Sex and the most selfish sign you've been with (Page 2)

Leo...

My ex GF was a Leo who knew exactly what she wanted and made sure she got it. Actually I didn't mind this in the slightest 'cause I felt contented knowing when she was satisfied. I would feel far too uneasy thinking I'd had my way with a woman and that they might not be contented afterward, so Leo ex GF's approach really suited me. In her favor, she was also very giving. While she insisted on exactly what she wanted she also made sure she knew exactly what I wanted too and made sure I got it.

The GF I have now is a Taurus and is very quiet and passive and seems to go along with whatever I want but makes no demands of her own. She's a lovely, sweet woman and I'm very happy with her but I sometimes feel slightly uneasy thinking I'm getting what I want from the physical side of our relationship but wondering if she's getting anything worthwhile out of it.

Posted by AquaSun



Friends with benefits seems like one of the best social structures EVER. Now I have to do is find the right one.

It is the best thing if you don't let your emotions get the better of you. I've had one of these for about a yearish now. Got sort of messy in the past few months, we tried going out and he ended up hurting me kinda badly. I let myself get involved too much, and situations that didnt matter before suddenly turned me into a jealous caustic biatch. But now we're back to being FWB again. YUM YUM. We're very close friends, but also extraordinaaaaaarly sexually attracted to one another. He's a gemini and daaaaaamn good in the sack, possibly the best ever. But I've had reasonably good experiences, as most of my partners have been gemini (as am I).

I laughed my ass off at the person who said the Aquarius mans idea of foreplay was going upstairs to have sex. Have been in that horrific situation before. He was the most unsexual, robotic being I have ever come across, ever. Which was a shame. Because he was cute. But that didn't justify the cold hearted kisses (he didnt open his mouth, just closed his eyes and sort of stood there) and the weird sort of dry humping that was involved. (I slept on the couch that night and ran away the next day)

dear me..

Posted by Sagittarius89
"Cap = dead fish" LOL I dated a virgo guy he was pretty plain too. It was kinda "uh..uh...uh..there we go..and release." Ha!

" He's going to have a fun ride on the roller coast known as Aquasun. WOO HOO!!" Haha you go girl!

" I can't wait to find myself a naughty little fire sign or Scorpio." I so know what you mean! I want a scorpio man so bad! Or an aries. I knew two awesome ones but I let them get away! Dammit!😢


"What a selfish prude!!"). Ridiculous." For real. Prude men can kiss my ass! Oh wait, they wouldn't.

Hahaha, ms sag you crack me up, I sooo understand the virgo situation!

My first BF cancerian and he doesnt even like to give head and Im like u got to be kidding me seriously he gags like crazy and i dont even feel anything anyways and hes a comlete starfish when i make love to him....I used to cover his face with a pillow when we did it

I think I'm on a roll, I've avoided selfishness in the past few weeks. Virgo is pretty dirty minded and likes me for reading erotic art books, but we're sort of just flirting with each other. He's open though. Hmm. Scorpio who pinned me to the wall and started biting me in front of many guests at a house party last night also doesn't seem like the selfish kind, rather .. violently dominating, which I can deal with. I'm leaving the gems behind. Onto the more controversial ones!

Posted by AquaSun
-snip- I'm going to drop him like a hot potato if it doesn't improve. I've never heard of a 19 year old guy that barely knows anything about sex. He admitted it. I feel like a perv 😢

You may have to dump him to teach him a lesson. But it may take him awhile to learn. I was a virgin till age 19. When I started having sex, I sucked when it came to pleasing a woman. I didn't know JACK about how to make a woman feel good, or how to help her in any way. It took being dumped a few times till I realized I was doing something wrong and needed to educate myself.

I'm now a great lover. It's all about pleasing my woman... because as the old saying goes "If mama ain't happy, ain't no one happy" LOL.

Some food for thought... while Men know what it takes to please themselves, Many women do not know what it takes to please themselves and think we men should just know what to do. We usually don't at that age... or THIS age for that matter. You have to be able to direct us to what is good for YOU. Everyone is different.

Here's my suggestion. Take a bath, not a shower before you go out next time with him. A warm bath will best cleanse your vulva etc. Then when he gets frisky, make sure he goes down on you FIRST. Tell him you want yours first, then he can have HIS, lol. IF he gets mad about it, then you can have a talk... or dump him. He'll learn his lesson eventually.

I must add one more thing... I started dating an older gal when I was 21, and she 36. By then I was fairly skilled in the sex department, but she still taught me a few things. One of which was to show my pleasure, and be more verbal. At some point she asked me if I was even enjoying myself, as she couldn't tell because I was always so quiet. I had to learn how to express my pleasure verbally, without going overboard and it sounding fake... and I did and we were both happy. It did make it better for us both.

What's funny about being more verbal tho... is in our later years together, when she was in her mid fifties, she decided I was too noisy and kept asking me to be quiet... "the neighbors might hear us" she'd say, lol. I don't think I'd gotten any louder than in the past... I'm no screamer or anything close...

I remember at one event back in the 1980's where we came out of our tent to a small crowd who gave us a standing ovation, lol... and we both just blushed and bowed.

Posted by BaBy-GrL414
-snip- "he can last as long as i want him to (which could be anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour). he's down for trying anything new. he wants to hear what would turn me on. there is all sorts of movement with us! we are NEVER still. it's like a cardio work out with him. that boy wears me out! no one has ever worn me out before!"

15 minutes to an hour is not too long if you learn how guys. I did by age 25 or so. You esentially hold off your orgasm by having lots of "near orgasms" without completing. Eventually you will not be able to hold off and will have a HUGE orgasm at the end. ; )

Posted by daisa24
-snip- anyway i'd like to say that so far the most selfish sign i've been with is this sag dude who always gets off right away! like, after just a minute of it in there, boom he's already done. what gives?

Many young guys don't realize that they can have several orgasms over an hour or so. If the first one comes along too soon... instead of going to sleep, they should concentrate on their woman... and I assure you most guys, within 15 to 30 min... will be able to get hard again, and this time it will take a lot longer to finish.

This is why I didn't learn how to "hold off" orgasms till my mid twenties, because prior to that age, my first would be within 5 minutes... then after 15 minutes of sex play, I'd get hard again... and this one would take 15 minutes or more. THen more sex play and around 30 min. later, I'd get hard again and it would be 30 min or more before I could finish the third and final time.

Once in my mid twenties, I found it harder to do three a night, and needed to learn a way to make the single one, last as long as possible... not only for her pleasure, but also for my own... because, real pleasure in sex is not just the orgasm... it's getting TO the orgasm, lol. I liken it to eating... you don't just want a hot dog for dinner... you want a huge feast... a buffet, heh.

OH... I should add... the three a night days? That was when I was only seeing girlfriends on the weekends. I don't think I would have been able to keep up that many times if I was doing it every day. I think on the weekends I'd average 5 - 6 orgasms over two days... which was nothing to one gal I dated in those days, who averaged 5 - 7 orgasms each day, heh.

She was a Cancer. Best lover I've ever had. Worst? A Cappy. she'd just lay there with her eyes closed... wouldn't let me change positions either... for her it was missionary position, or nothing. She let me go down on her, but showed no pleasure whatsoever the whole time.