Astrobyn
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Office Romance?
Posted by porcelainrising
Oh man I can think of so many couples at work, it's ridiculous. I don't think it's a bad idea, as long as it's with one person and it's a steady relationship and they are in different areas instead of directly working together.
But my company everyone is dating everyone which I have never ever seen before.
Is there a lot of jealousy and sexual competition there? Do the women where extra flirty tops?
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Posted by tiziani
Only did it one time, but it was the romance that got my foot in the office! Filthy.
I'm proud of you! but only you.
Is there a better place to meet women? 🙂
Between mutual co-workers its ok but never go out with your boss!
I did it recently. With her there was no exit strategy. We did a good job of not letting people know but I couldn't leave her (Scorpio Venus moon Scorpio). She got hurt so easily. I tried to break up with her once and she literally started balling instantly. You have to get with someone where there is a mutual break up. If one gets overattached. Shit will hit the fan and be a mess luckily at work we avoided pretty much eye contact or anything for a week but it was SUPER AWKWARD.
Yeah another thing that no one has mentioned is that the other person would know dirt about you and tell people. That's huge. I was respectful not to say anything about her BC I knew she was sensitive but watch out overall...
I've been a dog at my workplaces. Women have thrown themselves at me. Way too easy.
Some great experiences -- some not so good.
My current job, and my previous job I have laid off of it though.
Some great experiences -- some not so good.
My current job, and my previous job I have laid off of it though.
Considering how much of our lives we spend at work, it's no wonder it's become a meat market! I mean were's one suppose to find the prime cuts, with matching personality and everything?
In night clubs? 😆
With peole from work, at least you know what you're getting and you don't have to get to know them bc you're already hanging out on a daily basis!
In night clubs? 😆
With peole from work, at least you know what you're getting and you don't have to get to know them bc you're already hanging out on a daily basis!
@EffantTerrible about the ones at work that don't shower...Gross.
Idk I've always considered perception to be one of those annoying yet important parts of my career. I never wanted to have rumors or gossip floating around the office about me, to upstage my talent or some how affect my credibility, especially when the majority of my competition were of the opposite sex. I've definitely always had the mentality... I'm gonna beat you fair and square, but I'm gonna beat ya!
And... It could be that men always look less attractive once you beat them. 🙂
Posted by Astrobyn
Idk I've always considered perception to be one of those annoying yet important parts of my career. I never wanted to have rumors or gossip floating around the office about me, to upstage my talent or some how affect my credibility, especially when the majority of my competition were of the opposite sex. I've definitely always had the mentality... I'm gonna beat you fair and square, but I'm gonna beat ya!
I think it's easier for me to screw around in the work place.
No woman wants to be known as the office slut.
Men, as usual, generally get high fives and winks, and the other office women get curious.....hey, hey!
I love being a guy.
Posted by Astrobyn
WTF? I??ve always been really good with boundaries and the —don't shit where you eat?? concept always had was extra meaning and value to Taurus Stellium, cus I don't fuck with my money. Cus I love my money 🙂
But, it seems like a high percentage of these Dear Abby threads here at DXP are about just that. And I guess it shocks and confuses me??_ how do these people not love their money? 😱
How do you feel about office romance? What has been your experience good or bad?
No. Just plain old simple N.O. 😱
Mixing work and love, equates to impending disaster, that is but oil and water, the two shall never entwine. If they do, only losses can be reaped, and a career dash to smithereens.
Not worth it.
I've seen this in all of my work environments. Someone new starts and if single, were instantly sized up and the flirting began. Even when people thought they were being discreet, people were talking.
Personally, I find it pretty boring because work me and play me are different and I like to "escape" from my professional environment, even if I enjoy my job. Everything all together in one extended package is like Supermarket sex, when I prefer boutique.
I can see how Capricorns would have no problem with this. work, work, work and all
I'd rather be the unknown client that meets her man at his office for a private meeting in the boardroom, wearing a cinched trench coat with very little underneath. Don't want to be an office whore but have no problems whoring in an office.
Personally, I find it pretty boring because work me and play me are different and I like to "escape" from my professional environment, even if I enjoy my job. Everything all together in one extended package is like Supermarket sex, when I prefer boutique.
I can see how Capricorns would have no problem with this. work, work, work and all
I'd rather be the unknown client that meets her man at his office for a private meeting in the boardroom, wearing a cinched trench coat with very little underneath. Don't want to be an office whore but have no problems whoring in an office.
Posted by CapTennPosted by Astrobyn
Idk I've always considered perception to be one of those annoying yet important parts of my career. I never wanted to have rumors or gossip floating around the office about me, to upstage my talent or some how affect my credibility, especially when the majority of my competition were of the opposite sex. I've definitely always had the mentality... I'm gonna beat you fair and square, but I'm gonna beat ya!
I think it's easier for me to screw around in the work place.
No woman wants to be known as the office slut.
Men, as usual, generally get high fives and winks, and the other office women get curious.....hey, hey!
I love being a guy.click to expand
Do you think it affects her credibility? That some how her work or contributions are looked at differently?
Posted by AstrobynPosted by CapTennPosted by Astrobyn
Idk I've always considered perception to be one of those annoying yet important parts of my career. I never wanted to have rumors or gossip floating around the office about me, to upstage my talent or some how affect my credibility, especially when the majority of my competition were of the opposite sex. I've definitely always had the mentality... I'm gonna beat you fair and square, but I'm gonna beat ya!
I think it's easier for me to screw around in the work place.
No woman wants to be known as the office slut.
Men, as usual, generally get high fives and winks, and the other office women get curious.....hey, hey!
I love being a guy.
Do you think it affects her credibility? That some how her work or contributions are looked at differently?click to expand
Personal credibility, yes -- depending on the person.
Work contributions? Quality work is quality work -- so no, assuming a good job is being done.
Posted by fnclassyPosted by CapTennPosted by Astrobyn
Idk I've always considered perception to be one of those annoying yet important parts of my career. I never wanted to have rumors or gossip floating around the office about me, to upstage my talent or some how affect my credibility, especially when the majority of my competition were of the opposite sex. I've definitely always had the mentality... I'm gonna beat you fair and square, but I'm gonna beat ya!
I think it's easier for me to screw around in the work place.
No woman wants to be known as the office slut.
Men, as usual, generally get high fives and winks, and the other office women get curious.....hey, hey!
I love being a guy.
i was talking about a relationship not one night stands with colleagues.
That's fucked.click to expand
Sometimes the office slut term is thrown around quite loosely, even towards women who are in a committed relationship with a fellow colleague. So it's not just reserved for one night standers.
Coincidentally, it's the jealous office women that are almost always the ones slut shaming, whether deserved --- or not.
Nope.
Been there, done that.
Nope.
It's bad enough when it goes all to hell, but then you have to work with that person and all that shit? Pfft. No thanks.
With the new job I just started, I've noticed the guys, in typical restaurant fashion, are checking out all the new hires as prospects. Well, the ones that are available. I heard that they were a little miffed that almost all the girls in the newest group (mine) were all taken.
It recently came to light that I was not one of them. Cue all the extra flirting from 2-3 individuals as of recent. Meanwhile, I'm like omg seriously? I'm just here to make my money and go home. :/ It's kind of a shame though because one in particular I'd give it a try with if work wasn't involved.
I do not understand the appeal, though. I mean if it works out for whoever, that's awesome. But there's just so much crap tied to it all it just leaves it all so blegh. Everyone's all up in your shit, people talk, it's you, him/her, and the rest of the workplace, as opposed to you and him/her.
But then again, restaurants are full of sleeping around, cheating, substance abuse, etc... I learned long ago that they're far from ideal in finding a romance, haha.
Been there, done that.
Nope.
It's bad enough when it goes all to hell, but then you have to work with that person and all that shit? Pfft. No thanks.
With the new job I just started, I've noticed the guys, in typical restaurant fashion, are checking out all the new hires as prospects. Well, the ones that are available. I heard that they were a little miffed that almost all the girls in the newest group (mine) were all taken.
It recently came to light that I was not one of them. Cue all the extra flirting from 2-3 individuals as of recent. Meanwhile, I'm like omg seriously? I'm just here to make my money and go home. :/ It's kind of a shame though because one in particular I'd give it a try with if work wasn't involved.
I do not understand the appeal, though. I mean if it works out for whoever, that's awesome. But there's just so much crap tied to it all it just leaves it all so blegh. Everyone's all up in your shit, people talk, it's you, him/her, and the rest of the workplace, as opposed to you and him/her.
But then again, restaurants are full of sleeping around, cheating, substance abuse, etc... I learned long ago that they're far from ideal in finding a romance, haha.
Posted by fnclassy
I don't see how it can fuck with your money, though.
I know a guy who is dating his office manager.
She pretty much runs his business for him.
He cheated, she screwed up his money.
He felt so guilty about cheating he didn't fire her.
Cost him over $ 100,000 to get someone in to undo what she did.
Convenience:
It's easier to ask out someone who sits in front of you everyday instead of pursuing a stranger you are attracted to and only see once a month if that.
Posted by sassafras
Between mutual co-workers its ok but never go out with your boss!
If boss man is rich, you best believe I will be taking that date!!!
In fact boss men frequently date, marry, cheat with the office secretary.
It's about close proximity, comfort, trust and convenience.
It can be good and it can get fucked up sideways pretty quickly and I mean wow... Lovey Dovey one second to being verbally abused across the street lmao.
Personally I just cbf with all the drama anymore.
Personally I just cbf with all the drama anymore.
Posted by Astrobyn
How do you feel about office romance? What has been your experience good or bad?
It can work. It does for some, and doesn't for others
I think it really depends on the positions both people have. Positions carry a lot of weight. For example a regular employee dating the CEO or manager carries more weight & is more risky than 2 regular employees sitting next to each other in cubicles does
Of course there's always room for others to be nosy. That happens all the time even in dating situations where both people met outside of the office
Of course there's room for a conflict of interest once things don't work out. It's all fun & games when things are hot and heavy, but when things end (especially badly), sh***t gets real. Suddenly, you hate that person and your job now lol Being forced to be around someone you despise who knows your secrets & weaknesses is torture!
All the bad things that can go wrong with office romances go wrong in other situations too. It's just that office romances (just like social media, online dating & long distance relations) have more added risks.
I wouldn't advise people who plan on retiring at a specific company to engage in office dating. You have more to lose, especially if you went to school or put in a lot of work to get the position you have. No amount of good d****ck in all of America is worth losing something you worked so hard for.
Now if it's just an odds-and-ends type of job that you know you won't stay at forever, do your thing. F it. You only live once anyways
Posted by krysrenee7Posted by Astrobyn
How do you feel about office romance? What has been your experience good or bad?
I think it really depends on the positions both people have. Positions carry a lot of weight. For example a regular employee dating the CEO or manager carries more weight & is more risky than 2 regular employees sitting next to each other in cubicles doesclick to expand
Idk man, its seems like the cost benefit for dating the CEO might be worth the risk, in comparison.
Posted by AstrobynPosted by krysrenee7Posted by Astrobyn
How do you feel about office romance? What has been your experience good or bad?
I think it really depends on the positions both people have. Positions carry a lot of weight. For example a regular employee dating the CEO or manager carries more weight & is more risky than 2 regular employees sitting next to each other in cubicles does
Idk man, its seems like the cost benefit for dating the CEO might be worth the risk, in comparison.click to expand
Well 1 of the big reasons why certain companies have policies forbidding office romances is b/c of the risks of discrimination that are common once things don't actually work out.
CEOS & management have a lot of power in those situations. They can really make you suffer if you wrong them romantically. Cut your hours. Give you a bad reference. Do all of the things that are legally considered discrimination if it can be proven that the intent was malicious.
A lot of companies want to avoid this kinda stuff before it even has the chance to get started, hence the reason some companies forbid it to begin with.
It's not to say that all CEOS or those in management turn into vindictive spiteful azzholes in the event of a breakup, but hey, let's face it, a lot of people show their azzes the minute it sets in that they have to see the person they suddenly regret ever getting with on a daily basis!
It's 1 thing to piss off or F over an employee that carries the same weight in a company as you. But the risk for trouble (on top of the other problems that can happen with office romances) is way higher. Someone like me wouldn't even take that risk.
I've noticed too that the kinds of managers & CEOS who date their employees tend to have done so many times before. It's rarely like that 1 situation where he was 100% professional for 20 years & then suddenly fell into the arms of that 1 irresistible employee. Na, once you've had 1 office romance, it's a lot easier to get into the habit of having another. And I wouldn't be ok with knowing that the chick in the next office also had a piece of my man lol
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