@thecrazyariestaurus
11 Years1,000+ PostsTaurus
Relationships and grieving
Seriously?
You're asking people how to handle life? ..... like in all of your 26 years, you have zero experience with people who are emotionally suffering a loss?
wow
Seriously?
You're asking people how to handle life? ..... like in all of your 26 years, you have zero experience with people who are emotionally suffering a loss?
wow
I've never been in a relationship with someone who is grieving. This is in regards to romantic relationships. Learn how to read dipshit.
Seriously?
You're asking people how to handle life? ..... like in all of your 26 years, you have zero experience with people who are emotionally suffering a loss?
wow
I've never been in a relationship with someone who is grieving. Learn to read dipshit.
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Actually, you're the dipshit, dipshit ... all relations are relationships
what a moron
so, in all of your 26 years, you haven't experience ANY person emotionally suffering?
That means you're either so self absorbed that you don't even notice the people around you in emotional torment, or ... you just crawled out from under a rock.
either way ...... if you can't figure out how to soothe and comfort one of your people in emotional torment, then it means you have the emotional intelligence of a dog turd.
so, in all of your 26 years, you haven't experience ANY person emotionally suffering?
That means you're either so self absorbed that you don't even notice the people around you in emotional torment, or ... you just crawled out from under a rock.
either way ...... if you can't figure out how to soothe and comfort one of your people in emotional torment, then it means you have the emotional intelligence of a dog turd.
Why're you always such a cunt to everyone? You're such a miserable old bitch. You need to lighten up and get the stick out of your ass.
Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was grieving the loss of someone very close to them? How did you handle it? How did they act towards you while they were grieving? How did it affect your relationship?
Oh and btw dipshit, learn how to write .. because nowhere do you mention an intimate relationship .... yet, your pathetic comeback says that's what you referencing.
what a fucking moron .... once triggered you just run off at the mouth and cannot even back up your words.
I can fix my attitude ... how are you going to fix your stupid, stupid
Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was grieving the loss of someone very close to them? How did you handle it? How did they act towards you while they were grieving? How did it affect your relationship?Oh and btw dipshit, learn how to write .. because nowhere do you mention an intimate relationship .... yet, your pathetic comeback says that's what you referencing.
what a fucking moron .... once triggered you just run off at the mouth and cannot even back up your words.
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I mean how do you expect one to respond when you speak in a rude manner? You think everyone is just gonna take your shit? Just because you're an old fart doesn't mean you automatically deserve respect. Bitter ass cunt.
26 years old and you cannot even manage to figure out how to comfort one of your own people.
It doesn't get more pathetic than that.
My hope is that this person realizes how self absorbed you are and that you're not capable of helping them, and so goes to find a genuine and sincere person who actually has life experience.
Maybe s/he has an ex who actually paid attention to him/her, and so can turn to that person in their time of need ... because you're not it. You have to actually ask someone how to support your own people.
Surely, there's a special person who knows him/her well enough ... **cough** because they paid attention .... and will gladly help now that the need is at hand to have a caring comforting person.
It probably won't take him/her long to realize that you have zero interest in supporting your friends who are suffering emotionally ... so will therefore realize you're not worth it.
To be 26 years old and to NEVER have a person be in need due to emotional suffering ... means you must be on your mommies couch still, bending over so she can wipe your poo from your ass.
Because, I mean ..... EVERY PERSON learns that humans suffer emotionally, at around, age 5 ... and here you are asking people what to do, how to handle it ... again, hopefully, this person realizes you're not worth going to for help and so seeks out someone who cares enough to realize other people.
I haven't been in a relationship with someone while they were grieving
However in 2011 I lost my brother to an aneurism very suddenly and I found out on Facebook on the other side of the country, I was hysterical because I couldn't believe it, I could still feel him. I was with my boyfriend at the time when it clicked and then I started to cry on his shoulder and do you know what he did?
"Alright, that's enough" and patted me on the back with a stiff hand and removed me from his chest....I didn't cry again until we buried him a year later in Fiji
You give them the space they need, but leave the door of communication open. You can check on them at least once a day and see how they're feeling, but never force yourself unto them. They will come to you in their own time.
Seriously?
You're asking people how to handle life? ..... like in all of your 26 years, you have zero experience with people who are emotionally suffering a loss?
wow
Listen here you old hag...do you ever get enough of fucking with people? Go collect your SSI check or something and leave people alone.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I haven't been in a relationship with someone while they were grievingHowever in 2011 I lost my brother to an aneurism very suddenly and I found out on Facebook on the other side of the country, I was hysterical because I couldn't believe it, I could still feel him. I was with my boyfriend at the time when it clicked and then I started to cry on his shoulder and do you know what he did?
"Alright, that's enough" and patted me on the back with a stiff hand and removed me from his chest....I didn't cry again until we buried him a year later in Fiji
I'm so sorry to hear that ? I think the way he responded was so fucked up. That's horrible.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I haven't been in a relationship with someone while they were grievingHowever in 2011 I lost my brother to an aneurism very suddenly and I found out on Facebook on the other side of the country, I was hysterical because I couldn't believe it, I could still feel him. I was with my boyfriend at the time when it clicked and then I started to cry on his shoulder and do you know what he did?
"Alright, that's enough" and patted me on the back with a stiff hand and removed me from his chest....I didn't cry again until we buried him a year later in Fiji
So you didn't punch him in the dick and tell him to go fuck himself after that?
You just decided to bottle up your emotions instead until a year later?
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I was in shock at the time and I started to sob uncontrollably when he told me "alright that's enough" and patted me on the back he did it as a joke because he's irreverent and it's how he deals with bad situations....he was laughing when it happened and I laughed it off too because I must have thought I looked stupid at the time but for some reason I didn't cry not even at his wake. I had to tell a speech to everyone at the wake and couldn't stop smirking because I didn't believe he had gone.....
When I went to Fiji and buried his ashes as I was digging the hole it all came out and I didn't control it, it was ugly and felt amazing to just cry like that, was like giving birth. Still to this day I send messages now and then to his Facebook messenger, usually if I have a dream about him
Seriously?
You're asking people how to handle life? ..... like in all of your 26 years, you have zero experience with people who are emotionally suffering a loss?
wow
Jesus fucking christ. Shut up. Shes trying to do something GOOD. not everyone knows what grief is like.
Just let them feel whatever they feel. Ask them about it. I hate it when people sweep it under the rug and are afraid to talk about it. Let them cry, let them be mad whatever... No rules with grief. Just let them know you are THERE and you CARE.
Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was grieving the loss of someone very close to them? How did you handle it? How did they act towards you while they were grieving? How did it affect your relationship?
Having been through a lot of loss, the only advice I can give is to listen, be there, and be patient. You are a good soul for asking.
26 years old and you cannot even manage to figure out how to comfort one of your own people.
It doesn't get more pathetic than that.
My hope is that this person realizes how self absorbed you are and that you're not capable of helping them, and so goes to find a genuine and sincere person who actually has life experience.
Maybe s/he has an ex who actually paid attention to him/her, and so can turn to that person in their time of need ... because you're not it. You have to actually ask someone how to support your own people.
Relax, sunshine. No need to jump down anyone's throat. Not everyone's experience is the same.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I haven't been in a relationship with someone while they were grievingHowever in 2011 I lost my brother to an aneurism very suddenly and I found out on Facebook on the other side of the country, I was hysterical because I couldn't believe it, I could still feel him. I was with my boyfriend at the time when it clicked and then I started to cry on his shoulder and do you know what he did?
"Alright, that's enough" and patted me on the back with a stiff hand and removed me from his chest....I didn't cry again until we buried him a year later in Fiji
So you didn't punch him in the dick and tell him to go fuck himself after that?
You just decided to bottle up your emotions instead until a year later?
I was in shock at the time and I started to sob uncontrollably when he told me "alright that's enough" and patted me on the back he did it as a joke because he's irreverent and it's how he deals with bad situations....he was laughing when it happened and I laughed it off too because I must have thought I looked stupid at the time but for some reason I didn't cry not even at his wake. I had to tell a speech to everyone at the wake and couldn't stop smirking because I didn't believe he had gone.....
When I went to Fiji and buried his ashes as I was digging the hole it all came out and I didn't control it, it was ugly and felt amazing to just cry like that, was like giving birth. Still to this day I send messages now and then to his Facebook messenger, usually if I have a dream about him
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When my mom died, my son's father said, "shit happens". I was destroyed.
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I haven't been in a relationship with someone while they were grievingHowever in 2011 I lost my brother to an aneurism very suddenly and I found out on Facebook on the other side of the country, I was hysterical because I couldn't believe it, I could still feel him. I was with my boyfriend at the time when it clicked and then I started to cry on his shoulder and do you know what he did?
"Alright, that's enough" and patted me on the back with a stiff hand and removed me from his chest....I didn't cry again until we buried him a year later in Fiji
So you didn't punch him in the dick and tell him to go fuck himself after that?
You just decided to bottle up your emotions instead until a year later?
I was in shock at the time and I started to sob uncontrollably when he told me "alright that's enough" and patted me on the back he did it as a joke because he's irreverent and it's how he deals with bad situations....he was laughing when it happened and I laughed it off too because I must have thought I looked stupid at the time but for some reason I didn't cry not even at his wake. I had to tell a speech to everyone at the wake and couldn't stop smirking because I didn't believe he had gone.....
When I went to Fiji and buried his ashes as I was digging the hole it all came out and I didn't control it, it was ugly and felt amazing to just cry like that, was like giving birth. Still to this day I send messages now and then to his Facebook messenger, usually if I have a dream about him
When my mom died, my son's father said, "shit happens". I was destroyed.
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Omg how insensitive! How can someone say that to someone grieving? I don't understand... ☹️
He is likely with an ex right now, getting comforted by someone who knows him, and understands him.
To be your SO, and you have no clue how to handle taking care of him equals ... you're so self absorbed that you only recognize yourself.
I'll bet they'll probably even reminiscing and wondering why they ever parted. Hopefully, that is the situation ... because he certainly doesn't have a partner in you, since you clueless on how to care for him, and so have to go ask other people.
so, perhaps, this will all work out for the best, and he'll be able to restore his love with a person who actually cares about him.
He is likely with an ex right now, getting comforted by someone who knows him, and understands him.
To be your SO, and you have no clue how to handle taking care of him equals ... you're so self absorbed that you only recognize yourself.
I'll bet they'll probably even reminiscing and wondering why they ever parted. Hopefully, that is the situation ... because he certainly doesn't have a partner in you, since you clueless on how to care for him, and so have to go ask other people.
so, perhaps, this will all work out for the best, and he'll be able to restore his love with a person who actually cares about him.
Can you croak already?
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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who was grieving the loss of someone very close to them? How did you handle it? How did they act towards you while they were grieving? How did it affect your relationship?