@LadyTate
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What is ur opinion based off these texts? -in regards to a friend
Understanding Friendships and Relationship Intentions in Astrology
Astrology suggests that communication and emotional compatibility influence relationship dynamics. In this scenario, the conversation indicates mixed signals and differing expectations, which can be common in FWB situations. Recognizing zodiac traits can help clarify intentions and guide healthier interactions between friends and romantic interests.
Posted by tiziani
Evasive and awkward.
So ur saying he avoided the question she asked right? How would u interpret his response?
Posted by tiziani
Evasive and awkward.So ur saying he avoided the question she asked right? How would u interpret his response?
I agree with him being evasive and trying to avoid answering.
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Do u take that as him trying to hide his feelings or just trying to keep her in limbo?
The answer to me is he doesn't want anything more than FWB, and he knows that saying that will torpedo his chances... So he is being evasive and weird, like the others have said. This would be a big red flag to me
Posted by 000sillylion000
The answer to me is he doesn't want anything more than FWB, and he knows that saying that will torpedo his chances... So he is being evasive and weird, like the others have said. This would be a big red flag to me
If she's already cut him off from sex a while ago... Would ur opinion change? I told her I would not insert my opinion and just probe and see what others think
Red flag
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Him: So you're having a change of heartHer: What do u mean a change of heart
Him: About being in a relationship
^^^^^^^^ after this point neither seemed to want to show any kind of vulnerability to the other. This conversation could have gone much differently if the "Her" in this conversation would have answered that questions directly.
I agree she could've answered differently. Do u think he's interested in her?
Posted by tiziani
Evasive and awkward.So ur saying he avoided the question she asked right? How would u interpret his response?
To me it sounds like he is keeping score. Her style of putting him on the spot is a little awkward for anyone, but frankly he doesn't really seem like he knows how to keep it chill and move on from little slights of the past. Plus he doesn't speak for himself and just shifts the focus onto her. It's like a one person conversation where the other is just providing an echo chamber.
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That would irritate the freak out of me. I mean... I know what I said, I do not need u to repeat what I said! Lol. But what do u mean slights of the past?
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Obviously at one point she stated she didn't want a relationship.Did she do that because she thought he didn't want one and was trying to protect herself?
He asked if she had changed her mind....and the kitty footing around with her answer put him in a position to not share openly.....if she can't put herself out there.....why should he?
Neither can seem to be very direct about where they stand with their needs.
She did... She wasn't sure if he wanted more or just wanted to be FWB so she said she wasn't looking for a relationship
Posted by ElleDuMonde
Obviously at one point she stated she didn't want a relationship.Did she do that because she thought he didn't want one and was trying to protect herself?
He asked if she had changed her mind....and the kitty footing around with her answer put him in a position to not share openly.....if she can't put herself out there.....why should he?
Neither can seem to be very direct about where they stand with their needs.
She did... She wasn't sure if he wanted more or just wanted to be FWB so she said she wasn't looking for a relationship
Well, then she wasn't being honest and they will forever be in this mirroring holding pattern until someone lets their guard down.
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True... And she admitted to him that she was scared because she didn't know how he felt about her so she made that comment.
Well what is the appropriate way to handle these things? Everyone says it's awkward but is there anyway to have the "where is this going?" conversation without it being awkward??
I don't think so. If anything my approach is to just play things day by day with the guy, date others and then if the guy I am mostly interested in does not seem to take the initiative to move towards the exclusively dating phase, I will start to disappear, grow distant. If he doesn't act like he notices or shows he cares by asking "hey what's up, you've become distant?" I then know he was never that into me to begin with, but if he does notice my distance, I tell him "sorry, but this just doesn't seem to be going anywhere and I'm not interested in just being text buddies, etc."
He will either a. Step up or b. Shrug his shoulders and not care.
Posted by malloryor
Well what is the appropriate way to handle these things? Everyone says it's awkward but is there anyway to have the "where is this going?" conversation without it being awkward??I don't think so. If anything my approach is to just play things day by day with the guy, date others and then if the guy I am mostly interested in does not seem to take the initiative to move towards the exclusively dating phase, I will start to disappear, grow distant. If he doesn't act like he notices or shows he cares by asking "hey what's up, you've become distant?" I then know he was never that into me to begin with, but if he does notice my distance, I tell him "sorry, but this just doesn't seem to be going anywhere and I'm not interested in just being text buddies, etc."
He will either a. Step up or b. Shrug his shoulders and not care.
I agree def an awkward convo...
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.
If she's looking for a more direct answer, she shuld be direct about her feelings
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.
He works out of town and won't be near her for another 4-5 months
Posted by mzmee
If she's looking for a more direct answer, she shuld be direct about her feelings
Agreed...
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.He works out of town and won't be near her for another 4-5 months
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Do you have facetime? Skype? Work on that communication. Especially when the subject is your relationship.
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.He works out of town and won't be near her for another 4-5 months
Do you have facetime? Skype? Work on that communication. Especially when the subject is your relationship.
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His connection wasn't stable enough for video chat. I believe.
Mmhmmm
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.
Well if you recall, she did say she "wanted" to have the discussion in person, which makes me believe that the guy had already been avoiding her in person, or neglecting time to meet face to face (i.e. no dates or invites out), which leads to the desperation of the entire situation.
Anyway, posts like these always make me look at the OP funny...like c'mon are you REALLLLLY "asking for a friend?" Righhht, sure you are lol
Odd, confusing and lost me when both said the exact same thing 😕 why so much yo yo ing. Who wants what exactly lol eeds to be made a bit clearer
Messy situation now it's not too late to let go, tell her.
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.Well if you recall, she did say she "wanted" to have the discussion in person, which makes me believe that the guy had already been avoiding her in person, or neglecting time to meet face to face (i.e. no dates or invites out), which leads to the desperation of the entire situation.
Anyway, posts like these always make me look at the OP funny...like c'mon are you REALLLLLY "asking for a friend?" Righhht, sure you are lol
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It's not that he's been avoiding her, he works for long periods of time away from home and as fare as video chat, his connection is not always stable
Posted by LibraLovesHim
Odd, confusing and lost me when both said the exact same thing 😕 why so much yo yo ing. Who wants what exactly lol eeds to be made a bit clearer
I agree they both need to be clear
Yeah I argee lots of people here. Ackward and sometimes we risk chance and 50 percent fwb will work or not and you lose a good friend too. Damn.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yeah I argee lots of people here. Ackward and sometimes we risk chance and 50 percent fwb will work or not and you lose a good friend too. Damn.
I think he may like her enough to give her a second chance to be clearer about what she wants.
Yeah but she actually make some sense and just put it on the line and almost tested to see if he is interested. He's not because then his answer would have changed too.
Hey though really is he a good guy?
He's a fwb with mulitple woman hopefully protected and probably young. Maybe she needs someone else that suites her better than fwb. Fwb are temporary.
How long have they been fwb?
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.Well if you recall, she did say she "wanted" to have the discussion in person, which makes me believe that the guy had already been avoiding her in person, or neglecting time to meet face to face (i.e. no dates or invites out), which leads to the desperation of the entire situation.
Anyway, posts like these always make me look at the OP funny...like c'mon are you REALLLLLY "asking for a friend?" Righhht, sure you are lol
It's not that he's been avoiding her, he works for long periods of time away from home and as fare as video chat, his connection is not always stable
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This is why I suspect it is you in question here rather than a "her." If a man or woman for that matter is interested, they would make time. If the lady in question knew he would make time to see her and that she would indeed see him once he was back from his work trip, she would of felt comfortable and AT PEACE enough to wait for this conversation in person.
Clearly she felt antsy and unsure of when she would have the chance to talk to him, so she blotted it out on the worst possible platform ever.
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.Well if you recall, she did say she "wanted" to have the discussion in person, which makes me believe that the guy had already been avoiding her in person, or neglecting time to meet face to face (i.e. no dates or invites out), which leads to the desperation of the entire situation.
Anyway, posts like these always make me look at the OP funny...like c'mon are you REALLLLLY "asking for a friend?" Righhht, sure you are lol
It's not that he's been avoiding her, he works for long periods of time away from home and as fare as video chat, his connection is not always stable
This is why I suspect it is you in question here rather than a "her." If a man or woman for that matter is interested, they would make time. If the lady in question knew he would make time to see her and that she would indeed see him once he was back from his work trip, she would of felt comfortable and AT PEACE enough to wait for this conversation in person.
Clearly she felt antsy and unsure of when she would have the chance to talk to him, so she blotted it out on the worst possible platform ever.
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My situation cleared up. As far as seeing him, helps work schedule has always been iffy.
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.Well if you recall, she did say she "wanted" to have the discussion in person, which makes me believe that the guy had already been avoiding her in person, or neglecting time to meet face to face (i.e. no dates or invites out), which leads to the desperation of the entire situation.
Anyway, posts like these always make me look at the OP funny...like c'mon are you REALLLLLY "asking for a friend?" Righhht, sure you are lol
It's not that he's been avoiding her, he works for long periods of time away from home and as fare as video chat, his connection is not always stable
This is why I suspect it is you in question here rather than a "her." If a man or woman for that matter is interested, they would make time. If the lady in question knew he would make time to see her and that she would indeed see him once he was back from his work trip, she would of felt comfortable and AT PEACE enough to wait for this conversation in person.
Clearly she felt antsy and unsure of when she would have the chance to talk to him, so she blotted it out on the worst possible platform ever.
My situation cleared up. As far as seeing him, helps work schedule has always been iffy.
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So I was right, you were talking about you. Hmm, well to me it sounds like a convenient man who is unavailable. Emotionally and physically.
A convenient excuse*
Posted by kissmygrits
The first problem is it's over text messages. Personal stuff like this should always be discussed face to face.Well if you recall, she did say she "wanted" to have the discussion in person, which makes me believe that the guy had already been avoiding her in person, or neglecting time to meet face to face (i.e. no dates or invites out), which leads to the desperation of the entire situation.
Anyway, posts like these always make me look at the OP funny...like c'mon are you REALLLLLY "asking for a friend?" Righhht, sure you are lol
It's not that he's been avoiding her, he works for long periods of time away from home and as fare as video chat, his connection is not always stable
This is why I suspect it is you in question here rather than a "her." If a man or woman for that matter is interested, they would make time. If the lady in question knew he would make time to see her and that she would indeed see him once he was back from his work trip, she would of felt comfortable and AT PEACE enough to wait for this conversation in person.
Clearly she felt antsy and unsure of when she would have the chance to talk to him, so she blotted it out on the worst possible platform ever.
My situation cleared up. As far as seeing him, helps work schedule has always been iffy.
So I was right, you were talking about you. Hmm, well to me it sounds like a convenient man who is unavailable. Emotionally and physically.
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What? No... I'm fine in my new relationship. What are u talking about?
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Her: I want to know where u see this going, or if u even see this going anywhere past being FWB. I wanted to have this convo face to face but since I've already asked, I'd appreciate an answer.
Him: So you're having a change of heart
Her: What do u mean a change of heart
Him: About being in a relationship
Her: I have absolutely no interest in trying to meet or investing my time and energy into someone else. Other than what I've already started with u.
Him: Awwwww... I'm the only guy that you see in your eyes... I'm flattered
Her: Enjoy ur spotlight. Lmbo...
Him: What cha mean... I am truly flattered. But after rereading your text , I probably shouldn't be flattered...lol
Her: Why shouldn't u be flattered?
Him: Cuz it almost sounds like you just said... what the hell, I know him so I'll just settle for him..lol
Her: No... That's not at all what I was saying!
Him: I know... sweetie. I was just being sarcastic. Ok.... but to answer your original question... I was really under the impression that you was not looking for a relationship. Then you said that you only wanted to be friends w/o benefits. Cuz sex would complicate things
Her: Ok.... but to answer your original question... I was really under the impression that you was not looking for a relationship. Then you said that you only wanted to be friends w/o benefits. Cuz sex would complicate things
Him: Dating with or without sex?
Her: What u mean?
Him: You said that you're good with dating
Her: I said I'm good on dating... Meaning after this, I'm done with dating.
Him: Well what will you do
Her: About what?
Him: Will just refuse any and every man that comes at you
Her: If he isn't standing at my front door with a sign from God saying God sent him with my full name, DOB and SS# on it, then yep. Lol
Him: Kmsl