. Thanks so much for taking this seriously. You're a gem.

sarcasm

Posted by SunGem20
When a Sag walks away they never come back....

Hmm not true. Tho when I get over someone...I get over them for good

Dont get down Liss, there are those of us who actually are curious and hope things work out for you. And if you get too much crap here head on over to the Libra boards, we luv you long time 😉 Updates?