My boyfriend of almost 4 months says he wants me to meet his son soon...

However, he has a court ordered co-parenting situation with his ex and that is the only things that makes her attempt to work at co-parenting. My son's father and I have an agreement that if we introduce anyone to our son that person has to meet the other parent first.

He is saying they have never talked about any such agreement and doing so would back fire tremendously and inflict a negative response. He says that she is dating and would never think to even ask him about meeting a boyfriend before meeting their son.

So my question to you is it wrong to go behind her back and meet him? I just feel like there's going to be hurt feelings later if we don't meet. Considering he wants to introduce me to his son that suggest long term seriousness. The way I see it I can't be hidden forever and I don't think that I should be either . I feel like he's being very passive about this and should at least mention It.

What are your thoughts?

Unfortunately, not all couples can co-parent in a mature and loving way. You probably have a good respectful relationship with your ex, and it makes for an easy co-parenting relationship.

What the guy you are dating is having, is a toxic relationship where either he or she are being vindictive, and using the child as a pawn. Not saying he is, but I don't know the situation. And no matter what happens, the vindictive parent can not be reasoned with. Therefore his passivity is probably to avoid conflict and drama.

Now having said that, my ex and I have a rule in place that says the topic of our son meeting either of our S/O's would have a minimum of 6 months. At that point, we would discuss him meeting them.