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I was in them since I was 13! Now I’m glad to have my own space and freedom.
Served my time 😂🥴
It’s really good to not be “searching” now…
I’d never say never but the desire to have someone in my life has gone.
Did I read correctly, bored, he cheated and is emotionally damaged?
So what’s the attraction?
Posted by BunnyMacDougal
Being beaten by a phone is hardly abuse jeezuz 🤣
He makes it into such a big deal 😅
He says he feels bad he could not hit back because of the law. And I’m like really? 😒
Posted by MyStarsShine
Did I read correctly, bored, he cheated and is emotionally damaged?So what’s the attraction?
He can be sweet, honest. He is very intelligent and nice to me. Always asks about me. He said he did not cheat, but she accused him. He says no man likes that. Control.
We are talking for now but very slowly. We might meet up at some point.
borednbeautiful
Listen…have you tried ‘working’ like having a JOB? It’s a thing when you go out of the house and people telling you what to do and paying you for sowing so?
I am curious.
Where did I say I don’t work? I work. I recently broke up with Leo. Not ready for anything, but slowly opening up.
This summer should be interesting because I’ll travel more.
How long do you talk to someone before meeting? Is it really about a relationship or do you just enjoy talking to people?
Posted by MyStarsShine
Did I read correctly, bored, he cheated and is emotionally damaged?So what’s the attraction?
He can be sweet, honest. He is very intelligent and nice to me. Always asks about me. He said he did not cheat, but she accused him. He says no man likes that. Control.
We are talking for now but very slowly. We might meet up at some point.
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Yes go meet him and give him a chance! 😀
Bored, you’ll never be short of suitors…you’re young, gorgeous and charismatic
Keep the faith girl 🙏❤️
Posted by MyStarsShine
Did I read correctly, bored, he cheated and is emotionally damaged?So what’s the attraction?
He can be sweet, honest. He is very intelligent and nice to me. Always asks about me. He said he did not cheat, but she accused him. He says no man likes that. Control.
We are talking for now but very slowly. We might meet up at some point.
Oh! Now you turning his description 180 degree? Dumbass…
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Are you jealous I’ve met this Aries man? What’s wrong with you?
No one is perfect. He has tons of issues. So do I.
He told me it’s sexy when I’m submissive 😉
Posted by BunnyMacDougal
Being beaten by a phone is hardly abuse jeezuz 🤣You as a little man should understand! The phone is half your size! It’s scary shit…got to be. 🤔
click to expandDidn’t your generation go to World War 1? Why are you afraid of some phone beatdown? You guys had real wars!
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Is she off her meds again? Why is she acting this mean? 😱
Posted by PuzzlePieces
How long do you talk to someone before meeting? Is it really about a relationship or do you just enjoy talking to people?
It depends, since I live in a fairly isolated part. Everyone is at least 3-4 hours away. At least, minimum.
I prefer to take it slow and just talk sporadically and then meet up. I have couple of potential candidates.
I am a Gemini, so yeah. Talk, talk, talk 😉
Posted by MyStarsShine
Did I read correctly, bored, he cheated and is emotionally damaged?So what’s the attraction?
He can be sweet, honest. He is very intelligent and nice to me. Always asks about me. He said he did not cheat, but she accused him. He says no man likes that. Control.
We are talking for now but very slowly. We might meet up at some point.
click to expandYes go meet him and give him a chance! 😀
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Eh, maybe. Last night he said he was going to lay down because he got a headache due to sunburn. Later I checked and saw him on Instagram stories 🙂🙃 liking girls left and right.
But he told me he can’t commit to anyone because he is easily triggered due to his past. But he is open to it, if it happens. He says don’t force anything. And I agree. I like spontaneous things. Some fun and hot sex maybe 😛
Posted by BunnyMacDougal
Being beaten by a phone is hardly abuse jeezuz 🤣You as a little man should understand! The phone is half your size! It’s scary shit…got to be. 🤔
click to expandDidn’t your generation go to World War 1? Why are you afraid of some phone beatdown? You guys had real wars!
Is she off her meds again? Why is she acting this mean? 😱
click to expandIt’s coz I made those jokes about her being older than her parents in their natal chart threads. 🤣
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Boomer energy 🙄
Posted by MyStarsShine
Did I read correctly, bored, he cheated and is emotionally damaged?So what’s the attraction?
He can be sweet, honest. He is very intelligent and nice to me. Always asks about me. He said he did not cheat, but she accused him. He says no man likes that. Control.
We are talking for now but very slowly. We might meet up at some point.
click to expandYes go meet him and give him a chance! 😀
Eh, maybe. Last night he said he was going to lay down because he got a headache due to sunburn. Later I checked and saw him on Instagram stories 🙂🙃 liking girls left and right.
But he told me he can’t commit to anyone because he is easily triggered due to his past. But he is open to it, if it happens. He says don’t force anything. And I agree. I like spontaneous things. Some fun and hot sex maybe 😛
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“Disruption” 😬
Posted by MyStarsShine
Did I read correctly, bored, he cheated and is emotionally damaged?So what’s the attraction?
He can be sweet, honest. He is very intelligent and nice to me. Always asks about me. He said he did not cheat, but she accused him. He says no man likes that. Control.
We are talking for now but very slowly. We might meet up at some point.
click to expandYes go meet him and give him a chance! 😀
Eh, maybe. Last night he said he was going to lay down because he got a headache due to sunburn. Later I checked and saw him on Instagram stories 🙂🙃 liking girls left and right.
But he told me he can’t commit to anyone because he is easily triggered due to his past. But he is open to it, if it happens. He says don’t force anything. And I agree. I like spontaneous things. Some fun and hot sex maybe 😛
“Disruption” 😬
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Hot affair only. Maybe.
Meanwhile, my search for Mr.Right will continue. Who knows where and when. But I won’t give up!
Posted by alexscaries
Always has been always will be. Working is hard, time consuming finding a job and then there's rejection and frustrating same applies to dating. The feeling of being supported and spending time with someone who likes you for you outweighs the difficulties.There's more than 4 men in this world. I also think you put imaginary barriers in the way. You said the Aries man doesn't compare to Leo. So get back with Leo.
It's simple, chat, meet up, date. Even people with learning disabilities manage it on a daily basis.
This Aries guy will be hopefully for some hot sex only 😋
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.
Unhappy and boring marriage is way worse than unmarried, imo.
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.Unhappy and boring marriage is way worse than unmarried, imo.
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Most definitely!
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.Unhappy and boring marriage is way worse than unmarried, imo.
click to expandMost definitely!
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I can’t imagine worse fate than that. Or some sort of abuse.
It takes tremendous amount of work to begin one, and even more effort to maintain one.
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.
Spiteful and negative 👎🏻
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.Unhappy and boring marriage is way worse than unmarried, imo.
click to expandMost definitely!
click to expandI can’t imagine worse fate than that. Or some sort of abuse.
Being a traditional housewife to midnite rider sounds worse.
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It doesn’t seem to offer many benefits but being called “his wife” 😕
Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maggie_Siff
https://www.astrotheme.com/astrology/Maggie_Siff
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👍
Posted by Saturn_Returns
Someone desperately needs a deterrent from her internet activities.May I offer a suggestion...
Are you crazy? What are you suggesting? Maybe you need to be slapped? 🤬
Posted by failedd
Relationships are not a lot of work. They are only a lot of work when you are chasing after the wrong people. Most people chase the wrong people their entire lives. Insecurities with bad intentions mixed with bad timing and bad encounters.Once you find the right person you will see how everything flows so easily, how you feel so secured to have them around your life and how certain you will be by their love. No more doubts, no more drama, games and insecurities. Relationships can be super easy with the RIGHT person.
It sounds a bit boring and unrealistic tho?
Posted by failedd
Relationships are not a lot of work. They are only a lot of work when you are chasing after the wrong people. Most people chase the wrong people their entire lives. Insecurities with bad intentions mixed with bad timing and bad encounters.Once you find the right person you will see how everything flows so easily, how you feel so secured to have them around your life and how certain you will be by their love. No more doubts, no more drama, games and insecurities. Relationships can be super easy with the RIGHT person.
It sounds a bit boring and unrealistic tho?
What sounds boring?? Do you want drama, games and fake love? Go for it..
It's not unrealistic, the type of attraction I've described happens to a lot of people indeed. It is real.
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It’s impossible that it’ll go smooth. There needs to be some tension.
Posted by nanochip
It takes tremendous amount of work to begin one, and even more effort to maintain one.
Oh girl, you understand me 🙏
so.much.effort.
Are you in a relationship these days?
Posted by failedd
Relationships are not a lot of work. They are only a lot of work when you are chasing after the wrong people. Most people chase the wrong people their entire lives. Insecurities with bad intentions mixed with bad timing and bad encounters.Once you find the right person you will see how everything flows so easily, how you feel so secured to have them around your life and how certain you will be by their love. No more doubts, no more drama, games and insecurities. Relationships can be super easy with the RIGHT person.
It sounds a bit boring and unrealistic tho?
What sounds boring?? Do you want drama, games and fake love? Go for it..
It's not unrealistic, the type of attraction I've described happens to a lot of people indeed. It is real.
It’s impossible that it’ll go smooth. There needs to be some tension.
click to expandYou are so used to the wrong scenarios that you can't even think about a GOOD situation. Sad.
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No. I’ve had good and bad experiences. It’s all a part of the journey.
Posted by GeminiJim
You're just scaredYou never even attempt to be in one
You always find some reason/ red flag etc not to embark on anything
Uhhhh I’ve been with Leo for 7 years, lol. Very happy years!
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.
Well for starters ~
Jodie Foster, Hilary Clinton, Sarah Jessica, Beyoncé, Serena Williams, Amy Adams, Salma Hayek ….. and loads more I’m sure !
Posted by GeminiJim
You're just scaredYou never even attempt to be in one
You always find some reason/ red flag etc not to embark on anything
Uhhhh I’ve been with Leo for 7 years, lol. Very happy years!
Oh ok well why you always talking about men then if you are in a happy relationship
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We broke up recently. Long story.
If it’s right, it’s not so much work. Of course at times it is, but dating or having a relationship with someone who’s not right for you is exhausting.
Relationships don’t have to be boring. But if you think drama is what makes things exciting that is just ole lot of toxic. No thanks.
I think different people have different opinions and that’s okay. We are all different. The point is to find people who think like you.
Posted by nanochip
It takes tremendous amount of work to begin one, and even more effort to maintain one.Oh girl, you understand me 🙏
so.much.effort.
Are you in a relationship these days?
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Yes! I’m still with my double Pisces Aussie 😍 pretty content and head over heels with this one.
I think good relationships require a lot of effort on both sides. Nothing is perfect and there are lots of misunderstandings and miscommunication even in the best of relationships. What matters is the effort you put into how you respond to those issues. And that’s what takes so much work. I don’t know how anyone can say otherwise, it’s crazy to me.
Posted by Kachi
Personally, idk how to juggle dating different guys when what you're looking for is a committed r/s.Wouldn't it be better to focus on one person at a time?
Talking phase doesn't count but if you're going out on multiple dates it's different. Idk 🙅🏽♀️
I like spontaneous things and dates. Whatever happens, happens.
Plus, I am probably not gonna be in my current location for much longer. I am hoping to move. We will see.
It’s still a lot of work.
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.Unhappy and boring marriage is way worse than unmarried, imo.
click to expandMost definitely!
click to expandI can’t imagine worse fate than that. Or some sort of abuse.
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Being a traditional housewife to midnite rider sounds worse.
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He wants to be like François-Henri Pinault (CEO of Kering) looking for his Salma Hayek...except Salma also has Mars in Leo. 🤷🏻♀️
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😆
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.Unhappy and boring marriage is way worse than unmarried, imo.
click to expandMost definitely!
click to expandI can’t imagine worse fate than that. Or some sort of abuse.
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Being a traditional housewife to midnite rider sounds worse.
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He wants to be like François-Henri Pinault (CEO of Kering) looking for his Salma Hayek...except Salma also has Mars in Leo. 🤷🏻♀️
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Posted by nanochip
It takes tremendous amount of work to begin one, and even more effort to maintain one.Oh girl, you understand me 🙏
so.much.effort.
Are you in a relationship these days?
Yes! I’m still with my double Pisces Aussie 😍 pretty content and head over heels with this one.
I think good relationships require a lot of effort on both sides. Nothing is perfect and there are lots of misunderstandings and miscommunication even in the best of relationships. What matters is the effort you put into how you respond to those issues. And that’s what takes so much work. I don’t know how anyone can say otherwise, it’s crazy to me.
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I am happy for you doll! 😘
I haven’t been following much on anyone here. I’ve been caught up in my own issues lately :/
So let me remind myself; you got over some other guy and then you met this new guy? How did you manage to get over that first guy and meet someone new?
I am glad you understand me. I hate the word “smooth”. Relationship is not like a stool, come onnnnn 🤣🤣🤣
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.Unhappy and boring marriage is way worse than unmarried, imo.
click to expandMost definitely!
click to expandI can’t imagine worse fate than that. Or some sort of abuse.
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Being a traditional housewife to midnite rider sounds worse.
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He’ll never be married ….. nobody is good enough 🥴
Posted by nanochip
It takes tremendous amount of work to begin one, and even more effort to maintain one.Oh girl, you understand me 🙏
so.much.effort.
Are you in a relationship these days?
Yes! I’m still with my double Pisces Aussie 😍 pretty content and head over heels with this one.
I think good relationships require a lot of effort on both sides. Nothing is perfect and there are lots of misunderstandings and miscommunication even in the best of relationships. What matters is the effort you put into how you respond to those issues. And that’s what takes so much work. I don’t know how anyone can say otherwise, it’s crazy to me.
click to expandI am happy for you doll! 😘
I haven’t been following much on anyone here. I’ve been caught up in my own issues lately :/
So let me remind myself; you got over some other guy and then you met this new guy? How did you manage to get over that first guy and meet someone new?
I am glad you understand me. I hate the word “smooth”. Relationship is not like a stool, come onnnnn 🤣🤣🤣
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Yea, I met someone randomly online during Covid when we were all locked up inside - he had been out of work because of it, we talked for 2 years, got into a big fight, and stopped talking for 1 year, then he came back in January and found out he’s still in the same situation?? So it was easy for me to move on and get closure from that whole thing. Meanwhile, during the silence of that year, an online friend introduced me to one of her friends - the Pisces Aussie, and we’ve been together since, which was last summer.
Are you still in Italy? I remember you were having some culture shock and the dating scene was very different there. Where are you thinking of moving next?
Love is the basis of a good relationship, but what that means to people is different depending on the person
Posted by Midnite_Riser
As I called it before, you will never get married I promise. It's too late unless you settle for lesser than those guys that ''like you''. The more years go by, the worse it's going to get. You have Mars in the 5th house in Leo. It's inevitable. Name one Mars in Leo or 5th house woman that's married right now? I have an old buddy with Venus and Mars in Leo, he got married, but he settled for way less.Well for starters ~
Jodie Foster, Hilary Clinton, Sarah Jessica, Beyoncé, Serena Williams, Amy Adams, Salma Hayek ….. and loads more I’m sure !
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It's very convenient (and utterly amusing) how you've glossed over the fact that the deciding factor for most of those listed was probably hypergamy and not love.
And where is the list of men with these same placements, huh?
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Hypergamy isn't dependent on status as women have the same resources as men now. Hypergamy varies based on the woman's needs at the time.
If she is seeking stability and someone dependable, the woman may settle with the boring man or one that may not be on a similar attraction level.
But ultimately, this is why the courtship never ends in a relationship. Women are like the moon, going through different phases and she may change her interests often. The man must pick & choose what to adapt to, but also understanding she may leave and find someone else that better fits her new desires.
Ask women you know why they split with someone if cheating wasn't the issue.
"He didn't want to change"
"He refused to travel"
"We just did the same thing every week and it got stale."
Posted by RollergirlOrc
Love is the basis of a good relationship, but what that means to people is different depending on the person
Altruistic love that’s mutual is the key. Otherwise, functioning like a business where it’s transactional can work in some cases too.
Love fails when it becomes hedonistic. The narrative now is that “it’s all about you.” Do what makes you happy. If you won’t, someone else will.
All self centered beliefs driving relationships now. Marriage is a duty and love, along with happiness fluctuates. This doesn’t mean you should stay in mistreatment or abuse, it means it’s wrong to throw a tantrum because you can’t constantly get your way.
Don't believe Marriage is a duty? Then why are spouses still responsible for alimony after a divorce?
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And I don’t know if I’m ready, if I have what it takes to be in one.
Just by talking to different guys, I realize how much there is actually beneath the surface. How much baggage…
Aries is emotionally damaged. He has been abused physically by his previous partner for cheating. She took his phone and hit him. And he says I trigger him. I don’t know if I have the energy to deal with this.
Meanwhile, I have 3 Scorpio guys I am taking to who only want love. They talk about love all day long.
Crazy house I tell ya! It’s madness!! Be happy if you already found someone.