Relationships Obvious Stuff... Why is my ex still contacting me??

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by GemCurioThe1 on Monday, December 14, 2020 and has 20 replies.

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@GemCurioThe1
6 Years

I'm going to sum this up into maybe a paragraph. If you have no children with your ex, aren't in the process of a divorce with your ex, or have some legal entanglements with your ex, the only reason.. ONLY REASON... Your ex would contact you is either A) they want sex for their ego or B) they suffer from nostalgia and want to find slide their slimy way back into your life. It doesn't matter what they say their reasons are, those are BS. I'm certain anyone with experience would agree. Comment if you like but this is a ridiculous question to keep asking.

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13 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by GemCurioThe1

I'm going to sum this up into maybe a paragraph. If you have no children with your ex, aren't in the process of a divorce with your ex, or have some legal entanglements with your ex, the only reason.. ONLY REASON... Your ex would contact you is either A) they want sex for their ego or B) they suffer from nostalgia and want to find slide their slimy way back into your life. It doesn't matter what they say their reasons are, those are BS. I'm certain anyone with experience would agree. Comment if you like but this is a ridiculous question to keep asking.

This is valid if you are someone who measures their "relationships" in months, rather than years. Someone who treats people like disposable objects. Or someone who was part of a relationship involving ghosting, cheating, abuse, disloyalty or other cowardly things.

For the rest of us, who had been in fewer, treasured, good, committed and obviously longer relationships, remaining on friendly terms with your ex is a clear sign of emotional and mental maturity. Obviously, there will be a time lag immediately after the breakup, when people are not themselves out of pain, and it's best to avoid confrontation. Personally, I'm on friendly terms with 3/6 of my exes.

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@GemCurioThe1
6 Years

Posted by Arinoaqua

I generally give people the benefit of the doubt unless they show me I shouldn’t.

If you're an Aqua I can see that. You Air Signs are just to curious. You can have the answer fall out the sky, land on your face, and start to wiggle. You still would have to examine it to find out whether it was a meteor, an alien, or just some garbage that was caught in the wind...lol

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6 Years

Posted by Undine

But...Have you met your twin flame? & how do you get them tf out of your energy?

😄

I heard that you either place their picture in the freezer or cut limes into four pieces and place them under your bed where your pillow is or next to you while you sleep. Check with your local Witch Doctor for further advice...lol

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6 Years

Posted by Undine

Posted by GemCurioThe1

I'm going to sum this up into maybe a paragraph. If you have no children with your ex, aren't in the process of a divorce with your ex, or have some legal entanglements with your ex, the only reason.. ONLY REASON... Your ex would contact you is either A) they want sex for their ego or B) they suffer from nostalgia and want to find slide their slimy way back into your life. It doesn't matter what they say their reasons are, those are BS. I'm certain anyone with experience would agree. Comment if you like but this is a ridiculous question to keep asking.

This is valid if you are someone who measures their "relationships" in months, rather than years. Someone who treats people like disposable objects. Or someone who was part of a relationship involving ghosting, cheating, abuse, disloyalty or other cowardly things.

For the rest of us, who had been in fewer, treasured, good, committed and obviously longer relationships, remaining on friendly terms with your ex is a clear sign of emotional and mental maturity. Obviously, there will be a time lag immediately after the breakup, when people are not themselves out of pain, and it's best to avoid confrontation. Personally, I'm on friendly terms with 3/6 of my exes.

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Wow.. You're probably the person this article is written about. It doesn't matter the length. The only significant reason a person keeps in contact with their exes no matter the timeframe of the relationship is to hookup with a familiar. Nothing more because they don't like to put in the work towards others. It's obvious. It's the same reason why certain exes always try to slither their way backwards.

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@Undine
13 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Posted by Undine

Posted by GemCurioThe1

I'm going to sum this up into maybe a paragraph. If you have no children with your ex, aren't in the process of a divorce with your ex, or have some legal entanglements with your ex, the only reason.. ONLY REASON... Your ex would contact you is either A) they want sex for their ego or B) they suffer from nostalgia and want to find slide their slimy way back into your life. It doesn't matter what they say their reasons are, those are BS. I'm certain anyone with experience would agree. Comment if you like but this is a ridiculous question to keep asking.

This is valid if you are someone who measures their "relationships" in months, rather than years. Someone who treats people like disposable objects. Or someone who was part of a relationship involving ghosting, cheating, abuse, disloyalty or other cowardly things.

For the rest of us, who had been in fewer, treasured, good, committed and obviously longer relationships, remaining on friendly terms with your ex is a clear sign of emotional and mental maturity. Obviously, there will be a time lag immediately after the breakup, when people are not themselves out of pain, and it's best to avoid confrontation. Personally, I'm on friendly terms with 3/6 of my exes.

Wow.. You're probably the person this article is written about. It doesn't matter the length. The only significant reason a person keeps in contact with their exes no matter the timeframe of the relationship is to hookup with a familiar. Nothing more because they don't like to put in the work towards others. It's obvious. It's the same reason why certain exes always try to slither their way backwards.

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Well, you are three times wrong here:

--I don't "hook up" with my exes.

--Plenty of work to make the best relationship with my partner

--None of my exes tries to "slither their way backwards". You know, they could have asked directly if they wanted back, and I would have given them a straight answer.

You sound like a man-child who knows little about real, lasting, genuine relationships, but masquerades himself as some bizarre relationship guru. Do you really think that someone with a head on their shoulders takes you seriously?

LMAO

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Fran Drescher is still besties with her ex hubby who came out to her first as bi then as gay after 21 years of marriage.

He trusted her to do the selection process for him when looking for love on millionaire matchmaker.

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Posted by GenXgem

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Fran Drescher is still besties with her ex hubby who came out to her first as bi then as gay after 21 years of marriage.

He trusted her to do the selection process for him when looking for love on millionaire matchmaker.

Wow, never knew this story. Incredible!

Did she find a new man?

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She was dating a tech guy for awhile but as far as I know she's single atm. I think they both are. They may as well get remarried and drive off into the sunset like Thelma and Louise

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6 Years

Posted by Undine

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Posted by Undine

Posted by GemCurioThe1

I'm going to sum this up into maybe a paragraph. If you have no children with your ex, aren't in the process of a divorce with your ex, or have some legal entanglements with your ex, the only reason.. ONLY REASON... Your ex would contact you is either A) they want sex for their ego or B) they suffer from nostalgia and want to find slide their slimy way back into your life. It doesn't matter what they say their reasons are, those are BS. I'm certain anyone with experience would agree. Comment if you like but this is a ridiculous question to keep asking.

This is valid if you are someone who measures their "relationships" in months, rather than years. Someone who treats people like disposable objects. Or someone who was part of a relationship involving ghosting, cheating, abuse, disloyalty or other cowardly things.

For the rest of us, who had been in fewer, treasured, good, committed and obviously longer relationships, remaining on friendly terms with your ex is a clear sign of emotional and mental maturity. Obviously, there will be a time lag immediately after the breakup, when people are not themselves out of pain, and it's best to avoid confrontation. Personally, I'm on friendly terms with 3/6 of my exes.

Wow.. You're probably the person this article is written about. It doesn't matter the length. The only significant reason a person keeps in contact with their exes no matter the timeframe of the relationship is to hookup with a familiar. Nothing more because they don't like to put in the work towards others. It's obvious. It's the same reason why certain exes always try to slither their way backwards.

Well, you are three times wrong here:

--I don't "hook up" with my exes.

--Plenty of work to make the best relationship with my partner

--None of my exes tries to "slither their way backwards". You know, they could have asked directly if they wanted back, and I would have given them a straight answer.

You sound like a man-child who knows little about real, lasting, genuine relationships, but masquerades himself as some bizarre relationship guru. Do you really think that someone with a head on their shoulders takes you seriously?

LMAO

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And this is how you recognize a liar. They feel the need to justify their actions to people who don't know them or care. The truth doesn't need support to stand it just is. Thanks for giving away yourself in an act of desperation to look justified. Lastly, I must have struck a nerve for you to find the need to attempt to belittle. But I don't make clowns. I train them. Do some soul searching...🤡

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10 Years5,000+ Posts

My Aquarius ex (yes, the one I had trouble letting go of) still reaches out!! I have no idea why. He talks about it, but we don’t meet up. Haven’t had sex with him since our breakup. Men are strange creatures. Don’t need to understand them.

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Posted by IAteMyGrandmaInMonkeyTown

Posted by Undine

This is valid if you are someone who measures their "relationships" in months, rather than years. Someone who treats people like disposable objects. Or someone who was part of a relationship involving ghosting, cheating, abuse, disloyalty or other cowardly things.

For the rest of us, who had been in fewer, treasured, good, committed and obviously longer relationships, remaining on friendly terms with your ex is a clear sign of emotional and mental maturity. Obviously, there will be a time lag immediately after the breakup, when people are not themselves out of pain, and it's best to avoid confrontation. Personally, I'm on friendly terms with 3/6 of my exes.

That's a freaken good answer.

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Thank you 🙂

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Posted by GemCurioThe1

Posted by Undine

Posted by GemCurioThe1

Posted by Undine

Posted by GemCurioThe1

I'm going to sum this up into maybe a paragraph. If you have no children with your ex, aren't in the process of a divorce with your ex, or have some legal entanglements with your ex, the only reason.. ONLY REASON... Your ex would contact you is either A) they want sex for their ego or B) they suffer from nostalgia and want to find slide their slimy way back into your life. It doesn't matter what they say their reasons are, those are BS. I'm certain anyone with experience would agree. Comment if you like but this is a ridiculous question to keep asking.

This is valid if you are someone who measures their "relationships" in months, rather than years. Someone who treats people like disposable objects. Or someone who was part of a relationship involving ghosting, cheating, abuse, disloyalty or other cowardly things.

For the rest of us, who had been in fewer, treasured, good, committed and obviously longer relationships, remaining on friendly terms with your ex is a clear sign of emotional and mental maturity. Obviously, there will be a time lag immediately after the breakup, when people are not themselves out of pain, and it's best to avoid confrontation. Personally, I'm on friendly terms with 3/6 of my exes.

Wow.. You're probably the person this article is written about. It doesn't matter the length. The only significant reason a person keeps in contact with their exes no matter the timeframe of the relationship is to hookup with a familiar. Nothing more because they don't like to put in the work towards others. It's obvious. It's the same reason why certain exes always try to slither their way backwards.

Well, you are three times wrong here:

--I don't "hook up" with my exes.

--Plenty of work to make the best relationship with my partner

--None of my exes tries to "slither their way backwards". You know, they could have asked directly if they wanted back, and I would have given them a straight answer.

You sound like a man-child who knows little about real, lasting, genuine relationships, but masquerades himself as some bizarre relationship guru. Do you really think that someone with a head on their shoulders takes you seriously?

LMAO

And this is how you recognize a liar. They feel the need to justify their actions to people who don't know them or care. The truth doesn't need support to stand it just is. Thanks for giving away yourself in an act of desperation to look justified. Lastly, I must have struck a nerve for you to find the need to attempt to belittle. But I don't make clowns. I train them. Do some soul searching...🤡

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Train your own pathetic arse away from a public forum 😉

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Posted by aquarius_man_

Posted by pinkbird03

My Aquarius ex (yes, the one I had trouble letting go of) still reaches out!! I have no idea why. He talks about it, but we don’t meet up. Haven’t had sex with him since our breakup. Men are strange creatures. Don’t need to understand them.

Aquas cant let go easily, they're fixed signs after all

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It’s been at least 4 years. I’ve lost track of time to be honest.... I have a bf. He actually has a gf right now. Yet still texts me every two months or less. I still feel connected to him, but not interested in dating him. Too much of a mind fuck.

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Posted by aquarius_man_

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by aquarius_man_

Posted by pinkbird03

My Aquarius ex (yes, the one I had trouble letting go of) still reaches out!! I have no idea why. He talks about it, but we don’t meet up. Haven’t had sex with him since our breakup. Men are strange creatures. Don’t need to understand them.

Aquas cant let go easily, they're fixed signs after all

It’s been at least 4 years. I’ve lost track of time to be honest.... I have a bf. He actually has a gf right now. Yet still texts me every two months or less. I still feel connected to him, but not interested in dating him. Too much of a mind fuck.

Oh I think I remember you from a few years ago asking questions about what you deemed to be his odd and eccentric behaviour

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Yep. Probably me!!

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Posted by aquarius_man_

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by aquarius_man_

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by aquarius_man_

Posted by pinkbird03

My Aquarius ex (yes, the one I had trouble letting go of) still reaches out!! I have no idea why. He talks about it, but we don’t meet up. Haven’t had sex with him since our breakup. Men are strange creatures. Don’t need to understand them.

Aquas cant let go easily, they're fixed signs after all

It’s been at least 4 years. I’ve lost track of time to be honest.... I have a bf. He actually has a gf right now. Yet still texts me every two months or less. I still feel connected to him, but not interested in dating him. Too much of a mind fuck.

Oh I think I remember you from a few years ago asking questions about what you deemed to be his odd and eccentric behaviour

Yep. Probably me!!

100% you, I remember you complaining about that Aqua, you still have the same user name.

But yes, you sound so much happier now than then.

Aqua male + Cancer female = NO match

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I agree!! The “relationship” felt toxic. In a way still feels like he’s trying to manipulate me, but I’ve had an Aries bf for 7 months sooo I can be friends with the Aqua and not feel pulled towards him. Best thing I ever did was remove him off Snapchat!!