@Azlann
9 Years
GL male seeks sweetheart
Understanding Your Relationship Challenges and How to Improve Them
Your difficulty maintaining interest from women may stem from mismatched expectations or communication issues. Focusing on genuine connection and being clear about your intentions can help build lasting relationships. Reflecting on your approach and emotional availability may also increase your chances of forming meaningful bonds.
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Any insights appreciated!
Where your mars and Venus at ...?
My guess is that when you're interested, you're probably a stage 5 clinger. That's probably why they run. There's no mystery involved.
When you're not interested, they're seeing you as a catch and chase you down.
Quit going so hard after those chicks. You'll probably have better luck
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Maybe you're not bored 🙂 maybe just have strange taste 🙂
My advice is that you need to seek an nearby ranch and find some chicken or cow in there 🙂 you know, just for an exercise to remove your boredoom 🙂 🙂 🙂
Dont be embarassed if you get caught 🙂 actually you should be happy 🙂
I mean you got a good face, great job, the only thing that missing is that you're not famous 🙂 with that you dont have to be worry about getting famous anymore 🙂 as you do that and media expose you, you gonna be super famous in no time 🙂 even be placed in history book and guinness record ! 🙂 arent that awesome ? 🙂
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Drugs, again..?!
You say you're a catch and all but you're just being mediocre, you just need to put a little more effort in for the girl you want.
If you don't want to put the effort in then settle for average.....
Personally I like to wait and work on myself before I even consider dating
Posted by Koniuchaa
Let me guess, Virgo Venus??
Leo Venus
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Why do girls run away form you after 2 months?
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Well that's the big conundrum isn't it?
Only the ones I actually have an interest in though
The obvious answer is coming on too strong, which I've considered
Throwing it open to masses for some fresh looks 🙂 or perspective
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Maybe you're not bored 🙂 maybe just have strange taste 🙂
My advice is that you need to seek an nearby ranch and find some chicken or cow in there 🙂 you know, just for an exercise to remove your boredoom 🙂 🙂 🙂
Dont be embarassed if you get caught 🙂 actually you should be happy 🙂
I mean you got a good face, great job, the only thing that missing is that you're not famous 🙂 with that you dont have to be worry about getting famous anymore 🙂 as you do that and media expose you, you gonna be super famous in no time 🙂 even be placed in history book and guinness record ! 🙂 arent that awesome ? 🙂
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I expected some flaming
It's ok
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Why do girls run away form you after 2 months?
Well that's the big conundrum isn't it?
Only the ones I actually have an interest in though
The obvious answer is coming on too strong, which I've considered
Throwing it open to masses for some fresh looks 🙂 or perspective
Well I couldn't really distract it from your message, that's why I ask. Your Sun, Venus and Moon are in fire signs, so you are probably intense, very "fiery". Do you find yourself attracted to Leo women?
Add your Scorpio rising which can be intense in relationships, wanting the other almost completely, mind, body and soul... I guess they make for a pretty intense combination in relationships
What's your Mars sign?
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Only loved once
Leo female
Mars is scorpio
Posted by Ssuperman
My guess is that when you're interested, you're probably a stage 5 clinger. That's probably why they run. There's no mystery involved.When you're not interested, they're seeing you as a catch and chase you down.
Quit going so hard after those chicks. You'll probably have better luck
You're correct but it's so difficult to do when you really like someone.
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So many people wanna click the "buy it now" button.
Posted by Koniuchaa
Do you have a Venus-Saturn aspect? Or Saturn in the 7th?
Aries in 7th
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league
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I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences
I'm not looking for validation there either
Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective
Posted by Koniuchaa
Do you have a Venus-Saturn aspect? Or Saturn in the 7th?Aries in 7th
You should just post your chart
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Sun Leo
Moon sag
Merc Virgo
Venus. Leo
Mars. Scorp
Jupiter. cap
Saturn. scorp
Uranus. sag
Neptune sag
Pluto Libra
Lilith Pisces
Asc node Gemini
Just realised I might have been off about my birth time so have to check my houses
That's a lot of fire right?
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
Posted by Koniuchaa
Do you have a Venus-Saturn aspect? Or Saturn in the 7th?Aries in 7th
You should just post your chart
Sun Leo
Moon sag
Merc Virgo
Venus. Leo
Mars. Scorp
Jupiter. cap
Saturn. scorp
Uranus. sag
Neptune sag
Pluto Libra
Lilith Pisces
Asc node Gemini
Just realised I might have been off about my birth time so have to check my houses
That's a lot of fire right?
I guess so. Anyways, I don't see anything really wrong here, so not sure what you are looking for.
It's possible you have Venus square Saturn, which could mean you really only seek serious, long term relationships. Nothing wrong with that, just may take longer.
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Venus square mars
?
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.
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You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league
I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences
I'm not looking for validation there either
Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective
And I wasn't trying to validate you
I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp
Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'
Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested
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Goes from texting straight away, to not texting back for a day or two, or just generally vague answers
You can normally pick up the vibe pretty quickly
And if I don't text first, they won't
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.
You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.
I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.
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It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.
You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.
I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.
It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".
I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.
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Aren't scorpions the kings/queens of eye contact?
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.
You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.
I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.
It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".
I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.
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Just be on the lookout for people who happen to find Polish women attractive :p
So many people wanna click the "buy it now" button.
Good way of phrasing it. If only it was that easy. I still do it sometimes even though it was the wrong way to go.
I've had it once or twice the other way where the girl threw herself at me but it was a turn off even though there was nothing wrong with the girl.
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Remember the phrase "nothing good ever comes easy"? As men, we like to chase but not too hard. If there's nothing to chase then there's no excitement, so I get where you're coming from. Don't be too eager. If you're a catch then the women will make your efforts rewards. Always get rewarded for them. If she doesn't reward you, she's not really interested
Posted by Ssuperman
My guess is that when you're interested, you're probably a stage 5 clinger. That's probably why they run. There's no mystery involved.When you're not interested, they're seeing you as a catch and chase you down.
Quit going so hard after those chicks. You'll probably have better luck
I have to be honest, this is exactly my problem. I am super picky as well and when I finally like someone, I tend to go overboard lol it's hard but good advice
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.
You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.
I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.
It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".
I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.
I'm with you koniuchaa. Virgo Venus problems 😢
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Virgo venus, Aqua venus, Sag anything, sometimes Cap or Cancer; most of them look so not desperate on the outside that people will just assume they're not interested in relationships on the whole.
From my observations, those kind of people often end up with curious/courageous partners who will be fully devoted to them yet will maintain their fiercely indipendent spirit in the end.
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
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Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league
I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences
I'm not looking for validation there either
Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective
And I wasn't trying to validate you
I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp
Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'
Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested
Goes from texting straight away, to not texting back for a day or two, or just generally vague answers
You can normally pick up the vibe pretty quickly
And if I don't text first, they won't
A lot of women are taught to NOT initiate contact because guys might lose interest or ignore them
So if you're always initiating contact--don't worry too much about that
But since it takes them too long to respond--then you're right, they've lost interest.
And it's something that happens. Either the convo lost emotional momentum or she met someone else
So all I can say is: always be in your masculine energy (active energy) don't be overly accommodating or trying to please the other person. Be the leader. You push it all forward.
So if you're always initiating contact but she responds in a reasonable amount of time then you're good.
Be direct and straightforward. If she challenges you or something then call her out on it in a respectful adult way.
As long as you are respectable and not bitchy, you're good.
And you should eventually find someone because if she's not responding you need to move on and continue dating.
Question for you :
I've already had sex with this guy. We've never gone on an actual date. Can I go back from this at all or ever? Idk if he'll ever contact me again.
Why do guys lose interest after sex?
Why doesn't he see how perfect we are together?
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Some good points in there. Thanks
how do you know the guy? Need more details
You can probably hint that you want him to take you out
He probably already knows if he's going to contact you again
Why don't girls text first more? Hhaha
What are some of the characteristics you're drawn to? Not physically, but traits like free-spirited, confident etc.
After two months you should've made it official if your so interested in her. I'd walk too if things aren't progressing after 60 days.
Posted by bittercupcake
You're intense... old fashioned... probably a little too impatient with all that fire ? ... and a bit too fixedThat probably scares off a lot of women. What is it exactly that turns you off from women other than the throwing themselves off you?
I don't really get turned off, I just wasn't really interested in the first place
If they come on too strong, then yeah that's a turn off
Posted by LadyNeptune
After two months you should've made it official if your so interested in her. I'd walk too if things aren't progressing after 60 days.Think it depends... I take on average 6 months to a year to make things official... anything sooner and it makes me go into retreat panic mode
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Damn 6 months! I've walked away after a month if it wasn't moving fast enough for me.
How old are you? Pm me if you don't want to answer here.
Posted by peo
What are some of the characteristics you're drawn to? Not physically, but traits like free-spirited, confident etc.
In no particular order
Intelligence, pure heart (does this exist? Ha), good sense of humour etc
Basically just someone interesting or creative
A little anti-establishment, not looking for the cookie cutter life style
In a nutshell
Okay I'm only one year older than you ?
I was imagining you were really young. I've noticed my younger brothers hate labels. They'd rather say their just 'hanging out' when it's obvious to me that she's their gf.
@bittercupcake
Posted by bittercupcake
You're intense... old fashioned... probably a little too impatient with all that fire ? ... and a bit too fixedThat probably scares off a lot of women. What is it exactly that turns you off from women other than the throwing themselves off you?
I don't really get turned off, I just wasn't really interested in the first place
If they come on too strong, then yeah that's a turn off
Hmmm so it's only you the one that feels like you should come off strong? ?..... interesting.... that must be all the fire placements.
Do you think that women do not provide a challenge for you ...?
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No that's not it, I find them very challenging haha
Venus Leo square mars Scorpio is probably too intense? And they just get scared off?
Posted by peo
What are some of the characteristics you're drawn to? Not physically, but traits like free-spirited, confident etc.In no particular order
Intelligence, pure heart (does this exist? Ha), good sense of humour etc
Basically just someone interesting or creative
A little anti-establishment, not looking for the cookie cutter life style
In a nutshell
Sounds like an Aqua
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I've never really met an aqua girl. At least that I know of
An aqua dude I know is desperate for the 2 kids and a mortgage life style ,
Which is fine, but it comes off as a pursuit just to have it because that what most people do/aspire to
And I'm not looking for someone who is aspiring to be another suburban conformist
That's only one aqua though
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
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This is spot on!! Sag moon says they want a relationship but their actions are all about wanting to be single. They are self-sabotaging unbeknownst to them. In fact I've seen them enjoy themselves solo so well that sometimes I wonder why they want a partner. I don't know if they are oblivious to their secret liking for single life or just pretend so well.
Leo sun and sag moon? AND a Scorpio rising AND a Leo Venus ?
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
This is spot on!! Sag moon says they want a relationship but their actions are all about wanting to be single. They are self-sabotaging unbeknownst to them. In fact I've seen them enjoy themselves solo so well that sometimes I wonder why they want a partner. I don't know if they are oblivious to their secret liking for single life or just pretend so well.
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^ that is actually true. Well for me anyways. I had my chart looked at it and I forgot the term but I think about love a lot and wish for it, but when actually challenged with a potential relationship ? ✌?
Posted by peo
What are some of the characteristics you're drawn to? Not physically, but traits like free-spirited, confident etc.In no particular order
Intelligence, pure heart (does this exist? Ha), good sense of humour etc
Basically just someone interesting or creative
A little anti-establishment, not looking for the cookie cutter life style
In a nutshell
Sounds like an Aqua
I've never really met an aqua girl. At least that I know of
An aqua dude I know is desperate for the 2 kids and a mortgage life style ,
Which is fine, but it comes off as a pursuit just to have it because that what most people do/aspire to
And I'm not looking for someone who is aspiring to be another suburban conformist
That's only one aqua though
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Aqua females are very different from the males.
Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
It's not a matter of being picky (just marginally), it's a matter of secretly liking to stay single.
I am pretty picky and have been single for years now. I want to have someone in my life, but I have this fear of them trying to control me. My ex was very controlling and abusive.
You may want to have someone in your life but it's ultimately the coming across as someone who's not interested in dating that will make people run away.
I agree. I am aware of it, but it's not easy to let that guard down.
It's understandable but you should at least put some effort into trying to appear more "open" to meeting new people. There's lots of men who out of respect don't approach certain type of women because the image they're projecting is of someone who "just want to be left alone".
I know. I have to figure out how to do that somehow.
I'm with you koniuchaa. Virgo Venus problems 😢
Virgo venus, Aqua venus, Sag anything, sometimes Cap or Cancer; most of them look so not desperate on the outside that people will just assume they're not interested in relationships on the whole.
From my observations, those kind of people often end up with curious/courageous partners who will be fully devoted to them yet will maintain their fiercely indipendent spirit in the end.
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This!!! I come across as so peacefully content with myself (so not desperate) that people automatically assume I'm either in a relationship with someone or not interested in dating. And that attracts what you mentioned and that's just want I want to attract anyway: the courageous.
As for the placements you mentioned: spot on with that as well.
What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?
Sag then recently libra
Posted by wagtail
Where your mars and Venus at ...?Scorpio mars
Leo Venus
No idea what that means
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It means "WOAH INTENSITY"
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Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league
I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences
I'm not looking for validation there either
Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective
And I wasn't trying to validate you
I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp
Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'
Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested
Goes from texting straight away, to not texting back for a day or two, or just generally vague answers
You can normally pick up the vibe pretty quickly
And if I don't text first, they won't
A lot of women are taught to NOT initiate contact because guys might lose interest or ignore them
So if you're always initiating contact--don't worry too much about that
But since it takes them too long to respond--then you're right, they've lost interest.
And it's something that happens. Either the convo lost emotional momentum or she met someone else
So all I can say is: always be in your masculine energy (active energy) don't be overly accommodating or trying to please the other person. Be the leader. You push it all forward.
So if you're always initiating contact but she responds in a reasonable amount of time then you're good.
Be direct and straightforward. If she challenges you or something then call her out on it in a respectful adult way.
As long as you are respectable and not bitchy, you're good.
And you should eventually find someone because if she's not responding you need to move on and continue dating.
Question for you :
I've already had sex with this guy. We've never gone on an actual date. Can I go back from this at all or ever? Idk if he'll ever contact me again.
Why do guys lose interest after sex?
Why doesn't he see how perfect we are together?
Some good points in there. Thanks
how do you know the guy? Need more details
You can probably hint that you want him to take you out
He probably already knows if he's going to contact you again
Why don't girls text first more? Hhaha
Like I said, we don't text first because the guy automatically labels us as clingy and ignores us for a week
I'll try to condense the story.
We met on tinder. Talk for a bit. Met and hungout at his house. Nothing physical. Then texted for another week but he didn't ask to do something again.
Then a week no contact and began this pattern of me contacting him and finding ways of inviting myself over etc.
Saw him 4 times. The 4th time we had sex. This was April. Then he ignored me for a week. I was upset
And I basically wrote to him how i feel about him. And he told me he was confused right now and didn't want a relationship.
So no contact for 3 months.
I texted him Thursday how he's doing and he said that we should catch up sometime soon so we hungout the next day and had sex.
He knows how i feel about him so...
And I'm not planning on contacting him soon
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What sticks out to me, is if someone, of any gender, says they are confused or 'not ready for a relationship'
Then it's just a big cop out. They just don't want anything committed with that person. They come off as arseholes, but I think they are just trying to let the other person down easy.
Posted by wagtail
Where your mars and Venus at ...?Scorpio mars
Leo Venus
No idea what that means
It means "WOAH INTENSITY"
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Hey @wagtail
If mars is transiting my sun AND Venus right now...
What will the next month bring?
Roughly
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?Sag then recently libra
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Hmm maybe you need a more watery sag and/or libra ?
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?Sag then recently libra
Hmm maybe you need a more watery sag and/or libra ?
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I really like Libra 🙂
Do they play hard to get?
Seems like more like of a sag thing
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?Sag then recently libra
Hmm maybe you need a more watery sag and/or libra ?
I really like Libra 🙂
Do they play hard to get?
Seems like more like of a sag thing
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I wouldn't think so but I'm not an expert on Leebs
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
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Posted by Azlann
Hi internet strangers 🙂For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?
Post your pic and post pics of what kind of women you're aiming for and we'll tell you if you're being too picky and out of your league
I'm not posting pics, but I didn't say I'm swinging for the fences
I'm not looking for validation there either
Was hoping some intelligent females could shed some light from their perspective
And I wasn't trying to validate you
I'm trying to find the most attractive male on dxp
Also, what do you mean by 'they run away'
Do they just stop responding to calls and messages? Or they tell you they're not interested
Goes from texting straight away, to not texting back for a day or two, or just generally vague answers
You can normally pick up the vibe pretty quickly
And if I don't text first, they won't
A lot of women are taught to NOT initiate contact because guys might lose interest or ignore them
So if you're always initiating contact--don't worry too much about that
But since it takes them too long to respond--then you're right, they've lost interest.
And it's something that happens. Either the convo lost emotional momentum or she met someone else
So all I can say is: always be in your masculine energy (active energy) don't be overly accommodating or trying to please the other person. Be the leader. You push it all forward.
So if you're always initiating contact but she responds in a reasonable amount of time then you're good.
Be direct and straightforward. If she challenges you or something then call her out on it in a respectful adult way.
As long as you are respectable and not bitchy, you're good.
And you should eventually find someone because if she's not responding you need to move on and continue dating.
Question for you :
I've already had sex with this guy. We've never gone on an actual date. Can I go back from this at all or ever? Idk if he'll ever contact me again.
Why do guys lose interest after sex?
Why doesn't he see how perfect we are together?
Some good points in there. Thanks
how do you know the guy? Need more details
You can probably hint that you want him to take you out
He probably already knows if he's going to contact you again
Why don't girls text first more? Hhaha
Like I said, we don't text first because the guy automatically labels us as clingy and ignores us for a week
I'll try to condense the story.
We met on tinder. Talk for a bit. Met and hungout at his house. Nothing physical. Then texted for another week but he didn't ask to do something again.
Then a week no contact and began this pattern of me contacting him and finding ways of inviting myself over etc.
Saw him 4 times. The 4th time we had sex. This was April. Then he ignored me for a week. I was upset
And I basically wrote to him how i feel about him. And he told me he was confused right now and didn't want a relationship.
So no contact for 3 months.
I texted him Thursday how he's doing and he said that we should catch up sometime soon so we hungout the next day and had sex.
He knows how i feel about him so...
And I'm not planning on contacting him soon
What sticks out to me, is if someone, of any gender, says they are confused or 'not ready for a relationship'
Then it's just a big cop out. They just don't want anything committed with that person. They come off as arseholes, but I think they are just trying to let the other person down easy.
I know that.
If he says he's confused about me then it's because he knows he doesn't want to be with me.
The thing that bugs me is I wish I knew why. What did I do? I think we're pretty compatible with eachother.
How is it possible for guys to have sex with someone they're not interested in?
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Why do you think men watch porn, have ons with women they don't know or go to hookers? The easiest way to explain it is that we just get turned on easily sexually.
You once said you didn't like the sex with that guy but you are still hooked for some reason. That's even more interesting..
You are not texting too much are you? I mean I hate texting too much because it's impersonal. Do you talk on the phone a lot as well ?
You will meet someone your style - it just takes times and the right one.
IMO people get too bored too quickly these days - it's such a materialistic world and I hate it TBH. What happened to just being together and enjoying the quiet times as well as the busy times.
Posted by Sunsetvirgo
What are the signs of the women that you would usually pursue (and who would become uninterested in you after a while) ?Sag then recently libra
Hmm maybe you need a more watery sag and/or libra ?
I really like Libra 🙂
Do they play hard to get?
Seems like more like of a sag thing
I wouldn't think so but I'm not an expert on Leebs
I'm a rent-a-Taurus for the week.
Libra women I've met are easy work, they stay in the same place you last saw them. Obviously don't apply to all Libras.
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Weren't you a rent-a-Taurus the week before too. And the week before that 😱
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Hi internet strangers 🙂
For the sake of this post, assume the following is accurate,
I'm a good looking guy
6'4
Great job, basically my own boss
Well travelled
Very laid back
Early 30's
Have no problem finding women to date
The problem is I'm just not genuinely interested many girls. What some people call too picky
The real problem is, once I find a girl I really like, they run away after about a month or 2. They just stop texting me
On the other hand, when I'm not interested they end up throwing themselves at me! Which of course makes it worse
people are always saying, oh I can't believe your not married, which is annoying as fuck
So I'm wondering, do I have to work 10 fold to prove I'm not just looking for easy lays?
Am I just boring as fuck?